Wednesday, July 27, 2011
I read an interesting article in the National Post last Saturday about shoplifting. Nope, shoplifting doesn't tempt me at all . . . but this was a review of a book by psychologist Dr. Will Cupchik about the reasons why people shoplift. Cupchik says shoplifting is not just addiction. Here's the link if you want to read more:
Cupchik thinks that all of us can be pushed to do too much of something in order to cope with various stresses. The stresses that interest him arise from losses and especially when there is a perception that such losses are unfair. Some of us eat too much, or work too much, or run away too much, or party too much; some of us shoplift (any amount of that would seem to be too much). In other words, if we don't cope with our losses appropriately we're going to "act out" -- inappropriately.
So: even though I'm not a shoplifter, it's absolutely the case that I ate too much for a very long period of time. Worked too much maybe as well.
To compensate for losses? Doesn't entirely resonate with me, frankly.
Shoplifting as a compensation for loss: there's a pretty clear connection. And Cupchik says that shoplifting is most strongly associated with otherwise upstanding citizens coping with the ultimate loss: death.
Eating too much or working too much as a compensation for loss? Hmmm. Of course Cupchik also acknowledges that some stealing is just rebellion: not all stealing is the loss-triggered "shoplifting" phenomenon. So presumably that's also true of some over eating, over working etc. etc.: there are other motivations for these behaviours.
Just helped my DH with a couple of 20 kg (44 pound) bags of salt for the water softener. Hard to believe I used to weigh 2 bags of salt more than I do now!! The loss of 90 pounds?? A good loss!! No compensation required, really: and especially not overeating!!
(Although come to think of it, and given only about 5% of losers actually maintain weight loss . . . maybe there's something there! A return to overeating to make up for the "loss" of all that food that other people can unfairly eat without gaining weight? )
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Scored: two new tankini style suits, identical (one purple, one black) so I can "mix and match. And at half price! Two for the price of one.
Wore the purple one to the beach yesterday and it's much more "swimmable". I hadn't bought a new suit for at least 10 years -- and at least 20 pounds ago!! Even my smallest was a size 12, and with the loss of elasticity over time as well as the weight, no longer doing the job. Droopy. The other three were 14s, even older, and even droopier. Especially in the bosom area.
The new suits are snug and secure. Simple v neck top with a bit of a twist at the front. Lingerie straps, so adjustable, and with a pretty chrome buckle. Decent length so the belly button isn't hanging out. Decent coverage in the bottoms too.
Not mumsy, not matronly. Really really exciting? No, probably not. Pretty plain, actually.
But still, giving me a lift -- literally AND figuratively!
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Chilling in my fridge, a big pot of summer soup. Should be icy by the time I get back from the gym!
Found in my fridge and cupboards this morning:
2 cartons Imagine chicken broth, low sodium
a full tub of fat free Greek yogourt
2 raw beets
1 pound of asparagus, lightly steamed and chilled
small bag of shredded carrots
package of mini cucumbers
tube of fresh chopped dill weed
half a large tub of baby spinach
two fresh ripe tomatoes
I used the food processor with the pulse chop feature sequentially, so there's still plenty of texture. Added some water at the end.
It's a pretty pink colour thanks to the beets! I'll stir in a little salt and grind fresh ground black pepper onto each serving . . .
No idea, of course, of the calorie count -- but it's gotta be low, and relatively high in protein, and full of vitamins.
And I'm betting pretty delicious too.
OK: 400 calories to burn on the elliptical (about 34 minutes probably) and upper body weights workout next!!
Post sampling report: yes!! delicious!! I picked up some crunchy sea salt with my groceries . . . and I also stirred in some red chili pepper flakes for a bit more zip. It was fun to serve over ice cubes!!
(Spent a couple of hours at the beach, too: gorgeous sizzling hot day!!)
Thursday, July 21, 2011
The Toronto Globe and Mail ran a very controversial article today about "interventions" by the state to protect severely obese children: actually removing children from their parents' care. The argument in a nutshell: if parents were failing to provide the necessities of life such that children were starving, the state would step in. So why not when children approach health-threatening levels of obesity? Overfeeding is considered an abuse issue -- and at the weight levels discussed in the article (90 pound toddlers, 400++ pound young teens) maybe that's so.
Still, actual intervention and removal of children from their home and their parents is an idea that makes me deeply uncomfortable. I was a fat kid myself (although not obese to that extreme degree). I raised two kids, one of whom had excess weight problems and the other of whom was a string bean: neither at health-threatening levels, pretty much hereditary metabolism issues I believe.
At one point, when at my doctor's suggestion I'd stopped buying much in the way of high cal "treat" foods in an attempt to support one child's efforts to slim down without imposing a "diet", I was a bit oblivious to the reality that my thin thin child was struggling to get enough calories during a rapid growth spurt. There was always lots of food in the house, but not enough rich and calorie dense food, apparently, for the skinny one's growth needs!
Hmmm. Made me feel very very bad, that's for sure. Made the child who wanted the high cal foods (and wasn't "supposed" to eat them) feel very unfairly deprived too.
As adults, both are within a "normal" weight range now. The difference is, one will always struggle to stay (down) within the normal range, while the other gets to eat lots and lots and is still rangy and thin without a worry in the world of ever ever becoming obese . . . even to the point of scarfing down several suppers a day!
So eventually it's sorted itself out. But not easily for either of them: there is significant social isolation experienced by even a moderately overweight child. And although we would never have been in danger of "state intervention" the social disapproval parents of that moderately overweight child experience is also very real. Even without anyone calling the "Fat Children's Aid Society".
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