Family Challenges

Thursday, March 08, 2012

Well, I'm definitely feeling challenged right now. Not only from my excercise and eating program, but from my family.

For the most part they are very supportive of my quest for a healthy lifestyle. But recently, I'm feeling very alientated from them all.

I work two jobs, so 60 hours a week. I take three 1 hour bootcamp classes and two kickboxing classes a week and run 3 times a week with my daughter. In total, this is really only about 7-8 hours of excercise. Do I deserve this 7 hours a week dedicated to myself? I think so. But my family doesn't seem to think so anymore.

My kids are 20 and 15, so they aren't babies and have a lot going on in their own lives, yet they side with Dad, who is upset that I'm missing time at home sitting on the couch watching TV with him.

I am working the two jobs to save money to buy a house and help my family not to struggle. I work out for me. I feel torn. I feel a little unappreciated and frankly, am not sure what to do about it. I can tell you one thing though, I am NOT going to stop working out and getting healthy!

  

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_KRYS_ 3/8/2012 1:30PM

Thanks ladies - I think a family meeting is in order and I think I will set aside one night a week for family time and whoever would like to join me, can! I don't feel as worried now that I am being selfish. I knew I wasn't but there was that nagging doubt in the back of my mind saying that maybe I was. I'll have a heart to heart with hubby this weekend and let him know how I'm feeling :) Report Inappropriate Comment

MAMMAOF2GIRLS 3/8/2012 1:15PM

Good for you!! You should take that time and take care of yourself. In the long run, you will be around much longer to be with your family. I don't work as long of hours as you (about 40-45 per week) but I go to the gym right after work. I don't feel so bad about doing that because my husband works 12 hour days, so he is still at work. My daughters (20 & 18) are old enough that they do not "need" me anymore. I told them at the end of February (when I started back on this) that I was , for once, going to be selfish! And I have been. I cook food just for me (and my husband if he wants what I am eating) and I take time to go to the gym (to workout and tan). If they can't realize that you are doing this for them (working 2 jobs) and that you need the time for yourself, then I think they are the ones that need to step back and look at the situation and how you really are there for them, even though it may not be as much or in the way they want. You will have to find a way to work through this for yourself and not let the stress cause you to slow down or stop going after your goal. Maybe you all can set one night aside for "family time" and see if that seems to help a little. Best of luck to you!! Report Inappropriate Comment

CAKEMAKERMOM 3/8/2012 1:00PM

It's quality time, not quantity time. Is there something your husband (and family) would like to go do? Sounds like family meeting time. I hope you guys figure it out. You still need your healthy me time also. If you're not taking care of yourself, you can't take care of your family. Oh and the being home to sit on the couch with the husband sounds very much like my parents. Dad sits on the couch with his tv all the time while Mom goes off by herself to do what she wants. I hear about this all the time because she complains about his lumpiness. When I go over with the kids, he never moves from his chair. It takes 2 for a relationship. Report Inappropriate Comment

15 lbs by Christmas!!

Monday, November 21, 2011

I am going for 15 lbs loss by Christmas! I'll be happy for 10, but am aiming for 15. That's three pounds a week, which isn't unrealistic if I'm sticking to a plan :)

  

Must have willpower

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Well, I wrote out my goals the other day and so far have come very, very close to achieving them!! :) Much closer than I have in a long time, so I'm feeling very positive! Sometimes we really are our own worst enemies, aren't we?

  

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KRISTOLIE 8/12/2010 5:44PM

I agree! Writing down goals is a good idea too! Report Inappropriate Comment

Goals

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Well, I have written out some goals for the rest of 2010. I found another blog where someone did this and I am giving it a shot. I have done some simple goals for the month of August to start out - just small weight loss goals, some financial goals and some personal growth goals. It feels great to set them and doesn't seem so huge that I have done them for each month seperately. I think that once I start achieving these goals, things will get on the right track again!

Besides, each day is what we ourselves make it.

  

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GAILRUU 8/10/2010 1:18PM

Goal setting really helps. Good luck on achieving yours for this month! Report Inappropriate Comment

Looking for answers

Monday, August 09, 2010

I've tried so many times to dig deep and figure out what it is that is causing me to overeat. It's such a hard thing to pin down. Anyone have any helpful hints on recognizing what causes us to do this?