Saturday, April 14, 2012
OK, short and sweet! Waaaaaay too much to do.
However, must just say that the red cowgirl boots arrived yesterday (after several courier delivery failures and redirect to my office . . . grrrr) and:
THEY. ARE. FABULOUS.
Exactly as pictured on the website. Exactly as described in the (overwhelmingly positive) reviews. Great colour, beautiful heel height, perfect toe shape, excellent stitching, comfortable.
Took 'em outta the box. Put them on. Wore 'em all day (with a black business suit, trousers over top, not tucked in). Wore 'em out to dinner. (DH resurrected the fab, and expensive, tan cowboy boots I'd bought him back before we were married: and they looked terrific on him, but not better than mine!!).
OK. Gotta get on with my day . . . which has to include (has to include) a trip to the gym.
Re weight maintenance: I'm sustaining that sense of urgency and mental toughness, just like Steve Siebold recommends at Day 21 of fatloser.com . . . and despite this bzzy bzzy I'm steady at 142. Haven't given up on mid 3 either. Not giving up.
Hey!! Hafta be worthy of those boots, right??
Saturday, April 07, 2012
I visited Austin Texas in 2009 --- home of the marvellous IMAGINE_IT! We didn't meet up at that time . . . but have to say, I did fall in love with Austin's amazing cowboy boots which you see everywhere on everyone. And: have wanted a pair ever since. In bright red.
I've been haunting ebay and local thrift shops and . . . nothing.
But yesterday, found some pretty amazing and inexpensive (and on sale) leather cowgirl boots in bright red on the internet with great reviews (for the most part). And ordered a pair just because -- I'm 61 today. If not now, when?? Here's hoping that they arrive soon and are as cute as they look.
Red not your thing? Orange, lime green. purple, white, turquoise, pale pink? And (if you search the site) you'll see that slate blue and hot pink are also possibilities!!
"One silly thing a day" is always my motto: and I'm thinking that I wouldn't wear these WITH my red leather jacket and my black cowboy belt with the red appliqué stars for work: just one of those things at a time. But on a weekend . . . yeah, maybe all of the above, once in awhile!!
Friday, April 06, 2012
An article in today's Toronto Star presents new research indicating that children aged 2-6 are already biased against fat children and assume that they are "mean".
This weight prejudice is apparently linked to the "fatertainment" trend which presents fat children and adults as unintelligent, unpopular and lazy.
Maybe little kids pick up this attitude from their parents. Because apparently people who watch reality shows like Biggest Loser become more prejudiced against fat people after they watch the show than they were beforehand.
It's OK to be prejudiced against the obese because it's something they could deal with by exerting a little willpower. Right? We all know how easy weight loss and weight-loss maintenance really are!!
Not surprising that overweight kids and adults are much more likely to experience depression, anxiety and low self-esteem.
Wednesday, April 04, 2012
The Ontario government has come up with a life expectancy quiz that helps figure out the effects of lifestyle on longevity. Here it is:
Basically, we are told that there are five behaviour risks that shorten life: smoking, poor diet, excess alcohol, inactivity and stress. And that if each of us was in the healthiest category for each of these high risk behaviours, we'd add 7.5 years of life expectancy!
Even if we just changed our most detrimental health risk behaviour, life expectancy would increase by up to 3.7 years.
Interesting!! In Ontario, we have socialized medicine. So bad health behaviours affect medical costs for everyone.
I'm thinking maybe some financial incentives would help: tax rebate if you have a healthy BMI, for example??
I'm gonna live to be 90!! Think I'll still be wearing my high heeled black leather over-the-knee boots and black leather pencil skirt, size 6?? Ummmm, maybe not!
Saturday, March 31, 2012
There's tons of research out there -- just google -- indicating that men have a huge advantage in the workplace if they are tall. Presidents of countries, leaders in law and medicine and business and finance: it clearly can't be coincidence that so many of these guys are tall. And we can all carry ourselves proud, stand tall, as tall as possible. Women can even wear heels!. But everyone understands that you can't actually make yourself taller through your own choice or your will power. So there doesn't seem to be a problem with overt workplace discrimination against shorter people.
What about fat people? There's also lots of research in both the US and Canada on "fat discrimination" in the workplace. I sometimes think it's the last kind of in-your-face discrimination still right out there.
Of course it's absolutely not politically correct to discriminate against people on the grounds of gender, sexual orientation, race, national origin. And it shouldn't be. Those kinds of discrimination may still occur but just about nobody finds any of it acceptable. People -- lots of them -- speak right up. Or shun those who are mean to minorities. There's been real social progress, and not before it was time. In part because we know that none of these qualities is a choice.
But there hasn'be been nearly as much progress towards acceptance if you're fat. Discrimination in the workplace against fat people still seems to be (pardon this bad pun, please) pretty widespread!
That's because if you're fat it's your fault, says Steve Siebold. And much as I'm a "fatloser" fan (fatloser.com is Steve Siebold's terrific free online mental toughness program on weight loss) I do think that his "it's your fault" message is pretty harsh. And not helpful.
To make it even worse, in the popular perception "fat" attract a big cluster of other negative associations. If you're fat, you're lazy, lacking self-respect, lacking self discipline, slow-moving . . . and a whole lotta other non-flattering adjectives.
And in the popular perception, remember, fat is your choice. So if a fat person is choosing to be fat, that would make it OK to treat a fat person with something less than respect. In the workplace as well as socially.
Well, I don't think so. Fat discrimination based upon "fault" is contrary to all of the research about how hard it really is to lose weight , and how hard it really is to maintain weight loss, and how multifaceted the causes of weight gain are. Yet justification of fat discrimination is one great big fat presumption which still seems to be alive and well out there. The result? People can be mean to fat people with impunity. All of that "person of size" and "fat acceptance" stuff to the contrary, fat doesn't seem to be working well at work.
Fat doesn't work to advance careers in business and the professions. And it doesn't help much in more personal relationships either.
A fat politician? It used to be OK -- think Winston Churchill. But: not any more. They're all running for office --literally and figuratively. All the time. Those of you familiar with Toronto Mayor Rob Ford's very public battle to lose weight will be well aware of what a target he is for excessive and bloated disdain and contempt -- well beyond any legitimate or reasoned criticism of his municipal policies.
A fat CEO? Think thirties movies: fat business guys with cigars also used to be OK -- but now not so much. Corpulent and corporate don't mix. We're a lean and mean economy, needing nimble and quick role models. Steve Jobs was not a fat guy. Not at all.
A fat doctor? Nooooooooo. Bad enough being a fat nurse, even a fat ward clerk (yup, that would have been me for about three years while a young student). Fat in a hospital setting: sure it's there, just like everywhere else in society. But fat is not healthy. So fat is not acceptable anywhere in health care . . . not at all.
A fat lawyer? I was. Not a good look. Lawyers are supposed to be rational, logical, applying the law and precedent, controlled. Fat means out of control. Fat is not helpful in the courtroom. Even if you're hiding under the robes we Canadian lawyers do get to wear here!
A fat teacher? As a role model for children, given the international obesity crisis? I was a slim and fit college teacher . . . . and then fatter . . . and then less fat again. My weight fluctuation really had an effect on young adults' respect for me. I'm betting (based in part on what my own kids said about fat teachers in public school and high school) that being a fat teacher at those grade levels is even tougher. Huge huge pressure to be hip and happening.
A fat waitress? I've waited tables . . . and the tips are way better (weigh better) when you're looking good. In part because then you're perceived to be really hustling with the burger and fries and Coke ("Yeah, I'll have the extra large, thanks. What kinda pie ya got for dessert??").
Fat in retail? Where it's all about looking good in the clothes that are for sale? Ummmm. Tough one. I can't recall I've very often seen a heavy clerk in a high-end or high-fashion clothing store: and I'm betting that's not a coincidence either.
A fat parent? The most important job most of us will ever have. There are lots of fat mothers and fathers: it's an occupational hazard. No sleep, cleaning the scraps off our kids' plates, unable to schedule time for the gym or any time for ourselves. The fat mother is not the one featured in all the stories about the hot young "yummy mummy" thing, though. Uh uh.
I've been a fat mother and yeah, I wanted to stop sending the message that fat was OK to my own kids. They watched me struggle with various diets, peeling it off and putting it back on. They didn't believe me when I said over a decade ago that I was done being fat. But that time I did take it off for good. My kids did see my final battle and they do see the ongoing effort it takes for me to sustain weight loss. I'm thinking that they respected it. I'm sure DH did -- and does -- and that he appreciates it too. "Fat discrimination" at home? Didn't feel that myself, but I'm absolutely sure (in the context of divorce law) that many fat parents/husbands/wives do.
Is any of this fair? Absolutely not, of course not. It's offensive at so many different levels, it's hard to know where to begin.
But is it reality? It seems to be.
So: how do we deal with it?
I'm increasingly fascinated by this whole phenomenon of "fat at work" and I've been thinking about it lots. So I'd love to hear about your experiences being fat and maybe becoming less fat, in the various jobs all of us do.
If you're interested in sharing your experiences here, you could just cut and paste the section of this blog between the emoticons and answer whatever questions interest you. . . . and of course add any other comments that you like.
Lots of us are wrassling with these issues and I'm pretty sure we would love to collaborate on our responses and strategies!!
What do you do to earn a living?
Have you experienced discrimination related to size at work?
Did you speak up and confront it?
Or did it just make you miserable? Miserable enough to leave the job?
Do your co-workers help you with your weight loss efforts? Or sabotage you? Deliberately? Or just without thinking?
What could co-workers do to support you in your weight loss?
When you lost weight, did you get new thinner-person "creds" not really related to any change in your actual workplace performance?
And does that make you feel like an impostor?
Or help sustain your motivation to keep the weight off?
And what about fat discrimination in the really important workplace: as parent? As spouse?
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