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Rough Night but Proud of Myself

Sunday, September 07, 2014

Last night DH and I went to a game party at a friend's house. It was my first time "out" with my new eyes. You wouldn't believe the trauma I went through in my head because I am 1 1/2 weeks away from being able to wear eye makeup!! emoticon

Anyway, got to the party and due to my insecurities, had two drinks instead of the one I had planned and then did not keep track of my food. After the party was emotionally uncomfortable, so stuffed my feelings at Jack in the Box.

Got home, went to bed, and discovered that DS, age 19 had stolen alcohol from our bedroom while we were gone. This is not the first time this has happened, so even though it was after midnight, I decided to call him out on it, gently.

So here's where I think I actually did something right. DS and I argued, but it was a rational, thoughtful argument. I let him know that he needed to step up and admit to his mistakes, be a man, and start taking care of himself.

I know that it is the self-confidence that I gained through Spark and the support of all of you that allowed me to have this discussion and to realize that I can not be responsible for my son's life decisions. My happiness is not based on how he is doing. Or my husband for that matter. I am a successful, confident woman without them. Which is hard to say, but I'm also glad that it is true.

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FLORIDASUN 9/18/2014 11:30AM

    I SO love this blog...I wish more women were as certain of their own necessary self care as you are my friend. I always say if we don't learn to take care of ourselves we surely won't be there to take care of our loved ones will we?

Hugs to you! Love this blog...just love it! emoticon

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EJOY-EVELYN 9/10/2014 11:44PM

    Good work. Happy that the confidence boost was there for you.

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MICKEYH 9/7/2014 7:44PM

    Way to go for have talked with your DS. I do have a teenage son too. It's kinda hard to deal with because he is not completely kid nor adult. so I understand how complicated life is sometime with him. emoticon emoticon

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NANCYANNE55 9/7/2014 4:53PM

    Of course you are!

Good job on talking to your son. As far as the "mistakes" at the party went, learn what you can from them and then put them behind you. Use them as a tool. That makes them catalysts for positive change instead of true "mistakes".

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EMMACORY 9/7/2014 4:10PM

    It is never easy to confront someone. Hopefully your DS will take your message to heart. Blessings! emoticon

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Why I Still Want to Lose Weight

Tuesday, September 02, 2014

I have been stuck in a rut for a couple of years now. Bouncing back and forth over the same 5 pounds. I know that a lot of it is due to my myriad illnesses and a lot of it is due to my work schedule. I do feel good at this weight, but would still like to lose some more.
Mainly I would like to firm up my upper arms and my abs. I would like to gain some strength and stamina. I would like to look younger than I am (within reason, LOL). I would like to be relaxed, healthy and happy.

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MICKEYH 9/4/2014 12:27AM

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_MOBII_ 9/3/2014 7:46PM

    Within reason.....so, not like ready to hit puberty again? Agreed....who wants to do that again?!?!

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 9/3/2014 2:04PM

    I'd like to do the same. If you stumble on an exercise to tone up those arms let me know. I've been working with handweights all summer and still see no difference. I'll keep trying though.

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EJOY-EVELYN 9/3/2014 12:06PM

    Great reasons. emoticon

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STRONG_SARAH 9/3/2014 8:00AM

    All good reasons. I'd like to do that too. Especially the 'look younger' part, lol!

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MISSY455 9/3/2014 2:14AM

    You can do it! Finding the "right" weight is not a perfect science. Good luck as you find yours!

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KNEEMAKER 9/2/2014 11:05PM

  Keep on keeping on! emoticon

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Napa Earthquake 2014 - We Survived!!

Tuesday, August 26, 2014

It's amazing how much exercise you get cleaning up after an earthquake!! We're all okay - no serious damage (lost a TV and lots of glassware). If you'd like the gory details, you can read them here:

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EJOY-EVELYN 8/27/2014 11:07PM

    What a mess to clean up. So glad you and your family are safe.

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_MOBII_ 8/27/2014 10:19AM

    So glad you are all ok and its nice to see that you turned an earthquake into an opportunity for exercise!!!!

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KAYTIE22 8/26/2014 9:22PM

    What an experience. Very happy that you and your family are safe.

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WILDFLOWERS15 8/26/2014 8:32PM

    So glad you are all ok!! I can't even imagine how scary that would be.

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 8/26/2014 10:55AM

    Glad you are safe.

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SNUZSUZ 8/26/2014 10:22AM

    I didn't realize you lived so close by! I live in Carmichael. which is right out of Sacramento, I watched the earthquake all morning Sunday it was horrible! Glad you are okay!!

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DOROTHYBERO 8/26/2014 9:09AM

    Scary emoticon

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MICKEYH 8/26/2014 7:27AM

    Glad to know you are safe. emoticon

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PRAIRIECROCUS 8/26/2014 1:22AM

    Glad you didn't get hurt !

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Do You Know Your Bra Size?

Sunday, July 27, 2014

Wednesday was hubby's birthday. For his present, he decided to take me to Victoria's Secret to buy a new bra emoticon

Once we got there, I tried on a bra in the size I THOUGHT I wore (the size on the tag of the bra I was currently wearing). It didn't fit right and I started getting very frustrated. emoticon

Hubby reminded me that VS does free bra fittings. So I asked, and even though it was a little embarrasing, the salesgirl was very sweet and after a few try-ons, she showed me how to tell if the fit was right. Once we got the right size I was amazed at how good it felt. I didn't need to adjust any straps and it felt perfect!!

Truth be told, I had not changed my bra size since I lost almost 30 pounds a couple of years ago. Weight loss, plus working out had reshaped my body (duh!!) I can't believe I didn't realize I needed a new size!!

Anyway, DO YOU KNOW YOUR BRA SIZE? VS recommends you get remeasured every six months, just in case. And I highly recommend a bra fitting. It feels so good when you have the right bra AND the right size for you. emoticon

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KALISWALKER 9/5/2014 8:19PM

    I got some new ones in August. I looked at a very unflattering picture of myself and wow, I knew I need to go shopping. Then I read a women's mag, the kind you get at the checkout and it had a great article on how to select a bra and include brand names, etc. So I am happy!

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KALISWALKER 8/19/2014 1:39AM

    I agree, I got a new size too.

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THETURTLEBEAR 7/28/2014 11:21AM

    This is very motivating!

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MISSY455 7/28/2014 2:56AM

    I don't know how the "number" people figure this particular statistic, but supposedly 80% of women wear the wrong size bra. I am sure a lot of it is the fact most of us don't get fitted every six months.

Glad you found one that you like!

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EJOY-EVELYN 7/27/2014 8:51PM

    My last fitting was at VS too! It was the last thing I expected to be doing, but appreciated the results! -- only far too long ago. Great advice! -- Evelyn

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SQUIRRELMOMMA1 7/27/2014 5:48PM

    Such a small thing that can really make a big difference.

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LILHOBBIT29 7/27/2014 4:12PM

    Makes sense, and yet most of us overlook the details of this this tedious contraption called the bra! :-)
I need to check my size too! :-)

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"Have You Lost Weight?"

Sunday, July 06, 2014

We are visiting the in-laws in Oregon this week. Last night my mother-in-law asked "Have you lost weight? Because your booty looks smaller than it did the last time you
were here." Thanks - I think. emoticon

Then last night, on Facebook, one of my "friends" saw a recent photo of me and asked, "Have you lost weight? You look good?" Seriously - what did I look like before?

The truth is I've only lost a couple of pounds since January. I really think the low sodium diet is why people are seeing a difference. There is so little bloat now, it's amazing. So I will take the backhanded compliments with a smile. emoticon

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MISSLORI5 7/22/2014 12:11PM

    It's weird what people do notice when our bodies start to change, and sometimes I have noticed people who know I am working on losing will mention that I am looking like I've lost some lately (when I've actually only lost maybe a few ounces!), but I take it as the compliment they intended it to be and thank them!! Sometimes we don't see our bodies as others do, especially if they don't see us everyday, so we have to allow for their choices of compliments, but it's all good and our main job is to keep our eyes on the ball!!! emoticon

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LIFENPROGRESS 7/13/2014 11:06AM

    A compliment is another NSV -- take it and run with it! emoticon You deserve the accolades! emoticon

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NEWTINK 7/9/2014 5:02AM

    I roll my eyes when people ask me ... I swear sometimes I just want to ask them " have you gained weight ? " lord you look so different ... sorry a bit testy today but i so understand what you are saying ... Can't anyone just say " you know what you are looking so good lately " .... I for one think you are beautiful now and then emoticon

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KALISWALKER 7/8/2014 10:06PM

    Take a compliment, back handed or whatever, it still counts.

I like your new profile picture.

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MICKEYH 7/6/2014 10:06PM

    Love your new profile picture. emoticon

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RUBYSNANA 7/6/2014 7:35PM

    When I start to lose weight I tend to show it in my face first, so everyone ask me if I'm sick? You can't win! Just take everything "with a grain of salt" then forget about it. People may not use the right words, but for the most part, I think they meal well! emoticon

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SIRIUS2014 7/6/2014 6:14PM

    Hooray for low sodium. I have been a salt lover all my life. but really less now. I was always bloated. I didn't really get it. Great blog. Gotta love them.

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BAHAMAMARG 7/6/2014 2:12PM

    yeah - you gotta just take the compliment! I'm sure your attention to your health is showing in your appearance - even if you can't really see it yourself.

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HMBROWN1 7/6/2014 1:45PM

    Some people.....
You know you look great! Have a great day!

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