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The struggles are real.

Thursday, February 27, 2014

The new view someone gets when they lose weight...it can either be good or bad.
Let me explain.

The good: Person A has lost a lot of weight and Person B has been struggling lately. Person A provides comfort with positive comments and a "you can do it" attitude. Person B feels relieved that someone understands and that they have someone they can turn to and vent about their downfalls. Person A realizes that Person B is hard enough on themselves...Person A remembers they were once there a few months ago.

The bad: Person A has lost a lot of weight and Person B has been struggling lately. Person A provides unnecessary comments such as "You shouldn't wear ruffles" and brings with them an attitude that makes Person B feel inferior and ready to go home and curl up in bed with ice cream. Person B feels alone and doesn't understand how Person A can be this way. Person A forgets that Person B is hard enough on themselves...Person A forgets they were once there a few months ago.

Sadly, "the bad" view happened to me. I was Person B. See, I'm struggling...just as we all do at some point. I was out of the rut finally and heading upwards. I decided to put on a cute dress with ruffles, cardigan, leggings, boots, jewelry, and get myself outta the funk. I thought I looked cute. Person A came over and the first comment was "You shouldn't wear ruffles". Keep in mind, Person A is a person who is very close to me, a person I love, a person that has NEVER said anything that made me feel so low before. Person A was my mother. I sat there trying to fight all the negative things my head was telling me...trying to hold back tears and simply said, well it's comfortable. Of course at this point it wasn't. I was fidgety all day and really wanted to just put on a snuggie and hide from the world.

I never said anything to her, but I know she knew it bothered me by my reaction. She tried to be super nice and sweet the rest of the day...but I couldn't shake the feeling that I was just a fat person who looked bad in all clothing that even my mother didn't want to be seen with me.

Now, remember before her comment...I thought I looked good. My morale was high, I was happy, ready for the day, and in my mind...I was cute. Through this situation, I learned a valuable lesson though.

People are going to say things, things that they may have meant to come out different. People are going to hurt your feelings. People are going to have expectations of you. People forget where they started...

If you take anything away from this...please just remember where you started so that when others come along, you can be "the good" view that you want to be and that is way more helpful to them.

  
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FREES1 2/28/2014 3:31PM

    sage advice - and its great to see you back!!!


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LEKESHIA35 2/27/2014 11:30AM

  im sorry to hear that bc i know how that feel. I have been in that sistuation before. one thing i have learn that i have to be happy with myself and we have to learn how the take constructive critizem. by this i mean right now ruffles might not be right for you but keep in mind you keep up the hard work you will look great in ruffles. Then againi have seen people who has the perfect shape that different things dont look good on them. keep up the hard work you already have great progress going along so far. keep up the good work.

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JOHNMARTINMILES 2/27/2014 10:45AM

    You cannot be right for someone else if you are not right for you. Remember that the only opinion of you that really counts is your honest opinion of yourself!

Make Today the Greatest Day of Your Life

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 2/27/2014 10:35AM

    I'm so sorry that you felt that way. There is nothing worse when one of the people you love most makes you feel like poo. Even if it wasn't her intention, she still shouldn't have said that.

Remember how you felt before the comment was made and as easy as it can be to say to try not to let it bring you down, do the best you can. I'm willing to bet you looked smokin' hot.

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Blog Shmog...with no name.

Monday, August 22, 2011

SO...I bought another IPOD. One that will be specifically for working out so I can put it on random and whatever comes up will be something I won't feel the need to skip. Ya know, good hardcore, motivational music. Any suggestions?

Now for other news...

I am all over the place doing all kinds of things. I feel spastic. I am doing Zumba, Yoga, Running, Biking, Hiking, Walking, even Boxing...anything I can to get me moving. It's random and unscheduled but I am at least doing something even if it is inconsistent right now.

This weekend I went hiking with the hubz and decided I wanted a bike to ride osome of the trails. And now I am picking up my new bike on friday and plan to ride as soon as I get it home. Not only that but he wants one too, YAY!! I am stoked.

For my 50 state. 50 races. I am doing NC Sept 3rd (8k), then I am doing TN the weekend after thanksgiving (5k) and Florida I am planning. I got to get in touch with Wendy about that Disney one we talked about in NYC. MUST DO THIS SOON!

That will put me at doing 5 states this year. Right on target considering. Next year I will hit more but not too shabby for my first year of ones that will count.

I did calculate today that in total at the end of the year I will have officially ran in 10 races. I am doing multiple ones where I live to support good causes and to keep me training. There is one in October I talked my mom into doing...which is huge given her current health standings. It's a 1 mile run with a pet and its Paws for a Cause. Money goes to cures for cancer which she had. So we are excited about that and literally just cant wait to get out there with her. I'm sure I will cry...

Speaking of that...Since starting my 50 races. 50 states. mission...I have cried in every one of the races that I did going towards this. When I run alone and I hear my feet hitting the pavement and realize I am doing this...it hits me. It's not a lot and I am usually smiling. But at least 1 tear falls and I embrace it as growing back into the athlete I once was. Becoming a little more like I was before when I rarely even noticed what size clothes I wore, or how my body looked. I just knew how it looked because I was healthy and taking care of myself. I want that again so bad that when it hits me I am working towards it, I get emo.

I can't wait to see what the rest of this year brings. I have extremely high hopes that it is going to bring lots of lessons in self motivation, strength, and power. I mean after all, I am on the right track at least.

  
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JENIYE707 9/2/2011 4:45PM

    Keep it up you are doing great. I hope everything is good for you.

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FREES1 8/26/2011 10:15AM

    awesome!!! great that you and your hubby will be able to ride together, help each other get better and better... and the 50/50 idea? way cool!!!
enjoy all the variety in your activities - and keep the faith

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NANCYBOAT 8/25/2011 8:10AM

    that 50 in 50 is WAY impressive. good for you for making a go of it!!

I have an iPod shuffle that I use for walking. All upbeat, fast stuff so that I don't have to skip songs that don't work for walking. I have mostly 80's stuff 'cause that's what I love. But a good song does help the exercise go by faster!

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MERAINA 8/23/2011 10:43AM

    Superhero!

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MSPRIS3 8/22/2011 9:36PM

    Great job, 50 in 50, way to go.

Paws for a Cause sounds like a great idea, I walked the Wiggle Waggle Walkathon in Ottawa last year and plan on it this year too.

Anew bike, that will be awesome! I want one real bad, mine is old and needs a major tune up!

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FROGGERHKC 8/22/2011 4:15PM

    Keep it up, you are doing emoticon

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SPARKLINGVIOLET 8/22/2011 2:04PM

    You're a superhero!

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Reinvestments and Rethinking

Thursday, August 11, 2011

I am going to boggle your mind today…I swear. With the stock market going crazy people are reinvesting their money, rethinking all their decisions, subconsciously knowing that if the stock market goes back up then they may make a foolish mistake.

Well let’s take this to our everyday lives. Why shouldn’t you rethink the choices you make daily and reinvest in yourself if the choices are affecting you in a bad way. So wipe the slate clean and start fresh. Right now. Here we go…

One thing you do normally: Eat
Timeframe you have to do this: 24 hours
When should you do it: Early or Late
What should you eat: Healthy or Junky

This is something you have to do, something you need to do, and a decision you make on a daily basis.

If this seems to follow your pattern of thinking (which I am thinking it will)…then it is time that you changed and you started rethinking a couple things and reinvest some time into yourself.

I want you to add one thing to the things you normally do. Add Workout. So your list now looks like this.

Two things you do normally are:
1. Eat
2. Workout

Timeframe you have to do this:
24 hours

When should you do it:
1. Early
2. Late

What should you do:
1. Be Healthy (Eat clean food and work out)
2. Be Junky (Eat junk food and don’t work out)

With this being on that list…it means it is no longer an option to skip it. You can’t skip meals (and shouldn’t) if you want to function normally…that is the same with being active. You can’t function at your best like you should without working out, exercising or being active in some way. It is really a logical way of thinking…but with everything we have been brain-fed by media and other people limiting their expectations of us, we have grown comfortable and accepting of this behavior. Our minds have shifted in allowing us to believe the negative hype and just flow with it so we don’t cause too much attention to ourselves.

Well I say not anymore. I will NOT sit by on the sidelines any longer because someone thinks I shouldn’t do something, can’t do something, or have made me feel so miserably low that I have now told myself I couldn’t. I refuse for that to be the case. So I am modifying the way I think…starting with this.

When will I eat breakfast/lunch/dinner? What will I eat?
When will I workout? What will I do?

Skipping it or putting it off like it isn’t a big deal and you can just catch it tomorrow, NO. That line of thinking is what got you here in the first place. It IS a big deal. Make it happen today. Reinvest time into yourself and know it is the right thing to do. You know it is. You are worth this and in order to get the results you want, you have to start thinking this way to achieve those results.

So, reinvest some time in yourself and rethink your choices. I’m willing to bet you can change some things and get faster results just by putting this into action. Keep fighting the fight and know you aren’t alone.

Peace out.

  
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CITYZOZO 1/31/2012 10:22PM

    great discipline..zo

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FROGGERHKC 8/18/2011 8:33PM

    Wonderful blog! So, so true! Thanks for sharing emoticon

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DUKELETO 8/16/2011 11:37PM

    Nice blog post. It's great to have you back. I hope all is well with you and yours...

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MAJTMS 8/12/2011 12:17PM

    Great way of simplifying what we need to do everyday! I stumbled across your blog and I am really happy I did!

I'm going to make working out everyday a priority, like eating healthy!

Thanks,
Thelma

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BREEVES3 8/11/2011 1:53PM

    Sounds like a good plan :)

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NANCYBOAT 8/11/2011 9:52AM

    Brilliant. I think I will take this and rethink some of my choices. I'm definitely in a rut - this could help me shake out of it!

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Habits...Fear...Change

Tuesday, August 09, 2011

Quick little something for you sparkies...

Habit - it takes 21 days of doing something regularly for it to become habitual
Fear - it is what you let yourself do when you DECIDE that something is scary
Change - it is what happens when things become different

Now put that all together.

Habits fear change. Yes I just came up with this and it totally just wowed me so I had to get it down on paper...err...you know what I mean.

So let's see here...for example

If I have a habit of being lazy on weekends...then you guessed it. I am scared of changing that because it is my normal. So that means in order to change it I have to change my normal to be what I want it to be.

If you want your habits to change you have to not be scared to change them. You have to be willing to push your boundaries and change your normal routine to be the routine you want it to be. The best routine you can possibly do to make yourself the best possible you.

I have habits that need to change, that need to go away completely and be forgotten about altogether. They need NOT return...EVER. I will NOT fear this change. I will accept it as my new normal and push forward...even when it is uncomfortable and new. I mean think about it...everything was new once...and you were uncomfortable then before it becamse your normal.

It isn't that hard to change your normal. Regardless of what you think, it is not. You make up your mind to change it, and put it into action. No more talk, just action. DO IT. Your normal is what you want it to be, what you make it, what you decide it should be. So if you decide your normal is complaining and no action or If you decide your normal is planning, eating healthy, and working out...then you know what result you will get either way...don't act like you don't.

  
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DUKELETO 8/16/2011 11:34PM

    Awesome blog!

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RUSSELLORAMA 8/10/2011 11:29PM

    Love this!

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 8/10/2011 1:54PM

    No truer words were spoken. GOYAAM!

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_MSAPRIL17_ 8/10/2011 1:51PM

    um, have you been reading my mind????

I love this!!

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SASXONTHEMOVE 8/10/2011 1:49PM

    "Your normal is what you want it to be, what you make it, what you decide it should be."

True dat.

Thanks for the reminder!

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HEALTH-E-CLARE 8/10/2011 1:42PM

    I see some change and healthy habits forming in your near future (how about 21 days from now).

Great message, I need to re-evaluate some of the things I'm afraid of...

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NEWYORKORCHIDS 8/10/2011 7:51AM

  That's how I got into flossing. Seriously. I said to myself "Self, you only have to do this for 21 days, then you won't notice it as much", so I did, and now it's automatic.

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JENIYE707 8/9/2011 9:26PM

    Love this blog.

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IMSMILEY88 8/9/2011 5:59PM

    "Habit fears change"....love it! Great insight!

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NEWJEWELS4LIFE 8/9/2011 5:51PM

    I LOVE IT!! "Habit Fears Change" that is great. I will keep that one in my head!

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JENN26POINT2 8/9/2011 4:43PM

    GREAT blog! Reminds me of a quote by Jim Rohn: "You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore".



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guess who...

Friday, July 15, 2011

It's me! finally!!

oh and...STUVWXYZ...AND THAT COMPLETES THE ABC BLOGS. I HAVE MANY MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO WRITE ABOUT!!

Anyway...here's the major points for today...

1. I am back at this thing again. Hardcore. Ready to make more changes.
2. Hubby is home from the hospital and things are going great.
3. I have decided to become an instructor of some sort of workout. Still deciding which.
4. Work has been crazy hectic...and stressful...but I'm making it.

Anyway, I will be reading for I am sure like all weekend to catch up on everything. Sorry for being MIA... Missed you all like crazy and I can't wait to jump back into challenges and everything!!

  
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DUKELETO 8/16/2011 11:33PM

    Welcome Back!

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BREEVES3 8/5/2011 11:39AM

    I always think of Nemo when I see your profile name (and it's Shark Week so I dropped in to say hi!)

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SPARKLINGVIOLET 7/28/2011 12:09AM

    Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!

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_DASH_ 7/27/2011 8:59PM

    yo yo yo yo yooooo....

#2????
i havent made my way to the forum yet, but now i'm on the hunt. hope all is well! damn i miss you sharkbyte!!!!

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RUSSELLORAMA 7/22/2011 2:26PM

    Sharky!!!!

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JENIYE707 7/17/2011 7:04PM

    Welcome back. I am glad to hear that your hubby is home.

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_TRIXIE_ 7/16/2011 11:59AM

    Welcome back, doll! I've been thinking about you and the hubs. Glad to hear he's back home.

MISSED YOU!!

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MAMADELIGHT 7/16/2011 11:12AM

    YAY, Sharkie!!!!!!

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NANCYBOAT 7/16/2011 8:06AM

    Welcome Back!

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LADYINOHIO 7/16/2011 12:42AM

    emoticon

So glad to hear it!

P.S. I am STILL working on the thingy I want to send you. :P
Sorry, I'm lame... well, not really, I just want stuff to be nice, lol.
And I iz sooo busy, like the rest of the world.
Glad I came to look at your page to spy what colors I should use on said-thingy, heheh, because I got to see that you showed up today!
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NOTABOUTHEFACE 7/15/2011 3:31PM

    Welcome Back Kotter!! emoticon

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FREES1 7/15/2011 3:11PM

    welcome home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So glad you're back - and that your hubby is home too...
I bet you'll make a great instructor...
and again WELCOME HOME - you've been missed!

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