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My hubbs makes me laugh. 
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MELTEAGUE
11/17/2010 9:33AM
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that SO DOES look good!
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LIL_EZZY
11/10/2010 3:35PM
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He sounds like my hubby.
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MZSLYDE01
11/8/2010 12:33PM
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LOL - That is too funny. I love it. Looks wonderful. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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RAINBOWFALLS
11/3/2010 2:38PM
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I have a white chili recipe I just love.
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REBECCAMA
11/3/2010 1:16PM
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Yumm.. my husband loves white bean chicken chili. He orders it from Ruby Tuesdays when we go there. I've never made it at home before. :-)
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AMINABEE
11/3/2010 9:37AM
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That's so cute!
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AWOLF24
11/3/2010 8:28AM
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Too funny because that coulda been my house.......
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BREWMASTERBILL
11/3/2010 8:27AM
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LOL! I would love to come home and have that for dinner.
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ROGUE_1
11/3/2010 8:25AM
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Hello friend! Cute story :) I've missed catchin' up on your blogs, looking forward to doing so! Hope things are well.
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MARLIMOO
11/3/2010 8:17AM
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NICE
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Don't get me wrong, I love being a stay at home mom. But ever since my hubbs and I decided that staying home full time would be more cost effective than me desperately trying to resuscitate my real estate career, I've felt increasingly....stir crazy?
This week has been particularly trying. Hubbs went to a work conference for 3 days. He was basically paid to stay at a nice hotel, eat, drink and schmooze. Meanwhile, I've been with the kids every waking second for a week. No, correction - I got to go to kickboxing so there is 2.5 hours of ME time.
With the hubbs' work schedule (and constant overtime to make up for my lack of income), the child care falls on me. Don't get me wrong, he spends time with the kids, but its always play time.
I found myself complaining to the BFF about this last night. I think what spawned all of this was that HER husband told her to go visit a friend in Boston for a night or two and he would take care of their toddler son and twin infants. WHA???? REALLY!???? (She definitely needed that though, aside from 3 kids she also works full time). But I was mad at my hubbs for the nice thing HER hubbs did!
FYI - I'm not always like this. I really do love staying home with my kids. I do have patience with them and they're great kids (easy compared to some I know), My husband is wonderful and I feel bad for the amount of overtime he has to do sometimes. I just need a night out or a couple hours of spa pampering maybe to recharge.
Ok, I'm done. i think I just needed to get it out. Now I'm gonna go enjoy Halloween with my kiddos. Hope y'all enjoy yours too! Try not to eat too much candy!
Quick edit: I'm not blaming my hubbs - his work schedule just basically sucks and we have a shortage of babysitters.....
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MELTEAGUE
11/17/2010 9:35AM
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sometimes a girl just needs some time off......I think I feel a night at home by myself coming on.......where can I send hubby to??? Hmmm...he needs time OUT time and I need TIME IN time! lol...can't win!
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MZSLYDE01
11/8/2010 12:36PM
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Ha Ha Ha - Sorry I know it's not funny but I am glad that you were able to get it out. Sometimes that is all you need. It can be just as stressful and wearing taking care of your children full time. Hopefully you can take a break soon for yourself. Me-Time. Yeah. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SUZBFIT
11/2/2010 7:25PM
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I feel like this too often, I think!! I wanted to stay home so badly for many years and I finally got the chance 1.5 years ago and it hasn't been as awesome as I thought it would. Yes, I LOVE being able to be the one to care for my children but sometimes I feel like it is ALL I do. My DH has an expense account and it includes eating out for lunch everyday. As silly as this sound, I get insanely jealous when he is eating at the best steakhouse and I am having pb&j with the kids. I really think I am just envious that he gets to hang out with adults and eat warm meals while I am counting down the minutes to nap time so that I can have a tiny bit of freedom......to clean!!! Anyway, I just wanted to say that I know how you feel and you totally deserve to get away for some "me" time soon!!! If your DH can't help because of his work shifts can you enlist some help from family members or even a babysitter for a few hours? Report Inappropriate Comment |
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KELLYFIT4U
11/2/2010 5:35PM
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I had a feeling your husband has the same profession as mine. I'm not a SAHM and I sooooo know the feeling. Then my husband has hobbies like hunting so instead of helping me this morning when he got off from work when he's suppose to be sleeping well since it's prime hunting season for bow it's ok for him to stay up and hunt. It's funny how priorities change sometimes. Vent anytime it's what we are here for but I really know how you feel but I work on top of it. My husband though does give me my time away. You need to plan a girls night out or something for you to give you some space. Every mom needs it! 
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HEIDE69
11/1/2010 7:47AM
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I know what you mean! I do day care and stay home w/our kids and my husband puts in long days. So it is hard to get any me or alone time. 
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MS_GOLIGHTLY
10/31/2010 9:19PM
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My offers to take the kids so you can do whatever always stand, you know! I think it's hard for anyone who has never stayed home with their kids longer than a day or two to understand how significantly it impacts the primary caregiver on a personal level. It is a huge sacrifice, and though worth it in so many ways, it is easy to lose your sense of self. I think most mothers experience that loss in one form or another. The trick is getting our partners to fully understand that something as simple as the drive into work is viewed by SAHMs as "a break", and the working partner gets many similar kinds of breaks throughout their day. Anyway, I hear ya, sister. Hang in and see you in the A.M. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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MARLIMOO
10/31/2010 5:53PM
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i forgot our hubbys did the same thing. I work the morning and he works 4-12am too. He just did that damn convention thing too! In Plymouth, MA. DId yours go there? He did ONE night. I worked from home- but see my two are in school. I sent my son to my friends house- she has a 4 yr old too and then my daughter is in first grade so I worked from home to get her on the bus and get her off the bus. Hubby was home by 1pm I think? Your sacrafice is HUGE. It's VERY HARD to basically raise the kids alone and be the first response to all. I give you guys ALL the credit in the world. Have many friends that do it too. I know they struggle at times needing to reconnect with who THEY were and are. It gets lost as you sacrafice you. I am sure your hubby helps as much as he can. He may have to say no to a detail one night or day so you can just - I dunno SHOP or go out to the spa = I wish I lived closer. i would watch the chickies for you! Sending hugs!
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WINDEE52
10/31/2010 4:41PM
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Thanks for the responses everyone. I do need to mention that it is not my husband who is prohibiting me from going out. He is a police officer and works 4pm-12am and 8pm-4am shifts and the shifts rotate. He gets a weekend off once every 6 or so weeks. I'm not mad at HIM, more like the SITUATION. 
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LIL_EZZY
10/31/2010 4:19PM
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I do know where you are coming from. When I was at home with the kids I too went stir crazy. It is hard to all we do and have no time for our own sanity. Kids grow up really quickly and soon enough you will have your freedom back. I used to be really hostile about the fact that I didn't have a life outside the kids but now they are getting older I promise it isn't as hard. Maybe you should talk to your husband and just ask for some time out a couple of times a month just so you don't go mental....
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RAINBOWFALLS
10/31/2010 12:09PM
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We all have our moments and we all deserve some Me time. It takes a special person to be a stay at home mom. Good Luck to you. 
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MARLIMOO
10/31/2010 10:17AM
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Totally- I hear you. He needs to pull back and give you a night away. You need it. You are human and you are you. Just need to reconnect to that and then you can bounce back. See if that can work? Good luck sister!
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DOUGLYE
10/31/2010 9:21AM
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YOU have the tougher job (I hope your husband realizes it). Tough it out. Our kids have great memories of home life as they were growing up. The rewards are not immediate, but they are there. Doug 
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ABETTERJILL
10/31/2010 9:16AM
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You're perfectly legitimate to feel this way. Being a stay at home mom is the toughest job there is & you deserve a break! Maybe ask your hubby nicely :)
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