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16th Jan

Monday, January 16, 2012

Hi everyone, The funeral was today, of course it turned out to be very hot but we had it in the morning. very nice graveside service. A huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders, knowing he is buried. He died of heart failure.
Caught up with some of his friends that I haven't seen for many years, that was really nice.Had lunch with them.
Have a appointment with the lawyer in the next couple of days, need to check when that is. LOL I forgot the day, know the time.
I will be glad when I can get back to me. Had two really restful days, needed that.

  
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I.M.MAGIC 1/18/2012 1:45AM

    PHew, what a relief, huh. I'm glad you had a few restful days. Once that lawyer is taken care of, I thing you'll find that it always takes longer than you expect for things to settle down after this kind of life event... and then it will finally really hit you.

... so take care of yourself and your son. We're here for you, sweet friend!

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CBEVNOW 1/16/2012 10:19PM

    Glad it was nice for you all. Glad you got some rest.Take care. emoticon

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WILSLM70 1/16/2012 6:15PM

    Thinking of you emoticon

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TAMI1691 1/16/2012 6:09PM

    Wendy I am sorry to hear of your sad times.
thinking of you. Amy

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CTEMPLE 1/16/2012 5:00PM

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TRYINGHARD1948 1/16/2012 3:24PM

    It's always a relief to have such an emotional event behind you. You've been fantastic through it all.

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TRUCKERWIFE2 1/16/2012 12:01PM

    I'd send you some of the snow we got last night but we need it too bad right now. 1st real snow in about a month. Usually it's up to my knees by now. Only have an inch. Glad you have the funeral over with and the house. Hope things go well with lawyer for you and son. Hoping things will calm down now for you. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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OPALMOON 1/16/2012 11:11AM

    Take care of yourself Wendy. Hot here too - 39 C tomorrow!! Hope the cool change makes it your way later in the week.

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Nattacia

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SUSIEPH1 1/16/2012 5:44AM

    Hi Wendy !!
Glad it is all over and you can get back to your life ..
You have done such a wonderful job of everything over the last few days and now you deserve to rest ...
Love and Hugs Susie emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Saturday

Friday, January 13, 2012

I am having a very restful day today, so tired and sore. Haven't done a thing only got my breakfast and lunch. Went over my parents and had a game of cards.
Thank you everyone for your support and encouragement. You have all been a tremendous support to me. Funeral is Monday. Still will take time to settle but at least the worst is over.
Today is me day to do what I want and when I want to. LOL
Good frame of mood now.

Changed my background again this is the state of Australia that I live in.

  
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TRUCKERWIFE2 1/14/2012 11:45AM

    Good for you Wendy! You really deserve this break! Have a restful day. emoticon

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I.M.MAGIC 1/14/2012 10:41AM

    Reminds me of that old McDonalds theme "you deserve a break today"... LOL

I'm glad you're taking a day for yourself, we all need it now and again...
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OPALMOON 1/14/2012 6:21AM

    Good to hear you had a quieter day Wendy. Take care.

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CLAIRE_LEFT_SP 1/14/2012 1:34AM

    I love cards! What do you play? I have hearts, spades, pinocle, gin, and solitaire of course, on my iPhone because I don't have anyone to play with. I find them so diverting - it's good for getting your mind off something for awhile.

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SUSIEPH1 1/14/2012 12:08AM

    Way to go my friend!! .
Love that you are having a Me Day .
Just rest, relax drink plenty of water and enjoy.
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CTEMPLE 1/13/2012 11:41PM

    Yay for me days! How much you've learnt dear Wendy.
A joy to see.
Claudia

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Friday 13th

Friday, January 13, 2012

woo I didn't realise that it was Friday the 13th. LOL. Nearly finished the house only have a couple of things to go now which is good because I am so tired. Hasn't been easy.
Coping okay at the moment.
Thank you everyone for your comments on all my blogs, you have all been such fabulous support for me in my time of need. emoticon

I will be so glad to be able to spend time on here again it should be in a few more days. Be so glad to rest. But then again you should see my house because a lot of htings have just been dumped in my lounge but that will wait until after I have had a rest day LOL.

  
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CBEVNOW 1/14/2012 11:22PM

    You deserve a rest after all you have been doing. Remember be good to you.

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ARTJAC 1/13/2012 11:07PM

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TRYINGHARD1948 1/13/2012 4:49PM

    You are getting there Wendy, good on you.

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CTEMPLE 1/13/2012 4:08PM

    It will be over soon, you can deal with the debris after that. You're doing great, just make sure you rest a bit every day.
Claudia

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TRUCKERWIFE2 1/13/2012 11:53AM

    emoticon emoticon You certainly deserve the rest. You can still exercise and I hope you entered moving boxes/ furniture as exercise because it still counts. The best exercise now is a nice quite stroll in your favorite spot pending the heat. Be good to yourself, dear lady. Many people on multiple continents care about you. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 1/13/2012 9:53AM

    Hang in there! Glad you're taking care of yourself.

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DUSTYPRAIRIE 1/13/2012 7:43AM

    (((hugs))) I'm sure you're overwhelmed. Keeping busy helps some, but please take time for you. I'm sendiang you a goodie I hope will help.

You are cared about!



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LINTPICKER 1/13/2012 7:17AM

    Sounds like there is a lot of movement and cleaning happening! WTG

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SUSIEPH1 1/13/2012 6:54AM

    Take your time my lovely friend .. and let yourself relax and rest ..
There must be so many thoughts and emotions running riot at the moment.
We will be here when you are ready...
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THE_HERMIT 1/13/2012 6:43AM

    be kind to your self and give you some recovery time because I am sure there will be lots of thoughts and emotions that you need time to sit with

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Thursday 12th Jan

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Feeling a lot more positive today, it has been a long hard slog. The funeral has been organised for Monday morning and it is going to be hot weather.
We are not having a wake.

One thing I have noticed that even though I am extremely stressed I am not eating. Some days I am not even reaching my calorie range. Still working down at his house. Should be finished tomorrow hopefully.

  
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I.M.MAGIC 1/12/2012 11:20PM

    I think you are one terrific lady, m'dear... and things will be better when the planning and sorting is all done... but I agree with CTEMPLE.

EAT.

Even when you don't have much appetite, you and your poor kidneys do NOT need the extra toxins created by not getting the right nutrients on a regular basis.

And don't forget to DRINK THAT WATER!

YOU MATTER, so take care of yourself too, while you're at it, okay? emoticon


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JILL313 1/12/2012 10:07PM

    Wendy, I am so proud of you as you've done a good job and handled everything well. God Bless you and your family.

Love,

Jill

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CLAIRE_LEFT_SP 1/12/2012 2:50PM

    You are very kind to take care of this for him and your children. You are a good person, Wendy. I'm sure it'll feel better after Monday.
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POPSY190 1/12/2012 1:16PM

    You are managing this distressing situation amazingly.

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1CRAZYDOG 1/12/2012 12:46PM

    Glad you're feeling better. Thoughts and prayers.

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CTEMPLE 1/12/2012 8:43AM

    Maybe too buSy, or too hot. For whatever reason it's great not to eat when we're upset.
C


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DUSTYPRAIRIE 1/12/2012 7:05AM

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HONEYBEAR1461 1/12/2012 6:16AM

    Hi Wendy, I have only just had time to catch up on things around the site.

I am sorry to hear about you ex's death. I am sorry that you have had so much thrown on you. I am glad that things are backing off a little now and also that your back has improved.

Take care of yourself dear lady. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this tough time.

Hugs,
Jennylee

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JOHNWBROCKSR777 1/12/2012 5:59AM

    Hang in there Wendy...

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SUSIEPH1 1/12/2012 5:09AM

    Glad all is working out ok !!.
Hang in there love, it will soon be all over ..
Well done on the sticking to your calories ..
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Love Susie

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11/1/12

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Thank you everyone for all your comments and concerns.

It has been hard work trying to clear all this up. Not sleeping very well either. It is emotionally draining. Just trying to help my son because he is not coping either. Such a hard and sad time. It has been made worse because my ex has no money to bury himself. Plenty in super but it will take up to 6 months to get that money.

Bit teary myself today because of all the emotional stress has been heaped on me. Starting to feel angry because of what is happening. I know he couldn't help it but why didn't he have funeral cover.

Oh well hopefully by this time next week it will all be over.

Hopefully there will be good news next time I blog. Sorry for unburdening myself but I felt I had to.

  
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THE_HERMIT 1/12/2012 3:42AM

    Wendy I am not sure if you are aware but there is financial assistance- I think about 500 dollars available to help towards costs if you contact Centrelink your son might be able to access it.

Having money in the bank and paying up front for a funeral is the way I plan on doing things- funeral cover is very iffy from what i have heard people have had problems with funds that up the money cost as your age goes up and then someone in there 70's could have paid out money for years for nothings if they miss one payment.

Having something saved away means I know for the bank I am with that my executor is allowed to have up to 3,000 dollars straight away towards costs. that is with anz bank in australia

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1CRAZYDOG 1/11/2012 5:12PM

    Hugs to both you and your son. You are feeling things that are normal, normal, normal and venting here (or anywhere!) is healthy, so dear, keep doing it1 It helps. And we're here to listen.

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CTEMPLE 1/11/2012 4:26PM

    So sorry dear Wendy that you have to go through this, when there are children, what can you do. Do not worry about us we're all here to lend you an ear.
Hope it gets better, and try to LCD yourself.
Claudia

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TRYINGHARD1948 1/11/2012 2:53PM

    It is a difficult time but you will amaze yourself with your ability to get through the next few days. Do take care of yourself. emoticon

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JILL313 1/11/2012 12:04PM

    Wendy, I'm so sorry you and your son are having to take care of everything. It's also an emotionally draining and grieving experience that will take some time to heal. It's important that YOU take good care of yourself--don't overdo it and then have more regrets. I assume your son is grown now. Is he the one that lives with you. He is also angry at his Dad for leaving him with unanswered questions and problems. I will be praying for you and all his family to get through this awful time as well as possible. You are such a caring person and it hurts you to see your soon so upset. God Bless all of you.

Love,

Jill

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I.M.MAGIC 1/11/2012 10:43AM

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Don't let your anger disturb you. It is a normal part of the grieving process, to feel angry for all the things left undone... for all the things that won't be, now. It's okay.

You are such a strong woman, m'dear, and I know it's difficult right now, but you will get through it. These things just take time, and we're all right here whenever you need us, okay?

Just remember in all this that YOU are important, and take the best care of yourself that you can. That alone will be a huge help to your son, if he knows you are there and he doesn't need to worry over you too... take a few walks together, take the time to just BE...

LOVE, my sweet friend.

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LIFE-FAITH 1/11/2012 9:30AM

    emoticon Take care of yourself. Jean

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FITTAN1 1/11/2012 6:05AM

    This time next week hopefully it will be all over Wendy and you can return to normal life again. Try not to worry because it will all turn out in the end, it has to. We are here to help whenever you need...

Remember to look after you :)

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CBEVNOW 1/11/2012 5:20AM

    Wendy, hang in there. Anger is part of the process, and i know your heart is up set . Yes he should have prepaired for this, because of his son. I know your son has such love for you for helping him through this time. We are here for you, any time. emoticon Caroline

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OPALMOON 1/11/2012 3:42AM

    Wendy, it is understandable to be experiencing these feelings. Your Spark friends are here to support you so please do not feel sorry for sharing how everything is going for you. Prayers are with you and your son.

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TRUCKERWIFE2 1/11/2012 2:42AM

    Be thankful you are here for your son. I'm sure you are not happy with your ex for putting you and your son in this position. You are a wonderful Mom to help your son during this time. It will be over soon and you can get back to your lives. Will be thinking of the two of you in the coming weeks and you are no burdon on any of us. Take care of yourself. emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEPH1 1/11/2012 1:33AM

    Hi Love !!
It has been a very unsettling time for you these last few days .. we never expect these things to happen and when they do we are thrown for a loop .
I think you are doing an amazing job and it will soon be over !!
Try to hang in there love.... If you can get through this, you can get through anything ..
Don't forget .. We are all here for you ..
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