Tuesday, July 22, 2014
I forgot how great Spark People is and how well I can track everything. This past week, I came home and already lost 25pounds. Amazing I know, but honestly I have done this before and wasn't sure how much I was going to lose.
Next week will be the hardest, staying and watching the scale stay the same, which always happen.
I wanted to say THANK YOU MY FRIENDSSSSSSSS, HAPPY TO BE HOME AND LOVE AND NEEDED YOUR SUPPORT!
I am back!! Ready to go!
Monday, July 14, 2014
If you had told me a couple of years ago I would have gained all kinds of weight back, I would have laughed and said, Heck no! Friends, I came back because I have lost sight of what I was doing, my goals and everything else you can imagine. I NEED HELP!
What happened, is simple, I became depressed and shut down. I didn't do one very important thing...stay in therapy!!! This time, I am changing that.
I am doing a baby step, but I need support of my friends, if you still believe in me.
This is one of the hardest days of my life...coming back and saying OMG...I am so fat!
But I am here!!!
Good to be home,
Monday, July 16, 2012
Walking the Fat Line with Pictures!!!
Sorry for below this blog on the comments, I had to edit a former blog and add it here and ended up leaving the comments. My blog button refuses to work to allow me to add a new blog. Thanks in advance! Kristin
Please let me say first, I am sorry that I haven't been on spark in a very long time! I have missed each of you very much!
I went to the Spark Rally, hosted by Indygirl and it was wonderful to meet many new people. I know Indygirl has posted
a blog and if you haven't yet seen it, please drop by and check it out. I am going to post a few pictures here just in case
you haven't seen it.
I was a speaker, and true confessions had to come out. I had gained back weight and I didn't want to go in front of my
fellow Sparkers and admit defeat, but truth is, not one of us is perfect and I felt I had to be honest and say, yes, I have
lost a lot of weight, but in the long run, I gained back a lot too. Yes, I have still lost 200 pounds and I am proud of that,
however, I have gained back 35 ugly pounds that brought me to my knees and did this within six weeks. I can't tell you what
a huge difference this has made in my body! My back hurts again, I feel sluggish, worn to the bone and let us not talk
about the guilt and shame I allowed to swallow me! I know what my body needs and it isn't these unwanted blubber parts!
How did I manage that after maintaining after months of weight loss? It was easy, I gave way to my old eating habits and I stopped
exercising. Foolish girl I was! The only people that were happy were Dairy Queen and McDonalds to see their old fat girl back!
However, I am not here to beat myself up, nor am I here to make excuses! I am back and ready to start
again with the baby steps I have preached over and over about. Somehow, I thought I could go along and not
do the things I knew were best for me!!! I don't know how or why that happened, but I am taking control back
over my life. Actually, sitting here, I can tell you why it happened, but like I said, no excuses allowed!
I have ate clean for the past two days now and I am happy about that. I am planning clean days and of course
I am planning to eat things that I want too. I have to remember, moderation, moderation, moderation!
This has been one heck of a year and I promise myself and you, I am going to end it on a good note!
GREAT NEWS!!! Website and Support Groups coming soon!!!
Myself and a fellow Sparker are joining forces and we are going to start weekly support groups in our
area. We feel we need the added support of friends that are close and it will help us reach our goals
in helping with others. I am also starting a website that I have had in the works for over a year, called,
Losing4me.com . This is in NO WAY to compete with SparkPeople.com in fact, this will be only a
local meeting place for locals or anyone who wishes to read our blogs, or updates. I am doing this more
for myself then anyone, as I feel it is a great tool to help me continue on the road to successful weight loss!
I hope you enjoy the pictures...and please, please, if I haven't spoken to you in awhile, please, know I still
am here and loving you very much! I wish you all the very best in life and I am back to help support you on
this lifestyle journey!
Step ONE, go back to Spark People and begin ...... Check@
My son Zac, has lost 50lbs this year and is running like mad daily..five miles..I am the proud mama!!!! Even if he is wearing his goofy hat and glasses!
Me at the rally!
My sista and I at the rally!
My best friend and I at rally!!
The four Spark Girlies together again!
Spark Picture of group from the Rally! A couple pics to share!
Love ya all,
Tuesday, June 05, 2012
OMG..can you believe this?
When I started Spark, I was full of hope, but short on belief in myself. I had lost a few pounds on my own, always to gain them back.
My total weight balloned quickly to 536 pounds and I couldn't walk, couldn't breath without oxygen and ate to help myself to an early grave.
I am so happy to announce that I busted through the 5's..4's and 3's
I AM OFFICALLY 294!
Okay, I know some of you are thinking...good lord...she is happy about being 294 pounds?????
DARN TOOTIN' I AM AND I AM RAISING THE ROOF IN HAPPINESS!
Lately so many people have asked me to be friends, they say I inspire them and they feel hopeless on their own journeys to health, but I don't want to inspire, I want to help
EMPOWER them on their own success story. Everyone has a success story in them and I hope to help each of you find that story within yourselves.
Thank you for all the frienship adds, motivational messages, lovely heart felt emails and for the constant support
here on SPARK PEOPLE.
My life is changing everyday and I am proud to call SPARK PEOPLE my home and so THANKFUL for all my friends here who accept
me for the person I WAS and for NEW the person that is unfolding before your eyes.
I love you all and remember..................................
We can do anything we put our minds too...YOU GOT THIS BABY!
Much love and hugs,
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Please, find Inspiration in my blog..it is meant to inspire you.
Last night I stood next to my mother's hospital bed, holding her hand and crying, with her. In one of the rare moments yesterday, my mother recognized me long enough to say that she loved me and didn't want to go. She hasn't gone as of yet, she remains stable, but the doctor has given me two days to make a choice, she lives on a machine or I let her go naturally. She has about 5% chance of living without the machine.
Have you ever been in this position? This is terrible drama for a fat person with an emotion eating disorder. You may be asking yourself how I could write such a blog detailing my life. Like Snowangeldiva who dances when sad, happy and for pure joy, I write. I suppose it is therapeutic for me just as her dancing is to my dear friend. Even with that said my eyes are blinding me with tears so it is a good thing I can type without looking at the keys. My friends, I hurt so bad I can't stand it. I am scared to lose the one constant person who has loved me unconditionally my whole life. My mother is not just my mama, she is my best friend, she is the one person who stood by me when I was raped, through my addictions of drugs, alcohol.and my ever present food addiction. When I was 536 pounds, my mother was the only person, besides my children, who looked at me without disgust and didn't treat me as if I didn't matter.
One of my mother's last wishes has been for me to get my life back. At 536 pounds my life wasn't a life. I sat day after day on the couch, sleeping on the couch and eating on the couch, because that is what I could do. My mother believed in me that I could do more, but I didn't believe I could. About a year ago, just after all this began, my journey of a healthier lifestyle, she confided in me that she was afraid to die due to the fact she no longer thought I could take care of myself and that I would leave my children motherless. I can't begin to tell you how much joy my mother has had seeing me drop over 200 pounds, because I can get up without crying in pain, I can go into places...most of that is due to self esteem, my drive for life is coming back slowly but for sure, I get up when something is needed...this used to be a real issue. Everyone had to cater to me, now I can cater to everyone and wow is that a good feeling.
When people look at me they do see someone who is over 300 pounds, but now they are starting to open up to me, confide in me and I finally have a friend here, Martina. Martina is a person I have grown to adore as my newest and only friend in this town. She sees me for me, just like mom. I need that now more then ever. I know that 300 pounds is HUGE to anyone, but to me I feel so darn skinny compared to what I once was.
Okay, now I am rambling. If you only read one part of my blog, PLEASE READ THIS PART.
Living for one day!
My mother, who had a very hard life, taught me to be tough on the outside. Most people are scared to death of me, to me this is so silly, but my outside doesn't match my insides of who I am. My mother was so hurt in her life that she became a fierce storm to be reckoned with. No matter what happened in my mother's life she would be ready to take it on, never once did I see her back down or run and hide from anything or anyone. Me? The chicken of it all really, I would rather bury my head in sand and let her tackle those issues for me. Imagine how I gained all this weight?!
My mother was never happy. I don't think ever in her life honestly. She was in a car accident with her younger brothers and sisters, her mother and her drunken father. Everyone was killed except her father and her. She wasn't allowed as a child to talk to her father and was given to her grandparents that even at that time were elderly and had grown senile by the time she was preteen age. No one to take her or able to take her, she ended up in an orphanage and alone. By the time she was 17 yrs old she lived on the streets and learned how to do odd jobs to make money and live. Then she had me, I am sure one of her biggest regrets due to the fact she had such a hard time taking care of herself and then adding me on to it as well. My father, no help to her, was a drunk, a mobster and unknown to her at the time was a married man. I guess you can see her life just didn't get easier.
She was always, and I do mean always living for the big "ONE" day, when our lives would change for the good. When we wouldn't have to worry about how to not go hungry, which she did often to feed her children.
Her ONE day never came. She married a man who ultimately ruined the rest of her life. He beat her severely making her wear black and blue glasses daily and refused to let her go until the day he died. She had to move just to get any relief from him, but he would follow her and move around the corner from her, as crazy as he was he thought this was love. She never allowed herself to fall in love or have a relationship again in her life. This was her choice, one she made on conscience level, but one I know she must have regretted at some point in her life as she was young when she made this choice. For someone to do this, you know she must have gone through some real hell that I can't explain to you here without it being ten blogs long. I can only tell you that the life we had at that time was beyond terrifying, beyond explanation because very few people no what it is to live a life with that kind of monster and be fearful of every move you made not to set the monster in motion. In motion meant beatings and rapes for my dear mother. If you read a previous blog of mine, I explain this monster as being the one who would lock me into the closet when my mother wasn't home and would hang me with a belt, just enough so I wouldn't die. Even now as I write this I can feel the coldness and darkness of the closet and the fear I felt knowing he could do much worse and often told me how that much worse could or would be.
In the past week, I have gorged myself with food. Anything to help forget and comfort me. I have regained seven previous pounds I had lost. My mind knew better, but my body wanted a release, it was either that or go back to drinking the bottle of rum I bought that sits here in my hand. One drink of this and I will lose my ONE day. One more drop of bad food and I will lose my ONE day.
Last night I cried, God, what else do you want from me and mama? In the past two and a half months I have lost my stable home, lost of one my best friends, lost a nursing home patient I dearly loved, and now my mama which is by far the biggest loss I will have lost thus far in my life. How am I to make choices that I don't think I can live with? Where or what is the lesson here?
God answered me this morning. He made me get up out of bed even though I didn't want to. He made me feel pain, even though I didn't want to. He is making me confront my choices and made me realize today is a new day and eating unhealthy is not going to change the choices in front of me.
All of a sudden I remembered the conversation my mother had with me about living and one day I would be happy and healthy again. I didn't tell her at the time, I can't remember the last time I was truly happy. Then like a ton of brick it came to me...her one day would never ever be there for her. She knew this..knows this. This is why she kept pushing for me to have a chance to have one more day.
You may say this is a sad blog, but this blog is NOT sad darlings. It is a renew of everything good that can happen. I am going to make that ONE day happen, for me, my children and my dearest mother.
After everything I just poured out of my heart and laid on the line in this blog, I hope you too will feel inspired to stand up and take your ONE day. Start living for today, even if you are 500 pounds. We don't have much time in life, so feeling regrets is not going to make life better...we need to reach for life NOW, because your ONE day could slip by like mama's has. YOU must start taking care of YOU! Never allow yourself to live the life of regrets I have. Please, don't beat yourself up over a few pounds..just get back on track...stay on track or whatever makes you happy.
Am I happy? NO, I am not. I have to make a choice in the next couple of days that could end my mother's life. No one in her right mind would be happy. My comfort no matter what is knowing that my mother's ONE day will happen in heaven, that GOD will give her that ONE day, because she has lived hell already and she deserves so much more.
I find myself at the Fork in the road. In a few weeks from now, I believe my mother, my best friend, will be gone, my housing will vanish and I will find myself on the ONE day trip. When I have the last talk with my mother..even if she can't respond, I am going to tell her that my ONE day is coming, that I am going to find a new house, find someone that is willing to give me a chance again to work and a road to happiness and success. I am most of all going to beat this weight loss battle and I am going to do that right here at Spark People, which by the way she LOVES. She has it linked to her personal page and reads everything she can on it. She feels like Spark really helped save my life and the friends that I have found here are invaluable assets to my life. She is right.
I love Spark People, I adore all my friends here and most of all I love the support, friendship and the constant unconditional friendship you provide me. No one makes me feel as if I am not good enough, in fact, you make me feel like a super star, so all in all I would say that having my one day starts right here with Spark People.
I hope that if you read this to the end you will feel inspired to keep moving on in your life, grab your ONE day, that is today and live NOW no matter what your size, your issues, addictions or personal life. YOU and I are going to be here and we are going to make our ONE days..everyday.
Most likely, I won't be one after today for some time, due to all the things in my life. However, I want you to know that I am here in spirit and that I am thinking, praying and holding each of you in my heart. I can't tell you how much I miss you all and watching and sharing your life and journey. Please give me time to return, BUT please don't leave me by the waste side. I will be back..
Love to all and God Bless!
Your dear friend always,
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