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Headless fatty epidemy - rant

Thursday, February 16, 2012

I don’t know if this is a new trend in Spark People or what the hell is going on, maybe I’ve just been having some bad luck but lately I’ve been bumping into quite a few blogs pulling a headless fatty* and I’m starting to get a little pissed.

* Headless fatty: Using an image of an overweight/obese person with the sole intention (either conscious or subconscious) to judge, make fun of and/or cause the disgust of the reader under the excuse of “trying to make a point”.

So I’ve seen a few junk food/organic food posts that include the headless fatty along with some judgmental phrase such as (this is not quoted, just similar stuff): If you keep eating that crap you’ll end up like this… or, why do these people (the obese kind) do this to themselves? … or something condescending and judgmental such as (this is probably my fave): * sigh * it’s so sad that some people never try to change (insert headless fatty image).

I mean, what the hell do you know? Do you even know that person or did you just google searched for a fat person in google images or something… SERIOUSLY!
AND if you DO know the person… WTF why would you psychologically bully someone in that international, public way for the whole world to see?!

So I ask people who do this… would YOU like to be the headless fatty? … or the headless poorly done boobjob?… the headless ugly nose?... the headless stretch mark?... yeah, I didn’t think so…

Nobody’s perfect you know? And beauty’s in the eye of the beholder so it’s great to have the self-esteem to consider yourself flawless, it really is, means you have confidence and that is such an important thing to have! BUT! No matter how awesome you are you will always be someone else’s before picture, weight loss or non weight loss related.

I will also add this few things:
1) By pulling a headless fatty you’re pretty much attacking not only that person but also anyone who can relate to her picture, therefore, you might be contributing to someone’s binge eating disorder (google it! It’s only one of the biggest causes of obesity in the world)
2) There are other reasons for obesity than just eating too much because food tastes good… and there are sooooo many of them. While it is true that most of them can be controlled with standard exercise and a change of diet (diet in this context meaning the food you eat every day) it is also true that a whole bunch of them will also need special treatment and pills and stuff… and in some cases, a treatment you’re taking to improve your health can unfortunately make you gain weight. (Metabolic syndrome, PCOS, a wide variety of hormonal problems, etc etc etc … hit Wikipedia)
3) You can pretend pulling a headless fatty isn’t judgmental all you want but you just know it is. Come on, if you don’t you’re only fooling yourself.

This issue in itself annoys me but the fact that I’ve seen it on Spark People by people who have been through it themselves is just insane, out of control… a bit sad too.

And I ask people who do this one more question. Who ever told you it was OK to psychologically abuse overweight/obese people once you were done with weight loss?

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 3/12/2012 6:14PM

    You mean like this one???




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BARBLIVESHERE 2/16/2012 8:50PM

    I have never seen that. If I did I would probably report it as inappropriate.
What a shame, that some people need to put others down so they feel better about their own selves.

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MJLBEAR 2/16/2012 9:23AM

    Thats horrible. I've been reading Spark People blogs too and I'm glad I haven't run into this yet. Its callous. That body belongs to a person. A person with sorrows and joys, a person who is something to someone. We don't know how they came to gain weight or what challenges they might face trying to lose that weight. The other thing that disturbs me is the oversimplification of the weight loss struggle - its not as simple as cutting out that bag of cheetos or whatever. Everyone seems to have their own set of challenges - emotional, physical, economic, health, etc. Failing to acknowledge that cheapens what we are all trying to do. Its the blame mentality that doesn't help anyone.

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MEESHINTHEUK 2/16/2012 1:14AM

    GET IT!!!! Love, love, love!!!!!

It is the people with the least amount of self-esteem and self worth that point out flaws or make fun of others.

Thank you for your rant!

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Got rid of 20 :D

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

That's 20 Lbs gone forever! :)

The weight of an average car tyre

A certain 40" LED TV

And an average Pyrenean Shepherd... and they're not exactly small...

Awwww so cute... too bad the extra fat wasn't cute like him! I would much rather carry him all day long haha!!

My point... got rid of 20 Lbs and needed some visuals to understand how awesome that is. That's pretty much it :)

Have a great day :D

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CCASKEY37 2/15/2012 9:44AM

    gives new meaning to the term 'spare tire'

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BARBLIVESHERE 2/15/2012 9:05AM

    That is INCREDIBLE!
You must have worked so hard for that!
Reward yourself!

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Principle of Behaviour #26

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Never reward yourself with food.

Instead go shopping for a cool outfit

Or maybe go do some cool activity

Maybe go to a concert

Whatever... just remember food must never be a reward.


Dear SP: I strongly disagree (or, Chocoholism)

Sunday, February 12, 2012

I agree with a lot of stuff on SP but I disagree with a whole other bunch as well. In any case, I’m completely aware that what works for some might not work for others and each person’s journey’s different because our bodies are unique and our (healthy) habits must match what our bodies’ need etc etc etc…
So the fact that I don’t agree with something doesn’t mean it’s wrong…


*notice capital letters for dramatic effect

Being a chocoholic I read this article today, plus it was featured on the start page so I just got drawn to it as soon as I read the word “chocolate” ha!

So I don’t know how other chocoholics out there might feel about this but, personally, I think it’s a whole lot of manure!

I don’t like how any low calorie version of stuff (sweets) tastes. The fact that those things are between 60 – 150 calories means nothing when I find myself stuffing my throat with 3 of them because I find that it’s kinda like chewing air.

So for me they fail on 3 levels:
1) They’re far too expensive considering they fail on the next two areas.
2) They don’t manage to actually replace that little sin you were drooling over
3) 8 out of 10 times you will still eat whatever you originally wanted afterwards except you will have already stuffed yourself with an extra shot of empty calories from the supposedly healthy versions of your favourite sweets and the other 2 you’ll eat it within a week.

Because we all know thanks to SP how low calorie does not equal healthy… soooo yeah…

(OK so I made up those numbers but it happens! A lot! Especially when you’re a binge eater.)

Anyway, about a year ago I started hanging out with a healthier crowd (healthier in every single aspect) and just observed their eating habits. Well not at first, at first I just thought… Damn them, they eat whatever they want and they’re all thin why?? IT’S NOT FAIR!!!

So when I got over THAT I started watching and learning from their eating habits :) As I said before they did eat anything and everything except they had very controlled portions. And since this particular post is about chocolate… I noticed when they ate chocolate (or brownies or you name it) they really just had one or two bites and that was it, the rest went to the fridge. I thought… it’s so simple how did I not think of it? so I attempted to do that and failed several times :S hahaha

Then I read an article about how chocolate is so good for your body because of all the antioxidants and some other reasons I can’t remember now. Of course that article was talking about dark chocolate or cocoa not about Cadbury’s Turkish delight chocolate bars! :P haha
So I thought… I’ll switch to dark chocolate. And I don’t know about you but I can’t eat a lot of dark chocolate because the flavour’s so intense so I could do what they did: I had a bite or two and then put the rest in the fridge.

Eventually I could do the same with milk chocolate and other chocolate stuff :)

So now I can say I have a healthier relationship with chocolate, it still needs some improvement but it’s getting there :D

I also learned from these peeps I just talked about that it’s important to always look for quality ingredients and if possible natural too. I avoid to a certain extend “light” stuff because even though they do offer low calories, most of them include a whole bunch of chemicals and preservatives that are just not good for your body. The ones that replace chips and sweets are still overly processed empty calories so I don’t see the point… I think if you’re making the choice to eat some empty calories you might at least get some real flavour :D hahaha everything in moderation of course!!

Having ranted about this I insist if you do find the suggestions on that article useful then go for it! But if not, just know there are yet more options like baking your own desserts at home where you have full of control of all the ingredients, switching to dark chocolate, limiting the portions of regular stuff and so on.

If you have some more tips for chocoholics please share them too!! :D

Hope you’re having a wonderful day. Thank you for stopping by :)

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RUFFESS47 2/13/2012 12:56AM

    I love my choc too
I limit myself to 1 small cherry ripe each pm.
But I do make choc desserts and even chocy mouse. I use Silken tofu choc powder orange or coconut essense and a small amount of splenda. That gives us 4 small serves.

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LILMYSTERY 2/12/2012 4:32PM

    I love your blog post! I've been battling something of a chocolate addiction lately, and I've found the best way for me to handle it is to NOT buy sweets except for dark chocolate. The intense flavor helps me handle my obsession without eating everything in sight. Otherwise I eat until there's nothing left and I keep looking for more! I've also found that the longer I eat dark chocolate, the less I enjoy milk chocolate - making it easier to stay away from a large portion of temptations! I fell off the bandwagon for a bit sweet-wise, and so I'm trying to reign in my chocolate eating by following my "dark chocolate diet" again. haha

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ILIKETOZUMBA 2/12/2012 4:19PM

    Wow, I love this post. I am a HUGE chocoholic, and you've spelled out my exact problem - I can't eat just ONE treat. If I'm going to have that 130 calorie Kashi brand cookie....well, I'm gonna have at least two more afterward. So much for that whole "130 calories" thing. I try to control my dessert portions, but I really struggle with it. The best way for me to satisfy my chocolate craving without going too overboard on portions is just to get a bag of dark chocolate chunks from the grocery store baking aisle, measure out a tablespoon's worth, and let each one melt in my mouth as I suck on it. It keeps the chocolate flavor in my mouth longer than chewing anything would, and one tablespoon of the chocolate chunks I buy ends up being just 70 calories. I try to use this strategy most of the time, but of course sometimes I end up stuffing my face with brownies at work or something. :)

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Binge Eating Disorder - Important!

Tuesday, February 07, 2012


Today I'm blogging about something very important to me that I hope one day the diet and medical industries take into consideration before developing their plans for weight loss. If you look at my blogs you'll see I often talk about binge eating. I would like to share some facts about binge eating and binge eating disorder with everyone.

Binge eating disorder (BED) is a very common eating disorder that is not as recognised and treated as it should be. Most people with BED can be overweight or obese but it strikes thin people as well.

In my opinion the most important characteristic of BED is having binge episodes of eating large amounts of food very fast until feeling physically ill and even nauseated. During these binge episodes you can also find other characteristics:
- Eating in secret
- Feeling like you can't stop eating even though you want to
- Feeling upset, depressed and/or guilty about the binging during and after it
- Repeating this same binge episode pattern even though you know and understand how much it is damaging your health. Complete loss of control.

Binge Eating Disorder will have you doing this 2 or more times a week for periods of 6 months or more. If it's less often or for shorter periods of time it's not considered a disorder, just binge eating but I believe it's equally harmful for your health and should be dealt with as well.

Binge eating is usually a way to avoid dealing with particular feelings. Usually triggered by sadness, stress, boredom and depression.

In my experience, I used to binge every day. The amount of food I ate, I can't even describe it. It was compulsive, I wasn't thinking at all. It made me gain a lot of weight which only made me hate myself. By hating myself I turned to food for comfort and all I did was to create a vicious cycle I couldn't get out of for a long time.

According to this site: http://helpguide.org/mental/binge_eating_d
There's some questions you can ask yourself to determine if you have BED and the more “yes” answers you give it's the more likely you have the disorder. I don't know if that's all you have to do to determine if you have this disorder but I did find it very accurate. These are the questions:

Do you feel out of control when you’re eating?
Do you think about food all the time?
Do you eat in secret?
Do you eat until you feel sick?
Do you eat to escape from worries, relieve stress, or to comfort yourself?
Do you feel disgusted or ashamed after eating?
Do you feel powerless to stop eating, even though you want to?

My answer to all of them would've still been “yes” about a year ago when I was still fighting binge eating.

Both by doing research on the matter and by personal experience I can say “diets” and having food restrictions of any kind will not help a binge eater, in fact, it can make things worse. Making a particular food you enemy will only fuel those binging episodes more and more because, well, you binge on what's forbidden... you don't binge on carrots and oranges.
I believe the way to go to beat binge eating is to learn about nutritional values, the role different foods in our bodies and pay attention to what our bodies are really asking for so that we can make better choices! For example:
You find yourself craving sweets. You think, come on body! What can you possible get out of empty sugar calories?
Maybe your body needs some serotonin (something your brain produces in order to get that “happy feeling”). Serotonin production is boosted by sugar BUT! You can also boost serotonin production by getting some Vitamin B6 (contained in fish, chicken, beef, garlic, spinach).

You know, the same to how when kids eat dirt it's because they need to get more Iron!

Anyway, back to binge eating. Something vital to overcome binge eating is to have a food diary. Make sure you're completely honest in your diary too! Whenever you feel like binging stop, breathe, take your diary and write down what exactly you were feeling when you were about to binge. Were you angry? Sad? Even happy maybe?

Then, after lodging a couple of days you'll be able to see which feeling(s) trigger the binging and next time you can be prepared!

Make sure you're never bored. If you start getting bored, before you go grab that pack of chips start doing something... anything at all! Something that keeps you busy not only physically but mentally too!

Here are some websites you can check out, they have suggestions and info about this disorder:

Binge eaters usually feel like they're alone and feel ashamed about binging. It's important to have a support group so talk to someone you trust about it. Don't be afraid to ask for support!! Especially here, there are so many sparkies who will be supportive no matter what, that's what we're here for!

I'm no expert, I'm not a doctor or a psychologist of any kind but I've been through this and I just want to contribute with a bit of info.

I hope you're having a great day and thanks for visiting my blog :)

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ELIZA22 4/16/2012 2:28PM

    thanks for sharing. I'm sure I have BED too but I am having trouble coming to grips with the fact that it is a disease or disorder, not just a series of bad choices. I constantly beat myself up for making poor decisions and not having the willpower to stop. I'm ashamed of my eating habits and haven't had the courage to talk to anyone about it yet so it is nice to be able to connect with people on here about it. thanks again!

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MELLYBEANS0919 2/27/2012 7:26PM

    I really appreciate your honesty, as I am struggling with it too.

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NATTSO78 2/25/2012 11:17PM

  i've dealt with this and had beaten it - but I slipped back in recently, not as bad though. I'm with you - I wish this was taken more seriously in the medical community - you have no idea how many doctors will just tell me, "you need to restrict if you want to lose weight" and I tell them, "no, it will only make it worse - let me explain" - I wish more people spoke about it more too - when there's support, there's hope. I dig this post - I wrote about my experience here:http://rightonvegan.blogspot.c
om/ but it's not nearly as organized as this! Keep writing!

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CO-CREATOR 2/8/2012 6:19PM

    Thanks for sharing this informative blog. I sometimes eat in secret and it is embarrassing to admit.

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KDYLOSE 2/8/2012 12:57PM

    So nice to see you back and to hear you're doing so well! Back when I was a teenager with what I see now was a severe binge disorder, there was no term for this. It was called "not having any willpower."

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1CRAZYDOG 2/8/2012 10:40AM

    Excellent blog, excellent information! Food journaling is something I've done from day #1. It really does help me. I don't have BED, but just helps me make better choices.

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