Monday, November 21, 2011
This is a "testimonial" from one of FlyLady's flybabies, and it really exemplifies the real meaning of FLY - Finally Loving Yourself:
Yesterday would have been my 33rd wedding anniversary. The divorce is not quite final, but almost. I cried most of the night before. I still love my husband but I wish I didn't. He is in prison for some heinous crimes. My life would be so much easier if I didn't care.
I decided I had better start being nice to me. I went out and bought a nice plaid pair of flannel pajamas (I had asked for these for Christmas, but this was an emergency!) Then I saw the new Sue Grafton novel was out, and I bought it, too. I always wait till I can borrow the new books from the library, but this was an emergency.Thirdly, I stopped by and bought myself some KFC. 99% of the time, I eat healthy, but...
Then I went by my son's house and got me a hug. I came home and started thanking God for all the good things in my life, ate my chicken and put on my new pajamas and fell right asleep. I was too tired to even read, probably because I hadn't slept well all week. But I didn't cry another drop. I still have the book to look forward to reading and I will get lots of use out of these beautiful pajamas. I am getting a treadmill soon, so the KFC will be history, but oh, was it good!
I was nice to me on purpose, and it broke the nasty depression that was threatening to take over! I had to think what I would do for one of my friends if she were suffering the way I was. Then I did it! I had to turn around the old, "Do unto others..." because I know how to treat others but I am just learning how to be nice to me.
I hope that wherever FlyBaby MB is she has a truly wonderful Thanksgiving!
Saturday, November 19, 2011
I'm painting my hallway and listening to my local classical music radio station (yes, I pledged!) and thinking about SparkFriends and SparkAcquaintances, and how many of them, male and female alike, have terrible self-esteem.
And by that I don't mean "low" self-esteem. More like "wrong" self-esteem.
"Esteem" comes from the exact same Latin root as "estimate" and means about the same. You hold something in high esteem because you estimate its value to be high. Your "self" esteem, therefore, is what you estimate your own value to be.
And this is where I wring my hands in frustration at all the fine and wonderful people who seem to estimate themselves as nearly valueless! How can they not see themselves as others see them?!
Picture one of the people in the world who loves you dearly. A brother, mother, auntie, husband, wife, or child? BFF? Pastor, teacher, or mentor? Do you really, truly believe that they are wrong-headed to care so much about you? Do you think "Oh, if only they knew the real me?!?"
But they DO know the real you and love you anyway! I am truly blessed that my husband gives me his unwavering love and support even though I'm bossy, and overweight, and sometimes a little distant. This is my TRUE self-esteem! I am all those things, but I'm also funny and smart and caring and a thousand other positives. I can point and say "Yup. There are my warts and flaws." And I can also point to my virtues without shame.
What truly saddens me, SparkBuddies, is when you can only focus on the negative traits and ignore the positive traits, which surely, SURELY outnumber the negatives by a landslide!
The next time you hear your mean and myopic inner critic beating you up for some petty flaw, remember this. Every mean word you say to yourself is a slap in the face to that person who loves you.
If my husband says "I'd love you even if you were twice as big" who am I to say "Well, then you're a fool!"
Friday, November 04, 2011
I promised to post a picture of our car at last week's high school band Trunk or Treat event.
That was a fun night!
You know, looking at this picture again just gave me a great idea for next year. I'm going to decorate the trunk lid with fangs and make the whole thing look like a giant mouth! Hmm, maybe I can get some cheap fabric and cover the whole car with it - plastic tablecloths maybe.... Too many ideas!!!!
Friday, October 28, 2011
If you make it fun it will get done!
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