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Friday, July 11, 2014

In these early morning hours, I like to have a quite cup of coffee (yes, I still drink it and yes I still love it), and think. I don't think of anything in particular. I just go with whatever pops into my head. It's my time to evaluate, plan, dream. No one disturbs me. There's no one urgently calling me away from my tasks to deal with the latest crisis. It's me time, and I take it every day with pleasure.

Just as important as a healthy body is a healthy mind. To be at peace with yourself is one of the most difficult tasks I have ever taken on, and I am a work in progress. It's not easy to love yourself. This world seems forever in the negative zone, putting you down for your weight, your height, your schooling, your parenting, your choices. In my personal opinion, it's no one's business. If I have the skills needed to do my job, have children who are independent and self sufficient, and am comfortable with my body while I work to improve myself, who has the right to tell me otherwise? There are those who will try.

My husband likes to say that opinions are like butts. Every one has one but not everyone wants to hear it. It brings a smile to my face to think about that, and hear his voice in my mind. Others in my life have said that I am entitled to their opinion. I don't agree, but that's my choice. I blog here, share my opinions, my thoughts, my challenges, my triumphs. When I am writing, it's not that I expect anyone to actually read what I have to say. It's more of a journal for me, but that's not to say that comments left behind by those who take comfort from my words, share my trials, have been there and overcome the obstacle, or just shared enthusiasm are by any means not appreciated. I read every single comment. I may not respond, but your insight helps me on my journey. Thank you for that.

It's time for me to get to work. Thank you , Universe, for giving me another day.

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1CRAZYDOG 7/11/2014 11:40AM

    O . . . M . . . G . . . Plex is a genius with that quote "Everyone has a butt but not everyone wants to see it!" True dat!

I definitely agree w/your perspective. We have to do the best we can for US and if it doesn't meet somebody elses requirements, well . . . as I like to say . . . tough toenails!

Have a great weekend.

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I'm in a mood....and it's not what you think

Wednesday, July 09, 2014

You've seen it before...I say I'm ina mood and it's usually not a good one. Not today! Yes, I'm in a mood, but it's the mood to be HEALTHIER! Yeah baby!!

I love waking up with energy! This means I got a minimum of 7 hours of sleep. Last night was the first night in a long time it was uninterrupted by bathroom breaks, LOL. All the increased water has to be processed, and it's been in the middle of the night it seems. The fact that I slept all night tells me that I'm on track! Now to make a change *giggle*

I'm getting my 8 glasses a day. Now I'm going for 9. That's right, I am upping my water intake. Why? Why not! It's good for me! It's far better than soda, which I have reduced to one glass a day. It helps my skin stay clear! It's refreshing in the summer heat!

I think that for me once I get something down to routine I need to make a change so I don't get stuck in a rut. Like I said yesterday, when I first started tracking steps I could barely make it to 1500 steps in a day. Now I am averaging between 3500 and 5000 steps in a day. Once I start hitting 5000 steps every day for two weeks, then I will up that to 5500 steps.

Why do it this way? Because big changes are intimidating. Small ones are easier to manage. When I started working with Sparkpeople, I worked on portion control. I lost nearly 30 pounds just doing that alone! I never realized how many calories I was actually eating with some foods. I became aware of what was going into my body, and started making smarter choices. And it wasn't just me.

Plex started the same way I did, and lost over 50 pounds just making better choices. He recently stopped doing that, and we noticed that he began to mindlessly drink soda again. I gently pointed it out to him, and now instead of 4 cans of soda in his lunch bag, it's 2 cans and 3 waters! He admitted that he wasn't paying attention mainly because it was always there so it didn't seem like he was having that much.

Long story short, for myself, and for Plex, small challenges plus being mindful of what we consume is the key to our success. Together we have lost nearly 100 pounds. That's a small person that we were carrying around on our bodies. We've got our eye on the prize of healthier living. How about you?

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KNIBARG 7/10/2014 12:57PM

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CAKAROO 7/10/2014 5:45AM

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TIKITAMI 7/9/2014 11:39AM

It's the small victories that keep us moving forward. We can see that we can do it and it's amazing what it all adds up to

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1CRAZYDOG 7/9/2014 9:19AM

    Awesome . . . for you AND Plex! HUGS

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    emoticon Getting a full night's sleep makes such a great difference. I envy you not getting up in the middle of the night for potty breaks. Love your enthusiasm too!


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DSBRIDE 7/9/2014 8:42AM

    Isn't it funny what a good nights sleep can do! I never realized how important uninterrupted sleep was until it started happening. That's when I put it together with having great days. Wishing you many good dreams!

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AMYWRIGHT78 7/9/2014 8:14AM

    emoticon Good point - it's all about the small steps!!

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JEEP14 7/9/2014 8:12AM

    Good for you!! keep going!!! emoticon

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As it comes together

Tuesday, July 08, 2014

Anytime I've started a diet, I've been gungho at the beginning, and steadily lost steam until I forget I'm supposed to be doing something about my weight. I would never really see any true loss, sometimes I'd gain, but I never felt good or healthy. This is different.

I've taken off 52 pounds, and for the most part have kept it off. It came off the same way it got on me....a little at a time. It's taken me 18 months to lose it. That's ok. I did lose steam with this program, like so many other times. The difference is this time I saw the difference in how I FELT. Not how I look. To me I don't think I look any different than I did 52 pounds ago. I FEEL different. I'm a little more energetic most days. I KNOW what I need to do (that doesn't mean I always do it, but knowing is half the battle). I've got more NSV's than I do lost pounds, but that's ok.

I came off my medications a couple of months ago for one simple reason. No health insurance so I can't see a doctor without paying out of pocket money I didn't have while I was out of work, and my refills ran out. So no diabetes medications. No meds for the ankle swelling. Nothing. My feet and ankles have swollen up like balloons. I countered by drinking more water. My ankles are still swollen, but not as badly. I've been monitoring my BG, and it's been in the same range it was while I was on the medication.

I have managed to increase my daily steps steadily. When I couldn't figure out how a person was supposed to walk 10,000 steps in a day before, I can now say it can be done.

So before I say I can't, I now make sure I say I'll try. Once I try, I usually find that I can. Makes a world of difference.

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CAKAROO 7/9/2014 6:04AM


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TMCMOM 7/8/2014 11:00PM

    emoticon Great job! Your stick-to-it-ness is inspiring!

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    Your positive attitude is what matters. Keep increasing those daily steps.

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DSBRIDE 7/8/2014 9:17AM

    You're doing a great job, losing it slowly makes lifestyle changes that stick.
As for the swollen ankles, we were told to watch the salt intake and elevate your feet above your heart whenever you can. My Mom has this problem and the doc also told her to either wrap her ankles or use compression socks to help.

It's such a struggle to change a habit, our bodies want to go back to our old self. However everyday you get stronger and have more incentive to keep going. I hope you are taking pictures throughout your journey so you can see the changes. Kudos on your loss and a toast to the future ones!

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GOLFGMA 7/8/2014 8:33AM

    emoticon Your attitude is right. No gain without pain. You know what you need to do and DO IT and that's the right way !

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JAROL7 7/8/2014 8:17AM

    "Some people WISH for it ... we WORK for it!"

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Sometimes they mean well

Sunday, June 29, 2014

We all have them in our lives. You know them. They are the people who TELL you that you need to lose weight, Encourage you to exercise, then FEED you all the wrong kinds of things. Ugh!

It would be easy to sit here and tell you to just say no and stick to your guns. Actually DOING that is an entirely different animal though. I know first hand how hard that is!

I live with someone who has successfully lost and kept off weight. She's the kind of person who believes if you want to lose weight, don't eat anything you enjoyed when you were fat. I talked about those people in my last blog. You would think that since she's been where I am, so a certain extent, that she would understand how hard it can be. She says she does, but trust me, she doesn't.

I told her yesterday morning that I was in this 5% Summer Challenge, and that this week I needed to stay in my calorie range. So yesterday on her way back with my wonderful Plex from buying the new grill, she stopped at Arby's. She got me a crispy chicken sandwich, with bacon and cheese. Did you know that between that and the curly fries (which I didn't finish, just for the record) I had eaten enough calories for 2.5 meals??? It was like discovering that my favorite "healthy" chicken Caesar salad wrap was an entire days calories! She meant well, but damn!

So I didn't hit my goal yesterday to stay in my calorie range. I was 300 calories over. Today I figure I won't mention the challenge and she won't sabotage me. It's a Scout meeting night, which generally means that I will be reheating left overs, so I will be in some kind of control this time.

Oh, and why is it hard to say no to her? Well, I live in her house right now. If you say no, she gives you this attitude that lasts literally weeks. It's hostile and uncomfortable, but it's the only place we have right now until we get the money together for a place of our own. I'd rather not make it unpleasant for everyone else in the house. I like peace.

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KALISWALKER 7/2/2014 12:18PM

    emoticon Do what you can to succeed in your weight loss. I cheering for you!

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NEWFLABULESS 7/2/2014 11:54AM

    That was before and today is a new day...fresh start. I understand how hard it is and how much of a struggle it can be to stay on track when someone is trying to "be nice" in their own way. If you are caught in the same or similar situation again you could try eating only 1/2 the sandwich, taking off the bun and any sauce to help save on calories. Eat a couple of fries and push the rest aside. Believe me when I tell you I know how hard this can be but you have to make a choice of what's more important to you....eating what you really don't need or giving in to make someone else happy.

Hang in there....we are all struggling but we can all make it to our goals with perseverance and determination!

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VELVETB1 6/29/2014 7:37PM

    Hang in there fellow sous chef! I know you can do this. Is there any way you can keep some lean cuisines or something on hand so you don't have to share mealtimes with her or would that disrupt the peace too? I really am so sorry to hear that you have to deal with this. It's hard enough to make the right choices and stick to them but another thing entirely to have to fight to make those choices. My thoughts are with you!

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VTORIA3 6/29/2014 6:01PM

    Sorry you are going through this.....I feel for you. It's hard enough on a daily basis even when we don't have temptations in our face. I hope you are able to find strategies that will thwart this kind of sabatage that don't rock the boat. I understand the thing about peace....it is extremely important to well being. Hope you are out f rom under this living situation soon. I'm rootin' for you, sous chef!

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JENNIERUN 6/29/2014 4:17PM

    ahhhhhhhhh! I have this issue at work! my work 'friend' has actually gone so far as to bake and bring in cookies & then tried to shove one in my mouth saying "YOU HAVE TO HAVE ONE" (assault with a cookie? heh)
But here's the deal, No One But YOU Is In Control Of What You Put In Your Mouth. I have to repeat this to myself almost daily! and so far, so good! I'm in control!
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DSBRIDE 6/29/2014 12:55PM

    It's not easy but you aren't alone. We all have people that push our buttons secretly wanting us to fail. It makes them feel superior and they love doing it. I've got a stick thin SIL that loves doing this to me and then looks down her nose because she hates fat people. We just have to learn to cope and do the best we can. Congrats on not eating all the fries. Just getting by the aroma is tough!

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LAUGHIN_ME_THIN 6/29/2014 11:02AM

    Yep! I hear ya there!

I think I have finally gotten into everyones head that I am serious about eating healthy and losing weight.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/29/2014 10:30AM

    ***SIGH*** emoticon I understand.

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Don't let the world knock you down

Friday, June 27, 2014

There are so many different diet programs out there, and even more people who will tell you what you are doing wrong without offering solid support to what you should be doing. So how do you debunk all the myth and get to the truth?

I'm not a fad diet person, and never was. I remember growing up with the grapefruit diet, the chicken diet, the nothing but veggies diet all going on around me. None of it interested me in the slightest. As a teenager I didn't see myself as overweight really. I was maybe 10 pounds over my ideal, but I was ok with that. Until it came time for clothing shopping. That's when the frustration and tears would come.

I am a tall woman, and I have broad shoulders which means I have a large frame. Wearing a size 14 was humiliating in high school. Hardly any stores carried that size, and there was certainly nothing fashionable. To this day, I hate shopping, and can still feel the tears at the edges of my eyes when I can't find anything "nice" to buy. That's when I would hear "then DO something about your weight!", and explaining to them that short of starving myself it wasn't going to change.

I'm much older now, and wear a size 20/22. My biggest size was a 24/26. I've lost 52 pounds in the last 2 years. None of that weight came off of me because of a fad diet or starving myself. I went looking for answers, and found Sparkpeople. It's changed my way of thinking about food, and about myself.

That doesn't mean that everyone "gets" it. I still have people who tell me if I want to lose weight I need to cut out all sugars, starches, carbs. My total beverage consumption should be nothing but water. That to lose this weight I need to eat flavorless foods. To that I call BULLCRAP!!

I lost the first 30 pounds by changing how much I ate. I measured, pure and simple. I also paid attention to calories. I realized my favorite "healthy" chicken caesar wrap actually contained an entire days worth of calories for me! I thought it was healthy! I had been told it was a better alternative to something like pizza! I fell for the "diet" ideas of someone else, and it actually hurt me more than it helped.

These last 22 pounds have come off by paying attention to how much I move...or don't move. Do I walk 10,000 steps every day? Hell no! But I have gone from 1,000-2,000 steps to 4,000-5,000 steps a day. It makes a difference! I also make sure to do little mini workouts during my day. 10 minutes here and there make a difference, but you don't have to take my word for it.

If you are new to this site, I encourage you to read the articles they have. I learned more by reading those than anything else! I took what I read to my doctor, who confirmed it for me, and made other suggestions to go with it. If you're not new, and have hit that plateau, don't panic! It does happen, and it's natural! Take a look at what you have been doing, and find a different way of doing them! Maybe you need to step away from the treadmill and hit the pool! Maybe yoga is the key for you. One size doesn't fit all, nor should it! Take the time to learn your body, and learn what you can do to help it!

And if nothing else, don't let the world knock you down for being where you are now. Just smile, nod politely, and stick to your guns!

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NEWFLABULESS 7/2/2014 11:56AM

    Great advice!! you are well on your way to success!

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TMCMOM 6/28/2014 12:30PM

    Ooh boy, Lynn, can I relate! I agree with you - I'm going to figure out a way to do this that does not require me to completely eliminate some category of food or some other nonsense. I've lost weight twice before doing the "no carb" darn near starvation diet, and all it taught me is that I had to feel miserable to look socially acceptable. Yeah, I lost weight, but didn't know how to keep it off.
But I think I'm onto something with the SparkPeople thing....

oh, and too bad you don't live closer - I could use a tall girl that I could borrow the occasional outfit from!

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AMYWRIGHT78 6/28/2014 7:45AM

    So true!!

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VTORIA3 6/27/2014 8:57PM

    Very no nonsense and inspiring blog. Thanks for posting it. emoticon emoticon emoticon

Tomorrow we're off to the Grand Canyon. Looking forward to starting our second trip with you. Have a great evening.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/27/2014 12:43PM

    Definitely this is not a "one size fits all" situation! For me, I DID have to eliminate sugar and be mindful of only taking in small amts. of simple carbs as being diabetic, that's what my body responded. So, that all boils down to paying attention to what our body is telling us is right for us.

Definitely, too, not everyone "gets it" for sure! That's the beauty of SP . . . THEY DO!

You've come a long way and so proud of your accomplishment.


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MARYANNSQUEST 6/27/2014 12:06PM

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When I first started to work on my weight, and health, it was when the Biggest Loser Started, So I was looking for healthy recipes and came across a link to Spark Recipes, that started my journey to a healthier me. Since then Spark People as been my journey to a healthier lifestyle. I love the articles and I also show my doc the articles and tracker so he knows how I am progressing, plus his suggestions. I've had set backs and plateaus, Spark People, my doc and my determination has been there for 73 pounds gone forever!

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DSBRIDE 6/27/2014 10:34AM

    I love this blog! Finally someone who gets it! Fad diets don't work, you need a lifestyle change but first you need to fix your mind that a quick fix is wrong. This is a slow process. I like your thinking and wish you well on your journey.

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TIKITAMI 6/27/2014 10:31AM

What a great blog thanks for sharing!

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