Wednesday, April 02, 2008
Ok, so a couple of the stories I've read in the Chicken Soup for the Dieter's Soul are pretty good. But I was really thrown off by the first one!
In it, the woman is obese at 290 pounds. She is unhappy with herself, but only changes because in going to a store a dirty, drunk, homeless man tells her "girl, you've got too much food in you." And continues to say it loudly so everyone around starts laughing at her.
Apparently that wakes her up and she decides she's determined to lose the weight. Ok, but I'm torn about this. It's good that she decided to become healthier, but later on she refers to this homeless man as her "guardian angel." Saying that he wasn't trying to be mean at all, he was just being honest with her.
She said he was dirty, staggering, and drinking something out of a brown paper bag. And because some drunken man basically calls you fat he's a guardian angel?
To me, the story just makes it seem like it's ok to make fun of fat people. Just call them names and make people laugh at them! Because then you might inspire them to lose the weight!
The whole story basically just bugged me. Even if some people would find it inspiring, it just didn't seem like a good way to start out the book. There was a story later on about a woman who felt self concious doing her favorite thing (swimming) so she avoided getting into a swimsuit. Then her husband told her she was beautiful to him no matter what and she put on her swimsuit and swam with her family.
THAT is inspiring. She trusted her husband saying she was beautiful. I am more likely to do that then to let what I'm going to do in my life depend on what some person I don't even know says to me. I'd rather take the thoughts and opinions of those who love and care for me, than some drunken homeless man.
Maybe I'm just being too sensitive? I don't know, but it's still bugging me! I even thought, you know, even if the person had shouted nice things to me I wouldn't just trust whatever they said. "Nice legs!" would be a compliment, but they don't know what I've done to get these legs. They don't know the road I've traveled. Now when my husband or my best friend says "Your legs look awesome!" That DOES affect my self esteem and make me smile because I know they both know how hard I'm working each day.