Sunday, October 07, 2012
I am sure most of you have heard of Jennifer Livingston's response to the private email that was sent to her suggesting that since she is overweight that she is not a good role model to young girls in her position as a newscaster. Her husband posted it on his Facebook page and it went viral. Jennifer's response was that whoever sent that email is a bully.
OK, the email hurt her feelings, but I do not think the author of the email is a bully. I think that the bullying only exists in her mind. Albeit, the guy might have been insensitive by sending the email, but he just gave his opinion that as an overweight newscaster she was not a good role model for young women and that hurt her feelings.
My husband and daughter are overweight and I often make suggestions to them that they need to change the way the are eating. OMG!!! According to Jennifer, I might possibly be classified as a bully; especially if I say something that might hurt their feelings.
In my situation, I have done research on nutrition and discovered certain foods are more beneficial than others for one's health and for losing weight. I have shared this information with both my husband and daughter. At times, when I was not too busy, I prepared their meals according to a particular plan. At other times, I am too busy doing other things and since they are sitting in the house doing not much of anything, I feel that they can fend for themselves.
My husband tells me that the reason he has not lost weight is because I do not cook all his meals for him and he has to prepare his food. What? ! This frustrates me to no end. He places the blame on me and my not cooking every meal for him for his failure to lose weight. He knows what food choices to make that will give him a higher nutrient value with less calories than other foods. But he likes to eat those others foods; he is a meat and potatoes kind of guy and he makes the higher calorie foods for himself.
So, am I a bully when I remind him that he ought to lose weight and needs to make lower calorie food choices? I do not think so.
I see denial and excuses as to his weight issues. Why is it that it is so hard for some, even myself at times, to accept responsibility for one's actions? Oh yeah, I remember now, it is part of human nature. According to the Biblical account of man, it is natural to point your finger and blame someone else for your failure to do what you are suppose to do, (As a side note, I do find humor in the creation blaming the Creator for his failure to do what he was supposed to do.)
On a serious note, I struggle with the same thing and want to blame my husband because I cannot control my sweet tooth. But I know that he is not responsible for what I put into my mouth. I make the choice as to what I eat or do not eat. I am accountable for my actions and there are consequences to whatever action I take, good or bad.
The lesson I learned in all this is that it is important to choose one's words and actions carefully, even though a negative impact may not be intended, the other person may perceive it to be an attack on their self-esteem. I need to be careful to be more sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of another; and don't be sensitive to what other people think. Also, being a role model is not limited to how one looks. There are many other attributes a person has that can serve as a positive role model for young men and women.
I guess it is summed up in, "If you cannot say anything nice, then don't say anything at all."
Tuesday, October 02, 2012
Blue Cross and Blue Shield has this commercial where this woman is shopping and it is obvious that she is overweight and she is filling her grocery cart with soda pop, chips, candy, ice cream. While she is doing that, there is a little girl, overweight also, following her with the child sized shopping cart, putting the same items in her little cart. Then the woman turns around and looks at the child's cart and then her own. The message is "Isn't it time to start being an example to your children."
It was a great commercial and it had a great impact upon me. However, not only should we be an example, but as parents we also have a responsibility to see that our children are getting the proper nutrition they need.
It just goes to show that what we eat has an impact on more than just ourselves. I am going to really pay attention to the treats and meals I feed my grandchildren.
Monday, October 01, 2012
I have a few minutes of peace and quiet and I just realized that last Saturday I ran the last race I had scheduled for the season. It feels sort of weird, like "Now, what do I do?"
This season I did not meet my goal of a sub30, in fact I ran slower than ever on some of the races that I did. However, it was a season of firsts for me. I ran my first half marathon, half of a half trail run, 10k, 5k trail, helped my daughter and granddaughter both get new personal best times. Best of all, I got my three year old grandson interested in running races.
Although I may have been running slower this year I noticed that I feel stronger as a runner. Lately, when I am out running I realize that I no longer feel like that awkward runner:
Giggles aside, I am giving serious thought to signing up for a half marathon again this spring, but this time I want to focus on a better time. But I have time to think about that one.
Saturday, September 29, 2012
I uploaded this photo to Facebook and it located a face for me to tag. Can you find it?
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