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What to do about sore, overworked legs?

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Well. I would call it an epiphany. Yet it is so obvious, I should have arrived at it a long time ago. That is, I spend a lot of my days and nights getting up and doing things. I am the sole caregiver for my severely disabled wife. I do for her and I do for me, much of the time. That includes all shopping and anything out of the house for both of us. I am the only one who drives her. I also drink a lot of liquids during the day and night, and I am just up and down a lot. It results in muscle tightness and fatigue in my legs. A day doesn't go by that I don't have that in the evening. So, recently I was at a neurologist's office and told him about the problem, and at my request, he prescribed a muscle relaxer. He said it would be good for me to take it.

Today, I was laying in bed, muscles fatigued, and I thought about the drug and how I should be taking it, and haven't. Then, I started thinking, "what else could I do for my muscle fatigue?", when it occurred to me, "I'm carrying around about 70 extra pounds of weight! What about taking that off? DUH!" It started to sound like a pretty good idea, and I started planning my grocery list for tomorrow, cutting calories from what I would normally buy. I was thinking, after all of my resistance for these many years, I could use the nutrition tracker to document what I've eaten, and to see where I might sometimes go over on calories.

Why hadn't I thought of this previously? I have been ambling along, cutting small amounts of calories here and there, but to no avail. I am about the same weight I was at Christmas. So it's going to take some good planning. And I will up my efforts to keep my gym attendance consistent. But as of tonight, I am definitely on a new path. With 70 less pounds to lug around all day long, let's see about that muscle fatigue. Thanks for listening, Glenn

  
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MYAKAYAH 8/30/2014 2:12AM

    Have a lovely weekend Glenn, I'm trying to figure out the response about women not wanting to be known as nice lol! I don't care if I am nice a lot of the time but I don't try to be mean. I have heard I have a different personality for being female but I'm just a guy in a female's body most of the time!

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NOWYOUDIDIT 8/29/2014 9:05PM

    Well I do take the meds. Especially since we've been up north doing everything the old fashioned way! But your idea is much better! emoticon

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ICECUB 8/29/2014 7:10PM

    GLEN, THAT IS A GREAT IDEA. LOSING WEIGHT WOULD MAKE A TREMENDOUS DIFFERENCE.. THE LITTLE I HAVE LOST HELPED MY HIP AND LEG A LOT. WHEN I DID WEIGHT WATCHERS I WROTE EVERYTHING DOWN AND IT HELPED TO BE ABLE TO GO BACK AND SEE WHAT WORKED AND DIDN'T WORK. WAY TO GO WITH TAKING CARE OF YOUR WIFE. I KNOW THAT IS A FULL TIME JOB. HAVE A GREAT LABOUR DAY WEEKEND.

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NHES220 8/29/2014 10:30AM

    It will definitely make a difference Glenn. This made me smile too. I do better when I plan my meals and use the nutrition tracker. Down 63 lbs and getting up and down the stairs is much easier. I would not be training for a half marathon today at my previous weight. Good luck to you!

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KAREN608 8/29/2014 10:16AM

    For me, I have varicose veins, and compression knee highs really helped. Weird, why did no one tell me sooner.

Agreed, less weight, less tired!

You are going to use the food tracker?!!! Cool!

If I keep to the range they tell me, I don't lose weight.
Not sure way. But I do like to see what I am eating and how the calories add up.
Veggies are so low in calories you could eat a bushel basket of them if you wanted.
Junk food, high in calories. Tracker taught me to look and think about what I am eating.
Mindless eating be gone forever.

I know if you track you can see patterns of eating and it is bound to help you.

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SOFT_VAL67 8/29/2014 9:20AM

    When you go shopping, add some blueberries, pomegrantes, and ginger to your store list.
And do some searching in your vitamin aisle and maybe see what you can find there for sore muscles.
I would skip the muscle relaxer unless I felt I had no other choice.
I was prescribed one and when i went to bed at night, I would wake myself up kicking all night, it did not help me.
And I say the same thing to myself all the time when I am walking at the track and others are lapping me and leaving me in the dust.....I am carrying probably at least 50 more pounds around that track than most of them.

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LOFLLAMA 8/29/2014 5:02AM

    I love you, Glenn. You make me smile!

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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/29/2014 2:22AM

    emoticon You are a smart man ! yaaaaaa!!

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MARYANN2323 8/29/2014 1:23AM

    I, too, get sore tired legs. Losing weight does help a great deal, also cutting way back on sodium and taking a magnesium supplement. Magnesium helps the muscles relax. Check your diet to see if you are getting around 420 mg a day. Women need 320 mg. I suggest googling it. Hope this helps.

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REGILIEH 8/29/2014 12:58AM

    Sounds good but don't be hard on yourself because just taking care of your wife would be a full time job. I think you are to be congratulated on all the work outs you get done besides all of your many have to's.

I love the food tracker and I'm sure that will be a huge help.

Good luck!

Anne

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MYAKAYAH 8/29/2014 12:34AM

    Its always nice to have an epiphany! The nutrition tracker was helpful for me in terms of seeing where my calories were everyday so I wasn't going over. In losing weight food is often the culprit for people from what they have learned and reported!

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PRAIRIECROCUS 8/28/2014 11:53PM

    I hope you'll get better, soon !

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On taking your life, 2014.

Saturday, August 23, 2014

Just read of yet another suicide. This was the percussionist for a band in Portland, OR. 43 years old. Shot himself. Even prior to the suicide of Mr. Williams, this has been a year of an uncommon amount of those in the spotlight taking their lives. It is almost becoming as common place a the proverbial showing off of the baby bump. And it is very sad. These lives were as yet undetermined as to the amount of joy they could have and bring to this world. It is only in the bleakest moments that such acts are initiated. Yet life has so much more to offer for those who can see past the haze.

1974. I was 23 years old. Had just suffered through an agonizing hospitalization, and was given a major mental health diagnosis. I felt okay when I left the hospital, and while at home with my parents for awhile, but the diagnosis was figuratively killing me. I saw no one like me in the world who would ever amount to anything. I was almost totally helpless when one night, alone in our lower level bathroom, I grabbed a bottle of my mom's pills that she was using for anxiety. I downed more than half of them, and went to bed. That was it for me. My way out from my new disturbing and impossible circumstance. Only thing was, I think now that they were placebos. I woke up the next morning. Sun was shining brightly, air was warm. I was feeling fine. No ill effects. AND I DIDN'T DIE! I was alive. I was kind of a confessional sort of kid, so I told my mom I took them. Nothing seemed to change between us. I had been seeing a psychiatrist, and continued seeing him. I had a very good relationship with a psychiatric social worker. I felt very much that she was on my side.

Shortly after that I met my wife, who was also in my corner. Years of work in therapy and in nightly coffee trips out with my then girlfriend led to me moving on, albeit slowly, with my career. There was a major geographical move to just leave the past behind. Eventually my wife and I had a child, and then he had two children, and now, there is a beautiful 3 year old girl and her younger brother who bring joy to the world and who wouldn't be here today had I been successful on that evening in 1974, or on any subsequent night.

LIfe has innumerable ways to reward you for sticking around. Of course life has setbacks, but there is a resiliency anyone can develop that pulls you through the tough times, and there are lots of people along the way who you wouldn't want to have missed out on.

Let's not let this become more of a trend. Seek help from whomever you can trust. It takes a lot of work, but it so much more interesting to see just what's around the bend. Glenn

  
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MYAKAYAH 8/30/2014 2:09AM

    How I missed this Glenn, I don't know. I have thoughts but I talk about my struggles with depression on my blog sometimes. It takes a lot in my experience to get to the point where you feel death is the best way to deal with life. I have fought the demon myself and continue to do so! Great entry~

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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/23/2014 9:03PM

    emoticon emoticon whew! glad you woke up that "first" morning- you were very lucky

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CHEBBA 8/23/2014 7:38PM

    My husband recently heard on tv, and then told me, about the actual statistics regarding our all being here. The chances of each and every one of us being the one egg to be fertilised is, in itself, fantastic. Then, in the entire history of the world, there have been something like 185 billion people. There are, today, something in the order of 8 billion. That you, me, everyone in SP, all the countless people we see everyday but never know who they are, etc are even IN the 8 billion is nothing short of hitting the jackpot. On top of that, our fortune in being born into lives in 'civilised' countries where we have enough food, education, medical care, laws and freedom of speech - well, it narrows us down to being even more like lottery winners. The incredible sadness is that depression robs people of perspective and the ability to have a rational interpretation of their lives and their potential. For those who do not suffer from depression but choose to live lawless, criminal, mean-spirited and sometimes violent lives, how terribly sad to squander the miracle of being here at all. Every second of every day that we are here is like winning a gargantuan lottery. I am lucky, I don't suffer from clinical depression or the effects of alcoholism, recreational drugs etc. I don't care whether the sun is shining or it's lashing down with rain and snow - every day is wonderful. Even the seemingly miserable ones and the ones where grief at losing someone or a pet I love have reduced me to an emotional wreck. I recognise that I won the biggest lottery ever in being here - but my heart goes out to those who don't have the ability to so do, for whatever reason.



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ICECUB 8/23/2014 7:00PM

    I AN GLAD YOU WERE NOT SUCCESS WITH TAKING YOUR LIFE. I THINK IT IS SAD WHEN SOMEONE TAKES HIS LIFE. IF THEY ONLY UNDERSTOOD. NOTHING STAYS THE SAME FOREVER. GOOD OR BAD. YOU HAVE TO KEEP GOING AND TRUST THAT THINGS WILL GET BETTER. ALSO IF YOU FEEL SO DESPERATE GET HELP. I THINK PEOPLE ARE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. IT DOES SEEM THAT SUCIDE IS THE NEW THING. I WISH PEOPLE WHO FEEL SO HOPELESS WOULD UST REACH OUT.

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SEASONS_CHANGE_ 8/23/2014 5:02PM

    Very good blog and sorry that things were so low that you wanted to take your life. I'm glad it didn't happen. There is much to live for, as you mentioned.

We have to be tough when the tough gets going and never lose focus on the person who we want to be....

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KAREN608 8/23/2014 2:18PM

    If more people who went through suicide attempts, and survived, could put it out there online, maybe some would realize there is life after the hard times. All the media shows is the worst of it, hardly ever the over comers that give hope to others.

Around here in my small town, there seems to be 2-5 suicides a year. I see the aftermath to the families. It's common and sad.

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NOWYOUDIDIT 8/23/2014 12:17PM

    Wow Glenn, thank you so much for sharing that. What an amazing testimony. Have to give you a emoticon


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LOFLLAMA 8/23/2014 9:25AM

    Thanks for sharing such an intimate part of who you are.
L

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GRATEFUL_DAWN 8/23/2014 8:56AM

    Thank you for sharing Glenn.

I struggle with depression every day. I know that so often I have felt worthless, like I make no difference in the world and that there is no point in me being alive. It is so hard pushing through those dark times.

I used to use food to cover up the pain. Since I have started the SparkPeople program things have started to get better. The encouragement and support that I receive here is so wonderful. Since I am eating healthier and exercising more, I feel better.

That is awesome that you were able to have children after your dark time. You are so blessed.

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REGILIEH 8/23/2014 6:37AM

    Glenn,

What an awesome blog! Thank you for sharing and if you help just one person reading it it will certainly be worth it.

Maybe those like yourself need to educate the rest or get the message about what you are so thankful you didn't miss out on.

Beautiful blog!

I wouldn't have wanted to miss out on you!

Anne

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LYNMEINDERS 8/23/2014 5:27AM

    Totally agree with you Glenn....
It is hard to pick up on those who are suicidal though....
Strange you should write this today as I was haveing a conversation with a deputy head of a university hall yesterday about exactly this.....

God works in mysterious ways.....

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MARYANN2323 8/23/2014 2:55AM

    I agree with you wholeheartedly. Too many people just don't have the will nor the strength to see what lies beyond the bend. And more times, than not, the view just ahead is lovely.

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Quite an eventful week.

Saturday, August 23, 2014

But one that did smooth out. Spark people deserve all the credit they are given. Thanks to all for some great rewards (and awards). Glenn

  
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MARYANN2323 8/23/2014 2:56AM

    We're not a "family" for nothing. We all pull together! emoticon

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MYAKAYAH 8/23/2014 2:08AM

    Is a very eventful week better than a very slow one for you? I like a steady week myself~

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Great news today at the last minute.

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Just as I giving up on all new weight loss attempts, and stated that I would still exercise and still initiate the changes for consumption that are already in practice. At that time I stated I would give up on the scale and measuring for while. Today was planned to be my last day of measuring, but my waist came down. Small though it was (1/2 inch), it gave me a total of 1.5 inches lost in my waist since I started measuring about 6 or 7 weeks ago. This means, with my weight loss stable, there appears to be proof of some redistributing going on of my body composition. It tells me, for the first time that I can really see it, that I might be building muscle and losing fat. It was a highlight for my day, and made me realize I might not be so quick to drop all measurement. Inside, I'm doing the Lithuanian dance of joy, and I can get away with saying that, because I am a large part Lithuanian. @@ ## $$ %% ^^ && !!

  
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MYAKAYAH 8/23/2014 2:09AM

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Wonderful progression, keep it up. I often think those who totally rely on the scale to see progress are missing out on seeing their measurements go down~

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MARYANN2323 8/22/2014 2:30AM

    I'm glad to see you've decided to keep going. Weight loss is a hard and sometimes slow process. But the fact that you actually see a measurable difference should tell you that this is not all in vain. Keep up the good work and keep that scale out where you can see ( and use) it. emoticon emoticon

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SEASONS_CHANGE_ 8/21/2014 6:00PM

    See... never, never give up my friend. We're all in this together.

Cheers to your weight loss!

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POSITIVEHOPE 8/21/2014 3:17PM

    Validation!

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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/21/2014 12:06PM

    saved at the last second! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SOFT_VAL67 8/21/2014 10:32AM

    great news and glad to see you didnt give up too soon. emoticon

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PLMITCH 8/21/2014 9:25AM

    Sometimes winning a battle makes you want to stay in the fight!

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KAREN608 8/21/2014 8:00AM

    Lovely, and just DO the dance, for real. Joy is to be expressed. And it shocks the spouse and any pets present. I'm going to look up Lithuanian dances now.

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ICECUB 8/21/2014 7:56AM

    emoticon SO HAPPY FOR YOU. ALL THAT HARD WORK IS PAYING OF. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK. I KNEW YOU COULD DO IT. HAVE A GREAT DAY.

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LOFLLAMA 8/21/2014 7:18AM

    YEA!!!

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NOWYOUDIDIT 8/21/2014 6:32AM

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Throwing in the towel, and sticking to it.

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Okay. I've certainly tried. I had a problem getting my weight down. 8 months ago I started eating only when hungry, and only till satisfied. Then, after that didn't work on it's own, I started at the gym three days per week 18 weeks ago. Then, when that didn't bring my weight down, I lowered my sugar and white flour consumption. I also, 5 weeks ago gave up drinking alcohol. Still, the scale hangs around between 288 and 290. (I am 6'4"). I just made the decision today, that I will be doing no more new stuff to lose weight. I feel maxed out in terms of what I'm willing to change for a lighter body. I will be keeping these new measures in place, and will still work out. I'm likely to quit weighing and measuring, but may check in on those things from time to time. I think I'll still be Sparking, but am giving up the idea of making any more changes. This is it! If the weight comes off, so be it, and I'll be happy for that. But nothing new will be tried. Thanks Spark friends, for all of your kind support and knowledgeable advice. Glenn

  
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ICECUB 8/19/2014 6:40PM

    I THINK IT IS GOOD IDEA NOT WEIGH EVERYDAY. AND I AM GLAD YOU ARE NOT QUITTING SPARKPEOPLE. I KNOW HOW DISAPPOINTING IT IS TO WORK FOR THIS JUST TO BE LET DOWN. I BELEIVE YOU CAN DO THIS. BEST OF LUCK.

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STEVEN2GO2 8/19/2014 5:04PM

    Glenn,

You have made many choices and changes to reach the where you are at now. Throwing in the towel about more changes is not giving up or quitting it is just being satisfied with all the accomplishments you have made.

The number on the scale is just a number, it does not define who you are. You have made hard changes and ARE healthier now. CONGRATULATIONS!!!

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KAREN608 8/19/2014 11:30AM

    I do hope you don't stop blogging forever. I'd love an update once in a blue moon to see if you've kept at your gym workouts. Health is the main thing, and I know you don't want a zillion restrictions in order to lose weight. I know one very large lady on here taking in 1000 to 15000 calories and lost plenty of weight, but the cost of it, and it is better to just have a good lifestyle you can like and do.

Will miss you.

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FIT4MEIN2013 8/19/2014 11:22AM

    Wise man to access your progress and plan. Stay off the scale. Keep moving your boidy. Keep eating only unti lno longer hungry. Focus on the fitness not the weight. Great decision!

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SOFT_VAL67 8/19/2014 9:49AM

    I understand your frustration.
But please dont give up. I must have tried every "diet" known to human kind, and diet pills, and all that nonsense, for a decade.
I finally discovered what worked for me, and what works for one, doesnt necessarily work for others.
But there is a plan out there for you. Have you had lab work done to check for vitamin definiency??
I know this sounds crazy, but once I learned I was low in vitamin d, I was able to start adding the foods necessary to increase it and all these little things really do effect our metabolism and weight loss.
I know there is a plan that is right for you. emoticon emoticon

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EBIELOU 8/19/2014 9:09AM

    Good morning! I know it seems frustrating that you can't get the scale to move, but sometimes it takes trying all the new things to see exactly what is that our body needs in order for the weight to come down.

For me, it has taken years to get to know. There is a science behind the weightloss! I wish you well in your journey, and I know that you're not going to give up!

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PLMITCH 8/19/2014 8:55AM

    Glenn, the important thing is that you are not totally giving up (at least that is how I read it), but just backing down from the intensity. Maybe forever, maybe not...only you can decide that. My 2 cents -- if the time comes where you feel motivated to make a run at getting the scale to move in the right direction, make sure to enlist the help of professionals, especially a dietician. And of course feel free to PM me anytime you want, but hopefully we'll still see you here on SP. Your blogs are quite thought provoking!

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KAREN-IS-HERE 8/19/2014 8:43AM

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LYNMEINDERS 8/19/2014 3:11AM

    Your change of eating only when hungry and stopping when satisfied should help your weight to come down....
Having said that i sometimes find that when exercising if I don't eat enough it doesn't kick up my metabolism......

Glad you will still be around spark....

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SUNNYRAYE 8/19/2014 3:10AM

    Hi Glenn!

Way to go on your progress so far. I know that the weight is often a health problem for us but it isn't the only thing.

You have done so well keeping up with your regimen and that's no mean feat. If you haven't seen the non scale benefits you will soon. Overall health gets better, it's easier to walk, to breathe, the inflammation starts to go away, the brain fog from sugar leaves you and so much more.

So don't let the scale get you down. In time it will come around and if not, by that time you will be able to make more changes!

All the best. I'm rooting for you.

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