Thursday, February 27, 2014
The new view someone gets when they lose weight...it can either be good or bad.
Let me explain.
The good: Person A has lost a lot of weight and Person B has been struggling lately. Person A provides comfort with positive comments and a "you can do it" attitude. Person B feels relieved that someone understands and that they have someone they can turn to and vent about their downfalls. Person A realizes that Person B is hard enough on themselves...Person A remembers they were once there a few months ago.
The bad: Person A has lost a lot of weight and Person B has been struggling lately. Person A provides unnecessary comments such as "You shouldn't wear ruffles" and brings with them an attitude that makes Person B feel inferior and ready to go home and curl up in bed with ice cream. Person B feels alone and doesn't understand how Person A can be this way. Person A forgets that Person B is hard enough on themselves...Person A forgets they were once there a few months ago.
Sadly, "the bad" view happened to me. I was Person B. See, I'm struggling...just as we all do at some point. I was out of the rut finally and heading upwards. I decided to put on a cute dress with ruffles, cardigan, leggings, boots, jewelry, and get myself outta the funk. I thought I looked cute. Person A came over and the first comment was "You shouldn't wear ruffles". Keep in mind, Person A is a person who is very close to me, a person I love, a person that has NEVER said anything that made me feel so low before. Person A was my mother. I sat there trying to fight all the negative things my head was telling me...trying to hold back tears and simply said, well it's comfortable. Of course at this point it wasn't. I was fidgety all day and really wanted to just put on a snuggie and hide from the world.
I never said anything to her, but I know she knew it bothered me by my reaction. She tried to be super nice and sweet the rest of the day...but I couldn't shake the feeling that I was just a fat person who looked bad in all clothing that even my mother didn't want to be seen with me.
Now, remember before her comment...I thought I looked good. My morale was high, I was happy, ready for the day, and in my mind...I was cute. Through this situation, I learned a valuable lesson though.
People are going to say things, things that they may have meant to come out different. People are going to hurt your feelings. People are going to have expectations of you. People forget where they started...
If you take anything away from this...please just remember where you started so that when others come along, you can be "the good" view that you want to be and that is way more helpful to them.
Monday, August 22, 2011
SO...I bought another IPOD. One that will be specifically for working out so I can put it on random and whatever comes up will be something I won't feel the need to skip. Ya know, good hardcore, motivational music. Any suggestions?
Now for other news...
I am all over the place doing all kinds of things. I feel spastic. I am doing Zumba, Yoga, Running, Biking, Hiking, Walking, even Boxing...anything I can to get me moving. It's random and unscheduled but I am at least doing something even if it is inconsistent right now.
This weekend I went hiking with the hubz and decided I wanted a bike to ride osome of the trails. And now I am picking up my new bike on friday and plan to ride as soon as I get it home. Not only that but he wants one too, YAY!! I am stoked.
For my 50 state. 50 races. I am doing NC Sept 3rd (8k), then I am doing TN the weekend after thanksgiving (5k) and Florida I am planning. I got to get in touch with Wendy about that Disney one we talked about in NYC. MUST DO THIS SOON!
That will put me at doing 5 states this year. Right on target considering. Next year I will hit more but not too shabby for my first year of ones that will count.
I did calculate today that in total at the end of the year I will have officially ran in 10 races. I am doing multiple ones where I live to support good causes and to keep me training. There is one in October I talked my mom into doing...which is huge given her current health standings. It's a 1 mile run with a pet and its Paws for a Cause. Money goes to cures for cancer which she had. So we are excited about that and literally just cant wait to get out there with her. I'm sure I will cry...
Speaking of that...Since starting my 50 races. 50 states. mission...I have cried in every one of the races that I did going towards this. When I run alone and I hear my feet hitting the pavement and realize I am doing this...it hits me. It's not a lot and I am usually smiling. But at least 1 tear falls and I embrace it as growing back into the athlete I once was. Becoming a little more like I was before when I rarely even noticed what size clothes I wore, or how my body looked. I just knew how it looked because I was healthy and taking care of myself. I want that again so bad that when it hits me I am working towards it, I get emo.
I can't wait to see what the rest of this year brings. I have extremely high hopes that it is going to bring lots of lessons in self motivation, strength, and power. I mean after all, I am on the right track at least.
Thursday, August 11, 2011
I am going to boggle your mind today…I swear. With the stock market going crazy people are reinvesting their money, rethinking all their decisions, subconsciously knowing that if the stock market goes back up then they may make a foolish mistake.
Well let’s take this to our everyday lives. Why shouldn’t you rethink the choices you make daily and reinvest in yourself if the choices are affecting you in a bad way. So wipe the slate clean and start fresh. Right now. Here we go…
One thing you do normally: Eat
Timeframe you have to do this: 24 hours
When should you do it: Early or Late
What should you eat: Healthy or Junky
This is something you have to do, something you need to do, and a decision you make on a daily basis.
If this seems to follow your pattern of thinking (which I am thinking it will)…then it is time that you changed and you started rethinking a couple things and reinvest some time into yourself.
I want you to add one thing to the things you normally do. Add Workout. So your list now looks like this.
Two things you do normally are:
Timeframe you have to do this:
When should you do it:
What should you do:
1. Be Healthy (Eat clean food and work out)
2. Be Junky (Eat junk food and don’t work out)
With this being on that list…it means it is no longer an option to skip it. You can’t skip meals (and shouldn’t) if you want to function normally…that is the same with being active. You can’t function at your best like you should without working out, exercising or being active in some way. It is really a logical way of thinking…but with everything we have been brain-fed by media and other people limiting their expectations of us, we have grown comfortable and accepting of this behavior. Our minds have shifted in allowing us to believe the negative hype and just flow with it so we don’t cause too much attention to ourselves.
Well I say not anymore. I will NOT sit by on the sidelines any longer because someone thinks I shouldn’t do something, can’t do something, or have made me feel so miserably low that I have now told myself I couldn’t. I refuse for that to be the case. So I am modifying the way I think…starting with this.
When will I eat breakfast/lunch/dinner? What will I eat?
When will I workout? What will I do?
Skipping it or putting it off like it isn’t a big deal and you can just catch it tomorrow, NO. That line of thinking is what got you here in the first place. It IS a big deal. Make it happen today. Reinvest time into yourself and know it is the right thing to do. You know it is. You are worth this and in order to get the results you want, you have to start thinking this way to achieve those results.
So, reinvest some time in yourself and rethink your choices. I’m willing to bet you can change some things and get faster results just by putting this into action. Keep fighting the fight and know you aren’t alone.
Tuesday, August 09, 2011
Quick little something for you sparkies...
Habit - it takes 21 days of doing something regularly for it to become habitual
Fear - it is what you let yourself do when you DECIDE that something is scary
Change - it is what happens when things become different
Now put that all together.
Habits fear change. Yes I just came up with this and it totally just wowed me so I had to get it down on paper...err...you know what I mean.
So let's see here...for example
If I have a habit of being lazy on weekends...then you guessed it. I am scared of changing that because it is my normal. So that means in order to change it I have to change my normal to be what I want it to be.
If you want your habits to change you have to not be scared to change them. You have to be willing to push your boundaries and change your normal routine to be the routine you want it to be. The best routine you can possibly do to make yourself the best possible you.
I have habits that need to change, that need to go away completely and be forgotten about altogether. They need NOT return...EVER. I will NOT fear this change. I will accept it as my new normal and push forward...even when it is uncomfortable and new. I mean think about it...everything was new once...and you were uncomfortable then before it becamse your normal.
It isn't that hard to change your normal. Regardless of what you think, it is not. You make up your mind to change it, and put it into action. No more talk, just action. DO IT. Your normal is what you want it to be, what you make it, what you decide it should be. So if you decide your normal is complaining and no action or If you decide your normal is planning, eating healthy, and working out...then you know what result you will get either way...don't act like you don't.
Friday, July 15, 2011
It's me! finally!!
oh and...STUVWXYZ...AND THAT COMPLETES THE ABC BLOGS. I HAVE MANY MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO WRITE ABOUT!!
Anyway...here's the major points for today...
1. I am back at this thing again. Hardcore. Ready to make more changes.
2. Hubby is home from the hospital and things are going great.
3. I have decided to become an instructor of some sort of workout. Still deciding which.
4. Work has been crazy hectic...and stressful...but I'm making it.
Anyway, I will be reading for I am sure like all weekend to catch up on everything. Sorry for being MIA... Missed you all like crazy and I can't wait to jump back into challenges and everything!!
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