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Sunday, June 13, 2010

Happy Sunday! I am still not feel "right". Tummy is still acting up and I have been eating very little. Yesterday I had some cream of chicken soup and added rice to it. I split it into lunch and dinner meals.

Yesterday with not feeling well I was a little bit depressed. My DH has been constantly looking for work. Every day he scouts on line, gotten local papers and put in applications at least 20+ a week. He has even applied for nursing assistant which is far from his warehouse field. He will take anything right now.

His one interview where he was told he was at the top of the list never called. He called the man 4 times with no word back. My husband just filed for his last unemployment check. Unless there is an approval of Tier 5 in the government we are going to be out of that income. Not sure what we will do after this pay period.

I was researching about the issue of passing the bill for tier 5. This is an part of what I found

** Michael Thornton of the Examiner **

"Max Baucus, of Montana and Senator Byron Dorgan, a North Dakota two senators from two states with a population less than the metro area of Rochester, NY telling those on long term unemployment that they are finished dealing with the issue of long term unemployment. They might as well say “we don’t care about the millions of people who will suffer the consequences of our actions.” I’m sure the Democrats used Dorgan and Baucus as point men to see what kind of reaction their statements will bring. You don’t hear senators from high unemployment states saying that right now. Don’t give these small state (and small minded) senators your silence; make sure you blast them with emails, faxes and phone calls as soon as you can. These guys are carrying the torch for those who would rather bail out incompetent and corrupted banks, insurance companies and brokerage houses than the working American. You didn’t hear these “cut them off and damn them all” when those banks and insurance companies came begging for relief. You, the taxpayer, put up $180 billion dollars to bailout one insurance company – AIG. Yet when it’s time to help the unemployed, your representatives say “too bad” tell them to get a job that doesn’t exist. Both parties, as I’ve mentioned repeatedly, are more concerned about campaign contributions than saving millions of Americans from financial disaster."

Seems a lot of the government think the unemployed are lazy. They think we are having the time of our lives here. All this is a little incredible to me because if you do the math my husband is making $4.92 an hour. So it would benefit us much more if he were even making minimum wage. It isn't like we are here driving a Cadillac and eating lobster.

I am still continuing to have faith that God we will be ok. He will guide us to where we need to go and do. It is all in his hands and we just need to be faithful and trust in the Lord.

I found this story, I hope you enjoy it as much I did.

The Missionary"s Defense
Author: unknown

The following occurrence was related by Missionary von Asselt, a Rhenish missionary in Sumatra from 1856-76, when on a visit to Lubeck:--

"When I first went to Sumatra, in the year 1856 I was the first European missionary to go among the wild Battas, although twenty years prior, two American missionaries had come to them with the gospel; but they had been killed and eaten. Since then no effort had been made to bring the gospel to these people, and naturally they had remained the same cruel savages.

"What it means for one to stand alone among a savage people, unable to make himself understood, not understanding a single sound of their language, but whose suspicious, hostile looks and gestures speak only a too-well-understood language,--yes, it is hard for one to realize that. The first two years that I spent among the Battas, at first all alone and afterward with my wife, were so hard that it makes me shudder even now when I think of them. Often it seemed as if we were not only encompassed by hostile men, but also by hostile powers of darkness; for often an inexplicable, unutterable fear would come over us, so that we had to get up at night, and go on our knees to pray or read the Word of God, in order to find relief.

"After we had lived in this place for two years, we moved several hours" journey inland, among a tribe somewhat civilized, who received us more kindly. There we built a small house with three rooms,--a living-room, a bedroom, and a small reception-room,--and life for us became a little more easy and cheerful.

"When we had been in this new place for some months, a man came to me from the district where we had been, and whom I had known there. I was sitting on the bench in front of our house, and he sat down beside me, and for a while talked of this, that, and the other. Finally he began, "Now tuan [teacher], I have yet one request."

"And what is that?"

"I should like to have a look at your watchmen close at hand."

"What watchmen do you mean? I do not have any."

"I mean the watchmen whom you station around your house at night, to protect you."

"But I have no watchmen," I said again; "I have only a little herdsboy and a little cook, and they would make poor watchmen."

"Then the man looked at me incredulously, as if he wished to say, "O, do not try to make me believe otherwise, for I know better!"

"Then he asked, "May I look through your house, to see if they are hid there?"

"Yes, certainly," I said, laughing; "look through it; you will not find anybody." So he went in and searched in every corner, even through the beds, but came to me very much disappointed.

"Then I began a little probing myself, and requested him to tell me the circumstances about those watchmen of whom he spoke. And this is what he related to me: "When you first came to us, tuan, we were very angry at you. We did not want you to live among us; we did not trust you, and believed you had some design against us. Therefore we came together, and resolved to kill you and your wife. Accordingly, we went to your house night after night; but when we came near, there stood always, close around the house, a double row of watchmen with glittering weapons, and we did not venture to attack them to get into your house. But we were not willing to abandon our plan, so we went to a professional assassin [there still was among the savage Battas at that time a special gild of assassins, who killed for hire any one whom it was desired to get out of the way], and asked him if he would undertake to kill you and your wife. He laughed at us because of our cowardice, and said: "I fear no God, and no devil. I will get through those watchmen easily." So we came all together in the evening, and the assassin, swinging his weapon about his head, went courageously on before us. As we neared your house, we remained behind, and let him go on alone. But in a short time he came running back hastily, and said. "No, I dare not risk it to go through alone; two rows of big, strong men stand there, very close together, shoulder to shoulder, and their weapons shine like fire."

"Then we gave it up to kill you. But now, tell me, tuan, who are these watchmen? Have you never seen them?"

"No, I have never seen them."

"And your wife did not see them also?"

"No, my wife did not see them."

"But yet we have all seen them; how is that?"

"Then I went in, and brought a Bible from our house, and holding it open before him, said: "See here; this book is the Word of our great God, in which he promises to guard and defend us, and we firmly believe that Word; therefore we need not to see the watchmen; but you do not believe, therefore the great God has to show you the watchmen, in order that you may learn to believe.""--Selected.

Have a Blessed Day!

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ROTTLADY 6/13/2010 4:33PM

    Times are appalling for our unemployed,elderly and disabled. We are part of a great country but it needs a major over haul. My eldest is unemployed and like your husband is desperately applying for any and all jobs.We need to say extra prayers and double our faith. I am sending you love and prayers that you will be feeling better. I agree with the lady about the liberty medical ads, can't they help you out? emoticon to you and your DH. emoticon emoticon Loved the blog about having faith in god. Yours is strong things will change soon.I believe this to be true.

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ROSEMARDORF 6/13/2010 4:05PM

  You are so right on with the unemployment issue!!! Thank you for the great story!! Hope you get to feeling better very soon!! I really hope your dh can find a job!! There aren't any in the town I live in either!! I hope something will turn up
very soon for both of your's hard times!! Have a great day!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 6/13/2010 11:29AM

    I will keep you and your hubby in my prayers. Thanks for sharing this lovely story. Love, Dawn

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LITTLEWIND53 6/13/2010 11:28AM

    A beautiful read. Thank you.

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MRSJERRYBUSH 6/13/2010 10:47AM

    Willo, you are well educated and good on the computer, could you do medical transcribing? Also, can't you get your diabetic supplies free through Liberty Medical? I see their add on TV all the time. Just a couple of ideas. I will continue to pray for you.

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TRISH106 6/13/2010 10:28AM

    Awesome! I truly believe that God has his watchmen over us. If we believe he will help protect us.
I have know Missionaries to be killed and or raped. But I believe that God has decided to call them home early. He will be the judge of those who harm others when they are called home.
yes, we have our system here on earth, but God has the ultimate judgement on judgement day! emoticon

I really hope your stomach problems end soon.
My brother and one of my friends have exhasted their unemployment. It is making their lives very hard. My friend has no income at this point. She has been having yard sales every couple of weeks to get money. She has been fortunated enough to have a lot of people to give her things to sale. As for my brother luckly his wife has a great paying job. They have had to really tighten their beltsquite a bit because he was making $28.75 an hour when working. $320 a week on unemployment. They have 4 kids living at home also.
I hope the teir 5 comes through and DH finds a job soon. I am praying for both of you. emoticon emoticon

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EUGENERUGOSA 6/13/2010 10:22AM

    sorry you are having money issues. I will keep my fingers crossed that your hubby finds something very soon. Take care.

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JUNETTA2002 6/13/2010 10:13AM

    My son is struggling also with unemployment. I keep thinking he will find something this week but it's been a year now. But God is good and something will turn up for my son and your husband.

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~* This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE... *~

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Happy Saturday! I slept a bunch last night. I am still very groggy. I am afraid to have coffee because my stomach is still not feeling too well.

I had a banana for breakfast and been drinking a lime sparkling water so far. I am a little sad because my husband made me a very nice salad and I can't eat it yet. Hope I get better before it spoils.

I found this story, I didn't write it. It had no author to credit. Hope you enjoy. I found it a nice reminder.

~*~ LOVE & LIFE ~*~
Author unknown

My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders.

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness.

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments, like a little girl yearning for candy. My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.

"Why? " he asked, shocked.

"I am tired. There are no reasons for everything in the world !" I answered.

He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

And finally he asked me: "What can I do to change your mind?"

Somebody said it right... It's hard to change a person's personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: "Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind.

Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"

He said: " I will give you your answer tomorrow...." My hopes just sank by listening to his response.

I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes....

My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, but....please allow me to explain the reasons further.....

This first line was already breaking my heart. I continued reading.

"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your "good friend" approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "
My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting. .. And as I continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone...

That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.

Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form ...

Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands... AND THAT'S LIFE

P/s: this is not my experience but it truly happens..lets get the moral of this story..most of the time we do not appreciate people around us, they may not good in expressing their feelings but it doesn't mean that they don't love u. If they aren't good at expressing love, then why don't we take the first step to show some love??? great day ahead my friends...

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    Nice story. Thanks for sharing it with us. I hope that you're feeling better soon. You are in my prayers. Love ya, Dawn

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FISHKNEES 6/13/2010 3:40AM

    Thank You for sharing this story...sometimes we forget what really is important...Thanks again emoticon emoticon

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ROTTLADY 6/12/2010 6:43PM

    Let me assure you that your blogs are appreciated and loved. Have no doubt of your value in my life and how m uch your stories mean to me. Hoping you are feeling better and can enjoy some of the salad your DH made for you.You are truly blessed in having him in your life. emoticon emoticon emoticon Holly

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PLAYBLUES22 6/12/2010 12:46PM

    What a beautiful story emoticon

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LITTLEWIND53 6/12/2010 12:17PM

    This is the most heartwrenching story. I so absolutely love it. Thank you for the awsome reminder.

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ROSEMARDORF 6/12/2010 12:06PM

  What an awesome love story!! Thank you for sharing it with us!! Hope you get to
feeling better very soon!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TRISH106 6/12/2010 11:54AM

    Thank you for this awesome inspirational story of true love. We all need to practice self love and unconditional love of others. marriage is a two way strret. It take true commitment of communication also. Without communication there will not be happiness.
Unfortuately I spent a long 26 yrs in a marriage that was not good for me or our children.
So if you are having problems make sure to commincate your feelings. My ex would always start a fight if I tried to communicate my feelings. i started writing letters to him he would read them and when he was ready to talk I was better able to deal with facts and not have a fighting match.

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*MADHU* 6/12/2010 11:39AM

    This was just emoticonand I really needed to read this.
emoticonfor sharing !

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~*~ John 3:16 ~*~

Friday, June 11, 2010

This is a quick post. A very sweet special spark friend sent me flowers because I hadn't changed my status in a while. She was correct. Yesterday afternoon my stomach troubles started up again. This is the third time in 2 weeks this has happened. The pain is terrible.

I went to sleep around 9pm and then was up at 11:00pm and every hour after. Each time I was up I was up for an hour even. By 6 am this morning and 4 imodium later I was still suffering. The box said not to take more than 4 in a 24 hour period. To top it off I was crying like a baby. The cramping made me feel like I was going to be sick. The only thing I could keep down was a banana milk. Milk, one banana, ice and splenda.

My doctor gave me her cell phone number and I called her a left a message. She got back with me and told me I could take up to 8. So after 7 imodium at 11 am I finally got some relief and slept for a few hours.

Talking with my doctor as for the cause I mentioned the cardiologist increased my fish oil from 2 tablets to 7. So I have cut that out for now. I just tried to eat some rice for dinner and only got a few spoons down. My blood sugar is wonderful. 106 tonight. So hoping tomorrow will be a better day.

**DH was suppose to hear from the job today. He left messages but the man never returned his call. DH is still spending hours applying everywhere.

I leave you with this nice story. Enjoy!

~*~ John 3:16 ~*~
By: Author Unknown

In the city of Chicago, one cold, dark night, a blizzard was setting in. A little boy was selling newspapers on the corner, while other people were in and out of the cold. The little boy was so cold that he wasn't trying to sell many papers. He walked up to a policeman and said, "Mister, you wouldn't happen to know where a poor boy could find a warm place to sleep tonight would you? You see, I sleep in a box up around the corner there and down the alley, and it's awful cold in there at night. It sure would be nice to have a warm place to stay."

The policeman looked down at the little boy and said, "You go down the street to that big white house and you knock on the door. When they open the door you just say 'John 3:16' and they will let you in."

So the boy walked up the steps to the door, and knocked on the door and a lady answered. The little boy looked up and said, "John 3:16."

The lady said "Come on in, Son." She took him in and she sat him down in a split bottom rocker in front of a great big old fireplace and she went off. He sat there for a while, and thought to himself "John 3:16... I don't understand it, but it sure makes a cold boy feel warm."

Later she came back and asked him "Are you hungry?"

He said, "Well, just a little. I haven't eaten in a couple of days and guess I could stand a little bit of food."

The lady took him in the kitchen and sat him down to a table full of wonderful food. He ate and ate until he couldn't eat any more. Then he thought to himself "John 3:16... Boy, I sure I don't understand it, but it sure makes a hungry boy feel full."

She took him upstairs to a bathroom to a huge bathtub filled with warm water and he sat there and soaked for a while. As he soaked, he thought to himself, "John 3:16... I sure don't understand it, but it sure makes a dirty boy feel clean. You know, I've not had a bath, a real bath, in my whole life. The only bath I ever had was when I stood in front of that big old fire hydrant as they flushed it out."

The lady came in and got him, and took him to a room and tucked him into a big old feather bed and pulled the covers up around his neck and kissed him goodnight and turned out the lights. As he laid in the darkness and looked out the window at the snow coming down on that cold night he thought to himself, "John 3:16... I don't understand it, but it sure makes a tired boy feel rested."

The next morning she came back up and took him down again to that same big table full of food. After he ate she took him back to that same big old split bottom rocker in front of the fireplace and she got a big old Bible and sat down in front of him and she looked up as she asked, "Do you understand John 3:16?"

He said, "No, Ma'am, I don't. The first time I ever heard it was last night when the policeman told me to say John 3:16."

She opened the Bible to John 3:16 , and she began to explain to him about Jesus. Right there in front of that big old fireplace he gave his heart and life to Jesus. He sat there and thought, "John 3:16, I don't understand it, but it sure makes a lost boy feel safe."

The lady then said: "You know, I have to confess I don't I understand it either; how God would be willing to send His own Son to die for you and me, and how Jesus would agree to do such a thing. I don't understand it either, but it sure does make life worth living."

John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life."

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LINDA! 6/11/2010 9:49PM

    Wishing for you a better day!!!

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ROTTLADY 6/11/2010 7:55PM

    I hope DH hears something soon about a job. I also pray your suffering is over and that you are feeling better today. emoticon emoticon emoticon.What I go through is nothing compared to what you experience daily and I feel humbled and blessed. Looking forward to your next blogs Prayer and Love Holly

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MAGA99 6/11/2010 7:45PM

    praying 4 u

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MAGA99 6/11/2010 7:45PM

    praying 4 u

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MAGA99 6/11/2010 7:45PM

    praying 4 u

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CHRYS13 6/11/2010 7:39PM

    I'm so sorry to read that you haven't been feeling well. Praying that you're better soon and that your cardiologist gets your dosing of fish oil figured out.
Blessings to you and your DH!

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INFLATED 6/11/2010 6:44PM

    I was reading last night on Face Book, a post a friend had put up about George Meuller. He set up orphanages in England and depended entirely on faith to provide for the maintenance of the building and needs of the children.
He said our first thought should be to find joy in God through the Scriptures.
"According to my judgement the most important point to be attended to is this: above all things see to it that your souls are happy in the Lord. Other things may press upon you, the Lord's work may even have urgent claims upon your attention, but I deliberately repeat, it is of supreme and paramount importance that you should seek above all things to have your souls truly happy in God Himself! Day by day seek to make this the most important business of your life. This has been my firm and settled condition for the last five and thirty years. For the first four years after my conversion I knew not its vast importance, but now after much experience I specially commend this point to the notice of my younger brethren and sisters in Christ: the secret of all true effectual service is joy in God, having experimental acquaintance and fellowship with God Himself."
"The more we know of God, the happier we are. . . . When we became a little acquainted with God . . . our true happiness . . . commenced; and the more we become acquainted with him, the more truly happy we become. What will make us so exceedingly happy in heaven? It will be the fuller knowledge of God." copied from George Mueller's Strategy for Showing God :: Desiring God Christian Resource Library
These are excerpts from what he posted about George Meuller.
Your testimony shines in the face of all of your adversities.

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ASHBUG1 6/11/2010 6:23PM

    well, glory

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0309COOKIE 6/11/2010 6:05PM

    Sorry to hear you are not feeling well Willow. Hope you feel better soon.

That was a very touching story. Thank you for sharing it.

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TRISH106 6/11/2010 6:04PM

    I am sorry you had a horrible night. I hope your Dr. is correct about the excess fish oil. I think that is your problem also. I would contact my cardio. Dr and let him know your system can not handle that large dose.
Glad to hear BS is down but not this way.

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Thursday, June 10, 2010

Happy Thursday! I am a little later in blogging today. I was sleepy and tummy was a little upset so I tried to nap a bit this morning. Plus my arthritis in my hip and knee were bothering me. Of course my DH (who is still well since yesterday ) was doing an application where they asked him over 80 questions. His noises made sleeping a bad idea.

Then my Doctor called and she wanted to come visit me. So I gave up the "nap" idea. My Doctors name is Joann I love her to pieces. She is super nice. Well she said she was happy with my progress. Everything seemed ok so far. Sugars are better than before. I still need to be retested for my thyroid again in a few weeks. To see what the level is.

After my blog the other day about "My Secret and make a NEW Ending " with the positive affirmations I found a lot about Pessimists and Optimists. Which lead me into a whole other research which I could have bored you with then. I chose to bore you today instead. Ha! .

**** Pessimists and Optimists ****

What is optimism? It is believing that there is more good in life than bad. They feel or react to lifes down times as something that can and will be fixed in their future. Optimists are those people who look at the world and things around them with "rose colored glasses". They believe that no matter what there is still good and hope in the world. There is no failure, only lessons learned, which leads to pursuing new opportunities. Each step is a move forward.

Pessimists think in the opposite way. The pessimist is the person who plays the devil’s advocate. This is the individual who responds with, “I’m just being realistic.” The reality here is that if you believe in negative outcomes. They believe that negative events are caused by them. They believe that one mistake means more will come and they feel they are the cause. Pessimists complain about the noise when opportunity knocks. Pessimists are thieves, robbing themselves of their own potential.

"Optimism makes you rich and pessimism makes you poor, not just in the wallet but in life."

Who is being realistic, an optimist or a pessimist?
Both are correct.

Optimists are realistic because if we decide to do anything that is important to us we will continue to try. Which the more times we try the better our chances are that we will succeed. We will run into obstacles and fail from time to time but we don't give up. We meet the obstacle head on with out fear or frustration.

When something goes wrong, pessimists believe the problem will continue indefinitely, affect all areas of their life, and is their fault.

So how do pessimists become optimists??????

"One of the greatest powers in the universe is individual power of choice. And the most powerful choices are positive choices." - Frederick Mann.

They need to be aware of negative self-talks. "I can't do that. I'm not good enough to . . . I'm afraid to . . . That makes me angry. No use trying since I'll probably fail." Whenever you catch yourself with a negative thought, immediately replace it with a positive one. Repetition is the key to success. This isn't something you can do today and then never work on again. You need to do this a little each day to develope and make it a habit.

You need a willingness to examine your thoughts. A few extra minutes to consistently reexamine your thought patterns. Keep in mind that the more you practice challenging your thought patterns, the more automatic it'll become. Don't expect major changes in thinking right away, but do expect them to become ingrained over time.

Try reading and re-reading the Optimist Creed


Promise Yourself -

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.

To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

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RASCALSMOMMA 6/11/2010 7:50AM

    Ever hear this one? "There's no such thing as a realistic optimist; you're either a realist OR an optimist". Thanks for setting us all straight (including that guy, wish I knew who said it!)

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EBLOOMING 6/11/2010 2:39AM

    I love your blog! emoticon

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ATHENASPAL 6/10/2010 10:12PM

    Thanks for the great blog! It reminds me to continue to look for the positives in challenging situations.

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BIBLIOMANE40 6/10/2010 8:09PM

    Very nice blog post! I am MOSTLY an optimist! I can get in moods sometimes - but overall, I am optimistic! I love the optimist's creed - I am going to put it into my motivational journal if that is ok?!

Sherry emoticon

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ROTTLADY 6/10/2010 7:10PM

    I guess DH didn't get the job at the warehouse. I was hoping, praying and had my fingers crossed. I am glad your blood sugars are improving. Take it easy this weekend and rest up. Your blog is fantastic. I expect and get the best from you. emoticon Holly

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TRISH106 6/10/2010 6:52PM

    This blog was great. I really needed to read and copy it. I have been struggling with negative feelongs lately. I know what I need to do, it is wanting to figure out how I am going to approach the person lovingly that is hard.

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ROSEMARDORF 6/10/2010 5:24PM

  Very good blog Willow!! I needed that today!! emoticon emoticon emoticonIt is always wonderful to
hear from you!!! Have a great night!

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    Very interesting.

I've always thought that I was an introverted extrovert!
AND that I'm an optimist with alternative ideas of looking at things. I twist words and ideas around, and use it to my advantage. To me it is entertaining, to others, it's probably bothersome.

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RINDY64 6/10/2010 2:46PM

    Thanks for sharing....I love the optimist creed at the end....those are things I am trying to learn to live by!

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MRSJERRYBUSH 6/10/2010 2:15PM

    Very nice post, Willow. Let us all strive to be optimists!

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** Can I kill my Husband? How much time would I get in jail? **

Wednesday, June 09, 2010

I mean my blog title in jest.

Don't call the cops.


Yesterday I was on the computer when my neighbor came over to borrow our cat carrier. Mind you this is a woman who lets her cats run wild and she just had more kittens. That is a whole other story that makes me mad. My husband found it and took it over to her. About 10 mins later in comes my husband holding the cutest 7 week old calico kitten. DH says "Do you want her?"

Now if you read my blogs we are in a financial crunch right now. We have 7 cats, 2 dogs and a bird. You might be thinking what is one more? At least that is what I am sure my husband is thinking. All of our cats are inside cats and they have all been tested for feline leukemia and aides. When ever we got a "new" cat that is the one thing other than shots I made sure of.

She was SO adorable and kept staring at me! This picture isn't her but to give you an idea of what I went through. UGH!

After my husband left to take her back. I got to thinking. Sometimes I think too much. Back a few years ago we had 9 cats. one of our cats got pregnant before we could get her fixed. She had 3 kittens. One was small, one medium and one large. The small and the large one were still born. The only one that survived was the middle one who we named Angel. She did have some hip problems and a crooked tail. She was my husband's baby. Angel's dad suddenly passed away on us out of the clear blue. There hadn't been anything wrong with him. Angel's mom was a 6lb tiny cat and angel was full grown 4 lbs.

She was only with us for about 2 years and she died suddenly as well. My husband took her death really hard although he would never admit it. So I was feeling so guilty. I really would like to keep the kitten. But the realistic side of me knows we can't afford it.

I reminded my husband we can't afford it. We also need to have Flurry tested yet to see why she is losing hair and why some of her hair isn't growing back. Flurry health wise is doing fine other than some allergies making her eyes tear a lot. I researched and think it might be her thyroid. That test and office visit is about $260 with office visit.

So my husband later asks me to call our vet to see how much it would be for shots and tests. So I knew it would be too much. So I called figured I would check anyway, knowing it would be expensive. Office visit, shots and test about $150. So even to make myself feel better I called around. I did find a clinic that was much cheaper. There was about $106 with all shots, tests and visits.

The nurse was really nice. She said it would be better if the kitten was kept isolated for 10 days to make sure that if she were tested positive it could be because of the mother's milk. If we would wait the test would be better and her immune system would be stronger. It is still too much though.

While I was on the phone with the nurse I mentioned Flurry's problem and if we get her past medical records to have her tested it would be about $110. When I mentioned the cost at the other vet she asked if they were going to remove it to test. Ha! So even though it was not affordable for the kitten, I did find a better way to get Flurry's test done.

I reminded my husband that I didn't think she would have too much trouble finding homes. But at the same time made me sad because in a shelter the kittens are the first to be adopted and that would mean another full grown cat would be in danger of being put to sleep. Prime example if you go to petfinder.org there are SO many animals that are up for adoption. It really bothers me.

This might sound silly but, you know how people want to hit the lottery so they can be wealthy. My wish is that I hit the lottery buy a house on a huge property and adopt all unwanted animals. I have always wanted to adopt older children not placed because they weren't babies. This would be a win, win situation. For me I would finally get to share the love in my heart. The children and animals a loving home. The children would learn responsibility and compassion by helping care for the animals with me.

So if you made it through my tale I give you credit. I do have this problem of explaining myself too much. It gets on my husband's nerves sometimes. I know it use to annoy my Mom when I was growing up. Ha!

Have a lovely day!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

RASCALSMOMMA 6/11/2010 8:02AM

    Glad you found a cheaper price for Flurry. When I contemplated gettiing Ras; I used the bible example of (paraphrasing) "Who of you when about to build does not first sit down and calculate the cost, otherwise he may not have enough to finish it and people will laugh at him, saying, 'He started but was unable to finish" Ras has been with me seven years (and still living) and he is my first pet that did not come with the idea "If it doesnt work out he can go"! Hugs Laurie

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CINABEE 6/10/2010 4:32PM

    Great blog! Love the kitten too.

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AZCUPCAKE 6/10/2010 2:00PM

    You are just too precious. I love the way your mind works. You are VERY eloquent, never long-winded, and your stories are always worth reading. I always learn something from you. I feel blessed that you take the time to share your stories and not keep all of those treasures in your head!!!! I love your idea regarding having a big house for all of the unwanted children and pets in the world. You could be the mistress of the house, and everyone would absolutely love you to pieces. That is what my idea of winning the lottery would be for you, too!! Because I know that is what would make you feel rich -- being able to take care of and give love to all of those people and pets who don't have the love they need now.

You are the best, did you know that Willow????? emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    Always love your blogs

that kitten is just too cute too

I loved your title, catch phrase

It reminded me of a friend that I had about30 years ago, telling my age, LOL

He had a beautiful wife and always said (with her able to hear) if he'd killed her on the honeymoon, that he would have already been out of prison! Meaning that he was still imprisoned by her, LOL.

Thanks for stirring up my ol' memories

Have a SPlendid Day!

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IAMGLENDA 6/9/2010 9:32PM

    I am a sucker for abandoned puppies and adorable kittens. I would have a hard time with that...Good luck!

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BIBLIOMANE40 6/9/2010 7:34PM

    Oh I would so want to have that kitten too :) I love your idea of the big house with the unwanted pets and older children! Sounds like a good book idea!

Best of luck!


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MOMELA79 6/9/2010 7:20PM

    We have the same lottery plans!!!!! I totally plan to have a huge animal farm when I win! No cats though because I'm allergic.

I got it! When I win, you'll have to take all the cats! Deal?


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    I am so proud of you! Keep up the good work my friend. Love, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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ROSEMARDORF 6/9/2010 5:54PM

  It is hard to resist a cute kitten!! You are doing well with that!! LOL Your Dh has his heart in the right place. You take care!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CURVYMEG 6/9/2010 4:36PM

    I totally get it. My husband was ready to kill me a few years ago.

My daughter and I had an open afternoon with nothing to do. I desided to take her to the pound. I thought it would be a fun outing.

While there we fell in love with a GIANT black cat with huge yellow eyes and giantic canines. His name was Freddy and was as mellow as they get. Looking over his notes, his family had to give him up because he was marking in the house. There was a member of the family that was terminally ill and the machines freaked him out.

I called my non-cat husband and he begruginly agreed. We went off to petsmart to get the supplies we needed.

When we got back to the shelter, one of the workers told me she had a deal for me. Freddy had a mom who was eleven years old and unadoptable. They were going to have to put her down. They would just give her to me if I would take her.

I again called my non-cat husband and explained the two for one deal. I must have caught him at the right moment as he agreed to both cats.

Long story short. Both cats could not stand my husband:(.


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MAGA99 6/9/2010 1:58PM

    I was ready to offer u the use of my freezer so u wouldnt get caught emoticon

Sometime our firedept will do free shots maybe they could tell u of a place

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TRACIEO3 6/9/2010 12:57PM

    You are truly a doll, and yes, you explain too much but that is something I can totally relate to.! I am a volunteer for my local shelter and for a retriever rescue here in my state of colorado and nearly every day I get a new email, " can one of you volunteers foster this animal?" UGH, it breaks my heart to see them all. Keep up the good work and the wonderful kind heart you have is something to cherish!

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RED_RIDING_HOOD 6/9/2010 12:46PM

    I know what you mean I love pets and because of my husband I have only 1 dog and 2 birds; however; I volunteer at an animal rescue place in town and get all the love and affection I can take without bringing them home.

On the practical side you might want to consider contacting rescue (non kill) shelters and talk to them they might have coupons or other offers to assist in testing and spay/neuter the kittens and cats. Not sure if you have the stomach for it (I cannot do it) but you can actually purchase all the shots and tests over the web and do it yourself including rabies, distemper, feline leukemia and so on. OK now you will want to kill me LOL

I know it is very difficult to say no and you are the best person to make that determination

Best of luck to you.

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LESA2.0 6/9/2010 12:42PM

    I have the same dream if I win the lottery -- to have a no-kill shelter on lots of land and take in any pet who comes my way. I agree with you about older child adoption, too. My hubby and I adopted two toddlers from Russia 5 years ago. They are now 8-1/2 and 7 and are our little angels. Sounds like we are kindred spirits. :)

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PAMNANGEL 6/9/2010 12:26PM

    I know where you're coming from. I've got 5. Found Samuel under a dumpster when he was 5-6 weeks old. Milan came from a local rescue at 9 months. Donnie and Joey were born to a feral mom under the house next door. I trapped them at 7-8 weeks. Max was found in a backyard at about 6 weeks. He was referred to me by a rescue that didn't have any more room. Max has some emotional issues (anxiety, OCD), otherwise everyone is healthy and happy. I'm currently saving to buy a house for them. I will, of course, sleep in the servants quarters.

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MADDEELOU 6/9/2010 11:54AM

    Boy can I relate to your story. Our all time high with cats was 12--all neutered, vaccinated and spoiled rotten (and all cats nobody else wanted). We are now down to four. This past winter the last of my girls died so I told my husband to be prepared because I was going to want another cat sometime this spring. Well, we went to our local Big R to get our son a new sleeping bag and came home with a sleeping bag, fishing lures and a new kitten. The local no kill shelter was there and they had a cat I completely fell in love with.

She turned out to be Felv +. I probably should have taken her back but I just couldn't do it. The other three cats are vaccinated against it and they all hate her anyway so hopefully they will stay well. With the vaccine, they are 95% covered. It was a risk I was willing to take.

Here is a link to some of the pets we have had in the past, if you are interested.


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KLUVSTFORMERS 6/9/2010 11:41AM

    naww dont kill him, hes heart is in the right place, even if his mind isnt thinking..lol

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NEWYEARME 6/9/2010 11:39AM

    I'm such a sucker for animals. And I LOVE cats. I couldn't work in a shelter...I would want to bring them all home.


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FVHORVATH 6/9/2010 10:38AM

    I feel the same way at times and it's not because of a precious little kitty. The Jail time is just not worth it. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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4ANEWME2DAY 6/9/2010 10:35AM

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    emoticon emoticonHard to resist!

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THOMS1 6/9/2010 9:54AM

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RSKMOM 6/9/2010 9:45AM

  Sometimes your blog title applies to me, lol!

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I*AM*BLESSED 6/9/2010 9:25AM

    What a wonderful wish you have!

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(¸.• ♥ Cheri ♥

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MAWMAWTAMERA 6/9/2010 9:24AM

  To answer the blog title "no" and "a whole lot of it"! Glad you did go past emotions and chose practical in this case; even though it was hard. This is just another step toward you changing up how the finances are for you both. Your DH will see that in time as well.

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MYFEETHURT 6/9/2010 9:04AM

  I know seeing that cute little face is hard to resist. And your husband obviously doesn't think about the reality of the cost...just that he loves animals and sees a cute little kitten in his hands. In a way that is very heart warming to me. But honestly...you can't keep them all. If you are going through money woes...just be happy you can take care of the wonderful pets you have right now. You're a good "MOM" to them. Be happy with that knowledge. Continued blessings your way. mary

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CAMSMOM918 6/9/2010 8:57AM

    What a kind and compassionate person you are. I hope that your dreams come true.

My vet used to give "multi-cat" discounts . . . have you ever asked for that consideration? I used to have 4 (in a small apt. in NYC - lol) and at one time, had the same 4 with a rabbit! I'm so allergic to them now, but I miss the love.


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KISMET10-3 6/9/2010 8:53AM

    That face is difficult to resist, but you did the right thing. If you can't afford it, you can't afford it and if you didn't have this kitten's health checked out, it could affect the rest of your pet family.

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LINDA- 6/9/2010 8:49AM

    I hope your wish comes true so you can open that much needed shelter. emoticon emoticon

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DEBBIEKAY1 6/9/2010 8:40AM

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STRIVINGDLY 6/9/2010 8:39AM

    awww look at that face

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