Thursday, November 12, 2009
I wanted to share my take on depression. I know there are a lot of people that deal with it and it is a really "illness". I know the market of prescription drugs is huge. They all have side effects to boot. I know I take a drug for my neuropathy that is used for seizures and depression. I find when I don't take it I get a little down. But can you imagine one drug to treat 3 different things? In general I always try to fight to be positive and looking at the "up" side to everything.
I know I try to be encouraging to others when they are having a bad day. This makes me feel better. Half the time I feel like I shouldn't be entitled to comment on peoples pages or blogs because just look where I am at. Some who don't know me must think "who is she to give advise". But I try to help never the less. I try to word things in a positive way. I hope not to offend or hurt anyone. I mean everything with the best of intentions.
What got me started on this train of thought and lead me to this blog is my health care worker Linda. She always says how depressed she is and all that she does daily and about her marriage and how her Husband isn't as affectionate as he once was. Now I know she is a busy lady with myself and another client, plus her own home. I am no way saying she isn't a hard worker. But sometimes if her husband is on the phone (he is at work) and he says one wrong thing or is impatient she takes it the wrong way. She lets that get to her because he is busy. Everytime it happens she tells me or even puts him on speaker phone so I can hear.
I normally talk to her and try to get her to understand that he is just busy and not to let it make her sad. I normally succeed. I try to help her to enjoy everyday as the gift it is. Since she has been coming to care for me she says I have helped her in looking at things differently and she is less depressed. So I was wondering if I might be able to help others by what works for me.
Being a shut in and staring at the same 4 walls all the time. I have only gotten away from here for hospital stays over the last 2 years. Looking at my life and how my home is arranged. Heck not many people go to the bathroom in their living room. Or bathe out of a basin. I could be all sorts of depressed. I could sit and curl up and give up. But I don't.
I CHOOSE to be happy. Believe me it is a struggle some days. But it is a struggle I win. I try to always win. How do I do it? Well I keep myself busy. I use my blog as a job of sorts so it is a task I do daily. I plan my day as anyone who goes out of their home. I keep time limits on myself to break up my day. I try to find inspiration in every little thing. My four legged kids help me a lot. I like to read inspirational stories of course that I share with everyone.
God is my main motivation. He is who leads me to blog about my thoughts and allows me to honest with my self and others. I feel with all my health problems which were entirely fault, I should be dead by now. But God has more plans for me and he isn't ready for me yet.
I think of people around the world and how they have it. The list below is one I have posted on my blog before but I wanted to post it again so you will understand my BIGGEST tool in keeping positive. It puts my whole life in perspective for me. Especially the "ifs".
So I think I twisted your arm long enough. Ha! I am so long winded at times. God Bless and wishing you a wonderful day!
As you read this and are reminded how life is in the rest of the world, remember just how blessed you really are!
~***If we could shrink the earth's population ***~
If we could shrink the earth's population to a village of precisely 100 people, with all the existing human ratios remaining the same, it would look something like the following.
There would be:
14 from the Western Hemisphere, both north and south
8 would be Africans
52 would be female
48 would be male
70 would be non-white
30 would be white
70 would be non-Christian
30 would be Christian
89 would be heterosexual
11 would be homosexual
6 people would possess 59% of the entire world's wealth and all 6 would be from the United States.
80 would live in substandard housing
70 would be unable to read
50 would suffer from malnutrition
(ONE)1 would be near death;
(ONE)1 would be near birth;
(ONE)1 (yes, only 1) would have a college education;
(ONE)1 (yes, only 1) would own a computer.
When one considers our world from such a compressed perspective, the need for acceptance, understanding and education becomes glaringly apparent. And, therefore . . .
**If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of this world.
**If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week.
**If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace, you are among the top 8% of the world's wealthy.
**If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest, torture, or death, you are more blessed than three billion people in the world.
**If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation, you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.
**If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful, you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.
**If you can read this message, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Sorry I am late in blogging today. Been a busy day for me. I had 2 ultrasound tests on my heart and upper arteries and now on Friday they are coming to do my lower extremities.
This is a reminder that Veteran's day isn't just another Holiday, Vacation day or a day with no banks or mail.
For 90 years, the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month has been a remembrance of those who served America in time of war.
But the Nov. 11 Veterans Day commemoration began as a day to celebrate peace — The silencing of the guns of World War1, "The Great War," which claimed the lives of more than 15 million soldiers and civilians.
On that day in 1918, at the 11th hour, Germany signed an armistice with the Allied Powers — including the U.S., France, Britain, Japan and Italy — ending major hostilities in a war that nearly wiped out a generation of men.
A full peace was concluded the next year in France at the Palace of Versailles, and the first Armistice Day was proclaimed and celebrated by President Woodrow Wilson on the anniversary of the ceasefire: Nov. 11, 1919.
BUT DID YOU KNOW....
5 things you didn't know about Veterans and how you can support them.
260,000 veterans will be homeless this year.
WHO IS DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
The National Coalition for Homeless Veterans offers resources and technical assistance for a national network of community-based service providers and agencies that provide emergency and supportive housing, food, health services, job training and placement assistance, legal aid and case management support for hundreds of thousands of homeless veterans each year. Over the past six years, the NCHV and their partner organizations have collaborated with the Department of Veteran Affairs to halve the number of homeless veterans in America.
HOW YOU CAN HELP
You can help veterans in your community by volunteering at a shelter, being a mentor or legal aid, organizing a Stand Down program or developing a veteran burial program in your area. Check out the community-based vet organizations that need volunteers in your area.
You can also advocate for homeless veterans in your local government and community. Or donate directly to the NCHV.
As many as 35 percent of Iraq Veterans have or will experience Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The NIMH defines PTSD as "an anxiety disorder that can develop after exposure to a terrifying event or ordeal in which grave physical harm occurred or was threatened." People who have PTSD have persistent frightening thoughts and memories, can feel emotionally numb and can have trouble sleeping or being startled easily.
WHO IS DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
Give An Hour provides mental health services free of charge to U.S. troops and their families. Mental health professionals volunteer to treat patients free of charge, and once their treatment is completed, troops and their family are encouraged to give back to their community by volunteering with a nonprofit organization in their area.
HOW YOU CAN HELP
In addition to pro-bono work by mental health professionals, Give an Hour needs volunteers who are knowledgeable in administration, communications, fundraising and event management. You can also donate directly to the organization.
There are more than 5.5 million U.S. veterans living with a disability.
WHO IS DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
Disabled American Veterans provides services, outreach and advocacy to veterans in need across the country.
HOW YOU CAN HELP
Through DAV, you can volunteer to drive vets to and from VA hospitals and clinics, volunteer at your local VA hospital, or provide special services to the sick and disabled veterans in your community. You can also donate to support their services.
184,251 troops are currently on the ground in Iraq and Afghanistan, according to the Pentagon.
WHO IS DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT
There are many organizations that can facilitate transport of letters and care packages to our troops on active duty. One nonprofit, Give2TheTroops has provided care packages and letters to one million deployed U.S. troops. Since 2002, they've shipped 86,000 large boxes and 20 million letters and cards from caring citizens.
HOW YOU CAN HELP
With the holidays right around the corner, Give2TheTroops is organizing a "seasonal sights sounds and sweets" drive to send festive care packages to while they are abroad. The nonprofit has a huge list of suggested goods that you can donate to spread holiday cheer for the troops that receive the care packages. You can also work with friends and local groups in your community year-round to make care packages of the most popular items requested from troops to send through Give2TheTroops. The organization also accepts donations to cover their administration and mailing costs.
When veterans return from war, they expect the government to care for their needs and to keep the memory of their fellow soldiers alive. But often they find that the government is slow to help, or in some cases, can't help them at all. That's why community organizations have stepped forward to fill that gap. Some nonprofits, like the ones above, cater to a veteran's specific need. Others, like the National Veterans Foundation strive to provide comprehensive aid to our service men and women:
****Posted on the Huffington Post by Victoria Fine****
Another organization that does wonderful things for Soldiers is "Soldiers Angels" you can just write a letter to those serving in the war and wouldn't recieve letters otherwise.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Been fighting infections I have a few of them. They make my sugar high and make me sleepy. zzzz I called the doctor and they are suppose to come out to look at it. Ok, you might be imagining all sorts of things. This is gross but, I have to explain. The infections are a type of boil. I have been using black ointment and they aren't going away. I thought I had 2 then during my bath Linda found 2 more. So no wonder I have been feeling like I am dragging around.
I couldn't wait to post this when I found it. I didn't write it but found it in my searches. It was a Wonderful read. Enjoy and have a GREAT DAY!
This story is directed at those who choose not to believe in God and for those who experience any doubt of His presence and/or existence. I recently came across a true story about a woman in Fort Myers, Florida whose mother was dying. It is my hope that this story may touch you in the same way it touched my heart. The story, some of which is in the exact words of this woman is as follows:
*****For Those Who Doubt*****
I was fortunate to be able to sit at my mother's bedside and have lots of talks with her during her last weeks on earth. Most of her last month was spent in a hospital until we went to Hospice House. I knew Hospice helped people die but I didn't know they had a 16 room home in Fort Myers where people could come and die in peace. We had many conversations as she drew closer and closer to death and spoke many times about death and heaven.
In one such conversation about heaven I said: "Mom, well... could we have a secret, something just between us? I know it's going to sound crazy. But if you die and when you get to heaven, if it's more than you ever dreamed it would be, if you are all right and see God and Jesus, would you send me one red rose?"
This was a very special moment between me and my mother an eternal moment. She said, "Yes, I'll do that."
A week later I said, "Look mom about our secret, I'll be on earth and you'll be in heaven. How are you going to get a rose to me?" She said to me without reservation "Honey, God can do anything!"
Shortly after that on September 16,1997 her mother died. As you can imagine this was not a wonderful time. So much to do with funeral arrangements that the woman forgot completely about the secret she and her mother had shared. Then at the funeral home, during the wake a strange thing happened. Let me share this in the woman's words.
All of the sudden in the back of the funeral home I caught a glimpse of an elderly gentleman with a cane. I didn't know him. I was sure that I had never seen or met him before. I turned and looked at him... as he knelt down at my mother's coffin and placed in her hands just one beautiful red rose. I walked over to him and inquired what made him bring the rose. He said, "oh honey, for some reason all day today I had a red rose on my mind, all day I have been thinking about it. I just knew I had to get one red rose for your mother.""
Now if you're like me, you have tears streaming down your cheeks right now. Let me suggest to you that God is real and sometimes in His graciousness and love, He will, for just a moment pull back the curtain and allow us to see beyond our limited view of life and death.
Right now if you believe this story and it has touched your heart, isn't it about time you got right with God and accepted His Son into your heart. Don't wait because if you do it may be too late. Accept Christ today as your Lord and Savior and become part of the eternal kingdom of God. After all heaven was more than this woman's mother.
--- Author Unknown
Sunday, November 08, 2009
Not a whole lot going on here. Been a very pleasant weekend.
Over the last week I know I have told you about how grumpy my husband as been. I know he has been down about an old friend who passed away. The viewing was on Wednesday and ever since he has done a 180. I know there were a lot of old friends that would be there. They aren't exactly the type I wanted him to re-connect with if you understand my meaning.
When I asked if he knew anyone else there, he said a lot of people but he couldn't remember their names. Not sure if looking back at his life then and what he has built and accomplished with our life together made him appreciate it more or not. At least I would like to think so. When we first moved in together he had one garbage bad of things. In it was mostly clothes. Other than two photos of his son he didn't have anything else.
He had been living with a co-worker and didn't have driver's license let alone a car. He has come SO far. I am very proud of the man he has become. I worry about old influences at times. I mention this to him before he want to the viewing. I have prayed that God watch over him and help him stay the path.
Here is the Parable of the Pushups. Couldn't find an author to give credit to but it was a nice story.
Have a Great Day!
~*~ The Parable of the Push-Ups ~*~
There was a boy by the name of Steve who was attending school in Utah. Brother Christianson taught at this particular school. He had an open-door policy and would take in any student that had been thrown out of another class as long as they would abide by his rules. Steve had been kicked out of his sixth period and no other teacher wanted him, so he went into Brother Christianson's class.
Steve was told that he could not be late, so he arrived just seconds before the bell rang and he would sit in the very back of the room. He would also be the first to leave after the class was over. One day, Brother Christianson asked Steve to stay after class so he could talk with him. After class, Bro. Christianson pulled Steve aside and said, "You think you're pretty tough, don't you?"
Steve's answer was, "Yeah, I do."
Then Brother Christianson asked, "How many push-ups can you do?"
Steve said, "I do about 200 every night."
"200? That's pretty good, Steve," Brother Christianson said. "Do you think you could do 300?"
Steve replied, "I don't know... I've never done 300 at a time."
"Do you think you could?" Again asked Brother Christianson.
"Well, I can try," said Steve.
"Can you do 300 in sets of 10? I need you to do 300 in sets of ten for this to work. Can you do it? I need you to tell me you can do it," Brother Christianson said.
Steve said, "Well... I think I can... yeah, I can do it."
Brother Christianson said, "Good! I need you to do this on Friday."
Friday came and Steve got to class early and sat in the front of the room. When class started, Brother Christianson pulled out a big box of donuts. Now these weren't the normal kinds of donuts, they were the extra fancy BIG kind, with cream centers and frosting swirls. Everyone was pretty excited-it was Friday, the last class of the day, and they were going to get an early start on the weekend.
Bro. Christianson went to the first girl in the first row and asked, "Cynthia, do you want a donut?"
Cynthia said, "Yes."
Bro. Christianson then turned to Steve and asked, "Steve, would you do ten push-ups so that Cynthia can have a donut?"
Steve said, "Sure," and jumped down from his desk to do a quick ten.
Then Steve again sat in his desk. Bro. Christianson put a donut on Cynthia's desk. Bro. Christianson then went to Joe, the next person, and asked, "Joe do you want a donut?"
Joe said, "Yes."
Bro. Christianson asked, "Steve would you do ten push-ups so Joe can have a donut?" Steve did ten push-ups, Joe got a donut. And so it went, down the first aisle, Steve did ten pushups for every person before they got their donut. And down the second aisle, till Bro. Christianson came to Scott. Scott was captain of the football team and center of the basketball team. He was very popular and never lacking for female companionship. When Bro. Christianson asked, "Scott do you want a donut?" Scott's reply was, "Well, can I do my own pushups?"
Bro. Christianson said, "No, Steve has to do them."
Then Scott said, "Well, I don't want one then."
Bro. Christianson then turned to Steve and asked "Steve, would you do ten pushups so Scott can have a donut he doesn't want?"
Steve started to do ten pushups. Scott said, "HEY! I said I didn't want one!"
Bro. Christianson said, "Look, this is my classroom, my class, my desks, and my donuts. Just leave it on the desk if you don't want it." And he put a donut on Scott's desk.
Now by this time, Steve had begun to slow down a little. He just stayed on the floor between sets because it took too much effort to be getting up and down. You could start to see a little perspiration coming out around his brow. Bro. Christianson started down the third row. Now the students were beginning to get a little angry.
Bro. Christianson asked Jenny, "Jenny, do you want a donut?"
Jenny said, "No."
Then Bro. Christianson asked Steve, "Steve, would you do ten pushups so Jenny can have a donut that she doesn't want?" Steve did ten, Jenny got a donut.
By now, the students were beginning to say "No" and there were all these uneaten donuts on the desks. Steve was also having to really put forth a lot of effort to get these pushups done for each donut. There began to be a small pool of sweat on the floor beneath his face, his arms and brow were beginning to get red because of the physical effort involved. Bro. Christianson asked Robert to watch Steve to make sure he did ten pushups in a set because he couldn't bear to watch all of Steve's work for all of those uneaten donuts. So Robert began to watch Steve closely. Bro. Christianson started down the fourth row.
During his class, however, some students had wandered in and sat along the heaters located on the sides of the room. When Bro. Christianson realized this; he did a quick count and saw 34 students in the room. He started to worry if Steve would be able to make it.
Bro. Christianson went on to the next person and the next and the next. Near the end of that row, Steve was really having a rough time. He was taking a lot more time to complete each set.
Steve asked Bro. Christianson, "Do I have to make my nose touch on each one?"
Bro. Christianson thought for a moment, "Well, they're your pushups.. You can do them any way that you want." And Bro. Christianson went on.
A few moments later, Jason came to the room and was about to come in when all the students yelled, "NO! Don't come in! Stay out!"
Jason didn't know what was going on. Steve picked up his head and said, "No, let him come in."
Bro. Christianson said, "You realize that if Jason comes in you will have to do ten pushups for him."
Steve said, "Yes, let him come in."
Bro. Christianson said, "Okay, I'll let you get Jason's out of the way right now. Jason, do you want a donut?"
"Steve, will you do ten pushups so that Jason can have a donut?" Steve did ten pushups very slowly and with great effort. Jason, bewildered, was handed a donut and sat down.
Bro. Christianson finished the fourth row, then started among those seated on the heaters. Steve's arms were now shaking with each pushup in a struggle to lift himself against the force of gravity. Sweat was dropping off of his face and, by this time, there was not a dry eye in the room.
The very last two girls in the room were cheerleaders and very popular. Bro. Christianson went to Linda, the second to last, and asked, "Linda, do you want a doughnut? Linda said, very sadly, "No, thank you."
Bro. Christianson asked Steve, "Steve, would you do ten pushups so that Linda can have a donut she doesn't want?"
Grunting from the effort, Steve did ten very slow pushups for Linda..
Then Bro. Christianson turned to the last girl, Susan. "Susan, do you want a donut?" Susan, with tears flowing down her face, asked, "Bro. Christianson, can I help him?"
Bro. Christianson, with tears of his own, said, "No, he has to do it alone, Steve, would you do ten pushups so Susan can have a donut?"
As Steve very slowly finished his last pushup, with the understanding that he had accomplished all that was required of him, having done 350 pushups, his arms buckled beneath him and he fell to the floor.
Brother Christianson turned to the room and said.
"And so it was, that our Savior, Jesus Christ, plead to the Father, "Into thy hands I commend my spirit." With the understanding that He had done everything that was required of Him, he collapsed on the cross and died - even for those that didn't want His gift.
By: Author Unknown
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