Thursday, September 25, 2014
This blog is coming off of 15 hours of sleep, a healthy breakfast and coffee... in my pajamas... at noon. Someone is on vacation.
I've been playing for the last two weeks, out to Seattle on business and up to Lake Superior for my real vacation. It's been great. Even though I have had to be disciplined with school still (3 classes left!), I have really worked on relaxing. That has involved drinking way too much, eating well, and waking up to things that look like this:
In Seattle, not only did I get to see my best friend from high school, but I got to go to the Space Needle and eat a lot of tasty seafood.
On Lake Superior? Well, I bought a timeshare that has this view...
Yeah, welcome back Paula. I decided that not only was this going to be a good investment (because I get 6 full weeks a year on the lake) but because if I can't go, the resort works on renting it out for me. I am so excited to come to MY cabin next year :) Woot!
Things in general are looking up. I have started to accept things where they are, which has proven a beautiful thing. I am where I am. I joined my beloved fitness studio that does Nia and Pilates and Zumba and Yoga etc. Excited to get started in October when I return.
Feeling very thankful. And happy. And at peace.
Sunday, September 14, 2014
Well, it's been 3.5 months since June 1. Slow but steady has been the mantra, and apparently that has paid off in spades for me. I am proud to say that with much less chaos, crazy, and effort, I've managed to steadily lose 19.6 pounds which puts me officially over the 25% mark.
It feels different this time, different than ever before. I'm not obsessing over calories, or nutrition, or exercise. In fact, I'm not even tracking. I'm not obsessively thinking about food as I used to. I'm in this zen space of being me, which has been a completely different experience.
Yes, it's a slower pace. And yes, I've had my moments of feeling disappointed. However, I know that even if I went overboard with my choices, it wouldn't derail me the next day.. in fact, I've been much more mindful about things in general, and I do believe this has made the biggest difference.
If I am hungry, I eat.
If I am thirsty, I drink.
If I want chocolate or chips, I have them.
I have no "off limit" foods this time. I have no rules and regulations of what I can and can not do. I haven't even added exercise in to the mix as of yet, and I have still had success with this moderate approach.
I'm feeling very thankful and optimistic about the future.
Monday, September 01, 2014
Since June 1, 2014, I've lost 17.2 pounds. As of today, I saw a new "decade" on the scale that I haven't seen since last October.
Yes, it's slow. However, I'm not doing ANYTHING this time outside of being mindful.
I'm not meticulously tracking my food.
I'm not working out 1 or 2 hours/day 5 or 6 days/week.
I'm not counting my calories.
I'm not starving.
I'm not restricting.
I'm not binging.
I have experienced hunger and fullness.
It's kind of like its own little miracle really. It's really put me on pause to question everything friends, relatives, and the media have been spoon feeding me for years.
Maybe this element of kindness, of just accepting I can't do much given everything that I am doing, has been the missing link all of these years.
I've never been kind to myself through this process of trying to become healthier. I've been harsh to the point of being militant. I've counted the calories in my gum. I punished myself at the gym with extra time if I ate or drank something that I felt I shouldn't have. I silently judged myself 24 hours a day, and told myself a plethora of lies including "If only you were at X weight, then you would be good enough and worthy of love".
You know what the best part about this time around has been? I don't think about food. The obsessive thoughts have all but disappeared. Because I'm not limiting myself to "good foods", I have the freedom to indulge in the taste of something if I want. Like peppermint bon bon ice cream. I actually can have a container sit in my freezer and not feel a compulsion to eat it, unless I am getting a craving for it. Or the mini bags of chips I have had sitting in my cupboard. I eat a bag when I am wanting it, maybe even two bags, but then I'm over it.
I've been trying to focus on more well rounded meals, though a go-to is still ramen noodles for this graduate student. Hey, I still have to eat! But I've been buying cut fruit and eating that as a snack, and have incorporated a ready-to-heat breakfast sandwich in the morning... every morning...to get me off on the right foot. It's made a difference.
One thing I noticed is that I have been having food go to waste. I explored this, and realized I am still buying in the quantity I did before... for the girl who would eat that quantity... and so I have had to alter my shopping habits t buy less more frequently. It's still a work in progress.
Overall, I'm quite happy with things. I'm elated beyond measure that I have spent the last two days writing the draft for my thesis and it is nearly complete. That 30 page project has been hanging over my head for quite some time, but now I can put that anxiousness behind me and focus on the future of: Edits, 3 more classes in the next 6 months, and then graduation! Done and done!
I look forward to see what September will bring into my life. I hired someone to help me last week, and they start at the end of this week. That will relieve a lot of my burdens at work. I am flying to Portland in a couple weeks as I have been asked to present on our hiring, retention and talent development practices! And then, right after I get back, I go on a week long vacation to Lake Superior before school starts again in October.
The end, my friends, is in sight. Amen.
Tuesday, August 05, 2014
So, today I realized that I am afraid of feeling hungry. I have never really thought about/acknowledged this piece of my personality before, but it came to light today as I was discussing why I didn't want to start exercising again. Inevitably, I will feel more hungry and I don't want to feel that way.
This was a WOW, stop-me-in-my-tracks moment. It's true, I am afraid of feeling hungry (especially since I have had 2 decent months of fairly contained hunger... I just don't want to deal with it anymore).
This was a point of challenge from my therapist. She said that hunger isn't what needs to be feared, because it's just information from our bodies; in fact (lo and behold) it's NORMAL to feel hungry, especially after working out. She said it is the eating disorder that is making me fearful of what has been the RESULT of feeling hungry, being completely out of control with my food in the past.
Ok, so I am letting that settle in for a moment. I googled the opposite of fear and came up with the following: peace, faith and safety. Ok... so let's break those down. Do I feel peaceful with my food? During the last couple months, sure more than before, but I never feel completely at peace with my food choices so that doesn't work. Faith? Well, I'm working on that in a different aspect but I don't have faith in myself enough to believe that I really do have this conquered (I've been down this road a million times, I'm done being persuaded). So there goes that.
Now I am left with safety. Safety in my food choices, safety in knowing that X won't cause me to gain weight in the long run. Safety in knowing that intentional movement is a way to be kinder to myself. Safety in knowing that losing 5 pounds a month, and having it feel like it was not a ton of work and being able to maintain the loss is psychologically less damaging than losing 5 pounds in a week and swinging back up the next because I ate less than I normally do and am now compensating.
So for me, the opposite of fear is safety. I can work on building safe habits that will help ensure I don't swing. It won't be glamorous, as I was reminded of today, but it will be sustainable. And I will have to work on it being enough because what has worked before hasn't been able to be sustained.
I want different for myself. I feel like I am on the right path and making good progress in many areas of my life. I am thankful for being able to recognize the Fear so I can challenge and reframe the unconscious messaging I've been telling myself forever.
And I am thankful for you, SparkFriends. Your encouragement means more to me than you will ever know. I long for the day that I have more spare time to respond and interact with you, but until I am done with grad school, I am working on coming here and writing down my thoughts as being enough.
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