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Talk Like A Pirate Inspiration

Thursday, September 19, 2013

AHOY! Some TLAPD4U

Start where you stand and never mind t' past, T' past won't help you in beginnin' new, If you have port it all behind at last Why, that's enough, you're done with it, you're through; This be another chapter in t' book, This be another race that you have planned, Don't give t' vanished days a aftward look, Start where you stand.

T' world won't care about your old defeats If you can start anew and win success, T' future be your time, and time be fleet And thar be much o' work and strain and stress; Forget t' buried woes and went t' Davy Jones' locker despairs, Here be a brand new trial starboard at hand, T' future be for him who does and dares, Start where you stand.

Old failures will not halt, old triumphs aid, To-day's t' thin', to-morrow soon will be; Get in t' fight and face it unafraid, And leave t' past t' ancient history; What has been, has been; ayeterday be went t' Davy Jones' locker And by it you be neither blessed nor banned, Take courage, man, be brave and drive ahead, Start where you stand.

Original by Berton Brailey - "Start Where You Stand"

  
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LETHA_ 9/20/2013 2:47PM

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DAS92687 9/20/2013 10:47AM

    I didn't even realize it was Talk Like a Pirate day until late yesterday.
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Day 791 of the 50lb journey : Pushing Through

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

No real changes since last week.

Met with my therapist, Ann. That name, or minor variant, seems to be pervasive in my life (Mom, Liz's Mom, Cousin, Aunt, Sister-in-law) Anyway... she seems good hearted, I don't have enough experience right now to make any remarks on her technique/style. But I think she may be a good fit.

She has me doing a separate journal to help me monitor emotions and such, but I feel off the wagon the last couple days... I need to get back on it. Simple how do I feel, what do I need type stuff. I just need to get it done and think of it like a task at work that has to be addressed.

I haven't been very active this week, the blues have me pretty tight. Taking most of my energy to make sure I don't release the beast on those around me. I knew that meeting with the therapist wasn't going to immediately fix anything, but it has me more self conscious about my ugly little habit. I'm realizing more each day how much I've been deluding myself. I'm half afraid that I'm going to gain back all of my weight in the process of recovering/rectifying the purging issue. That or that if I start gaining weight, that I'm going to back slide on any progress I made on the other front. it's a mass of confusion in my head at the moment.

But I'm going to keep on marching, and look towards the day where I am living the dream.

  
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DAS92687 8/16/2013 7:42AM

    What great progress to be more aware of your actions and what triggers them.
Honestly, that is something that a lot of people probably never put any thought into. But, without that, how can any of us ever take steps to improve ourselves?

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PKCTTS 8/16/2013 12:11AM

    You may or may not gain weight while you're figuring this out. But, you have to focus on the bigger health issue first, right? Just do the best you can with each day and be kind to yourself. (((Hugs)))

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TKAYSMILES 8/14/2013 1:20PM

    One day at a time Will! And if that is too much one minute at a time!! You can do it!!

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Day 783 of the 50lb journey : Therapy update.

Tuesday, August 06, 2013

Hey Folks. Under 240 still and semi-content with that.

I found a therapist who can work with me about my issues to include my eating disorder. I'll see her this Friday. I hope with her help I can re-establish my center. This is a short update, not particularly virtually loquacious today.

Peace and Hugs.

W

  
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COREY195 8/7/2013 8:02PM

    I am glad you are addressing the issues. No advice here-all I have to say is keep going you will eventually win. there was a time I just logged in once a month here, but I came back balanced. emoticon

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DAS92687 8/7/2013 4:04PM

    Hey, that is some great news.
Hoping you are feeling good and looking forward to Friday.

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CHOCOHOLIC2276 8/7/2013 12:41PM

    Good for you for trying to get help. I am sure the therapist will be able to get you balanced again.

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ARKPLE 8/6/2013 1:23PM

    I hope that you and the therapist work out. It will be hard work, but you're worth it!

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Purging My Secret - A confession and plea for help.

Monday, July 29, 2013

I'm really struggling with whether I should tell anyone about my doctor's appointment today, but I think it needs to be disclosed and discussed.

Most of you know I suffer from Depression. It's something I've been gripping with most of my life. I came to the realization last week that I have a serious problem that I needed to seek help for. I didn't realize I had this problem because I kept making excuses and lying to myself about.

Liz accompanied me for moral support, and I wanted her to understand the depth of my self discovery. I saw my medication doctor who manages my depression meds today, and he says I need to see a specialist... and a therapist...

Over the past decade, I've become a purger... To the tune of 2-3 times a week minimum. I'm not going to lie about it, I knew it was wrong, but I couldn't stop feeling sick after certain meals. At first I would say self-betraying or self-denying things in order to justify my vomiting.. "it was too greasy", "Something tasted funny", "I have a drip down the back of my throat"

I can't say, nor am I qualified to self-diagnose myself as Bulimic. See, I don't binge per se. I get so guilty about eating at times, that I make myself sick. I've always had an uncanny ability to make myself vomit pretty much on command. Some where along the way, before Liam was born and after my first stint(s) in college, I realized sub-consciously that some of my eating habits were unhealthy.

I don't know when I started and would go to a buffet with my friends, and towards the end of the meal, I would feel so disgusted with myself that I would go to the bathroom and vomit. That is traditional bulimic behavior. I don't remember if that was the beginning or a mutation. All I can say is I approached Liz during the last part of the week and told her I think I have an eating disorder. She was very sympathetic, but not very surprised. She asked the questions before, she may have even said something outright and I brushed it off. For me, It didn't dawn on me until last week.

Liz and I went to Five Guys for a quick bite after going to the pool with Liam. Now we normally order the small "Little" burgers. A single patty, that isn't entirely too unhealthy. But I stood there when we ordered and said I wanted a bacon cheeseburge, and Liz asked if I meant to order a little bacon cheeseburger. I told her that my order was correct and she begrudgingly allowed me my indiscretion.

She didn't mean or intend for me to feel bad for ordering it, it was against my normal trend. People eat the full double patty all the time. I ate well that day. Healthy breakfast, had more than enough calories left in the day, it wasn't above an beyond in any significant manner outside of being at the time in my mind a larger than usual meal. Then as I finished the burger, I felt ashamed for not listening to Liz, I should have only ate half, I should have removed the bread, I should have... I should... up and to the bathroom.

Now remember when I said I ate pretty healthy/good that day, All that was in my stomach at that point was mostly the water and tea I have been drinking the last half of the afternoon. I know because most of it also came up after I rid myself of the intruder that was in my body. For the first time, I think I realized that something was amiss. Why wasn't I able to listen to my mind and the words of my wife and choose what I knew was the better choice? I still don't know the answer to that... Then came the next day.

So I went to work. Feeling pretty beat up after the previous nights dinner fiasco, I opted to have just yogurt to help my stomach in the morning for breakfast. 150 calorie greek yogurt that my coworkers are used to me eating. Well I missed dinner for all intents and purposes so I had a second midway through the morning. I went to lunch with a co-worker and got a three piece chicken strip from the local Hardee's. Again not a big meal by any stretch, but I had a whole two yogurts for breakfast... gluttony!! Then came pizza night.

I binged that night. Large Pepperoni Mushroom pizza from my favorite place Sal's. Had two slices at the table, and shoveled a third down my gullet as I stopped for something to drink. I realized I was blowing everything... I was out of control... I should accept it and not... and then I snuck myself out to the living room, and proceeded to go upstairs to get something. Half way up the stairs, I see the bathroom door at the top and decide to make a pit stop. It was the worst feeling in the world. I'm hanging on the toilet, forcing myself to retch violently because apparently I didn't drink enough water that day and my stomach, more like my esophagus, was not giving up anything easily. Graphic I know, but honestly thought to myself how it was necessary, and that I deserved it in some way for being so pathetic.

Let's pause for a moment. I am more active than I have been in 15 years. During that 15 years of neglect, Okay 12 years, because I started turning my health back around when Liam was born, I was steadily gaining weight despite those episodes of purging despite whether I was binging or not. I hit 300 (295+) when Liam was born. Since then, even with this disorder, I managed to improve most of my eating habits (portion sizes to be one) and lose over 60lbs since then. I'm still 15 pounds from my goal when I joined my fellows on SparkPeople to get myself back down to a healthy weight and learn to eat better and not concentrate just on ridding fat. I realize there is a lot for me to be proud of.

But I'm not. I feel ... like an arrogant prat. A self deceiving arrogant prat who believes that everyone thinks I'm an attention needing high maintenance broken son of a biscuit eater. Let me make it clear, that's not what I consciously think, it's how I feel. My rational mind and my emotional self are at odds. That's the depression I think. I dunno.

Which leads me to feeling pathetic. I see problems, and I instantly see solutions. That's the engineering brain I've been granted. I can logically plan and begin to implement changes in many things to achieve a better result. My problem comes when my emotions start setting in and I start derailing myself. I have distorted my own reality so much, that I sometimes don't even know who I am anymore. I've become paranoid (See the feeling everyone thinks I'm a prat and attention hound), lazy, inconsiderate, anti-social, and generally moody. Yet, I have wonderful friends who tell me the opposite. I want to believe them, but I don't feel it.

Anyway, the doctor has decided I need to see a professional therapist. Unfortunately their office therapist who deals with such matters has too many patients and has sent me a list of others to check. I'll work on that tomorrow, I guess. This is the confession that I did not want to give.

Now for my plea. Don't pity me. Don't step on egg shells around me. I'm owning this here and now. This is an illness like cancer, like strep throat, like depression, like my weight. I will learn to either fix it, or manage it. I welcome any advice, discourse, or words of encouragement.

This is not a letter of surrender, but a proclamation that I have seen the enemy, and t will endeavor to overcome.

P.S. For those who are disappointed, discouraged, or have lost faith in me, I do truly apologize. I just hope that one day you can forgive my deception.

  
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YO~YOLANDA 8/6/2013 5:11PM

    Will...Very Brave Indeed! I am very happy, and not at all surprised by the outpouring of Support you have received from Your BLC Family, as well as the Whole of SparkLand itself.

You have your Motivation
You have Your Plan of Action

Now all that is left to do is baby-step your way...Just like every other Goal we shoot for. Take it One Healthy Choice at a Time. Remember to CELEBRATE Your SUCCESS! This is going to be Journey...Just like weight-loss...but if you can break it down into small Doable Chunks...You WILL get there!!!

For SURE, you have the Encouragement and Support of your SPARK FRIENDS! Your SUPPORT NETWORK IS GIANT! TOGETHER...We can handle ANYTHING! There is STRENGTH IN NUMBERS...Come back here often and get Filled-Back Up...We will help to KEEP YOU FOCUSED ON YOUR PROGRESS!!!

This is nothing to be ashamed of...YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT!!! In fact, The BLC in particular...Your TEAM...Whom I know Support you, and Care about what happens to/with you...Are there to Help you be STRONG when you are having a hard time being STRONG on your own...That is the Beauty of having an Entire TEAM that Will help to carry you through. You don't ever have to do this alone.

Yeah Sure...We LOVE when our Challengers Achieve Great Success...But, our Primary Reason for being...Is to help Those who are Struggling. We LOVE when The BLC is Working for our Challengers and it shows...But we are HERE, for our broken and wounded. We are here to HELP Get you Back to STRONG!!! We do it without Gimmicks or Quick Fixes...it Does take HARD WORK and A Life-long commitment to Making Healthy Choices and Achieving Your Goals...My point being...The BLC is Here for you!!! I KNOW Your TEAM Certainly is!

I want to commend you for reaching out...and being so raw about your inner-most secrets...That takes Courage...and I bet you are so Glad that you did. Look at all of the HELP you have now...That you May not have even been aware of just a few days prior.

Will...I am CERTAIN, You CAN Do This!!! You have the Support...You are seeking professional counsel...your wife is there for you...You're gonna be just Fine...and we are gonna get you there the old fashioned way...Hard Work, Patience, and Forgiveness.

I am looking forward to the update...I suspect Great Things are just around the corner...and you may find even More Success already, just for having lifted the burden of your load...I hope you feel a lot lighter now that you were able to set that down for a moment, and stop trying to carry that burden all on your own.

Be Open and Receptive To CHANGE...Listen to LOGIC...and Forgive, BELIEVE, and then Move-On! You Got This!

PS...Have you ever considered a career in writing?!?!?! I enjoyed reading your thoughts...you are very eloquent. Back to BLC chat for a second though...If you don't already...perhaps you could Journal...Or even just post a Regular BLOG like this...Sometimes just getting it all outta your head helps SO Much! You should definitely Write! Even if it is just for your eyes only...You have a lot to say...and I wonder if you have ever just sat down and let your mind tell your fingers what to say? I think you have a lot on your mind, and it might help if you can just get it out of your head and down on paper...Then decide if these things are things you can Control, or not...and those that are Out of Your Control...Just let em' Go...and those that you DO have Control over...Make a Plan, Set Some Goals...and Get To it!!!

I KNOW you CAN Do this!

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KARLARAMA 7/31/2013 1:01PM

    Will, kudos to you for putting it all out there. That takes a lot of courage! I am so glad that you are going through the proper route to get the help that you need. I hope that you find the best therapist for you. Don't be afraid to try a few before you settle on one. You want one that you feel comfortable with and will help you.

We are here for you. emoticon

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THEMRSH 7/30/2013 9:13PM

  "For those who are disappointed, discouraged, or have lost faith in me, I do truly apologize..."

emoticon There is no apologizing for who you are Will. Any any person that is disappointed, discouraged or lost faith in you, any person who chooses to toss you aside for the battle you are fighting are not true friends so just disregard. By the tone of the comments here no one has or plans to lose faith in you Will! Certainly I have not either.

emoticon This took massive courage to put this out for everyone to read. I am proud of you for taking this step to tell us, for reaching out to your wife for help and for seeing a Dr. You have nothing to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about but you do have a long road to recovery.

emoticon Know that brighter days are ahead now that you've begun this part of your journey. Most of all know that I will not abandon you and together with our team we will give you all the support we can. We will stand by you without judgement while you work to get better!

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AANGEL3 7/30/2013 4:31PM

    As cliche as it sounds, recognizing that something is amiss is a good first step. You are a very brave and a strong person. emoticon

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OBIESMOM2 7/30/2013 4:19PM

    hang tough & keep looking until you find a doc that CAN help

eating disorders are very strange things. From what I've read, they are very tough to break.

So keep your eye on the prize, and don't be so hard on yourself. Hopefully you've caught this early enough that you can stop it NOW. No matter what, never ever ever give up!
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LILYGAL 7/30/2013 2:34PM

    Will, that took a ton of courage to write. It is never easy to face the person in the mirror and realize that it is YOU. And as they say...warts and all. Thanks for sharing and I'll be checking to see how you are doing. Hang in there. We are always here.

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ANU_20 7/30/2013 1:12PM

    Will ... isn't it positively overwhelming to see so many encouraging and wonderful responses to your blog?? That itself shows you how loved & appreciated you are for being just YOU! You have already taken the first step towards healing yourself by acknowledging whats wrong... and in time n with proper help n support you will fix this. I have absolutely no doubt about that!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ITSYBITSYMAMA 7/30/2013 1:07PM

    Well that took sheer guts! Good for you for being so honest and putting it out there!
I hope that everything falls into place, that you get the help you need and break the cycle. Depression is an awful illness and it can manifest itself in so many ways, the key is finding and facing the cause. I am sure you have a long road ahead, but you clearly have support and now you have taken the hardest step.

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WCALDER 7/30/2013 12:52PM

    I want to thank everyone for your kind words and all the encouragement. I'm still in the search phase, but I will definitely keep my SparkFamily up to date!

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DAS92687 7/30/2013 12:50PM

    Will, Hoping that finding the right therapist is a quick process.
It is very hard when our feelings do not match what we are thinking and I thinks it's great that you have a path forward on that. L00king forward to hearing how the healing progresses.

In the meantime, please let me know if I can help at all ... emoticon

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LIZZYP609 7/30/2013 12:28PM

    Will - Hugs Buddy! emoticon
You are so very brave! Thank you for sharing your story! For all those who may have lost faith (I am NOT one of them) you may have help 2-3 times more! You never know especially here on SP how many people are living with lies and hiding things. Weather you ever know it or not. I am positive you have helped more than you will ever hurt!
I am so proud of you for not only admitting it to yourself and your doc but also your wife and going to get the proper help! You can do this!
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FITNHEALTHYKAL 7/30/2013 12:26PM

    Will - is Sparkpeople and your Spark and BLC family the BEST ever? The absolute unconditional love and acceptance of you is exactly what I knew I would find after I read your blog and started reading the comments. Because THAT is how we roll - you can come 24/7 7 days a week and find someone here, arms open, ready to listen and seldom, if EVER judge. THAT is a wonderful place to call home away from home!

I too am going to be anxiously watching for your blog talking about your journey to finding a therapist. Very proud that you came here to share. It speaks volumes of your relationship with your team and sparkers.

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SHANTODD420 7/30/2013 12:23PM

    Wow takes courage to post a blog like this. You have taken the first step good for you. We all make mistakes just take it one day at a time.

Shannon

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CARIOLA 7/30/2013 12:17PM

    Courage, my friend. You've shown it by posting this blog, and you will need more of it to get through this, but I know that you can do it. I have no personal experience with bulimia, but I do have long years of experience with depression, and I know what a hard devil it is to beat. The first step is realizing that you can't do it alone and allowing yourself to get all the professional help that you need. Follow up on the referrals you got from the first therapist you contacted; don't let his or her full slate feel like another rejection.

You can beat this. You are worth the effort, and you've got a loving family and a lot of friends who support you. Believe it, and believe in yourself.

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POETLKNG2LOSE 7/30/2013 12:11PM

    My daughter suffers with depression and she tends to overeat at night but she does not purge. You are not the only one out there who has problems. Know that we still care about you no matter what. the other people are right it is a sign of an inward problem you need to take care of. So go ahead and see that therapist and get better. emoticon

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CHOCOHOLIC2276 7/30/2013 11:52AM

    This is something I rarely talk about but I've struggled with bulimia since I was in my teens. It is something you can work through. I went from being a pretty regular purger (of course a binge came before the purge). I can't say now that I'm in my 30's I never do it. I have on occasion done it. I know the root of it though. Like you I can pretty much do it on command. I know the "tricks" to easier purge after doing it for so long. Not something I'm proud of.

For me it's about control. I would binge and felt like I lost control. I reclaimed it by doing something about it, purging. Getting it out and starting from zero. I felt hideous after. Sick actually.

You can climb back out. A therapist might be a good idea. For me, I had to make a choice. If I can't stick to eating normally I had to live with the guilt of overeating. Not the guilt of purging. I did more damage to myself by purging. I had to live with the bloat and the feeling of failure instead of feeling the sore throat and the guilt that followed. It is a choice you must make. It was a conscious choice that took time to accept. It has taken many tries, many failed attempts for me to get to where I am today. Know you aren't alone. You can get past this.

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TKAYSMILES 7/30/2013 11:05AM

    Will thank you for being brave enough to share!! Recognizing it and owning it are probably the first steps to recovery!! Find therapist and get busy living your life!! You deserve it!! Hugs!!

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JECKIE 7/30/2013 10:06AM

    Not at all disappointed. I dream of a day when depression is understood as an illness like any other and not perceived as a "failing" (it's not).

now, you put it out there so we're going to hold you to finding that therapist! Do it for yourself, and do it for Liam who watches you for guidance on how to live. Prove that getting help is part of the process and is the hallmark of a strong man.

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_RAMONA 7/30/2013 12:42AM

    {{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}

No pity, no pussy-footing... I think it's marvelous that you're tackling this head on. I'd like to offer a blog for youto read... maybe there are some answers in it for you:

True Story
http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypa
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Ancestral eating has delivered many people from the depths of eating disorders. I'll check back with you!

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JO88BAKO 7/29/2013 11:24PM

    Will - I do feel bad for you. My brother has really bad problems with depression. I have been there myself. I'm glad you are seeing a therapist. They can help you learn to help yourself. I am very proud of you for putting yourself out there. That takes a lot of strength. You can learn to help yourself. I'm so glad Liz is there for you. You know you are always welcome at the campfire. I wish there was something I could do or say to help you. You can do this, I know you can!! We are here for you.

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RUNNINGWILD 7/29/2013 11:18PM

    Will, I could never be disappointed or lose my faith in you. Everyone handles what life throws at them a little differently. In the past, you've been one of the most encouraging teammates I've ever had. Now let me encourage you! Stay brave, be strong and seek the therapy that's required to get you past this.
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ARKPLE 7/29/2013 11:07PM

    It is incredibly brave of you to share your story, and I'm incredibly humbled to be privy to it. The purging is a metaphor for something, what you need to get rid of is more than the food. There are many questions that you will be able to answer with the help of a professional. Why are you not entitled to eat and nourish yourself and keep the food in your belly? What is this undoing of the food? I could go on but I think you get the idea. Food is neither good or bad and you are neither good nor bad for these behaviors. There are some excellent resources out there to assist you. I recommend Gurze Books. They have many types of books on eating disorders, and I believe there are some specific ones for men. I have not lost faith in you, whatsoever. In fact, I have deep faith in you and in your ability to recover. It may be a messy recovery, one step forward, two steps back, but you WILL get there. BTW, I wonder if VA Commonwealth has a department specific to eating disorders..... In any case, you've taken the first step, and I commend you wholeheartedly for that.

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PKCTTS 7/29/2013 11:04PM

    Will - you are very brave to put this out there. I wish there was something I COULD say that would be helpful . . . haven't a clue what that would be. Get that therapist contacted ASAP and let the healing begin. You certainly don't need to worry about any of us being disappointed in you.

emoticon I'm always happy to listen - I look forward to the blog where you tell us you've found that therapist and are getting the help you want.

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Day 773 of the 50lb journey : Wild Card Weekend

Saturday, July 27, 2013

Wow I'm under 240 again! Let's hope it's the last time I see 240.

Funny my last post was about an article I wrote for my BLC challenge.

This is my second one for this round. It's called Wild Card Weekend, and I decided to share it here as well.

____ Begin Article ____

I'm going to start by having you choose something.

emoticon Go to
www.random.org/playing-cards/
?cards=4&decks=1&spades=on&hearts=on&d
iamonds=on&clubs=on&aces=on&twos=on&th
rees=on&fours=on&fives=on&sixes=on&sev
ens=on&eights=on&nines=on&tens=on&jack
s=on&queens=on&kings=on&remaining=on

and draw four cards. Write them down. You'll need them later.

emoticon emoticon I have been thinking about this article for a couple days, and realized I had no idea what to do. So I did the same thing I normally do and looked at the words. WILD CARD. Poker. Cards... yeah no long stretch there.

I thought to myself. “Self? What could we do with cards?” Myself answered me with “How about something dealing with Mind, Body, and Soul?” I was blown away. Why didn't I think of that?? Oh wait, I just did... But wait... that's three categories and we have four suits? Myself answered me with “Uh... Body is both muscle and nutrition right?” So after a quick “Duh” moment I hopped up, did the Dougie, and got to thinking. This is the fruit of my labors, and I can only thank myself for the immense assistance through which this work would not have come to light.

So I'm going to put it to you like this. This is a tool, not a challenge. Save it in your noggin, print it, send it to me for my John Hancock and post it next to your bed stand. Hang it over the mantle. Whatever floats your boat. On a day you are feeling you need a challenge (everyday maybe?) try choosing 4 cards (Which the link refers to an online card randomizer) again at
www.random.org/playing-cards/
?cards=4&decks=1&spades=on&hearts=on&d
iamonds=on&clubs=on&aces=on&twos=on&th
rees=on&fours=on&fives=on&sixes=on&sev
ens=on&eights=on&nines=on&tens=on&jack
s=on&queens=on&kings=on&remaining=on


emoticon GO ahead and read all 52 ideas:

For fun, post your 4 cards and their suggestions to the chat thread.
For more fun, go ahead and do them.
If you don't like your choices, or you can't do one, then turn those cards (all four or just 1,2, or 3) in and pull replacements.

Personally I'm going to try and do this through the week and have one from each suit every day.

emoticon Most of all have Fun with it.

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1. ) Try using your off hand for an entire activity (even using your opposite hand on the mouse, or making dinner with your off hand)
2.) Learn a new and novel task about a process you haven't done before (think chess, tai chi, the process for making a water bottle bubble maker, modeling clay or playdough, or using your off hand as in #1 above)
3.) Go for a walk for 20 minutes or more and don't listen to any music or bring along any distractions.
4.) Try getting dressed with your eyes closed
5.) Wash your hair with your eyes closed
6.) Try having a meal with someone and agree to use only visual clues to communicate... no talking
7.) Concentrate on listening to some music and smell flowers at the same time.
8.) Really listen to the outdoors and tap your fingers.
9.) Shop at a new (preferably grocery) store
10.) Try learning to count to 5 or 10 in a new language.
11.) Read something in a genre you typically don't gravitate to.
12.) Create a bingo style game and get someone to play with you or do a new puzzle (Crossword, Sudoku, 9000 piece solid BLUE puzzle of impossibility)
13.) When you wake up, while still in bed, slowly begin to move your toes. Wiggle, scrunch, or stretch them.

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1.) Do some sort of yard work. If you don't have a yard, find a park or retirement home and do a little help cleaning up.
2.) Walk the dog – If you don't have a walkable pet, find a child, or just go for a 20 minute or longer distractionless walk.
3.) Go for swim, bike, or hike
4.) Do something graceful – like yoga or tai-chi
5.) Dance. Get up and do it.
6.) Go play a sport, Tennis, Golf, Bowling, etc. Something mental and physical.
7.) Enjoy, and the key word is enjoy, some intimate physical contact (Interpret as you need)
8.) 20 minutes – Do it, whatever it is, just make it physical
9.) Think about a routine and what you can do to increase the challenge and do it!
10.) Step side to side for 60 seconds at your own pace. Then try doing it for another 30 at twice that rate.
11.) Find out how many crunches you can do in 90 seconds.
12.) Sit in your chair with your back up straight and tighten your abs while you lift your feet. Hold it for 60-90 seconds.
13.) Find a string, tape, whatever and mark off 25 feet or so. Now pretend to be a tight-rope walker and go the entire length... twice. If you don't have space to do so. Then try doing a crab walk across the room both ways.

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1.) Eat a serving of something green
2.) Eat a serving of something blue
3.) Eat a serving of something red
4.) Eat a serving of something yellow
5.) Eat a serving of something fruity
6.) Eat a serving of something with whole grains
7.) Find a “superfood” and give it a try if you haven't already (Goji, Blueberries, etc).
8.) Drink 8 oz of water right now!!
9.) Try a new food that is ethnically different than what you normally eat.
10.) Try some Chai
11.) Bake some (healthy preferred) cookies – Think about the process, feel the dough and the texture, enjoy the smell and taste.
12.) Join/start a dinner group that is focused on healthy eating. Where 6 people or more get together and each brings a dish. Alternating homes for hosting will keep things alive.
13.) Clean out the fridge. You know it needs to be done.

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1.) Note what emotions you are feeling right now, also try and list the emotions you have felt throughout the day. Accept them for what they are.
2.) Take a hot bath for 15 minutes
3.) Try meditating for 15 minutes
4.) Stand up, stay still, and practice BREATHING for 60 seconds.
5.) Do something fun. Something joyful. Something enjoyable. Even if it's only for 5 minutes.
6.) Think about something negative that happened recently, and then think how you could reword it to be something positive. For instance: I yelled at the kids for running into the street – I helped the kids stay safe today by keeping them from running into the street.
7.) Smile. Look in the mirror and smile. Now tell yourself a joke in the mirror and laugh.
8.) Make someone else smile and laugh, it will help you too.
9.) Get a good nights rest.
10.) Heavy Petting – I mean Whisker or Fido. Find a critter of choice and just stroke some fur, or scales, whatever...
11.) Volunteer or join a new club/group/class.
12.) Find a blog where someone is struggling with something you are an expert about and join in on the discussion.
13.) Give yourself a big old hug and say a quick “I love you”

I hope you enjoyed this weekends post.

Remember :

“All we actually have is our body and its muscles that allow us to be under our own power.” -- Allegra Kent, Once a Dancer…

“Extreme exercise doesn’t save you from poor food choices. It can be difficult to exercise and erase away that chocolate cake or pizza pie. It doesn’t work that way. " -- Jennifer Hudson

“When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere. " -- Francois de La Rochefoucauld

  
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    When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere. " -- Francois de La Rochefoucauld emoticon

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