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Quick Update - He is here

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

I never knew motherhood would be so tiring. I haven't got the time to do anything but feed the baby, sleep and eat. Thank God for my mother and my SO.

So this is just a quick update. My son Jaelan Kai was born on November 7, 2013, 7lb 9oz. He was delivered vaginally. Funny thing is I went to the hospital the Wednesday to be induced. I was told I had to be monitored for 24 hrs before they induced me. The doctor stretched my cervix and told me she was hoping that I went into labour before morning so she could avoid the induction. I started feeling contractions that afternoon and had him at 12:25 p.m. the next day. He was 10 days overdue and absolutely perfect! emoticon

Thanks to everyone, especially my Diamond sisters for your support. Thank you too Sanshe. Your comments really helped me to get through that difficult and long waiting period.

Here is a pic

Btw someone should have warned me that taking care of a newborn is hard work! lol

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SHANSHE 12/8/2013 5:12PM

    OMGoodness!!!! He is absolutely adorable! Love at first sight! Makes me want to reach through the screen and just cuddle him good!
BTW... we probably told you it was hard work, but shoot, we never really know until it's there! CONGRATULATIONS mama, you did a wonderful job!
Love and hugs,

P.S. If you'd had him just one day earlier, i would've had a new birthday buddy! :)

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FORBANDE 11/25/2013 7:18AM

    He's absolutely beautiful!!! Congrats Celeste!!!

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ANNMACP0212 11/24/2013 9:49AM

    Beautiful!! Boys are awesome!!! Remember to ask for help--you don't need to do it all yourself!!

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ORCHIDLADY56 11/23/2013 9:01AM

    He is such a sweetheart! Congratulations! You must be one proud momma!

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AMY-MIMI77 11/22/2013 10:19AM

    AW, he's adorable! Take all the time you can to snuggle him up and take plenty pictures.
As Elaine said they grow up so fast!
LOL - it is hard work and just keeps going (not scaring you, am I?)

Extra hugs to both of you from me today
Hope that you guys are both doing well.

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LIAMAY3 11/19/2013 9:15AM

    Congratulations Celeste, he is beautiful!!! Hope both mom and baby are doing well!!

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RUNNER4LIFE08 11/19/2013 8:57AM

    He is beautiful! Congratulations!!!!

Try to get as much rest as you can so you can recover. And snuggle, snuggle, snuggle because they grow up fast!

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NELLJONES 11/19/2013 8:46AM

    Not only is taking care of a newborn hard work, but you will forget by the time the next one rolls around. We all manage, though, then those kids leave home and have kids of their own and you wonder where the time went.

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ALICIALYNNE 11/19/2013 8:07AM

    Newborns are definitely difficult to handle, but so incredibly worth it.

What a beautiful, beautiful baby! Congratulations!

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TKOVACH1 11/19/2013 7:58AM

    Celeste, he is absolutely beautiful! Congrats on your little miracle. Enjoy every minute of every day with him.
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VALYNN26 11/19/2013 6:59AM

    He is absolutely beautiful! I am so happy for you!! Congratulations!! emoticon

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SASSYLJB 11/19/2013 5:39AM

    He is beautiful like his mama! Congrats, glad to finally see him, he has been long awaited. so glad all is well! So happy for you!

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POETICJUSTUS 11/19/2013 4:35AM

    What an amazing young man! He is beautiful. Blessings to you and yours
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ELLEKIO 11/19/2013 3:36AM

  WOW! I'm late, but congratulations, hun. He is adorable.
Yes, I have a friend who had a baby last year and every day is a struggle but to see the smile on the child's face is so precious.
Again, congratulations.
Best wishes.

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Don't worry about a thing....

Sunday, November 03, 2013

... for every little thing is gonna be alright. (Bob Marley)

That song just came in head as I was thinking about writing this blog. This is just a update on what is happening with my pregnancy.

As of today my baby boy is 6 days overdue. I'll be 41 weeks pregnant tomorrow. Out of all the person I know who have had children, I do no know anyone personally who has been this overdue. But alas! here I am.

There is a saying that bad never seems good until things get worse. I totally get it. Three weeks ago I woke up and my biggest problem was that I had stretch marks. Last week Monday I woke up crying because it was his due date and he had not arrived. I thought he would arrive on his due date or before that. Was so disappointed that it didn't happen. Then I went to the doctor and things got worse. My doctor told me that the baby's head wasn't engaged, so he wouldn't consider induction, in fact, he would suggest I get a c- section by Friday. This C- section would be more expensive if my doctor did it but I had the option of going to a public hospital. Of course at the public hospital it is free, they have the best doctors, but the customer service is poor and waiting to see a doctor is long. I bawled my heart out. My heart was broken. I had the perfect birth plan, with my doctor at a private hospital with nice nurses, now I would have to tough it out in the public hospital system and I would be having a c- section, which to me was a last resort. I didn't see that coming. Suddenly the stretch marks didn't seem all that important.

Anyways, what is a girl to do? I felt really bad about all of this, seriously. I had a kind of guilt for a while. Did I do something wrong throughout my pregnancy? Did I exercise too much? Did I feel too good? Was I too happy? What? Why me?!!!!! I thought I couldn't manage all of this.

So off I was to the clinic on Tuesday to book a day for my C- section and you know it wasn't so bad. The doctor there told me to come back on Friday to be seen again and I would be admitted then and the c-section would be done on Saturday. I went to the clinic again on Friday, saw another doctor who told me that I'm 1cm dilated and the baby dropped a little, where as Tuesday the cervix was closed and his head wasn't engaged at all, so she is going to give him a couple of days to see if he can come by himself, if not I will be admitted and induced on Wednesday. Hallelujah! I didn't celebrate too much though because I know that anything could happen and I could still end up having a c-section. But I had time. The doctor did a membrane sweep and in the evening my mucus plug fell out. I know it doesn't necessarily mean I will go into labour soon, but for someone who was showing no signs of going into labour at all that is a good sign.

So now I am patiently waiting. I realize that a lot of these things are not in our control as much as we think t. Another thing I learned is not to bitch and moan when things don't go exactly how I want it, things could always be worse. I had originally thought that I couldn't possible wait an extra week to have my baby, now I am doing it. I am afraid of being induced, because I hear it is painful and I do not think in the public health system there is the option of pain meds, but if that is what has to happen for him to come out I am fine with it. I am not even against having the c- section either. I just want my baby here and healthy.

So this morning I play my Bob Marley and enjoy the waiting.

"Don't worry, about a thing, cause every little thing is gonna be alright"

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TKOVACH1 11/11/2013 7:23AM

    Celeste, everything is going to be beautiful when you hold that baby boy in your arms and it is worth everything.
My first was 2 weeks overdue and she went breech at 1 week overdue and I had to have a c-section and I would do it just like this again to have the beautiful daughter I have today. I even had a second daughter who wasn't a c-section.
Hugs and waiting for pictures of your beautiful baby boy!

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SASSYLJB 11/10/2013 12:09PM

    is this boy here I know he most be cant wait to see the pics!
Luv you diamond girl!
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RUNNER4LIFE08 11/7/2013 10:03AM

    Yay... it is almost baby time! emoticon

Good luck in the days to come and know that we are all thinking about you! He will be here in your arms before you know it. Can't wait to see pictures of your new bundle of joy!

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ALICIALYNNE 11/5/2013 4:55PM

    I know this is a few days late, but thinking of you!!!!!!!!! Tomorrow is the induction, right?

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AMY-MIMI77 11/4/2013 6:16PM

    Both my boys were overdue but I was able to be induced for them as they were in position; just didn't want to come out.
Good Luck, honey!


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FORBANDE 11/3/2013 2:56PM

    Yep. It's gonna be alright. I had my boys c-section and everything worked out just as it was supposed to.

You're already an amazing Mom. Can't wait for you to hold your beautiful baby boy!

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ORCHIDLADY56 11/3/2013 8:42AM

    Looking forward to hearing about your new baby boy!

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VALYNN26 11/3/2013 8:41AM

    You are so right Celeste. It does not matter how much we plan some things we can't control. Things always work out how they are meant to. I had both of my kids by c-section.The 1st was due to unforeseen medical issues. Turned out if I would've delivered him normal he would not have made it (he had a short cord & what there was, was wrapped around his neck). So always know there's a reason somewhere for why things happen they way they do. Best of luck to you. You will be in my thoughts this week. Looking forward to hearing the next update. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon .And like you said, Don't worry bout a thing, cause every little thing is gonna be alright. emoticon

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SHANSHE 11/3/2013 8:27AM

    Bless your heart! Glad you worked through it and are now positive that things will be ok! Your baby just isn't ready to be here yet, that is all!

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The "Inbetween"

Sunday, October 13, 2013

As of tomorrow I'll be 38 weeks pregnant. The baby could come any day now. An article I read somewhere call this time the "inbetween". It is that period of waiting for you pregnancy to end and your life as a new mother to begin. I am not sure about how I feel about this "in-between". I was hoping/am hoping that my son comes tomorrow at exactly 38W but there are no sign that that is going to happen and I am encouraging him to come when he wants and not necessarily on my time. So what does on do in the meantime?

I am still working. This week is my last week at work. Some people are scared that I may actually pop at work, but I don't really feel like stopping yet. I have been having a good pregnancy ever since morning sickness left me and I started exercising again and eating right, so I don't have that much aches and pain. My supervisor is super supportive so he takes it easy on me. I am now asking myself "What would I stay home and do without the baby here as yet?" I have no idea.

In regards to labour, delivery and motherhood - I don't think much about them. The only thing I do is visualize a normal birth and read and read. I am not scared about the experience. I know it must happen and I do not think that I can conceptualize the pain I may feel ( I am doing this au naturale) so I try not to think about it or freak myself about it, it is one of those things that must happen. Same thing with being a mother, my life will change significantly in ways that I cannot imagine so I try not to. The plan is to take all those stuff one day at a time and deal with them as they come.

But what about this "in-between" time, this period of waiting. What do I do with myslelf?

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SHANSHE 10/17/2013 9:05AM

    DEFINITELY rest while you can, as much as possible, because once the baby gets here... you may not be so rested! Do you have stuff ready for the baby? bed set up, clothes ready, diaper bag packed, all that stuff? I am figuring you do, for sure, so, just relax and enjoy this "in between" time!

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AMY-MIMI77 10/16/2013 11:10AM

    I felt great with both my pregnancies and wanted to work right up to the end but....
I had to be induced for both my boys (went 1 week overdue for both)

Wishing you a great remainder of your term and safe delivery
Can't wait to hear when your "little gem" is here

Make sure to get plenty REST now

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SASSYLJB 10/16/2013 6:17AM

    REST REST REST! Welcome to our newest Diamond I can not wait! Hugs!

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4NEWDAY 10/15/2013 11:48PM

    Yeah!! I can't wait for you to post good news! It is such an exciting time emoticon
I really don't want to give you too much advice, but I do want to share one thing. I think it's terrific that you have a plan and want to have the baby naturally. I hope it all works out according to plan. However, Please don't beat yourself up if things don't go exactly as planned. Even the toughest women have needed pain meds, and there's no shame in that!

Wishing you an easy labor and delivery, and lots of love with your new baby!

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CHEETARA79 10/14/2013 2:44PM

    Woohoo! 38 weeks and you're nearly there. I have no advice as to what you should do since I am only 22 weeks pregnant with my first child also. I too am intending to do a natural, no-drug delivery. I wish you the best of luck and an easy delivery of a healthy baby.

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VALYNN26 10/14/2013 6:11AM

    Rest while you can. You're going to need it. Finish up any last minute things you need to do before your new little bundle of joy arrives. I wish you the best!!

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MJREIMERS 10/13/2013 10:46PM

    Yes, rest while you can. Pack your suitcase and do any last minute preps for the baby. I'd recommend going out one last time as an "independent woman." Soon you will forever be called "Mom." (It's a great title!)

I had all four of my kids natural. (I was more intimidated by the drugs than the pain.) Keep all your options open and may you have a quick labor. Congrats on this new part of your life. It's emoticon !

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JRRING 10/13/2013 6:29PM

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Lessons at 30!

Monday, September 16, 2013

Today I am 30. If someone had told me when I was 20 that I would happily be celebrating becoming 30 I would have told them they are lying. But here I am the big 3-0 and loving it! I have learnt so much over the past year. Here are some of the notes that I have been making in my journal as each lesson dawn upon me. Here are a few.

1. Do not let your flaws prevent you from doing God's work

2. People do not really remember the things you did for them, more than anything they remember how you made them feel. Try and make people feel good. If you cannot at least do not make them feel bad.

3. Self acceptance is more important than self improvement

4. You are enough

5. You are not responsible for other people's behaviour. Other people's behaviour does not define who you are. You can choose how you respond to other people's behaviour.

6. Do not get attached to a particular outcome, the universe is unfolding as it should. If it is the desire of the universe for you to have something, then you will have it..

7. Nothing or no one is standing in your way of achieving a goal except you.

8. forgiveness is on heck of a gift you can give yourself and others.

9. If you are overwhelmed by a goal start small.

10. Know thyself

29 was a heck of a year. I have done so many things that I never thought that I could do. I am so looking forward to 30. Especially my little son.

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ORCHIDLADY56 9/17/2013 10:00PM

    Love it! Happy Birthday, Celeste emoticon emoticon emoticon !

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VALYNN26 9/17/2013 1:54PM

    Such a great blog! Along with some great life lessons. emoticon

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OKBACK2ME 9/16/2013 11:42PM

    Awesome lessons!

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SASSYLJB 9/16/2013 9:00PM

    Happy Birthday Spark Sista! Love ya! look forward to hearing about the best gift you are going to get this year!

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TKOVACH1 9/16/2013 5:50PM

    Happy Birthday, Celeste! emoticon
I love your list and it's something we should remember everyday.

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AMY-MIMI77 9/16/2013 4:45PM

you are truly an amazing person
Thanks for sharing your insight as most are things we all need to remember
Happy Birthday

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TATERCAT 9/16/2013 3:13PM

    Happy Birthday! emoticon

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SHANSHE 9/16/2013 1:36PM

    emoticon list of things you have learned!

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Today I learn to forgive

Monday, September 09, 2013

Today i learn to forgive because I know that without forgiveness true healing cannot begin.

I used to be one of those persons who hold on to grudges. If you did me wrong, I would need to do something back to you to show you how much you hurt me and to make myself feel better. If I couldn't do that I would hold on to a grudge just waiting for Karma to make that person pay. I could forgive, if the person was genuinely sorry for what they had done.

I used to avoid getting too close to people because I know I could hold on to a grudge and people being people usually mess up and my feelings are very fragile so they would get hurt pretty easy.

Then came my relationship. This is one of the longest relationship I have been in, and boy it has been challenging. My relationship in a nutshell... we met in College since 2006, were friends for a long while, then we started seeing each other last year, both of us wanted children, I got pregnant, we moved in and viola! I learned how much I hold on to grudges.

But holding on to grudges can be emotionally draining. And I credit this relationship for helping me to figure this out. Sometimes we would argue and I would spend the whole day in a rut, even when he says he is sorry I would allow that to mess up my mojo and hold on the hurt even when I didn't want to. I held on as if i would die if I just let it go.

So I have been doing some soul searching, not necessarily because of my relationship (which is great by the way, even with the occasional arguments I couldn't ask for a better partner) but because I want to be an example to my son. And in looking inside myself I realize that holding on to grudges does not feel good.

The other day he said something and I got upset, he apologized and I was still upset. I brought the hurt for a couple of hours and then I realized I didn't like feeling that way and so I let it go. Not because of him, but for me and man can I tell you it felt so good!!!!! When I came home that evening we had a great evening. Much better than the one we would have had if i had held on to the hurt for the whole day.

That day, I realized that;

1. People who have a problem forgiving others, usually have a problem forgiving themselves. I have had to deal with this for a while too. I would be so hard on myself when I mess up.

2. When you do not forgive, you hurt yourself way more than you could ever hurt the other person. Do you know how much energy it takes to carry all that around with you!!!

3. True healing can only begin when you forgive. When we hold on to a grudge we live in the problem our judgements become so clouded by our hurt that we cannot look for possible solutions. When we forgive then we can start healing.

And so today I learn to forgive so I can move on and truly start living.

"Forgiveness is the economy of the heart... forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits."
Hannah More

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READYBETTY 9/11/2013 10:53PM

    What a great blog on a great lesson in forgiveness!

Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you. Eph 4:32

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VALYNN26 9/11/2013 10:13AM

    That was an awesome blog. I have a real tough time holding grudges. Really need to learn to let things go. Because holding a does not hurt anyone but ourselves. emoticon

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SASSYLJB 9/11/2013 6:23AM

    You are one amazing woman and you are going to be one amazing mom! Something that we all need to remember! Keep shinning bright beautiful diamond!

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RUNNER4LIFE08 9/10/2013 11:37AM

    Very wise blog and great insight!

I have trouble with this as well and will hold onto grudges sometimes. It does make for more pain in doing this to yourself. My sister told me the other day that I need to empty my suitcase because a suitcase closed up and too full is to heavy of a burden. I thought that was great sisterly advice.

Lots of food for thought......

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OKBACK2ME 9/9/2013 10:43PM

    Great insight! We all need to learn to let go more!

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AMY-MIMI77 9/9/2013 6:26PM

Thanks for sharing - This was great
I too suffer from holding grudges and makes for a bad environment

(I recently received a great humbling from a unfounded grudge I was holding on to)

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SHANSHE 9/9/2013 2:24PM

    emoticon great blog and oh so true!

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ALICIALYNNE 9/9/2013 10:44AM

    Great blog!

Holding on to grudges almost always seems to hurt the person holding the grudge far more than the person against whom the grudge is held.

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AZMOMXTWO 9/9/2013 8:12AM

  great blog

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KELLIEBEAN 9/9/2013 8:11AM

    Excellent blog. I was the same way years ago, holding on to grudges and I have learned over the years that the only person it hurts is me!

I'm so glad for you! It's great to be a role model for our children. They learn what they see more than what they are told.

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