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Exercise Medicine

Monday, April 02, 2012

I've called it that before.. "Exercise Medicine": There's nothing like exercise to help with healing, especially stress-related illnesses. But it also works for sore muscles, and hurting backs, and headaches, and cramps... all kinds of aches and pains.

So if exercise is so great, how come when I need it the most, it's the hardest to get up and do? Why, when I could use a little mild walk do I only want to lie around in bed?!?

It doesn't make any sense. By Saturday I was worn out from working a 14 hour day Thursday, and another on Friday. I still didn't sleep enough that night, and ended up being overly tired, emotionally wrecked with mood swings. (I was giggling in the store with Heather for a minute, and then laughing so hard I cried for no reason, and while trying to catch my breath behind a display immediate started crying with real sadness, inexplicably, before I admitted that maybe I was still tired.) I was dehydrated and feeling like I had run a 5k I was so achy.

I avoided exercise that whole day, though it might have helped a little. I know that what I really needed was rest.

On Sunday, we went to go have our normal run, but I had a head-splitting ache and more severe than normal back pain. I can tolerate a lot of pain, but during our warm-up walk it felt like I couldn't take another step, much less start to jog.

We ended up finishing our lap, and then hiking up a trail with a steep incline. My heart rate skyrocketed, my lungs were working overtime and so were my legs. Blood was pumping everywhere, but mostly hurting my head even more as all the circulation was helping my lower back feel better. I stopped just long enough to slightly catch my breath, and wait for my heart rate to slow just to ease pressure off of the headache, then forged ahead with the pounding beat.

By the time we got to a stopping point, my headache was feeling better. It didn't come back the rest of the day (although the espresso dessert drink afterward helped a little too).

For many things, exercise really is the best medicine. But so is having a positive attitude during, getting adequate sleep, and eating healthfully. These are the cornerstones of my Wellness Life. And the enjoyment I get from feeling better from all of it, and being able to do more contributes to my Adventure Life.

It's definitely worth that first bitter taste of exercise to feel the healing that comes from it. And it always gets easier the more I do it! So in the morning we will do the run that I missed Sunday; except now it'll be in the cool pre-dawn hour instead of sunshine. ;)

  
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XPHOENIX 4/7/2012 12:37AM

    LOVE this blog! Sometimes getting up is THE hardest thing EVER for me, but I always feel better when I do it. When I tell people it's my time of the month and they know I just worked out.. they are like "What!?" hahaha I'm like "It eases my cramps" and they look at me like I'm CRAZY but.. they just dont know ;) Too bad they are too stubborn to give it a shot. This blog rocks babe! So proud of you! XOXO

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JESPAH 4/4/2012 11:09AM

    It is so easy to forget that this all works, eh?

One thing I have found, as the minutes have piled up, is that now I work more toward eliminating certain aches and pains. It used to be that my inner thighs were killing me a day or so after a 5K. Just brutal. Now I've been doing Bulgarian Skater Squats and regular squats every day and that doesn't happen anymore. Hmm... ;)

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VEEJAY3 4/3/2012 7:06PM

    Happened to me today!!! It's been 80 degrees in Denver, then suddenly, we had a plunge back into winter. I'd been biking every day, but with snow and cold today, I just wanted to put on a big sweater and grab a book and SIT. Just now did an hour on the stationary bike, ONLY because the hubs was here and he works out like an automaton, and I felt all guilty just sitting. Well, 10 minutes in, I felt GREAT. Was so glad I got off my arse and did it.

I guess guilt can be as good a motivator as any ...

BUT!

What really moved me to comment on this blog is "my Adventure Life!"
Ohmygosh, that sounds so awesome. LOVE it. I love that you LOOK at your life like that. Because it is an adventure, isn't it? Thanks for the reminder!

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SWEETZMIX 4/3/2012 6:22PM

    Very true. I think we forget how good exercise makes us feel and how much it takes away the pain and stress until we stop. Once we stop, we feel like loads of crap and then as soon as we exercise again, we feel way better. Free drugs, that's all it is lol

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HHB4181 4/2/2012 3:11PM

    So true!! I've come to NEED exercise. I find that if I don't get exercise, I get cranky. Last week was a tough week for me. I only went to the gym on Monday and Saturday. I missed Tuesday thru Friday. I was sooo cranky by Friday, so I did a 2 mile walk at lunch and I did feel much better.

Enjoy your pre-dawn walk!!

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BECKYB73 4/2/2012 12:30PM

    Oh I feel you...this blog coulda popped right out of my head...why IS it so darn hard sometimes?!?!?

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HIPPICHICK1 4/2/2012 10:50AM

    Working two 14 hr days back to back is not "normal." It's an assault on the mind and body. I know this is a new job for you so I'm not going to tell you that it's time to move on, but it's a lot to ask of an employee to work more than a half week in two day's time.

Sure you broke down. I can understand why. Employers no longer treat their employees like people. We are treated as a means to an end - profit at year's end. They will use you up and spit you out when you are done. These people are human too, but with inhumane ways of treating others.

Exercise is indeed medicine as is rest and sleep and eating real food.
Here's wishing you a better week ahead.
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RAINYFRIDAY 4/2/2012 10:28AM

    Great blog. I hope the new job is treating you well (in all other aspects, since those hours you're keeping are crazy!!) Keep up the great work and amazing attitude.

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DDOORN 4/2/2012 9:44AM

    Re: "So if exercise is so great, how come when I need it the most, it's the hardest to get up and do?"

Whew! Have I ever "been there, done that!" Just yesterday, as a matter of fact...rainy day, no where to go. Treadmill upstairs gathering dust. Just couldn't push myself to take care of business...kept distracting myself with 1,001 miscellaneous things to do.

At least tonight I have a full line-up of strength training and Spinning after work! :-)

Don

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ZURDTA- 4/2/2012 5:24AM

    So glad you feel the healing of exercise. Stress is a killer and with all those headaches you get and everything, you know what your body needs. Rest in the right places and exercise in the right places. Balance.

Go girl, you rock!

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NEEDS_MUST 4/2/2012 1:44AM

    I know what you mean. I've learned to crave that moment when my knees warm up and feel fully lubricated when I'm working out.

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Reminder to Self: Progress

Monday, March 26, 2012


Me before at about 375 and recently about 250.


Now (250) and when I was 17 (under 200).

Today was International Waffle day. I thought I'd get a waffle after running for nearly 30 minutes straight this morning, with more fitness minutes walking before and after.... Instead I ended up going straight for the waffle. Belgian, at a local place. It was fun but I missed the running.

But between that and the sweetened White & Black Mocha coffee, syrup, fruit... I went on a major sugar high, and crashed. Then didn't eat lunch, snacked on some Trader Joe Roasted Seaweed squares, and PB M&Ms, showered and napped. Had a late dinner of white rice with Thai food for dinner; along with some caramel chocolate chip cookies I made. I mean, YES, we did over an hour of yard/garden work in there, but still....

My interpretation of the day is low on fiber (eek), low on protein, high on sugars, calories.

THAT is why I'm posting these comparison pictures. I am taking a step back, a deep breath, and not going to allow myself to come up with reasons that I want to eat this or that (instead of reasons that I want to live a fit life).

The week ahead is going to be a big challenge. I will succeed. I will come out of it with the triumph of knowing that I did the very best I could, and gave myself the healthy fuel I needed to do it.

After a challenging first day, and learning a lot the 2nd day, this will be my first full week at work - and it's their busiest. Being that it's financial, the end of the month rigmarole is their difficult time. I'll be going in 4 hours earlier than normal (as in, be there at 5 a.m.) for a couple days, and putting into practice processes I will learn on Monday (I hope). :D Plus, that 5k is just a little more than a couple weeks away. We are going to have to hit every running day planned from here until then.

This is not the time to throw fitness and feel-good eating out the window. When I say "feel good eating", I mean healthful eating that makes me FEEL GOOD. *REAL* feel-good eating. Hrmph, that's IT! I'm tracking my food 100%, darn it!

SO that's the plan, man. And I'm on it.

  
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RUSSELLORAMA 4/2/2012 2:32PM

    We all definitely could use a reminder of how far we've come!

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KNH771 4/1/2012 7:57PM

    I read this blog at just the right time... I really wanted some simple carbs instead of a healthy dinner, but your reminder changed my mind!

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SAPHRAEL 3/31/2012 12:29AM

    Yes, do remember to be good to yourself. You deserve it!

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KSANDIEGO 3/29/2012 12:45PM

    Hi there girlfriend - how ya been? Long time no talk to - well reading this blog makes me think you need to get out walking and huffin & puffin again - and yes "stickin with the plan" just like you say - 100%!

Good luck!
- Kendall

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DOGLADY13 3/29/2012 8:55AM

    Great blog! Make sure you go back and read the end every time you feel discouraged. You can totally make all your goals.

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TRACYZABELLE 3/29/2012 1:30AM

    You are looking good girl! Keep up the good work!!

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GLACIERLILY 3/27/2012 11:46PM

    You are beautiful and strong! Stick with it~

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HHB4181 3/27/2012 11:06AM

    Yikes 5:30... best of luck. Plan plan plan your food!
You can do this!

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SUNNYSIDEUPMARY 3/27/2012 10:59AM

    I like your definition of "feel good eating"!

You can do this - the feel good eating eating, prep for your 5K and learn a new job!

- Sunny

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FITWITHIN 3/27/2012 9:00AM

    Nice blog my friend. It's always nice to have those progress pictures to keep us focused when we need it the most. I just went thorough weeks of uncontrolled eating, but I'm finally back on the saddle and focused on my 5k in exactly 4 weeks. I plan to finish strong and run the entire course. Good luck to you on race day.

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BEFEARLESSNOW 3/27/2012 7:19AM

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We all falter, we just pick ourselves back up and start over new! You can and will do it!!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 3/27/2012 7:11AM

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LESLIES537 3/27/2012 12:56AM

    Truly inspirational! I love a girl with a plan! emoticon emoticon

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LILSHINE 3/26/2012 7:09PM

    First congratulations on the awesome accomplishment, you look great!!! Great way to keep your motivation and keep your focus. Very inspiring!!! Thanks for sharing

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JILLYBEAN25 3/26/2012 2:49PM

    YEAH! You are so on it! Your comparison pics are always so inspiring, and YOU are always inspiring! Track that food, get that workout in! I'll be cheering for you doing your 5k!

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HIPPICHICK1 3/26/2012 2:12PM

    Have you seen this free documentary online?
http://www.hungryforchange.tv/o
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You'll be a changed woman overnight. Well, I became one and plan to work it and work it good.

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JESPAH 3/26/2012 1:23PM

    You got this.

It's a transition, and an adjustment, and those can take a few tries.

Yanno, you look, right now, like you did when you were a teen.

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MARIPOSAGALAXIA 3/26/2012 12:35PM

    It really is amazing how one day can unravel so quickly. This weekend we had a waffle breakfast fundraiser with the church youth group, so I had waffles for dinner Saturday night (making sure I got the recipe right), waffles for breakfast Sunday morning, and a big lunch with my family on Sunday afternoon. It was amazing how crummy I felt! I still stayed in my calorie range, amazingly, because I was tracking, but man, I didn't feel up for anything and I had a stomachache.

You have come too far to let something like this get you down. You are inspirational, Wolf Kitty, and you are going to be okay emoticon.

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XPHOENIX 3/26/2012 11:45AM

    OMG I'm so glad to read this! It really helped me see that I'm not the only one that does this. When my first meal of the day is low on nutrition, high on sugar and other junk, I tend to be really lazy all day and not want to get back on track all day. I usually force myself to, but.. that sucks.

Your progress pics are amazing!! You have come so far and I think you look better/more radiant/beautiful right now than in your 200 lb pic. Could just be that you are happier in your life or your journey, but.. I think you're just gorgeous :)

Heck yeah for tracking your food again! You freakin' go girl! Woot!

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MCJULIEO 3/26/2012 11:37AM

    Fall down six times , get up eight!

We're rooting for you!!!!

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SWEETZMIX 3/26/2012 11:31AM

    Joce you have come so far. Good reminders in picture b/c they don't lie. Keep to the plan and take it one day at a time. Good luck at your first week of work!!

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LOTUSFLOWER 3/26/2012 11:10AM

    You've made amazing progress. I am so proud of you!

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TAZIAH 3/26/2012 10:46AM

    emoticon emoticon I've had success these past couple of weeks by being more mindful about when and what I eat. I have also felt so much better by only eating healthier foods. I read an article that said the first three bites of any food are the most satisfying. I'm holding onto that thought, and if I feel the urge to eat something, I take a bite or two and leave the rest. It's really working for me! You've got a great plan, and I also know that you've got this! emoticon

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DDOORN 3/26/2012 9:34AM

    Wonderful to remind you of your strengths and accomplishments! Be your OWN best inspiration! Woo hoo!

Don

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MAPLECANDY3 3/26/2012 9:31AM

    We all have days like this, even skinny people. you have a great plan and I know you are totally capable of acheiving it!! YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!

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SPRINKLEMELOLA 3/26/2012 8:25AM

    Good for you for getting back to it and not allowing yourself to fall into bad habits again!

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ELLEJAY7 3/26/2012 7:31AM

    So glad you posted your before & after pics. You are very inspiring. Keep reminding yourself how far you've come! Keep up the good work. emoticon

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ZURDTA- 3/26/2012 5:35AM

    When I say "feel good eating", I mean healthful eating that makes me FEEL GOOD. *REAL* feel-good eating.

Excellent!

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TERRIFICLYFIT 3/26/2012 3:22AM

    Some days you just gotta give yourself a break...but those breaks can only be few and far between. Hmph. Well, good for you for not beating yourself up too much and instead doing a self-affirmation. That's awesome! And you are looking great!!!

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Nervousness is just...

Thursday, March 22, 2012

I start a new job in the morning. I haven't had a daily office job in a few years now, since I was laid off. I have so many mixed feelings. There are a lot of unknowns that will be answered in the morning (I hope).

But it brings some fresh unknowns, about what will happen next. This is really the start of (I hope) a little bit of security, a time to make decisions, changes. Financially, it will not afford me the freedom that I dreamed of (my own apartment), but it is a start. It just means that I need to come up with other ideas, all of which are better than being unemployed and homeless, for sure! I will simply try to plan and deal with the rest as it comes, that's all I can do.

That doesn't quiet the nervousness.

But as I told a friend recently (who was nervous to go to some parties and meet new people with me): NERVOUSNESS is just from the adrenaline, which is there to prepare you for the challenges ahead!

I must be *really* ready. LOL.

  
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MALCONTENTION 3/31/2012 12:13PM

    Great news! I hope the new job works out well and leads to many more good things for you!

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DMPRIDER 3/27/2012 4:06PM

    I just caught up with this post. Congratulations on your new job! I hope everything is going well. Best of luck!

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FITWITHIN 3/27/2012 8:53AM

    I'm so happy that you started you new job. It's just the beginning of my more blessing that will come your way. Best of luck to you on a new door opening.

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ME_FIRST 3/26/2012 7:20AM

    Congratulations and good luck at your new job. You'll do great. I just started a new job 3 months ago and I know how stressful it is. Take some time after work to de-stress and pamper your self.

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TERRIFICLYFIT 3/26/2012 3:23AM

    Congrats on the job!! Do let us know how you're faring!!!

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SARAHSTARTSOVER 3/25/2012 11:29AM

    Congrats on your new job! I know you are nervous but I know you are going to be great and while it takes a while to adjust (I always tell new employees to give it at least 90 days before they feel comfortable) once you do you will look back at this blog and wonder what you were so nervous about. emoticon

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XPHOENIX 3/25/2012 1:57AM

    I haven't worked since my son was born... 9 years ago. I'm so nervous.. but going to go back to work soon.. You can do it. Happy for you and proud of you. Baby steps. XOXOXOX

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EVER-HOPEFUL 3/24/2012 6:43PM

    so how did it go?

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LUVUJENNA 3/24/2012 1:08PM

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SUNNYSIDEUPMARY 3/24/2012 12:21PM

    Best wishes to you~ hope it's going well! :)

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HELLO_KITTY_ 3/24/2012 12:19PM

    So how did it turn out? I hope it went very well for you :)

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FIT_TERI 3/24/2012 12:08PM

    I get nervous starting a new job, too. Congratulations - and I hope you had a great first day!! Starting a new job is hard....so be kind to yourself as you get to know people and get acclimated. Let us know how it went!!
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NUTTYSNOOPYFAN 3/24/2012 11:20AM

    emoticon on your new job! I hope your first day went well and your nerves calmed. I know you'll do a great job and kick ass!

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BRDGT262 3/23/2012 9:02PM

    Congratulations on the new job! I hope it went well for you! And it is definitely a start! I like your view on the nervousness...lol...I get nervous over such silly things and then when I'm done I'm like...well that wasn't nothing to get worked up about!

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SASSYWIFE_06 3/23/2012 2:49PM

    Congrats on your new job!!!!

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SWEETZMIX 3/23/2012 11:45AM

    Joce I hope everything went good. Let us know how your first day went!!

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RYDERB 3/23/2012 8:09AM

    I hope your first day was perfect!
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FITNFUNJEN 3/23/2012 12:01AM

    How did it go for you? I hope your first day was great!

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BEFIT_WITHGUSTO 3/22/2012 11:29PM

    I hope you had a wonderful first day!

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ABB698 3/22/2012 10:20PM

    Hope your first day was fabulous!

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HEALTHYASHLEY 3/22/2012 8:50PM

    COngrats on the new job! Have a great first day

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SERENEART 3/22/2012 8:42PM

    Congratulations on your new job!
Just remember to take a no. 2 pencil with you and you will be fine. emoticon

j/k....

Good Luck on your first day!

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DENESTIA 3/22/2012 6:51PM

    Congratulations on the new job and positive attitude!

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JESPAH 3/22/2012 3:45PM

    W00t here's to being REALLY ready. ;)

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FITKITTYMAMA 3/22/2012 12:57PM

    Having done so many new things in the past year I am well acquainted with nervousness!! You are going to excel in your new job and be completely amazing!!

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HHB4181 3/22/2012 12:40PM

    Best of luck to you in your new job! It's good t be nervous. It means you care.
Remember to bring healthy snacks so you don't give in to the vending machine monster.

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CHELAGETSFIT 3/22/2012 12:25PM

    I'm sure you're doing an amazing job at your new job this morning!!

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NINJA_SMOO 3/22/2012 10:53AM

  I hadn't ever thought about the nervousness / adrenaline thing before. Very cool :)

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DDOORN 3/22/2012 10:44AM

    Cheers to employment, building security and investing in yourself!

You're gonna do just SUPER! :-)

Don

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HIPPICHICK1 3/22/2012 10:40AM

    Yay!! I'm so happy for you! Ready or not, here it comes!!
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TESSABEAR428 3/22/2012 10:35AM

    Good luck! Hope you have a great first day!

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LOTUSFLOWER 3/22/2012 10:28AM

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DELHSI 3/22/2012 9:38AM

    This is a 'good' nervousness emoticon. Before you know it, it will be as if you have been there forever - knowing the ropes and the people. Congrats, again, on getting your job.

Have a great day!
Della

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KROLES55 3/22/2012 9:01AM

    Wonderful! Praying that everything works out and it will great start moving forward.

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ZURDTA- 3/22/2012 7:44AM

    Good luck... it is nerve wracking going back to work. However, just think, this time next month you will know what you are doing, will have sussed out your new colleagues, and you will be doing okay...

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ZIRCADIA 3/22/2012 7:39AM

    You got the job!!!! :D I remember seeing you had an interview. WOOHOO! :D You're getting started, girl. :) I'm soooo happy for you.

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    Good luck! You'll do great. emoticon

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SHAWNKELL 3/22/2012 4:48AM

    Good Luck!

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RUNNER12COM 3/22/2012 2:22AM

    You deserve all the good stuff coming your way!

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ABB698 3/22/2012 1:31AM

    Congrats on the job, Joce! It's finally happening, and just like your spark journey, the timing might not seem where you envisioned it at the moment, but the end results are amazing! Go get em girlie! emoticon

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SAFETYSUE 3/22/2012 1:18AM

    Congratulations, you deserve this new start! You will do great!
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SYZYGY922 3/22/2012 1:08AM

    Good luck!

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RUNBAREFOOTMAMA 3/22/2012 1:06AM

    You'll be fantastic!

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STREO2004 3/22/2012 1:02AM

  Congrats!! Sounds like you are aware & looking forward to your challenges ahead! Be great & keep us posted.

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TRACYZABELLE 3/22/2012 1:00AM

    Congrats sweetie! We do have to start somewhere!!

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You Lookin' At Me, Kid?!

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

[If you're short on time, skip to the runners below.] Many times we run at a park that has a loop around a man-made lake (as part of a feature for a planned housing development - the faux trail I've mentioned before). The paved path is tailor-made for strollers and bikes, kids and dogs alike.

The main loop is a little under 1 mile (.727 mi), meaning we can run it in 10 minutes. We try to make it 5 times around, doing our C25k program and walking before and after to warm-up/cool-down. Since many people run faster, whether we're walking or running, we often see runners several times during our trip around.

Inevitably, people see us, too. Some stare, some smile, some insist on a response to their "Good morning" (it's hard if I'm struggling to breathe).

I've never given much thought to whether or not I'm looking at someone else. Usually I just do all the looking and get lost in whatever I'm thinking.

I've seen puppies that are adorably cute.
I've seen kids that I'm trying to dodge while running.
I've seen trees and flowers, leaves and bugs.
I try to see dog poo that people don't pick up (eww) so I don't step in it.
I've seen people running.

When I see the runners, I have all kinds of thoughts about their form, stride, what I might learn, what kind of gear they're wearing, how fast they're going (everyone seems faster than me), how long they're running, or I admire their fitness.

When people see ME running, I try to push away any feelings of self-consciousness and dig into my reserves of determination to continue running. I used to hate to exercise in front of other people.

Sometimes, though, I think they're wondering why I'm going so slow, breathing SO HARD, taking up too much space... but I've never seen anything like that in the faces of the runners. Runners are usually friendly, and complete strangers have been encouraging to us (beyond the secret runners' club head-nod).

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Then last Sunday there were three pre-teen to 14-ish boys following their father along the lake. I was struggling to breathe, to move, to keep going. And they looked at us, then knowingly looked at each other with smirks. (The type of smirk that normally makes my heart pound and all the blood drain from my face - except, my heart was already pounding from the running and I was fire-hot from the blood circulation.) They rolled their eyes (I think), and pumped their arms to mimic us in ridicule, and stared in between sharing laughs.

We probably passed in less than 10 seconds, but it felt like it took forever. Once we were behind them, it didn't stop, with the youngest turning around to look again and again. I turned around too, invoking the big-girl challenge stare that I've used since I was in Jr. High and tried to be tough while riding the public bus system or dealing with bullies that picked on me for being fat. Kids often don't like the cool-stare of authority, and I mustered what I could, but the lack of power was already evident and it was useless.

We kept running, and I was shaken, thinking of what I might say to them when we circled back around; how I might call attention to their behavior to their father, and playing out how the scenario might go. Before I had settled on anything, I saw that they didn't turn to make the loop, but headed straight up toward the hiking trails. My anger dissolved, and left me cracked open.

Struggling to maintain something of what was driving me, I raged internally at 14-yr-old boys everywhere! SINCE WHEN ARE OUR VALUES DEFINED BY 14 yr-old BOYS?! "14 yr-olds ridicule everything and know NOTHING!", I thought. "I'm a grown adult and can't be bullied by a kid!", I tried to assert. I remembered all the times I've ever read an online comment CLEARLY written by a teen-aged insensitive or bored boy, trashing how ugly a woman is; and imagined they are probably so intimidated that they don't even talk to girls in school. Grr! GRR! But then I thought about my sweet nephews, quickly threatened them in my head to never behave like that, and switched to thinking about writing a blog only about this: how we should be sick and tired of being pushed around by the beauty industry and snarky-remark side industries that sell us judgement and cruelty of thought toward ourselves and each other - the adult versions of 14 yr-old boys. Why should my barely perceptible fuzz on the upper lip be SO HORRIFICALLY moustache-y to me? WHY IS THERE SO MUCH HATRED IN THE WORLD?! Okay, so I got a little carried away... But this didn't last long after realizing my dreams of vindication were lost. I had only run less than another 5 minutes, maybe a quarter of a mile, around walking pace.

My indignation crumbled, and the hurt and shame emerged, sapping my energy. I just wanted to cry. I did cry, a little, but I fought it. Yelling "F--- them!" didn't help (as was suggested) my pathetic attempts only highlighted how weakened I felt. I continued my internal struggle, trying to conjure up something positive.

Here are the two I found, the strongest antidote because they are the most recent POSITIVE encounters with other people at the lake:

1. Most recently (on March 4th), we passed a couple in white shirts a few times around the lake. The last time that we went by, she was running ahead of him and he wryly yelled out to us, "Thanks a lot! You inspired my wife to run!" He was smiling and shaking his head. Heather and I agreed that his chagrin was due to him knowing fully well that pretty soon she'd be asking HIM to run with her.

2. In February we saw a toddler with her father several times around the lake. She stared the first time, and I smiled back. She was in and out of her stroller...

Usually tiny kids stare because they're trying to comprehend what's going on around them, or they are seeing something for the first time (I try to remember this when I'm cringing, worried they're about to say some version of "Mommy, she's so fat!")

During another pass I smiled again because she was looking at us intently, watching from behind her father as soon as we came into view.

My hands were pointed like blades, cutting through the air (envision Barbie doll arms - that plastic molded karate chop).

Slice slice slice.. with my pace, attempting to will my endurance to continue.

She thought I was waving, smiled and shyly waved back with building enthusiasm!

So I waved, and laughed, and smiled at her. And thought about how I would've missed this sweet interaction if I ignored and plowed ahead the first time, or frowned into my (seemingly always difficult) run.

We passed, I was still smiling, thinking it was over.

Then I looked over my shoulder to the other side to find Heather and at the same time that she was telling me "Hey!", the corner of my eye caught movement from the little girl - she was running after me as though we were playing a game of chase!

Then I really laughed!!
Her face was filled with the joy of spontaneous running that kids do. She was giggling. She got so far ahead of her dad that he jogged with the stroller to catch her before we rounded the corner. I barely managed to snap this picture:


That day I thought, "I want to continue running so one day it will be that effortless!" Also, I love the unexpected experiences during running. Without question we will go back to that lake to do our run again and again no matter how many teenage boys are there.

  
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LULI_2POINT0 4/15/2012 1:26PM

    Great blog! I even got a little teary eyed, because I know exactly how you felt.

The fact is… you’re out there. You’re doing it. And… you’ve already decided you’re going to to keep going back for more. Do you know how awesome that is? Thinking about how you’re going to feel as you keep making progress is proof you’re going to get to your goal. Keep running and inspiring us!

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AMANDA_C 4/6/2012 10:58PM

    Thank you for being positive! Just what I needed tongiht!

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DAUGHTEROFTWIN 4/6/2012 12:51PM

    I know this is late, but I loved this blog. It was almost cathartic to read. I wish it was only teenagers who do the snickering/open judging. Thanks for this blog. I needed it. I love that you followed up with examples of people being wonderful, human. I feel rejuvenated!!! emoticon

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CHERRYTOMATO 4/5/2012 6:43PM

    Love this story! Love the toddler run!

I have a two year old... and I love her implusiveness... she does what she is drawn to!

She loves to wave and people and say hi. I love her friendly little spirit. I have to say, it makes me a little sad when she smiles at people and says hi, and they ignore her, turn away, pretend not to hear... it happens at the mall, at the grocery store, gas station, on walks, etc. She always looks a little confused, especially if she knows they hear her.

And I LOVE when people say hi back, smile at her, tell her a little joke, anything... it reinforces her view that the world is a wonderful, friendly place, full of places and people to discover!

I love that you encouraged and drew that out of that little girl!

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GRAMPIAN 4/4/2012 6:40AM

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REDPEPPERS 3/26/2012 1:13PM

    This reminds of an anecdote I read many years ago. It was written by a woman who had had a similar experience with rude people. Her comment was, "Someday I'll be thin, but they'll always be clods."

Sometimes it's harder than other times to put this into practice, but brush people like these out of your mind. You have too many other more pleasant and more important things in your life -- like the people *you've* inspired to run.

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TERRIFICLYFIT 3/26/2012 3:25AM

    Way to find beauty in the world. I'm proud of you. Rock on!

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SAFETYSUE 3/22/2012 1:51AM

    Great blog, I am always amazed how you can share these moments and how you manage to push on and not let them chase you away! Every runner has started out the same regardless of size and fitness level. The skeletal system and muscles used form running are different so they have to learn to adjust. Like anything it takes time! I wish we could t,each all of our teens to behave with respect but they are what they are! You are truly an inspiration because you kept going.
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SCRAPPINCAT 3/21/2012 4:08PM

    You are such an inspiration! I also "run" around that lake...maybe someday I'll have a WOLFKITTY sighting. emoticon I am always so self-conscious when running, feeling like I sound like a herd of animals coming through, and sounding like I may pass out, because I can't catch my breath! I just try and focus on the path ahead, and keep on going! Take care & I'll be on the lookout for you at the lake!

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HAWAIIANMAMMA 3/21/2012 11:59AM

    Oh my goodness, teenage boys are the WORST!!! You did just the right thing, though, when you conjured up positive thoughts. You ARE an inspiration to others! You're an inspiration to ME! I've been self-conscious about my stomach fat before, to the point where I'll spend time dieting the fat away before I ever show my face in the gym! I feel like people are always staring at the fat on my belly when I do sit-ups or planks. And it's silly. What does it matter? What matters is that you and I and everyone here on Spark is doing what we need to do to FEEL GOOD. We shouldn't let nay-sayers or negativity discourage us. You are amazing and beautiful and strong and HILARIOUS. Keep up the hard work, ma'am. You're inspiring us all!

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ABB698 3/19/2012 10:44PM

    Sorry about the rude teens, but loved the little girl at the end :) Too cute!

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CHOCOBUNN 3/15/2012 2:26PM

    Its really good that you didn't fall to temptation of yelling insults at the 14 year old boys whose self esteem is probably lower than you could imagine. I like that you kept your cool and kept pushing ahead to finish your run. I don't think i can exercise in front of people yet but I've definitely invited some of my coworkers to come exercise with me . emoticon

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HOTPINKACTION 3/15/2012 1:17PM

    Loved reading this. I remember when I very started going to the gym I was SO worried about ppl looking at me AND judging my weight. Now I know if they are looking at me it's bc they are just staring off into space or just watching what I'm doing. IF SOMEONE IS MAKING A JUDGEMENTAL COMMENT ON WHAT I'M DOING THAT IS THEIR PROBLEM NOT MINE. My Aunt Mary is the one that explained to me how to focus on what I was doing & if someone has a problem w/that it's THEIR problem. That thinking has gotten me to the point where I now FINALLY go to fitness classes.

If I do catch someone staring at me I totally wave at them. It's funny bc sometimes they wave back. And if they don't, that's their problem. :)

Thank you for sharing xo

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MCJULIEO 3/15/2012 7:33AM

    I love that you washed the blues away with such excellent positive thoughts....

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MOMOF4FATNOMORE 3/14/2012 5:17PM

    I always LOVE reading your blogs, they are great. Thanks for sharing!

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LOTUSFLOWER 3/14/2012 4:25PM

    This is so cute!!

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DANCINGGARDENER 3/14/2012 4:14PM

    I was once told by a very wise man that I will never understand men because I was never a 14-year-old boy. True that. I can't imagine how horrid it would be to be terrified by my impending sexuality and the only skill with which I had to deal with the insecurity and cluelessness was my snotty meanness. Pathetic really.

Bullies... as my grandpa would say "nail their jewels to a stump and push them over backward.

(I am sooooo impressed with your drive, your strength, and your perseverance)


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PASTPENDING 3/14/2012 3:24PM

    This was hard for me to read, too. I know that feeling SOOOOO well...you know, the blood draining from your face and your stomach dropping to your knees, the hot flush of humiliation...

It's not fair that other people (especially fourteen year old boys!!!) can have such an impact on us. It shouldn't matter, and we tell ourselves it doesn't matter what they think (because it DOESN'T), but there is a lot of distance between knowing that and not allowing it to ruin your day, and it's probably always going to be a trigger point for people like us.

Good for you for running anyway, and for finding beauty in the little things along the way!

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 3/14/2012 3:09PM

    Your blog was hard for me to read because I have been in this very situation so many times. Usually, I can come up with some smarta$$ comment that either shuts them up or makes them laugh but not if I was trying to run. I wouldn't have had the extra energy in me to do it. I feel like they made fun of me too and I wasn't even there. Ugh.

When I think of all you have accomplished, I can't help but wonder why it mattered so much but yet it does matter, doesn't it? I can say that many of the boys in my history, the ones that tormented me while growing up, are now (and some have been) fat old men. It's fun to run into them and I make a point to always say hello. I know, snarky on my part, but it feels good. LOL

I'm glad you had the experience with the little girl. I liked that one much better than the 14 yr olds. Maybe you've inspired her to become a runner!

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HIPPICHICK1 3/14/2012 2:07PM

    In the words of Utah Philips, "Kids are a$$holes." Little kids are innocent and truthful but 14 yr old boys are def. a$$holes.

I remember this one time I was belly dancing at a community event in about 2006 or '07 and there were three boys sitting in the front row. It was before Spark, so my weight was 260 lbs, give or take a few. I dance beautifully and always have. I've been called "light on my feet for such a big girl," a rather back-handed compliment, but a compliment nevertheless.

These boys (aged 10??) were soon laughing and taking pictures of me (or perhaps a video) on one of their phones and I imagined that I would be the talk of their classroom the next day at school, that images of the fat belly dancer would be shown to all and that there would be countless numbers laughing at my largess and there was nothing I could do to stop it.

I kept on dancing. What else could I have done? Stormed off stage because of what I "thought" these kids were going to do?

A lot of how kids react in numbers is that they cow-tow to the one who seems to be in charge or the biggest bully of them all. The bully has control over his minions by being a bully to everyone. The sad truth is that it's likely that his father is a bully or he has an older sibling or mother who is a bully and is actively teaching this child how to be a bully while feeding this child wrong information.

It's hard but I think the trick here might be to have compassion for ignorant children who are likely to die of heart disease before you die because they are exposed to a world of food-like substances instead of real food and don't even know that steaks come from a cow or what an eggplant looks like. They only know how to order pizza and eat things that can be microwaved.

Now, I've had a whole lifetime of being obese. It's only recently I became simply "overweight." I have heard it all, sister. Let me tell you! I have somehow managed to remove myself from the hurt of other people's comments. Like water off a duck's back. They don't know me or my story and if I really wanted to teach them something I spoke up. I've even been ridiculed from the stage! I've heard drunkards calling me fatso in the middle of my performances! Beer will do that. Bullies are everywhere. The reality is that bullies have no self-esteem at all.

It so happens that I've spoken up many times. This is one story. At the age of 21, I was at a bar and there was a great band playing. I wanted to dance and back then you danced with a partner and if you danced alone you were considered a weirdo. I felt more comfortable asking a stranger to dance than dancing alone, so I decided to ask a man to dance with me.

I saw this guy on the dance floor and he was a really good dancer. I wanted to dance with him because of that. I boldly walked up to him at his table that he shared with 2 other male friends and I said, "Would you like to dance with me?" And with a derisive snort and a nasty tone in his voice he said "no." I was about to walk away in a cloud of shame because of the way he said "no." It was definitely a "no" that was underscored with an unsaid, "because you're a fat cow." That was my feeling anyway. Then I decided to turn back and I said, "I just want to dance, eh? I don't want to have sex with you!!" And as if I had read his mind (because as we all know if a fat girl wants to dance with you you're going to end up in the sack with her and to your friends you will have to refer to her as the "beached whale" because no one sleeps with fat chicks and actually likes it *insert HUGE eye roll here*) he turned very red, looked ashamed of himself and then looked down at his shoes. I walked away feeling as if I had taught him a wee lesson.

Parents need lessons too. As a childless woman who has plenty of friends with kids I know that parents can't and don't see everything. If you could ever muster the courage to speak to a parent about teaching their children something about judging others this would have been a great time to speak up.

Having said that I'm happy to hear that the small child that ran after you had no judgments at all. I hope it was a sweet moment that erased all the negativity from your experience.

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DDOORN 3/14/2012 1:34PM

    What a CRIME that somehow that innate child-like "joy of spontaneous running that kids do" becomes snuffed out so often by the mean-spirited and oh-so-hurtful things that older kids learn and in some way must believe that it is "okay" to do.

I've been on the receiving end WAY too often in my past and will always shake my head with incomprehension over what it is that causes some to inflict such pain on others.

Kudos to the joy and love that naturally flows in young children and may it flourish in EVERYONE!

Don

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 3/14/2012 12:24PM

    You keep rocking on!!!! Who cares what punk 14 yr old thugs think! You are doing AWESOME@!!!!

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BACKATITAMY 3/14/2012 11:58AM

  Thanks for sharing. I hope the good always out weighs the bad for you so that you never lose your focus. Congratulations to you for being able to even run. I wish I could do the same. Maybe one day, huh? :)

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JESPAH 3/14/2012 11:27AM

    If I hadn't started daily walking, I never would've discovered Rabbit Alley.

If I hadn't started walking, I wouldn't have found my German Shepherd pal who gives great doggy kisses and whines when I go on my merry way.

I never would've seen two HUGE male wild turkeys.

I never would have seen the Dominican and Portuguese dudes playing cricket nearby, or seen them running the bases at a local baseball field, even though half of them are in terrible shape.

I never would have seen my community.

Those 14 year olds are only a small piece of yours.

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MARIPOSAGALAXIA 3/14/2012 11:24AM

    Thankfully, life will do its fair share of thrashing those boys and one day hopefully they will learn that all they have really belongs to someone else, and they will have to claw and climb their way through the muck of life to get anywhere just like the rest of us:). They have no idea what real life is like yet. But oh, they will. Then hopefully they won't judge people out for a jog who don't have a thing to do with them and whose lives and appearances aren't any of their business in the first place.



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TRUCKER72 3/14/2012 10:57AM

    Thanks for the blog. I started to learn to expect criticism so much it stopped me from going into the world of exercise and now I tell myself to just get out the door. I look at it like a prayer session where I get to quietly inspire maybe just one person to keep putting one foot in front of the other. I mean, if I am doing it then they can too. I helped raise my two nephews and they are 17 and 20 now. I give thanks everyday for them. They taught me love. So when I am out walking or swimming and there's a bunch of people around and I begin to feel those pangs of fear come into me that I am being made of fun of, I think of my nephews, my best friend who just passed away, my Lord and that one person I may be inspiring and I don't hyperventilate and scurry home. None of those guys would want me to do that. They all want me to show the world what I'm made of - and so do I. Thanks again for your blog.

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JLPEASE 3/14/2012 10:40AM

    What a beautiful place you have to run! Keep on doing what you're doing. 14 year old boys and anyone else who is cruel like that are only showing off their own insecurities.
Thanks for sharing such great insights. Your blogs are the best!
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RAINYFRIDAY 3/14/2012 10:21AM

    Unfortunately so many of us can relate to the story about the teens. Fortunately, a lot of us can also relate to the high points in this blog too. Once we get out there and do, generally, we run into more goods than bads and it's what keeps me going, for sure. I'm proud of you, but I don't think that matters, as long as you are proud of you. And you should be. Cuz you're awesome. ((hugs))

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ZURDTA- 3/14/2012 9:54AM

    14 year olds don't think - full stop. Some are kind and considerate, some are rude and obnoxious, but mostly they don't think that their behaviour affects anyone. They only want to get a reaction from their mates.

It doesn't help. It hurts. There is a gang that hangs out near where we run - they are a bit older than 14 - sometimes they call after us and laugh, sometimes they don't notice us. Sometimes I run a different way, sometimes I am able to just ignore them and not feel bad. Sometimes I don't want to go out because I don't want ANYONE to see me running.

BUT I keep going. Try, try, try again.

WOLFKITTY - you are totally awesome, you are real and honest and inspiring. You make me want to keep trying and that is wonderful.

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BEFEARLESSNOW 3/14/2012 7:20AM

    My boys are 12 & 13. I hope that I have done a good job explaining the hurt that making fun of others causes. I know what it's like, and I get very triggered when it happens.

It is hard not to get angry at those boys, and unfortunately sometimes no matter how much a parent instills good values in them, peer pressure from others can kick in. Kids are so cruel.

You keep doing what you're doing Joce. You are making positive changes for you and no one else. You are a beautiful person that no 14 year old boy could even appreciate, probably not even when they're 24. One day you will run that track effortlessly and those boys will still be nothing but mean.

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TAZIAH 3/14/2012 6:45AM

    Joce, this brings back so many similar encounters..the boy acting as a news reporter shoving a pretend microphone into my face and asking me what it was like to be sooooooo fat in front of his friends, going to a haunted house with my son and having a group of boys circle around me snorting like pigs, going out to eat with my husband at a deli only to have a little kid screaming "fat, fat, fat..." at me long after his parents had wheeled him away down the aisles. I could go on and on! But I am SO incredibly proud of you! On all of my encounters with my own slew of less than ideal human beings, I broke down, faltered, and continued to hide away from the world. You inspire me to become braver! Thank you for sharing this, Joce! emoticon

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SYZYGY922 3/14/2012 2:16AM

    "SINCE WHEN ARE OUR VALUES DEFINED BY 14 yr-old BOYS?!" is going to be my new mantra. I owe a lot of my (lack of) self-esteem to many a 14-year-old boy.

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SSHENEZ 3/14/2012 2:08AM

    Ah! ask me ... Its been a story allways ... no matter where I go, not just the teenagers , but the grown ups too .. give me a look which used to shake me till the core ... at stores , restraunts nearly every where . at a few very embarassing instances there have been women walking upto me and handing over a leaflet or a card for some weight loss fraud clinic ....

Untill recently my friend motivated me to go to the lake side track to walk/jog there i realised there were so many ppl like me .. a few gave lill consious looks and a few were just not bothered and the runners were so cool .. they run and sweat and inspires so many .... Now I just go there to run ... I give a cold ignore to any stare or giggle .... well ! its working for me..... Thanks for writing this ... I can so relate to it !

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RYDERB 3/14/2012 12:53AM

    Jocelyn, those horrid teenage boys were too stupid to realize just how amazing you are and how much you've accomplished. Their loss! I'm glad that this bad experience is overshadowed by the wonderful, supportive, and inspirational people you encounter on your runs emoticon

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GEE-KNEE 3/13/2012 11:38PM

    You inspired someone to run. That's cool. I like hearing that I've inspired someone to work on their health, so that must have felt good. (the rest I am not going to waste any time commenting on because it's not worth the energy)... You inspire people Jocelyn.. you inspire me to run. Keep on running...




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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 3/13/2012 8:31PM

    You know what, there is always someone out there, trying to find fault, no matter how old you are or how fit, or how beautiful, etc. I was listening to Leigh Peele's podcasts and one of them mentioned how ridiculous it is that someone online was saying that Ashley Judd is unattractive. Because if there are even haters on Ashley Judd, how much chance do any of the REST of us have? LOL

So, yeah. Process the part of it you own, and move on, like you did. 'Cuz there's nothing else that can be done about it!

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RUSSELLORAMA 3/13/2012 7:17PM

    I'm so proud of you!

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CHELAGETSFIT 3/13/2012 7:08PM

    I absolutely LOVED and enjoyed reading your blog. That is such a beautiful trail (I wish we had something like that nearby). Kids are always so cruel and I think that's where alot of our insecurities come from as adults... they are a result of the cruelty we may have lived as children. I know that's a big part of it for me. I'm learning to overcome it, but it's not easy. I loved your positive anecdotes. Keep at it Jocelyn, you're going to run like the wind one day for miles and miles without even giving it a second thought.

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HEATHERHUNTER 3/13/2012 6:41PM

    I cried so hard reading this. Not because of the boys or because of the woman being inspired or even by the way-too-adorable little girl who ran right after you.

I am crying because I am so incredibly moved by your struggles and successes and even by, simply, your words. You made me feel like I was right there with you, and I can't wait to read more of your blogs.

Perfect picture by the way. So so sweet.

Take care
-Heather.

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SARAHSTARTSOVER 3/13/2012 6:33PM

    So well said. I would have struggled so much with those sorts of comments. So proud of you!

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ZANNBEE 3/13/2012 6:32PM

    I too am glad that you were able to look at the positive. So sorry you had to endure that at the park. Glad that you're not going to quit.

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SWEETZMIX 3/13/2012 5:28PM

    It's hard sometimes to push the thoughts of what do they think or to let other people bring up bad emotions. It happens and we are human. Keep running! There are a lot more little girls out there :)

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GIRANIMAL 3/13/2012 5:14PM

    "The adult versions of 14 yr-old boys..." sadly, I have learned, all too often they are the PARENTS of those boys, and that's at least partially where the kids learn this kind of judgment.

I don't run, but I bike at least 5 days a week. Once when I was still pretty heavy, a driver was traveling way too close to me and, before I could even give her the "back off" look, she started yelling at me for daring to take up less than my fair share of a shared lane. Some -- too many -- drivers simply believe they shouldn't have to share the road with bikes, no matter what the traffic laws say.

And that's all this was about. But what did she resort to? Unfair and irrelevant name calling: "Get out of the damn street, fat-a$$!"

Of course, I was simultaneously enraged and crushed. She had no idea how hard I was working, how much larger I'd been. What a terrible thing to say! And how could she? She was not exactly tiny herself.

And then I noticed it: her kid in the car. Niiiiiiiiice example, lady. I angrily told her as much, but something tells me she didn't care.

Anyway, good for you for finding the positive interactions you've had to counterbalance this one! People -- and especially young ones -- can be terribly mean and hurtful. We sure can't let every instance take us down!

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MIZCATHI 3/13/2012 4:58PM

    Really beautiful blog - you express yourself so well. I particularly like the examinations you make of all the types of people you see, and their reactions. Everyone is so different, and motivated by a host of experiences. 14 year old boys are just that. 14. It means nothing in the grand scheme of things. But your running does mean a lot, and you are changing. I admire your ability to observe and report.

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HHB4181 3/13/2012 4:46PM

    Good for you for continuing to run!!

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SUNFLOWERSAVAGE 3/13/2012 4:46PM

    I love this blog!!
I know that "big-girl challenge stare" very well....still use it often....lol
The story about the little girl is so great...what a cutie.
I admire you for getting out there and running even if at times you are worried about what people are thinking...and you are right about teenagers. No matter what you are doing they will find a reason to mock it.

Keep on running Done Girl!!!

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TESSABEAR428 3/13/2012 4:34PM

    I'm sorry to hear those boys were mean to you. Teenagers (boys and girls) are cruel and uneducated. I know that even with this in mind, it can be hard to ignore their snares, comments, snickers, etc. I try to think that they are physically challenged. Meaning that when they are older (our age) they will plump up b/c they failed to see how what you were doing is significant and good for your body and health. I'm glad you were able to pull some positives out of it. That little girl is so adorable! I love it when my daughter runs (although constantly on her tip toes! lol my little dancer). You've made so much progress, and one day, you will look back on this and see that the experience has made you stronger! emoticon

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Dusk Run

Wednesday, March 07, 2012

Dusk run pictures at the end - But first:

There are a millionbazillion blogs that I think of and never post. Some of them are big, some of them are small. Some that are missing lately are like C25k Completed Oct 2011; Iron Girl/My 1st 5k RUN November 2011; Resolution Resolve Broken (Res 5k story) Jan 2012; various updates; 2hr Zumba Party; February Mission Hills SparkRally Hike; Torrey Pines Hike+ Peruvian Food (March)/Adventure List explanation; ...And those are just events. I take a bunch of pictures all the time with the intention of sharing them, and yet never give myself the time or permission to share them. Sometimes just I miss out, but then, so do the people to whom I promise things like pics.

So, events, pictures, but then there's the thoughts that I have; simple or complex, it's nice to get them out in a blog.

I get caught up in it wanting to be right, wanting it to be chronological*** OH MY GOODNESS, how I want it to be properly chronological!!! But this is what lead to missing out on posting blogs from SparkRallies in 2011. And my previous laptop died before the year was over, and with it went a couple of years worth of pictures (my memories, my art) that weren't saved anywhere including the 200 I took at Torrey Pines for my FIRST hike last year, with a friend CGEM, who moved away.. By the way I could've memorialized the insightful, inspiring (to me) conversations we had with her and Leah and Linda.

I want it to be perfect, so I end up missing out. And the memories in my head fade fast, I'm so focused on the now and going and doing and striving. Perfect.

It's all or nothing. How often is that true? Too often for me.

SO in my action-oriented mindframe, this is from TONIGHT.

Yeah!

Heather and I ran in the DARK- YEAH!

It was cold. It was WINDY - gusts of wind, a real wind advisory and a little bit of rain. And it was getting dark. PLUS, H already worked all day long. And I ate too many cookies after lunch. And our workout clothes were flimsy, AND IT WAS COLD. Did I mention how cold it was? Very. Especially since we were spoiled with 80 degree high/perfect beautiful weather last weekend.

But you know what?

I know Sparkers who run IN THE SNOW.
It wasn't snowing. It wasn't even snow cold.
And, this is my refrain when it's cold and I don't want to run. (Heather might be sick of me saying it by now, when I repeat it out loud to convince myself.)

When it's between 40-50 degrees, I get so cold that my hands get numb (and often forget my magic gloves- worth a whole blog in themselves). My face gets numb. My nose does annoying things, including getting numb.

But we went to go run through the numbness, the excuses, the traffic & crappy drivers, the sheer desire to stay at home! DID YOU KNOW THERE ARE PURRING CATS AT HOME?! Yeah, it's hard to temporarily give that up. And then there's the leg pain, the lung pain, the potty pain, the jiggle pain, not to mention phantom pains that we already know will pop up.

Here come the pictures (thanks for reading to this long).. WAIT! For the full effect you need to have Daktaris' song "Eltsuhg Ibal Latisi" playing while you look at these. That is the song that came on when we did our first TRACK run, and tested our time and calibrated our Nike+ sensors in Feb (another blog missed; H gave me a present). Here's a link where someone posted it on YouTube: www.youtube.com/watch?v=UkRva
BMs-ek

I AM IN MY OWN '70s MOVIE WHEN THIS SONG IS PLAYING! This is my RUNNING ANTHEM. Seriously, I got it for free on an iTunes sampler called "Songs from the House of Soul".. Sharon Jones & the Dap Kings have "Pick It Up, Lay it In the Cut" that are also inextricably tied to running, now, for me. I only have free music on my phone, so these came up in shuffle and now their running songs. No, they're POWER running songs. (Enough typing - geez, maybe it's better that I don't blog more often. Sheesh.) PICTURES, not perfect, but here:


At least these pants are long - they may be more flimsy than pajama pants, but, it's the best I have to try to face the under 50 degree windy weather.


The promise of SUNLIGHT on a cloudy day! Hooray!


Arrival View 1

Arrival View 2 (same time/darkness, but this one shows the moody clouds better because of how the phone camera decided to expose it.)

The path ahead, lit by the sunset behind us. See? Not so bad!

The path behind, with the sunset.

Getting darker...still walking

Again, sunset behind us, getting ready to run, it looks pretty good - the next picture was taken 20+ minutes later, fully dark.

I may need new shoes.

When I bend over and stretch my back, this is the view from the ground.. Like, what the ants see.

A little dizzy. And cold.

ALTERED; tried to get the moon peeking out from the clouds, but it was just a faint blob, so I fixed this picture with some iPhone trickery. This is sorta what it looked like.







Done with 325+ minutes (includes stretching) in March! Eyes all puffy from the cold. We've run when it was dark before, but only in the morning. There's a big difference psychologically between running when you know it's going to eventually get light, and running into the darkness.

It doesn't matter if we ran for 1 minute or 100 minutes. We did it, and in the DARKENING DARKNESS(!), and clouds(!), and wind!! Next time we can say, "Well, we did this before..." and give ourselves no excuses.

I'm just glad I have Heather (NEWSGIRL2177) to run with me. I wouldn't be doing it if it wasn't for her.

  
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GEE-KNEE 3/13/2012 12:32AM

    Isn't funny the arguing in our own heads..."but it's so cold outside"

I feel like that when I go to do my pre work 5:30 run, but am usually feeling good after. It's worth it. You can do anything Joce. I like your music choice... it's fun and full of character-just like you. :)

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XPHOENIX 3/12/2012 10:33AM

    Love this.. and love that Heather is here for you so much! Its amazing! :) Love the piccies AND the theme music to go with it! hehe OXOX

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KALISWALKER 3/12/2012 1:13AM

    You are so busy in real life you don't have time to be a historian and post a lot of pictures, and that's the way it should be. Have fun in all your runs and everything!

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TRACYZABELLE 3/11/2012 11:23PM

    You look lovely!!!

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ALOFA0509 3/11/2012 1:36PM

    emoticon your amazing sista!!!

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FITKITTYMAMA 3/11/2012 1:47AM

    Awesome!!! And I'm so glad you have Heather to run with you too! I miss you gals!

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RUSSELLORAMA 3/10/2012 11:42PM

    Those are great pics. Way to run!



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DRAGONFLY126 3/10/2012 7:42PM

   
70'smovie. Heck I went back to High School.Watching the H.S Band marching in a Parade playing that song. Thanks for the memories! LOL Those are some aewsome photos. thank you for sharing.

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FITWITHIN 3/9/2012 1:12PM

    Yeah that's the spirit! I wished we lived in the same location, because you would be the perfect fitness partner to workout with. Never give up or in when it get tough. Just do it! Your the best!

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ABB698 3/9/2012 12:20PM

    emoticonYou go Girlie! :)

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NURSEA32 3/9/2012 10:34AM

    Beautiful! You have inspired me!

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KKTODAY 3/8/2012 11:04PM

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Way to go! I agree- night time gives everything a different vibe. I'm listening to your jam... diggin' it! Maybe have to listen to it tomorrow morning when I work out! haha

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CAROLISCIOUS 3/8/2012 10:08PM

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BLVINBUTTERFLYS 3/8/2012 8:51AM

    very cool! emoticon

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FIT_TERI 3/7/2012 9:10PM

    Good for you, Joce!
You and Heather are runners. And what do runners do?.......

They run! In good conditions and not-so-good!
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SWEETZMIX 3/7/2012 4:12PM

    Joce I loved this blog. And you kill me with cold. hahaaaaaa you are spoiled by west coast weather! Glad you enjoyed your run with Heather just be safe out there. Plenty of weirdos!!

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MRSMELVIN1 3/7/2012 12:37PM

    Your amazing but you did make me laugh about the cold...Oh how I miss those Cold California Days..

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JESPAH 3/7/2012 12:07PM

    One of our best 5Ks (we're gonna do it this year, too) is the Tuesday Night Trot. It's in June and it is just fab. There is something about darkness (take the usual precautions of course).

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ADVENTURE-GIRL 3/7/2012 10:56AM

    Beautiful pictures Jocelyn. Good for you running in the dark and cold.

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NEWSGIRL2177 3/7/2012 10:20AM

    I *knew* you were taking pics in Sbux! Good thing I didn't have to go. Oh wait...

You keep me going, too, sister!
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LOTUSFLOWER 3/7/2012 9:51AM

    Beautiful!

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DDOORN 3/7/2012 9:09AM

    Great to hear from you Jocelyn!

Love to hear about places like Mission Hills & Torrey Pines...I have such fond memories from '09 and the SparkConvention and staying with my sister and her family in the Tierrasanta area. We did similar hikes. Loved hiking Mission Trails in her back yard!

Being out in the cold always gets my eyes and nose running like crazy! But I usually warm up within 15 mins. and sweat like crazy despite the cold temps...lol!

Don

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ALLYTHEATHLETE 3/7/2012 8:40AM

    That is quite the funky song! Congratulations on finishing your run, despite the obstacles.

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KANOE10 3/7/2012 7:20AM

    Good for you running ..even if it was cold. I loved your pictures. Way to go in staying healthy and doing something for yourself!

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ZIRCADIA 3/7/2012 7:04AM

    OK first of all, 50 degrees.... that is SO not COLD! WOMAN! Just like when I was out there and everyone was like - o m g it's RAINING!!! And there were a few teeny tiny droplets of water. You ppl are totally weather oversensitive out there. :D hahahahaha. BUT - considering what you're used to, I'm glad you braved the unfamiliar conditions. I tend to wear gloves when it's really "too warm for gloves". Sometimes I'm wearing gloves and short sleeves even. My hands just get cold. But my nose ALWAYS runs. Almost always. If it's not warm out and I'm running, so is my nose. At least some of the time. That's also another reason for the gloves. :) Another livesaver for keeping me feeling warmer without being to warm - bondiband. It's a wide fabric headband. You can wear it over your forehead and ears so it keeps you warm, but then if you get too warm you can shove it back into a proper headband and get some ventilation. Hope this might help for future less than warm excursions - although, time is MARCHing on into spring/summer, so maybe you won't need it for a while. :)

ALSO - GORGEOUS PICTURES!!!! It looks like it was absolutely beautiful out! In 50deg weather... and windy... I'd probably be wearing knee length tights, long sleeve shirt, and gloves.

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TRACYZABELLE 3/7/2012 3:13AM

    Well I have pictures in my head, lol! I know what you mean about leaving the purring kitties but usually I am passing on sleep to snuggle with kitties on the couch-- I try to leave them out of my room while I sleep so I can actually get sleep .

I have a laptop and a desktop that both need to get the files out of since they are not working right anymore-- I hate when my stuff is where I can nto get to it! I hope I did not lose it!

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