Friday, December 14, 2007
My son had his arraignment this morning for his pot charge. Because he was already in detention for the contempt of court charge, they took his case last. All the other parents had left the court room with their children and it was just me sitting alone in the back. The bailiff asked me if I was his mother and I said yes. I then asked if when they bring him up, will I be able to give him a hug. She said no, that I was not allowed to touch him and I think she could see it in my eyes that it hurt to hear what she said because she gave me one of those I am sorry looks.
Then they called me to sit in the front row and they went to bring him in. It was the hardest thing listening to his ankle chains clanking and his boots scuffing as he walked down the hall. He looked at me and I quickly whispered "I love you." Once they started the arraignment proceedings, things turned worse for my son as the probation officer stated that he had tested positive for pot this morning. At that point, a part of me just wanted to smack him in the back of his head all the while saying to him "you promised me you were staying clean!!" When it was over, he and his clunky boots and clanging ankle chains were taken away and I gave him one last long pitiful look.
After court, I took his eye glasses up to the detention center since I had found them in his bedroom. I have no clue what he has done with his contacts but that is the least of my worries. When I took up his glasses, I was able to speak to a counselor and he said that they will keep him until he tests clean twice. I also asked if they had him meeting with counselors because I would like this episode to become a wake up call and turn into something positive in the long run. My understanding is that it may take up to 38 days for him to test clean from the last time he smoked pot. Tomorrow will be the first time I will be able to talk to him when his unit has visitation between 10:30 and 11:00. You know I will ask him when that 38 days will be over and if it means that Christmas will be spent with him in detention.
I feel bad for him but he has brought this on himself. He knew 2 months ago that this was coming. Why he chose to violate his dad's and my trust, I will never understand. But I am staying strong in this. My heart aches for the pain he must be going thru stuck in detention, but he had plenty of warnings from us and his lawyer. So it looks as tho the contempt of court charge only got him in a day earlier than he would have gone in anyways!
They say you need to hit rock bottom to change. Let's all hope and pray that this is the rock bottom he needs to hit in order to turn his life around!
In the meantime, I just want to say a quick "Thank You" to everyone who has left supportive comments on my blog from yesterday. I will get back to you and thank you personally as well!
Thursday, December 13, 2007
So this morning my son's friend had his trial for contributing to the delinquency of a minor and my son was subpoenaed as a witness in the trial. I had stayed home from work today so I could take him. But then this morning, he said he did not want me to go. I know when he was subpoenaed for that bad drug deal and the guy held my son and his friends hostage, I was the only mother of any of the boys that were subpoenaed as witnesses that came to court with her son. (Apparently that was a very bad day for that kid because he sicked his dog on one of the boys, but I digress.) So when my son asked me to not come with him today, I thought to myself, no big deal; he's just going to testify and then he will be home. Well, that is not what happened.
Apparently when his friend was done with his trial (he got 3 years suspended and a few other things, but nothing big!), he went to the clerk of the court. While he was there taking care of his fines, something was said and my son got the clerk of the court upset. He apologized. Then as he was walking away from the clerk, my son got a text message from his girlfriend and he muttered (sorry if I offend, but these were his exact words) "Stupid B!tch" to his girlfriend over the text message. The clerk heard what he said and thought he was referring to her and got my son pulled back. He has been charged with contempt of court and will be spending the next 3 days in juvenile intake (that is what they call the detention center here). I am not able to have any communication with him whatsoever. The only time I can visit him is for 30 minutes on Saturday and then he will be released on Sunday.
When they called from intake, I told them that he was just yesterday diagnosed with strep throat and that he needs his antibiotics. When I took his medicine up to intake, there were some people there from a local ministry. I asked them to stop by and say a prayer with him and to please tell my son that I am very worried about him.
When I got my one phone call from my son, he sounded so upset. Besides that, this whole thing stinks. Since when are you not allowed to cuss in a courthouse? I realize it is not a nice thing to do but I really feel that his civil rights have been violated here. I did contact his lawyer this evening but she will not be able to do anything until the morning. So for now, he has to spend the night at intake. When I brought up his antibiotics, the nurse told me that he was in medical isolation because he is so sick. Not sure if that is a good or a bad thing.
And on top of everything else, my hunny is starting to show signs of all this stress getting to him. His neck is really hurting so I told him to keep an eye on it and we should go to the emergency room if he starts feeling the least bit wrong.
What a day!!!
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