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Lunch with a friend

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Yesterday I had lunch with a friend who hadn't seen me since last winter. She noticed my weight loss immediately, "You look great," she said. "You look so calm and relaxed---and thinner!"

She knows how much I've been through in the last two years and remarked that now that I'm not stressed out of my mind, its easier for me to be focused. She also quoted a friend of hers who said "It won't matter where you've been or where you are if you look great." Or something like that, anyway.

This evening I'm having dinner with two friends who haven't seen me since last summer. My girlfriends are wonderful, but I'm really interested to hear what my male friend is going to say. Last time I saw him, I had complained about all the weight I had gained. He said, "It doesn't matter 'cause you still have a cute face and big t!tties." LOL. Yes he's blunt. That's what support from a man looks like.

Anyway, time to get started with my day. Have a good one!

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BARBAELLEN 7/11/2012 4:57PM

    I know what you mean about support from male friends. I love my girlfriends! They always notice when you look good and make you feel great about it. Funny, but my gay male friends are the first to notice any weight loss and are also the first to point out that you've gained a pound. :) My experience with my straight male friends has been similar to yours. They may tell you they can see the weight loss, but only if you ask. Or, just as your friend said, it doesn't matter 'cause you look fine. If your friend mentions (unsolicited) your weight loss this evening, you'll know you really are looking totally awesome! Have fun!

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KRISZTA11 7/11/2012 2:23PM

    Don't have too high expectations about your male friend.
When my weight loss became clearly visible, I received lots of compliments, comments and questions from female friends and colleagues - and none from males (except my boss but that doesn't count).
I made up a two possible explanations:
- males recognize you look good now, but they don't remember that you ever looked differently
- or, if they remember, they are afraid to hurt you by saying you looked worse before.
Enjoy your dinner!

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FITPRIS 7/11/2012 1:45PM

    Whatever works!!! LOL

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LADYGSC 7/11/2012 11:42AM

    Always good to have friends notice our loss. Your profile picture looks great - keep on sparking and have a great day!!

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How I dropped 35 pounds

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

I don't keep it a secret that I still have a ways to go on this journey. However, sometimes its worth it to take a moment and really reflect on my progress. I've started this journey to lose weight and improve my health numerous time over my life. What made this time around different?

1. Sense of urgency. Without this, you won't have the jumpstart to your motivation and, trust me, you are going to need lots of motivation up front. It could be a picture that shocks you into action, health problems or a comment from a loved one. Whatever it is, it has to kick you in the pants. For me, it was finding out I was prediabetic. That's all it took.

2. Follow the SP plan. You are on this site for a reason, so take advantage of what it has to offer you. Eventually, you'll modify the SP plan for your needs but make sure you try out the features. If you are only using one or two tools, you are really missing out.

3. Track your food. Use the SP tracker. a Weight Watchers tracker, a notebook and paper. Believe me, it can be a drag and a pain to write everything you bite, but it keeps you accountable. Scientists have done studies that prove that keeping a food journal works. If you're still resistant, start small. Journal a few days a week and work your way to daily,

4. Exercise. It's a must. If you don't have time, then you really don't want to lose weight or improve your health. I don't think I'll ever be crazy about exercise, but I do it any way. Try different things until you find something that works for you.

5. Be consistent. You are building healthier habits so be patient with yourself. Give yourself the time you need to improve your daily habits. Keep working at it, every day. I tell people all the time. I was eating a fast food sandwich almost every morning during the first few weeks on SP. Why? I wasn't ready to give it up. Now, I've gone from 3-4 of those sandwiches a week to maybe one a month.

6. Be patient. I am STILL working on this one! Some weeks you'll lose. Other times, you're completely on program and you gain. Other times, there won't be a change. You won't lose weight in a logical straight line. On a chart, the line looks more like a lightning bolt. And, the less you have to lose, the longer it takes. If you only have 15-20 pounds to lose, a one pound loss in a single week is very good. Embrace it and keep up the good work. I have 32 pounds left to lose. I think these next 10 will be okay, but after that......I'll need to reread what I just told you.

7. Find a support system. Join the SP community. Get your friends to sign up with you. Find supportive family members who can lift you up and not tear you down. If someone is belittling you, and trying to make you feel bad, distance yourself. They are filled with negative energy and that's the last thing you need right now.

8. Reward yourself. You deserve that new outfit, that pedicure. If you don't have money, use your SP points and buy yourself something here! You are building a better you. It's work and it can be vexing at times, but you're here making it happen, so good for you!

Best wishes!

Onward and downward.

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JAZZEJR 7/12/2012 9:00AM

    emoticonaccomplishment the common sense way. It's great to see the SP way affirmed. Too many people give up too soon.

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GEOGIAGIRL2 7/11/2012 9:20AM

    Wow! Thanks for sharing. I need to read this!

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KRIREDMON13 7/10/2012 9:00PM

    I love this blog. After losing only about 18 myself *still a number not to sneeze at* I have learned everything on here, and then I just got EVEN MORE ADVICE!! I loved this.


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SONYALATRECE 7/10/2012 8:57PM

    You have become a Spark Expert in such a brief period of time even after losing your job, restoration, and weight loss. I'm SO proud of you soror. God has been so good in your life. You deserve it, too.
Shouting spiritually at your favor...WOOOHOOOO!!!!

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SPARKLE1908 7/10/2012 8:52PM

    Congrats on the 35 loss and thanks for the words of wisdom!!!

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KRISZTA11 7/10/2012 1:57PM

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
No wonder you are so successful.


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FITPRIS 7/10/2012 1:46PM

    Nice reflection!! All is soooo true!

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FLEURGARDEN 7/10/2012 1:13PM

    Congrats on losing more than half of your goal loss! I'm not quite there myself, but it's getting closer every day.

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MSLADYBUG3 7/10/2012 12:40PM

    Enjoyed reading your blog great info and congrats on your weight loss.

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DIBANANA 7/10/2012 11:38AM

  These are perfect. Congrats on 35 pounds.

You are doing so well.


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    Thanks, needed to read that. I'm back on SP after a LONG hiatus and more pounds later. I don't even want to weigh myself. Don't have to. clothing size tells all.

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My mind's eye

Monday, July 09, 2012

If I've said it once, I've said it 1,000 times. I am one super-duper impatient woman. When it comes to weight loss, I want to see big changes right away.

But that's not how it works. You don't always see immediate results of your healthier lifestyle when you look in the mirror. The changes don't always register in your mind's eye.

This weekend, a friend took photos of me. When I viewed the photos, I saw a woman who was "slightly overweight" but not obese. I'm in a new clothing size (down to a 14 from an 18), my blood pressure has dropped to a normal range, men are hitting on me again. Yet when I look in the mirror I can't see that I've lost 35 pounds. Ironic, isn't it?

I figure if I can't see it with 35 pounds gone, it must mean that I will need to lose all 67 pounds before I can tell. I also realize that 20 of the pounds I lost, I had just gained. Some people never saw me at my peak weight, so when they see me again, they don't notice a difference. I don't need the outside validation, but I admit that sometimes it's disappointing.

I have a perfect litmus test on Wednesday. I am meeting up with a friend who I haven't seen since last summer although we chat on the phone regularly. I was at my peak weight the last time we saw each other and actually complained to him about it. I told him about a month ago that I've lost weight, but haven't mentioned it since. We'll see if he notices the difference.

I'm focused on reaching my second goal, which is to lose 42 pounds by the end of August. I need to lose seven pounds to make goal. It feels like it's taking forever, GRR!

Okay, enough whining. I am going to continue reading everything I can to help me cope with this long, long, long journey. Although my motivation has waxed and waned, I'm still on program food-wise and even worked out for an hour yesterday. I'm DETERMINED to see this through!

Onward and downward.

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SUZIEMAH1 7/10/2012 7:35AM

    I can totally relate to what you are experiencing...sometimes it takes the mind a little longer to 'catch up' with reality. Just keep on doing what you've been doing..you're doing great!.. emoticon

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FITPRIS 7/9/2012 9:43PM

    Sometimes I have trouble seeing what other's see still!! It's been 9 years since I've dropped all my big weight.

It took a good year for my mind to catch up with most of my changes.

Stay strong!!

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More energy

Saturday, July 07, 2012

Last night, I met up with a few friends for happy hour on Major League Baseball All-Star Game weekend here in Kansas City.

We ate dinner, hung out and just had a nice time. Around 8 pm or so, we purchased wrist bands to go club hoppin' on the party bus. There were about 10 of us or so ranging in age from 30 to 60. I noticed the women in their 50s and 60s called it quits before the bus ride. Most of the women in their 40s took one bus ride and decided around 10 pm that they have had enough. Next thing I know, I'm the oldest one in the group. We must have hit about six or seven different spots. I lasted until about 1 am, then it was my turn to call it quits. Before I restarted SP, I would never have been able to hang so tough. I am so glad to have more energy!

Because I am in my 40s, I hadn't been club hopping in years. It was interesting to see today's party scene for the twenty-something set. Quite honestly, I don't think much has changed since I was in my 20's. Lots of noise, drunk people, skimpy outfits, high heels and general mayhem. I think that when you're young, the mayhem is new and exciting, but by the time you're in your 40's you've seen just about everything. The only thing that stood out in my mind was the stripper pole on the party bus and the loud, uncensored, hip-hop music. Some of the women on the bus had actually taken a pole-dancing fitness class and were showing off their antics as the party bus moved between club districts. Just a wild scene.

The other thing I noticed is that because I was surrounded by much younger people, I felt overweight. Most of the party-goers had slender or athletic builds. Almost no one was overweight except for the occasional best friend at the club. Unless an overweight girls is supremely confident, she is going to shun the party scene because she will be invisible.

Although I had lots of fun, I'm draggin' today. I'm doing good to get my housework done and errands out of the way. This afternoon, I'm going to the major league baseball fan fest. I'm not a big baseball fan anymore because my team, the Royals, haven't been good since I was 20 years old. Still, it's a unique opportunity to take in more of the all-star scene.

Food wise, I'm hanging in there, I stuck to yesterday's eating plan and managed to stay within my calorie limits although I was out and about. Now, I just need to pick up on the exercise. Maybe I should sign up for pole dancing lessons. LOL.

Onward and downward.


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SPARKLE1908 7/10/2012 8:54PM

    That sounds like fun...glad you enjoyed the club-hopping!!!

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FITPRIS 7/7/2012 3:31PM

    I see the "younger" crowd every Saturay night. I find it interesting. I don't see so many "in shape" ladies. I see girls that are trying to fit in to tiny outfits to impress others.

I enjoy the fact that I'm 44 and proud of it! I'm proud of you being in your 40's representing!!

Enjoy your day!

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SONYALATRECE 7/7/2012 11:05AM

    Wild night...LOL!
I'd probably break my neck pole dancing. Those flips seem treacherous!

Make wise choices today. Proud of you representing us "oldies"!


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DOLLFACEDX 7/7/2012 10:27AM

    Pole dancing does sound intereesting, doesn't it. . .LOL Sounds your doing very well 8-)

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Yesterday's Report Card

Friday, July 06, 2012

Yesterday, I was not feeling motivated to do anything. I just wanted to be lazy and eat whatever I wanted.

Considering how unmotivated I felt, I did okay. Just okay, though. I had oatmeal for breakfast, a salad and fruit for lunch. Then I went to happy hour, had one drink and another salad. I tripped up on the dessert a bit, but the good part is that I split it with a slender girlfriend of mine, so the portion was reasonable. For the day, I give myself a C-, because I didn't exercise.

I went about 300 calories over my daily limit, which is okay because when I reviewed my tracker, I had banked a few hundred calories earlier in the week. My 7-day average intake is still around 1,500 calories which isn't bad.

This evening will be equally tough. I'm going to another happy hour. The major league baseball all-star game will be played in Kansas City on Tuesday (7pm CDT), so I'm sure our venue is going to be rockin'. Still, happy hours are hard to do. To stay on track, I planned in advance what I am having and entered it into my tracker. By doing so, I found a way to include some of my favorite, not so healthy choices without long term damage to my program. Its important to me to find a way to balance my need to stay on program with my desire to avoid feeling deprived.

This weekend, I'll venture out and check out some of the free activities going on in town. Kansas City has dressed itself up and rolled out the red carpet for its all-star game guests. I'm looking forward to it!

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BARBAELLEN 7/6/2012 6:03PM

    I'm with SONYALATRECE! Have fun and deal with it later. The important thing is that you DO deal with it later. Just have fun. You'll be fine!


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SONYALATRECE 7/6/2012 2:02PM

    Have fun sweetie and make up for it later.
That's what I did yesterday! emoticon

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ERICADAWN1986 7/6/2012 11:21AM

    Enjoy the game and go for the low-cal cocktails!

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FITPRIS 7/6/2012 10:49AM

    Enjoy and have fun this weekend!! Strong Mind, Strong Body, Stay the Course!

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