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Graduation: Taking Time to Celebrate

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Our son's graduation this past week was a specially happy occasion: the weather was gorgeous all day; the university put on a wonderful garden party with a trio playing classical music and then a parade of the gowned graduands to Convocation Hall led by a bagpiper; and we took lots of pictures at picturesque spots all over the same beuatiful campus where both his parents also got our first degrees! Even co-opted a bystander into taking pictures of the three of us together . . . on the historic front steps.

Then off for duck curry at our son's favourite Thai restaurant.

Determining what's coming next will be a big challenge for our boy, given the lack of jobs out there. For now he's bussing tables and bartending at a restaurant -- and doing the very best he can at that not very glamorous job. (Which again follows in his parents' footsteps: between the two of us and when necessary we've also done pretty well every job you can think of and as best we could at the time.)

But rather than worrying or pressuring, it was great to pause and simply enjoy with him all that he's accomplished. There is nothing simple about completing a four year honours degree at a first rate university in a difficult subject: philosophy. And above all (he's a sunny, warm personality) simply to enjoy a day when the three of us could hang around together. Apparently we don't embarrass him too too much, and that's gotta be a relief . . . .

What comes next will unfold in the fullness of time. It did for us, it will for him.

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STLRZGRRL 7/5/2010 8:16PM

    Your son is something special, El. I know because he was raised by such a great woman.

(And man... and dogger!)

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HAPPYNSMILING 6/29/2010 2:26PM

    emoticon How wonderful!! Congrats to your son...and to you as parents!!

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SLIMMERJESSE 6/26/2010 11:17AM

    Sounds like a beautiful event. And proud of your son for obvious reasons. Great attitude in letting go and letting life take him where it may - just as it has for us. Have a wonderful weekend.

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CMB2048 6/24/2010 9:35PM

    YOu should be very proud of him. Tell him to follow his passion and it will all fall into place.

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MSSNOWY 6/23/2010 9:37PM

    Congratulations to your son! That's a great accomplishment. It is a tough job market and it seems that no one gets into the 'perfect' job that they stay with forever -- so if he just values the journey and learns from each thing he does, he will be doing the right thing. Isn't it lovely to celebrate our children and admire them for who they've become. Congrats to you and your husband, too.


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PENNYAN45 6/23/2010 12:37AM

    What a special time for your son - and for you, his parents. Congratulations on his major accomplishment.
Congratulations, too, on being parents who have such a non-pressuring and accepting attitude about your son's current employment. You are so right that he will find something that will appeal to him in time. And it is much easier for him that you are giving him the space to make that decision for himself.


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SLENDERELLA61 6/21/2010 8:38PM

    Great accomplishment for all of you! Great attitude! Great blog!

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GEODAWG 6/21/2010 7:34PM

    How marvelous your son has graduated from college. We have had five of our six graduate from college and we are so proud. Now, we have grandchildren who are in college. One has already graduated and two more are studying. It is marvelous what a little influence can do!

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IMAGINE_IT 6/21/2010 2:59PM

    emoticon on your Son's graduation...and i am wishing him the Best for his Future. emoticon
.....and as for you Ellen.....treasure the time you still have him close by...before he goes 'off into the big wide world'.

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WALKINGANNIE 6/21/2010 2:27PM

    Warm congratulations to your son. This sounds like a wonderful family celebration adding new achievements to combine with older memories.

I'm so pleased that you are blessed with improved health to enjoy it as well.

Being a parent seems to bring its concerns no matter how old our offspring are, but your son has a good degree, a good family and isn't afraid of hard work. He'll be fine with that combination.

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PUDLECRAZY 6/21/2010 3:15AM

    Congratulations to you and your son on his graduation! A joyous occasion, indeed.

The job situation is frustrating. My son is working for the Census Bureau... so myc for a degree in physics. Hopefully the economy will eventually turn around and things will open up again job-wise.

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BRIGHTSPARK7 6/20/2010 11:57PM

    How marvelous! Congratulations to all of you, Ellen and especially to your son. Not only is he bright and gifted, he has a great work ethic. Philosophy is not an easy subject. Well done, to him. Thanks for sharing your great news. So glad to hear of his success ... from your alma mater no less!

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REVJVH 6/20/2010 11:19PM

    What a great reason to take a moment and celebrate the heck out of it. Congratulations to you and to your son. If he's willing to do anything until the right thing comes along, he'll make his way in the world and then some. It sounds like he's got what it takes.

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PHEBESS 6/20/2010 10:32PM

    Mazel tov to your son!!!!! (And you two as the proud parents!)

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JOPAPGH 6/20/2010 10:15PM

    Daughter graduated about a month ago with a Batchelor of Fine Arts degree. I could worry and fret about her future given current conditions, but she did graduate with highest honors, is very passionate about what she does and has always been a tireless worker.

She will remain in Baltimore and find her own way, rather than moving back home with us. She's charting her own course and, as scary as it feels, helping the birds out of the nest is what successful parents are supposed to do.

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BOOKAPHILE 6/20/2010 10:10PM

    Congratulations to you and to your son! Soak in those memories. Well done, all of you.

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Benign Smiles

Wednesday, June 09, 2010

Received the path lab results today: there was a benign haemangioma (collection of blood vessels gone wild) under the toenail -- but not (thanks, SP Friends, for all the good wishes beamed my way) a melanoma.

It was not nothing at all, and the growth was indistinguishable from the melanoma possibility without biopsy which means enduring the procedure was necessary. That makes the months it will take for the toenail to grow back more tolerable, somehow. Still raw but it will gradually toughen up.

So now I can segue back into exercise again as the tenderness permits -- first step will be to get back into my running shoes AND my golf shoes!

Further good news: even though I haven't been able to exercise -- I haven't put on ANY weight at all. Eternal vigilance worked fine in the short run, although it doesn't do a lot for the muscle toning . . .

Whew! I'm pretty much wagging my tail and smiling like Charlie!!


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PHEBESS 6/19/2010 9:48PM

    VERY good news!!!!!!!!!

And maybe you could find some exercise sandals, LOL! I keep looking for something like that.............

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WALKINGANNIE 6/14/2010 12:34PM

    What wonderful news Ellen. I'm so pleased and relieved. You were putting on such a positive front that I didn't want to strike a note of too much concern - but I was concerned and your news is just great.

I'm sure that your sore toe will be all the more bearable now but wish you a speedy return to full comfort.
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SLENDERELLA61 6/13/2010 5:59PM

    Congrats on your great news! So glad. Your toenail will be back, I started to write in no time, but it may take a little time. You now know you can maintain your weight -- that is no gain -- even when you can't exercise. How wonderful!! Be proud of yourself. Enjoy your relief. Take care. -Marsha

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CMB2048 6/13/2010 1:05PM

    Wonderful news. I remember how hard it was last fall to get back into my shoes after bunion surgery but it will come. In the meantime, you're correct--golf sandels are great!

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STLRZGRRL 6/12/2010 6:51AM

*iz international symbol for tail waggin'!*

There's also this:

And this:

And YAY for golf sandals!

You are ON it, Ellen!

MY funk is going to LIFT, BY GUM... (the reason for the superhero icon and rainbow everything I can find and put wherever I look... LOL... the mind game deepens... DUN DUN DUN...)

And I feel a WHOLE lot better about my own petty little problems when I hear about someone who has REAL ones... EVEN MOAR BETTER when they turn into happy news...

MOST BETTERER OF ALL when it is happy news for my friend!!

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BRIGHTSPARK7 6/11/2010 12:14AM

    All is well! How wonderful, Ellen. Sighs of happiness and smiles from me. You'll be dancin' on the golf course in no time. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JOPAPGH 6/10/2010 7:27AM

    Great news! Hope you return to your running and golf soon enough.

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PENNYAN45 6/9/2010 11:58PM

    That is GREAT news!! Recuperation will be a snap now!!

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REVJVH 6/9/2010 11:54PM

    Ah, so those gusts of wind today were big sighs of relief coming from your direction! Congrats on the good diagnosis.

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    That's Toe-riffic!


take it slow and steady and you'll be out on the links in no time!


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GEODAWG 6/9/2010 8:21PM

    Great news!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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IMAGINE_IT 6/9/2010 7:05PM

    emoticon Awww..Ellen i am so happy to hear that the results came back normal... emoticon emoticon now take it easy...one day..one exercise at a time!!! emoticon emoticon

P.S. Guess what??!! My son gave me a flight ticket to Germany emoticon and i will be going in October...it has been 13yrs since i last went..and it is high time..i am also using this trip as an additional motivation to drop more weight!!! I want to look like this emoticon when i climb into that airplane emoticon

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DSHONEYC 6/9/2010 6:43PM

I am relieved for you (interesting how so much of our body starts to go haywire as we get older, albeit better). Certainly beats last years adventure in medical care, huh? Ease back into your exercising, but I bet you could golf in your bare foot!

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GROEDER 6/9/2010 6:40PM

    Great news!!!! I know it will be much easier to recover from the biopsy than for what could have been found. Hope those shoes go on soon. I'll be praying for you to recover quickly.

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MSSNOWY 6/9/2010 6:06PM

    Yippee! Goooood news. Take it easy getting back into the swing of things running-wise. So glad all is well.

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Why I Don't Cook Much Anymore!

Sunday, June 06, 2010

I posted this comment on GEODAWG's blog, in which she describes making 70 sandwiches for a graduation party (and regrets, no kidding, not having been able to lose a pound this past week):

"It's so tough to be the lady having to deal with food -- buying the ingredients, preparing, making sure it's tasty, presenting it, cleaning up after -- and not getting to eat much of it!! No wonder women in general have way more "food issues" than men!! By and large I've "retired" from food prep: I buy groceries, stock the frig, make myself oatmeal or yogourt with berries for breakfast, veggie and fruit salads for lunch, soups for dinner but. . . rarely do anything else. I generally entertain by taking people out so they can choose the fish and chips off the menu while I order a . . . salad!! Maybe not very nurturing or sociable and I think it irks some folks but for me it's akin to an alcoholic who can't drink: I just can't do a whole lot of food prep without falling off the wagon!!"

To add to this concept: the more choices I have (four varieties of appetizers before dinner means I'm going to want to eat at least four ; if there are two varieties of cookies for dessert, ditto) the harder it gets.

The "variety" that works for me is variety in my oatmeal variations (chocolate brownie oatmeal or raisin cinnamon flaxseed oatmeal) or my berries (blackberries, strawberries, blueberries, raspberries); variety in my lunch salads (arugula or spinach or mesclun; grape tomatoes or yellow tomatoes or Romas; radishes, snow peas or sugar snaps; yellow wax beans or green beans; red peppers or green ones; broccoli, slivered brussels sprouts or cauliflower ) and variety in the salad dressings and lean protein sources (shrimp, chicken, chickpeas, low fat feta); variety in the supper soups (generally a huge pot using up any fresh veggies I didn't finish in my salads during the week plus broth, diced low salt canned tomatoes, some kind of legume, and a huge range of ethnic type seasonings, warming up a bowlful every evening till it's gone . . . ). No two salads are ever quite the same, no two pots of soup have ever been identical . . . This is the variety within constraints which has by-and-large worked for me (with just a few blips) since 2002.

I know there are times in almost all women's lives when we really do have to cook: and I did prepare regular healthy meals for my kids when they were small, and I did the "young married" dinner parties competently and reasonably well; and I did take care of my parents when they were elderly, including moving in and meal preparation for them (bacon, bacon, bacon!!!) during their final months.

But that's part of the reason why I weighed 230 pounds and wore size 18s. And 20s. It wasn't working for me.

Is it possible to stop cooking without being entirely ungracious and inhospitable? When I recently served a work colleague mixed melon chunks with grapes and kiwi at a business meeting for the mid-morning coffee break instead of donuts and danish, he was actually very appreciative. My husband is way more of a carnivore than me, so I'll sit with him and sip my soup while he chows down on a huge steak with baked potato and icecream (or occasionally make him a dinner of fish, steamed veggies, fruit!!) and so far no complaints from him!

Even occasional "entertaining type" cooking and eating are problematic for me -- I'll feel sick after a typical high-fat "formal" dinner-party type meal for days, just like a hangover. AND even one such meal also tends to trigger the old food-cravings and make it hard for me to return to the pattern that helps me maintain the weight loss. The SP Nutrition Tracker has taught me that I really cannot eat even at the midpoint of the SP designated maintenance range and actually maintain my weight loss; I have to eat much less and be diligent to ensure there are no empty calories if I'm going to get the nutrients I need to feel healthy.

I really can resist anything but temptation . . .

Whaddya think? Given all of the above: does there come a time when it's OK to retire from cooking??

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MSSNOWY 6/9/2010 6:03PM

    I cook about half the time -- and the other half we eat salads or stir-fry vegetables with a bit of rice on the side or soup. My husband is a grazer -- he eats mostly vegetables (and is consequently skinnier than I). He would eat the same thing every day and not complain. But I like variety and sometimes I like comfort food. I get bored with the same stuff, so I do need to cook. And we rarely rarely rarely eat out.

I'm for everyone doing what works for them. Yours would work for me weight-wise, but I might not be able to handle those particular limits of variety for a long time. Might give it a try, though!

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CLIMBERCHICK14 6/8/2010 5:11PM

    I'm a huge cook. I love to be in the kitchen and I love to create new recipes. For me, the biggest thing was mixing fun with health. I create healthy recipes from scratch. I love to do it and when I'm done, the final product still fits nicely into my new healthy lifestyle. When a birthday comes around (yesterday was my husband's bday) I make healthy alternatives (I made him an angel food cake or I make cookies w/ whole wheat flour & dark chocolate chips and just egg whites no yolk). If that doesn't fly, I make things that others love and I won't touch. The best thing besides making healthy recipes that my entire family can share is easy alternatives that take a few extra minutes where my husband can have homemade lean ground turkey tacos (still healthy) and I can enjoy my veggie crumbles "taco" salad. It's all about finding what works best for you...and what doesn't.

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TEENY_BIKINI 6/8/2010 5:02PM

    I hear that, girl. No cooking for me. But I never looked at it from you perspective - of course, the one in charge of food prep would have the foodie issues. Well said and inspired frankly.

And yet another reason I could care less about using my oven.

Go on with your bad self. Woot!!!

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PHEBESS 6/8/2010 10:27AM

    I think it's fine to retire from cooking. And you might point out that many people around the world entertain at restaurants, partly because homes might be small but also because it's just easier!

And I totally understand the not wanting to eat a huge meal for dinner - last night I had cereal, milk, and a peach - and I was happy!

All that said - there are also lower-cal meals that can be prepared for parties or big dinners - my fave was grilled tuna with pineapple salsa, and a risotto full of vegs on the side. Carrots & hummus for starters; sliced strawberries with balsamic vinegar for dessert. Big meal for under 500 cals. So if you occasionally choose to cook, you can cook smart. Or, keep choosing not to do so - your friends are your friends because they like YOU, not your cooking!

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FROSTIERACES 6/8/2010 1:05AM

    I vote going out to dinner every single nite or fine...hire a housecleaner and see if she cooks too!?!! My Dad has that luxury...she always whips up these great meals for him. I can't give up cooking coz I like doing it...but someday soon I know I'll hate it again :). I'm like that...

Besides all this, I read your biopsy blog the other day but didn't get time to respond or in reality my cell just doesn't ALLOW me to respond.. :)

So how are you doing in that regard? any news back? My best thoughts have been with you. So many hugs! I've missed you Ellen!!

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PENNYAN45 6/8/2010 12:03AM

    When my two sons finally left the house for good - I proclaimed that I was tired of being the "food department" and I stopped most cooking. I found that I resented it after a busy day of working at something, my husband would ask me, "What did you plan for dinner?" I started to tell him that I didn't plan anything - and encouraged him to plan and cook some meals on his own. He did - and we also ate out a lot.

Since I joined SP, I have begun to prepare more meals. I will stock the refrigerator with lots of vegetables and fruit - and usually chicken or fish. I will often eat a salad with the protein - and my husband will add in potatoes or pasta or bread for himself. We don't always eat the same food. We have gotten to the point now where at times he will make something for himself - and I will make my food.

So I think I am pretty much in the same place with you - when it comes to cooking every day.

I find this liberating - and plan to keep it going as long as possible.

Entertaining is a different story. Like you, I prefer to take people out to dinner so everyone gets to choose from a menu. That is not possible, though, when it comes to holidays and families. Then it's back to the old ways - and often the old foods. That is a problem for me.
Perhaps that will change in the future- after I've had more time on SP and I spend more time addressing that issue.

Thanks for the blog!


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BESTSUSIEYET 6/6/2010 10:01PM

    I have found so many healthy and great-tasting recipes on Spark People that I am cooking MORE than before Spark, and am enjoying it more, too! Hubby enjoys Spark meals, too -- he may have a larger portion, but we eat the same things at dinner. He does his own breakfast & lunch (our schedules don't allow those meals together very often). I am blessed that he is one of those people who naturally go for veggies (unlike me). Guests are also finding out that "healthy" doesn't mean "bland foods" or "the same thing over & over" or "going away hungry". Each of us is on a unique journey -- mine definitely includes cooking!!

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SLENDERELLA61 6/6/2010 8:59PM

    Your point about women living in a world of food and food prep is so true. And when you live in a world of little mouths, it is constantly serving food. Even healthy snacks and juice for little ones can be too calorie intense. Feeding teen agers, especially boys, almost demands high calorie options. It is challenging.

There was a time when cooking big family meals and holiday celebrations meant I'd be overeating for sure. I'm not going to say it is easy for me now, but I have done it many times successfully. I choose a menu in which there is at least one protein and two side dishes I enjoy and are healthy. Sometimes that means serving the cheese sauce for the broccoli on the side. Then I decide how many/much of the other things I can have. Sometimes it just isn't worth it to have a biscuit or cole slaw, for example. I'd probably rather spend my splurge calories on desert.

I try to wrap up things that are really tempting and send them home with the twenty-something relatives. My husband insists on keeping some, though. I try to get some of the temptations into the freezer pretty quick. The leftover ingredients are sometimes as bad as the cooked things - the 3/4 jar of maraschino cherries or 1/2 a tub of cool whip.

One pattern I've noticed in the past 6 months is relief eating. I'd do just great at the event, then let down and find myself eating what I missed afterwards. I've really worked to be aware and not let down when everyone goes home.

As far as taking everyone out to eat or serving take out, I think that is fine. Do what you need to do to meet your needs. If you want to overcome your concerns about cooking for others perhaps you could begin small. Have a couple supportive people over for things that are mostly healthy. Gradually add more challenge. If you want to learn it, you can. If you want to avoid it, I believe that is totally acceptable.

Thanks for a very good blog. -Marsha

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GIGALENA 6/6/2010 5:20PM

    Wow! You really hit the nail on the head. I found all of what you blogged about to be so true. I don't think my hubby would agree with the retiring from cooking. But I think when it comes to parties and get together he would understand why I would rather go out or cater it. Thank you so much for posting this. I really appreciate it.

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STLRZGRRL 6/6/2010 4:33PM

    I'm thinkin' you can retire from cooking just about any ol' time you feel like it!

But that's a single woman with no kids talking!

And one of the reasons I'm single is because I like doing things MY way WAAAAAY too much... and that includes if and when I'm cooking...

One thing I've finally figured out from my time here at SP is that I can't ever go back to the way I used to eat... thinking I knew every bite that was going in my mouth and being VERY wrong... or worse... NOT having ANY idea what was going in my mouth...

I am planning to pay attention to what I'm eating for the rest of whatever I've got left on this earth... and I'm good with that.

The years of cookie production at the holidays... huge familys... Nup. Not fallin' for it ... (easy to say when there is very little family left to please...)

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WALKINGANNIE 6/6/2010 4:10PM

    Interesting blog Ellen with a lot of resonance for me.

I haven't retired from cooking but I have retired from uninhibited grocery shopping. I am very careful about shopping and so have healthy ingredients on hand to cook with and only very limited temptations in the house - even when we have guests.

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GEODAWG 6/6/2010 3:47PM

    I agree you should be able to give up cooking for others. I want to but have a major problem----DH. Now don't get me wrong. He does not demand that I cook for him and he can feed himself but his choices are sooooooo bad (maybe he plans this!) that I do cook just to keep him from eating french fries, french bread and steak every night! LOL I think I am with you tho. I need to go to your regimen in order to lose any more weight! I only need to lose 10-15 pounds! I feel like sitting and crying except that that activity does not use enough calories! LOL

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BRIGHTSPARK7 6/6/2010 3:09PM

    I applaud you for finding and doing something that works for you, regardless of what anyone else thinks. Kudos to you for bringing fruit to your work colleagues, instead of donuts!

My evening meal at our house is usually some kind of veggie stirfry, served with yogurt, or bean protein. Stir fries are fast to make, especially with frozen veggies, no chopping or washing needed.
We do entertain friends about once every six weeks, usually a vegetarian meal, and I love having leftovers for a couple of days. No cooking, yay! Hubs and I have a couple of fave restaurants, too.

Great to read a blog from you!


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"Oh what is so fair as a day in June?"

Friday, June 04, 2010

The next line, as I recall, reads

"Then if ever come perfect days."

This is one of those poetry frags which sticks in my head -- and I can't find the source with a quick internet search. Or I'd credit the author of course! ( If any SP friends know it, please provide, because I'd love to find the rest).

But as Charlie and I sat on the verandah this morning -- listening to the song sparrows, inhaling fragrance from the mock orange blossoms, and admiring today's brand new watermelon pink poppies -- this literary earworm came to mind.

What makes it memorable for me, probably, is the ambiguity of that "if ever", the deft deflation of the rather exalted tone preceding.

Raising the possibility that there are no perfect days?

A bit like the ambiguity of Robert Frost's "And that has made all the difference": the bit we don't quote, even though Frost was so clearly aware that the choice of one road over another in that "yellow wood" may or may not have turned out to be a good thing. . . he is, after all, "telling this with a sigh" which could be a sigh of relief or of resignation.

But as for today: excellent coffee; comfortably fresh temperature; blue sky and sunshine; very obedient dog who did not race off after an intrepid baby squirrel, only looked at me and smiled and wagged indulgently -- at the very least, it was a string of perfect moments.

And who knows: maybe this whole day will be perfect! It's June. If not now, when?

Sounds fair to me. So I'm proceeding on the assumption it's going to happen. Creating the best possible opportunity for a self-fulfilling prophecy. One excellent day in June coming right up! You have one too.

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STLRZGRRL 6/6/2010 4:46PM

    My temperament has always led me to think of Frost's sigh as one of regret... that's me... those of us with low expectations are rarely disappointed! LOL...

I have been edging towards the light, though... I got dragged kicking and screaming to the SP ThanksGiving group last March, I think it was... and it really has helped me with my slow process... forcing me to be aware of the things there are to be thankful about.

At another site I can across this the other day:

"Expressing gratitude is transformative, just as transformative as expressing complaint. Imagine an experiment involving two people. One is asked to spend ten minutes each morning and evening expressing gratitude (there is always something to be grateful for), while the other is asked to spend the same amount of time practicing complaining (there is, after all, always something to complain about). One of the subjects is saying things like, "I hate my job. I can't stand this apartment. Why can't I make enough money? My spouse doesn't get along with me. That dog next door never stops barking and I just can't stand this neighborhood." The other is saying things like, "I'm really grateful for the opportunity to work; there are so many people these days who can't even find a job. And I'm sure grateful for my health. What a gorgeous day; I really like this fall breeze." They do this experiment for a year. Guaranteed, at the end of that year the person practicing complaining will have deeply reaffirmed all his negative "stuff" rather than having let it go, while the one practicing gratitude will be a very grateful person. What you practice is what you are; practice and the goal of practice are identical, cause and effect are one reality. Expressing gratitude can, indeed, change our way of seeing ourselves and the world."

- Roshi John Daido Loori (1931-2009)

Today, I am thankful for YOU, Ellen!

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    "a string of perfect moments" - is there any more noble life's ambition than that?

May I wear "A string of perfect moments" like a family heirloom around my neck always... pearls of exquisite beauty, seconds of harmony, strung memories of long & deep jewels of timelessness.

(thought of you this morning, I took watermelon balls on my bike ride this morning for my half-way celebration - mmmm summmmmer)

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GEODAWG 6/5/2010 6:07PM

    Beautiful blog.
I know the author lived in a northern hempisphere because here in the tropics it is too hot to be perfect!

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WATERMELLEN 6/4/2010 6:22PM


Thanks to JOPAPGH -- and here's the link: although turns out it's "rare" rather than "fair"!! Very very Victorian too!!

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WALKINGANNIE 6/4/2010 2:20PM

    Your writing is always so evocative Ellen. I could almost see, hear, feel and smell the perfection that you and Charlie were experiencing.

Thanks for sharing your string of perfect moments and other people's remembered words.

Hope that you're feeling less sore now, too.


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PHEBESS 6/4/2010 11:39AM

    Also A.W. Dunwell, but the next line is different:

A Day In June*

Oh ! what is so fair as a day in June ?
When the gay colored butterflies burst their cocoon,
When the night-blooming cereus smiles to the moon,
What is so fair as a day in June ?

When 'round the blossoms the humming birds come,
When the honey-bees sound their musical hum,
When the robins begin their melodious tune,
What is so fair as a day in June ?

Oh I what is so fair as a day in June ?
When the milkweed lets fly its filmy balloon,
When the squirrel on the branches is drumming his tune,
What is so fair as a day in June ?

When the lillies and roses haye burst into bloom.
And fill the air with their sweet perfume,
When the sun at the sky-top announces noon.
What is so fair as a day in June ?

March may bring Spring, as eyeryone knows,
April continue by melting the snows.
May be made glad with the oriole's tune.
But what is so fair as a day in June ?

Written when nine years old«

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DBCLARINET 6/4/2010 10:21AM

    I somehow didn't know that people forget "And that has made all the difference" when they quote Frost. I thought that was the most important part of the whole thing!

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JOPAPGH 6/4/2010 9:29AM

    The author is James Russell Lowell.

Depending on your definition of Perfection, today is National Donut Day in the U.S., with a free donut from Krispy Kreme or Dunkin Donuts.

I know you can resist anything but temptation...

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Gotta Toe the Line . . .

Thursday, May 27, 2010

About a month ago my dermatologist saw something she didn't like on my big toe under the nail . . . and referred me to a surgeon for a biopsy, who didn't like it either.

Today was the day for the procedure; I'm hopeful that the biopsy results will be negative. But it's going to slow down my progress on my "gateway to 8 k" podrunner programme AND my fun on the golf course until the toe heals again: I've been told to anticipate at least two weeks.

Darn! All the more important that I keep tracking the nutrition as diligently as possible. No way this is going to result in weight gain: I'm absolutely determined.

And also determined that I will get right back to the exercise again as soon as it's possible to do so.

Small blip only: I've gone through worse. And just in case I was going to submit to any tendency to feel a bit sorry for myself, there were two guys in wheelchairs sitting outside the hospital who'd each had one leg fully amputated above the knee: probably diabetes patients. Sure puts my situation into perspective and refocuses my attention on weight control also.

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MSSNOWY 6/9/2010 6:04PM

    Keeping good thoughts! Glad you are having it taken care of -- whatever "it" turns out to be.

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FRACTALMYTH 6/3/2010 11:45AM

    Good luck with controlling the calories :D I'm not doing much of a job at that myself, but cest la vie... it would help if I could race around outside on my crutches, but it's been raining constantly ever since I got out of the hospital. I guess this enforced rest is what is "meant to be". Heal quickly, honey, and I shall endeavour to do the same :)

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    First, I'm so sorry you are dealing with such things. Second, my DH has a "toe" issue as well. I want him to get it looked at but he's reluctant (dang . .. .) that diabetes thing (he has type 2). As long as we have to use this body, it needs to work for us. I know you are taking good care of your habits .. . that counts for so very much.

Heal, toe, heal!!!

My prayers are with you, dear friend,

Jan I'll sing for you now . . . . emoticon your favorite song!!

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    Sorry to hear about your toe and your roadblock. Hopefully there are some activities that you can still do that won't disturb your toe. What about biking? If nothing else, you should at least be able to keep up with strength training!

Plus, I have noticed that sometimes when I can't exercise for a little while, even just a few days, it makes me really eager to get back into it. So maybe when you are all fixed up and ready to go, you will come back stronger and more determined than ever!

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PENNYAN45 5/29/2010 10:03PM

    Injured feet do get in the way of keeping up with lots of exercise...... but not all.
I hope you get good results back soon - and it heals quickly so you can again be off and 'running.'

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TEENY_BIKINI 5/29/2010 9:40PM

    Hang in there, gorgeous. Stay strong and take care of that fabulous body of yours.


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    Chin up little buckaroo! I am visualizing your toe encased in a healing pink bubble.... it may not feel any better, but where I am sitting, it's much prettier like this!

Seriously though, that sucks about your 8K training. It might be the universe asking you to get creative in the area of toeless cardio. (stupid universe) Luckily you are not only strong and centered but you are also focused on the prize - just because the path has to divert a bit you are destined for success!


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WALKINGANNIE 5/28/2010 3:49PM

    Thinking of you Ellen and wishing you well. You've come through so much over recent times and I hope that the results come quickly and bring good news.

In the meantime, tracking everything and focusing on your good health is the very best thing that you can do.

Take care.

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GEODAWG 5/27/2010 9:17PM

    Bless your little heart. I hope you are up and going soon.
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DSHONEYC 5/27/2010 8:32PM

    Aw, bummer Ellen! Isn't it always something? But I am sure its gonna be okay and you'll be doing an 8K (I made a rhyme ). emoticon

So thinking about you until you get the results, that waiting is a drag. Let us know, and keep off your foot!

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BRIGHTSPARK7 5/27/2010 8:22PM

    Ahhh ... sorry to hear about this Ellen, but good that you have had it tested.

Anxiously awaiting the biopsy results with you.

Stay off the foot and give it time to heal. You know best how to take care of it.

The nutrition tracker is your friend ... And mine, too.

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STLRZGRRL 5/27/2010 8:19PM

    Yuh. Perspective is a smack upside the head, innit?

So tell! Did they take the nail off? OUCH OUCH OUCH... no... I have to know...


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PHEBESS 5/27/2010 8:04PM

    OW!!!!! That sounds painful!!!!!

Is it okay to bike?

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JHADZHIA 5/27/2010 7:49PM

    I know all about exercise layoffs, foot trouble is especially bad.
Heal soon! Love the Nutrition Tracker, its a life saver! Especially when you set the Fitness Tracker to zero daily exercise and are given your new calorie range. No math, no fuss, just getting it done!
All the best!

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