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I Said, No!" That's Progress!

Tuesday, June 07, 2011

Very frustrating day at work. Ended in tears as I left late and called my husband on my way home from work.

Talk about emotional food craving. Of the 25 - 30 exits on my way home, every one of them had some fast food restaurant or convenience store calling my name as I went by - I mean I heard them! They were yelling at me! McDonald's said $1.00 burger, iced coffee or sweet tea; Wendy's said Frosty; Arby's said Jamocha shake; Sheetz said frozen mocha; Pilot said hot dog. They all wanted my attention. Wow, did I want comfort food! I ate my apple and drank 16 oz. of water as I drove along, and I just wasn't satisfied. My belly rumbled and I could seem to think about nothing but food. But as every one of them called my name, I waved, journeyed on and said "thank you very much, but no!"

When I got home, I gave myself a pat on the back as I sidestepped an old habit that I've been slipping back into; and I didn't reach for the junk food. I took another few swallows of water, got my chicken out of the crockpot; toasted my almonds and finished my whole wheat couscous, put a pile of veggies on my plate and ate a healthful meal. After determining that, yes, I am still hungry, I took two pieces of candy - that's a story in itself from my 100 day weight loss challenge, but I owed myself some chocolate, so I called in the debt. After about 1/2 hour, I was still hungry, true hunger, not emotional hunger. I opted for dessert - a banana and a cup of 1% milk.

Saying no to junk food after a stressful day? That's progress!

After my stressful day today, I decided that tomorrow I will treat myself to lunch out. I usually pack a healthy lunch, but once a month or so, I like to go out for lunch. I've gone online and looked at the menu, and although the sodium is shockingly high, I believe I will treat myself to lunch at Panera Bread: cup of black bean soup for 110 calories and a tomato mozzarella panini substituting plain whole grain bread for the ciabatta (sob sob - I love the ciabatta, but it adds 140 calories) for 250 calories. I'll finish it with a big glass of ice water with a lemon wedge.

Looking at menus and planning ahead of time what I will eat when I go out? That's progress!

Upward spiral - that's what I'm talking about!

What have you done today that shows progress or maintenance?
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SMILINDI 6/15/2011 9:08PM

    Glowing, beaming......yesssssss a radiant smile accents my face, and radiates from within, for where you once were, and how far you have come. Seeing and realizing all those flashing signs, are truly not only advertisements, but "subliminal messages~triggers," for any and all who had a day just as yours, or are out for a fun day...what ever the case may be! They are marketing techniques that lure in the best of us, emoticon emoticon you did not nibble the bait, or get nabbed by the HOOK!!!! Soooo PROUD OF YOU! Sonic is my down fall, and go figure it all began because I LOVE THEIR (rabbit turd) shaped ICE! It's carried through to my wee ones sweet~even though Dalton will be 19 in a few days, and Lela is getting closer and closer to 15 by the day, when they are with me....together they "sound out with a PLEA.......SONIC MOM....PLEASSSSSSSEEEEEE we gotta have the rabbit turd ice)!!!!! hEAVENS WHAT EVER HAVE I DONE!! Created a memory, or a horror movie in the making....LOL

KUDOS TO YOU MY DEAR~You Are A Blessed Inspiration.........ALWAYS.

XOXOXOXO....
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ELAOPET 6/10/2011 6:21PM

    I am SOO VERY PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!! That IS progress! I have been getting the same calls a lot these days and you know what? Sometimes I resist! We'll make it, I believe it with all my heart. We'll make it because we know how and because we want to and because we've made it this far, hardships and all included! YES!

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 6/9/2011 8:30AM

  Wonderful blog but I am sooo sorry you left work in tears. I am happy for you that today is 'your Friday' and hope you find a replacement job soon. How many months do you have left there? April 1, right? Apr, May, Jun, Jul, Aug, Sep. So you have 3.75 months left.

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JFROGDIVA 6/8/2011 8:20PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonThelma, I am SO proud of you!!!! This is the first step on your journey!!!! Seven days down & 93 to go!!!! You CAN do this!!!!
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GRAMMACATHY 6/8/2011 6:14PM

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LIFEWALK 6/8/2011 3:55PM

    emoticonWoohoo! That's what we're talkin!

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(i so understand when food shouts my name, and I usually have an emotional hangover for a few days after a very stressful event, so you may hear that food calling you, but if you keep saying No!!! they'll get bored & move onto someone else!!! LOL ;)

awesome pre-planned & appropriate restaurant meal! Well done :)

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STRONGIAM 6/8/2011 1:31PM

    emoticon Now that's what I'm talking about! Great progress on not listening to the temptations of fast food. I did remember my packed lunch today (I left it out on the counter this morning so I would not forget). Good planning on checking on the lunch menu ahead of time. I need to start doing that for the resturants that we frequent so I can make better choices. emoticon

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WINFIELD28 6/8/2011 11:52AM

    You did an awesome job!
Good for you!
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KITT52 6/8/2011 9:41AM

    what a fantastic day...great job....I use to hear those calls too but over time there voice is just a very distant memory....
I have not gone to a fast food place for food for myself since April of 2006.....so it can be done....

have a great day and enjoy your planned lunch

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RAINBOWFALLS 6/8/2011 8:39AM

    You are my hero! emoticon

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WOMANCHEF 6/8/2011 7:10AM

    Great planning - you are in inspiration!

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-POOKIE- 6/8/2011 1:34AM

    *hugs* Im sorry you had a bad day, but my goodness YES thats progress in saying no, and in planning a treat carefully instead.

Be proud my friend.

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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 6/8/2011 1:12AM

    Sorry you had a frustrating day at work but WOW you have made great progress! God job!!!



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NELLIEC 6/7/2011 11:54PM

    Yes, definitely progress!

When I discovered that what I had wanted for dinner was still frozen, I went ahead and had a "repeat" dinner from yesterday even though I had wanted to vary some. I didn't get tempted by something even easier that would not have given me the right nutrition for a diabetic.

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What Do You Know About Melatonin?

Monday, June 06, 2011

I wish I were writing an informational blog, but I'm not. I'm reaching out with questions. I've done some research on line, but I'd like to communicate with real, live people who have used it or know someone who has.

I've been having trouble sleeping. Could be from a multitude of things that I'm not going to go into here. My sister, who is a nurse, suggested maybe melatonin might help.

Here are my questions:

Does it leave you groggy in the morning? Did you talk to your doctor first or just start taking it? Do you use chemically prepared or animal based? Are there any side effects? How do you know what dosage to take? Do you need to take it continually or can you take it as needed? I'm considering melatonin as a possible sleep aid solution for me, so am trying to find everything out about it that I can.

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EBENDER4 6/19/2011 10:06PM

    I take it, actually just took it about an hour ago. I do not have a problem with it. My doctor gave my 1mg tablets and that is enough to get me to the point where I can go to sleep well. It is important to talk to your doctor before taking it, but I recommend it over other sleep aids because I sleep well but do not wake up groggy and I can still get up if I need to go to the bathroom or if my little ones wake up.

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GRAMMACATHY 6/8/2011 6:16PM

    The melatonin did nothing for me. I much prefer chamomile tea or a warm bath with lavender salts. A walk about 7pm helps too. Anything to calm the chatter in my brain. I can't have anything with caffeine in it after noon either.

Good luck!



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CAROLFAITHWALKR 6/6/2011 11:06PM

  Sorry, don't know.

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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 6/6/2011 9:00PM

    I have taken it and it did work but chamomile tea works better for me. I was a bit cranky when I was taking it but that could have been from other things - I did not feel groggy or 'drugged' but a couple of people whose opinion I value suggested that taking any hormone can mess up other hormones so I decided to stop taking it. As it happened, I had no trouble sleeping after I stopped so whatever was causing the original problem went away, I guess - now I just fix a cup of tea if I feel like I need a bit of help falling asleep!

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RHONDALYN10 6/6/2011 4:36PM

    I used it when I worked nights with no problems. Followed label. My daughter who is 17 just went through a period of insomnia and our family md suggested melatonin to her as well and it worked like a charm.


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RAINBOWFALLS 6/6/2011 2:19PM

    Interesting - I had never heard of this option

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LIFEWALK 6/6/2011 11:40AM

    I've used Schiff Melatonin Plus (3 mg melatonin with 25 mg theanine) for about the last few years. The bottle says not to exceed max 10mg. I don't take it every night if I'm already falling asleep, but with wacky hormones & exceptional stress, I too often was unable to sleep or stay asleep after an initial 1 or 2 hours that knocked off the exhausted.

It helps me feel drowsier and fall asleep easier (against a troubled mind) and most of the time, helps me fall back asleep after restroom trips. I usually take 1 and on rare occasion have taken a 2nd one after an hour if I was still tossing. No side effects I've noticed so far and I am not groggy in the morning. Take 1 hr b4 bedtime. It does say it should not be used with several different conditions. I did not check with my doctor, although I told him I was having sleep issues for years and he nodded but did not offer any solutions. I was not interested in sleep medication that would sedate me.

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SPARKLES 6/6/2011 10:22AM

    Ah - ok - here's the blog. I tired to answer on the "short form" & was very restricted.

I'm menopausal + have a crazy life & a crazy family. Lots of stress. So:

I've taken it a good number of times, with very little ill effect, unless I started upping my dosage. However, I have NEVer had any really crazy effects from it - just some tiredness the next day if I took too much.

My word of advice is - start SMALL. Way back when I first used it, I only took like 3 mcg. Which is about 1/3 of 1 mg. (I think) When I couldn't find that dosage, I bought the 1 mg pills & broke them in half. (1/2 mg) Awhile back, my son bought some 5 mg dissolve-in-your-mouth kind!!! I was like "5 MG!! Are you CRAZY!!??" I've taken half of one of those a few times, (2.5 mg), but notice some daytime tiredness the next day, & suspected it was the melatonin. Next time I'll probably try 1/4 of pill.

Note: I have a fairly high tolerance to some things, & am used to taking low dose ambien. When I want a break from that, I take melatonin.

No - you don't have to take in continually, nor, in my opinion, would you want to. To me, it seems like it might build up in your system just a little bit over time. (again with possible daytime tiredness)

My opinion is if you are going to try it, start with no more than 1/2 mg, until you see. I know some people's systems are way different.

Hope I've been any help at all.

Jenn

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MARGOMCP 6/6/2011 8:51AM

    I tried it a few times and had results similar to JURI62, it made me feel weird/uncomfortable.

I'm having much better results with calcium/magnesium (have to get the right magnesium though, NOT magnesium oxide, that's like what's in Milk of Magnesia and can mess up your gut over time) and Vitamin D. Have your doctor test your Vitamin D, that has helped me the most I think. But try eating a bowl of cereal with a banana before bed (or just drinking a glass of milk?). I know if I wake in the night sometimes I'll go downstairs and eat a banana (magnesium) and get back to sleep and sleep well afterwards; I just "credit" the banana to my breakfast account.

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TINY67 6/6/2011 7:25AM

    I use it now as a substitute for my sleep meds and it seems to be working. It's the same thing that's in turkey that makes you tired after you eat it. You can find it in the vitamin section of store and comes in different strengths. Good luck, it's worked for me.

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JURI62 6/6/2011 5:54AM

    I only took it once. My experience was waking up in the middle of the night to use bathroom and being so disoriented I could not find my way back to bed...I got "stuck" in corner. I was so freaked out I haven't taken it again. I am a light weight with any medicine. Have you tried joining the Sleep Challenge here? I am considering it.
Good luck.

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100 Days of Weight Loss Challenge

Friday, June 03, 2011

I need to re-focus and re-gain momentum. KITT52 and LIFEWALK invited me to their 100 days of weight loss challenge team and I've taken them up on it.
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=21194


I can't join them every day, but will join when I can so I'm playing catchup here. This challenge is based on the book 100 Days of Weight Loss by Linda Spangler. I'm currently checking with the library to see if they have it or can get it for me. I haven't read the book, but she is doing a daily blog which is helpful in and of itself, even without the book. She also has tools on her website that can be downloaded.
theweightlosscafe.com/blog/category/
100-days-challenge/


I've started a personal journal on the team with my personal journey on this weight loss challenge and might in the future post a link to that thread. For now, I've simply copied and pasted from my journal. My time is a limited commodity, so I won't have time for fancy. But I want to make it happen, and I think this will help me focus. Best wishes to all my spark friends.

Day 1 I used to be that way

Make a list of any fears or negative behaviors that have hurt your weight-loss success in the past. Read each one out loud, and then say, I used to be that way, but now Im different.

I used to drink iced tea and sweetened soda; now I drink 6 8 cups of water a day, rarely a sugar sweetened beverage, and once or twice a week an artificially sweetened beverage.

I used to be a couch potato and exercise was a bad word in my vocabulary; now I make it a goal to walk at least 3 miles per week and more as I can. I look for ways to be active instead of sedentary.

I used to eat junk food right out of the boxes and bags; now my goal is to portion out the amount I choose to eat and put the bag or box away.

I used to indiscriminately eat whatever pleased my tastebuds; now I try to prepare and choose healthful foods that nurture my body, reserving the tastebud pleasing foods for a treat.

I used to routinely take seconds of food at meals and eat until I was full; now I portion out the amount that I should have on a 9 plate and rarely take seconds.

I used to smother my oatmeal and even cold cereals with sugar; now I add no sugar to my cold cereals and measure out the amount of sugar I allow myself on my oatmeal.

I used to use sugar to sweeten everything, and lots of it: now I use sugar very sparingly, instead choosing Stevia and/or Splenda as at least part of the sweetener.

I used to think that weight loss and healthy living had to be an all or none mentality; now I believe that weight loss can be achieved through baby steps and changes that are doable.

I used to stay up late even though I had to get up early; now I try to guard my sleep time and have everything completed so I can be ready for bed between 9:00 9:30.

I used to plan my meals day by day and would end up making many pre-packaged foods and using mostly beef; now I plan my meals 1 - 2 weeks in advance and plan healthy balanced meals with lots of fiber and vegetables and a variety of proteins, including more chicken.

I used to fix my lunches in the morning, and when I had nothing on hand, would end up purchasing fast food for lunch; now I fix my lunch in the evening, down to packing it in my lunch bag and placing it in the fridge so that I can just grab and go with a healthy lunch.

I used to purchase snacks from the vending machine at work; now I take a yogurt for a morning snack and an apple for an afternoon snack, and a visit to the vending machine is very rare.

Day Two - Interested or Committed?

* Decide that you will always be committed to your weight-loss plan, not just interested. Write a declaration about your new level of commitment.
I will take care of myself first so that I am prepared to take care of others. I am committed to making this happen. When I have an appointment, I meet it. When I have a job, I show up. I will consider a healthier me part of my job. I will do it until it becomes ingrained habit.

* How will I do it?
I will look for fresh ways or places to exercise so that I enjoy it rather than it being a drudgery. I will try to buy snack foods for my husband that I don't particularly like so that I am not as tempted to eat them. I will look for someone that I am comfortable with to be accountable to for my exercise and my eating.

* What will I do today?
I will take a walk at my favorite walking spot and I will do stretching exercises after my walk.

Day 3 Do It Anyway

*In your diet or exercise plan, identify a task you dont feel like doing, and then do it anyway! Record it here.
I don't feel like walking, but I will do it.

*Notice how it feels to accomplish a goal by taking a no matter what approach to it. Describe your reaction.
It makes me feel strong and accomplished.

*Make a list of several actions you plan to stick with today, regardless of how you feel at the moment.
I will take a walk.
I will drink at least 6 cups of water
I will plan my menus for next week's meals
I will not eat the potato chips that are lurking in my cupboard.

  
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KITT52 6/5/2011 9:31AM

    we are so happy to have you
you are doing great

good plan

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RAINBOWFALLS 6/4/2011 7:45PM

    Best of luck!

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ELAOPET 6/4/2011 5:18PM

    I took the time to read this and by the end of it I loved it!!!!!! I am very short on time, since I work double shifts - This is great stuff my friend! You are loving on yourself and I love that! emoticon

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MTULLY 6/4/2011 11:46AM

    WOW!! Especially your list of "I used to be" - when you put it like that, you can really see the huge changes you have made in your life. There is something to be said for taking the time to reflect on your progress and what you are truly willing to do to reach your goals. Definitely a powerful tool to help you re-focus and regain your momentum. I need to do likewise. Thank you for the inspiration!

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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 6/3/2011 10:19PM

    Wow, that's great - I did get an email from Linda Spangle about how she was going to re-start the 100 days but I was on a trip and it didn't catch my eye but your blog has 'grabbed' me so I may try to catch up with the 100 days group - thanks!! And love your blog answers to the questions - good job!!

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 6/3/2011 6:17PM

  Duplicate

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 6/3/2011 6:17PM

  I'm definitely coming back to this post as soon as I have time to read it.

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LIFEWALK 6/3/2011 4:24PM

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Warm, wow! these are all awesome! I nodded all the way through & had to snag "guard my sleep time" ~ I was the person wasting it but I love this wording. Thank you! Look forward to doing the challenge with you & reading your insights, you have Sparked me today :)

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-POOKIE- 6/3/2011 12:07PM

    *smiles* I am confident you will do your best!

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STRONGIAM 6/3/2011 11:16AM

    emoticon That sounds very interesting and a great healthy challenge. emoticon

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Just What the Doctor Ordered

Saturday, May 28, 2011

I've been struggling with binge eating - emotional eating sounds nicer, but the ugly fact remains. If you've been reading my recent blogs, you know this and are probably saying, "Okay, get on with it already."

Let me say for the record that I know the rule about if you don't buy it, you can't eat it. However, let me also say for the record, that I am not the only one in my household. My husband does not share my attitude toward the evils of potato chips, candy and Little Debbies; consequently, they are purchased for his enjoyment. It stands to reason that they are thus in my house. I've moved the candy dish to a spot where I need to go far out of my way to get to it. We've jokingly talked about storing some of these items in the safe for which I forget the combination. But maybe it wouldn't be such a bad idea.

I came across a blog this morning that couldn't have been more timely and seems to be just what the doctor ordered for me. This is written by SP friend and inspiration ~INDYGIRL. If you have trouble with binge eating, or want to have knowledge to help someone who does, I encourage you to read it.

www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=tip
s_how_to_stop_a_binge


Wishing you a sparktacular weekend, my friends

  
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GRAMMACATHY 6/3/2011 3:07AM

    I too have a tall skinny hubby that likes his treats. Painful isn't it?

Thanks for sharing the link. I really enjoyed the article.
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SMILINDI 5/30/2011 1:51AM

    Hi Sweet You, I was coming to leave a note on your page, just to check and see how you are doing. Upon seeing the title of your blog, this is where I opted to begin. Twas a good place I do believe. You are so not alone where binge eating is concerned. I would truly be "GUILTY AS CHARGED," THEREFORE I OPT TO CONFESS~seems less painful than being charged with it. GULP!

Like your husband, mine is a snacker on anything and everything~sweet, salty, creamy, chewy, crispy.....snack, snack, snack. I begged him two years ago to lock up his snacks, not just "hide" them. Hiding doesn't work, as I will climb ladders when in sleep walking mode if on a mission to seek out what ever my craving is. Last year when we moved into this house, he purchased a stainless steel, vertical lock box with three seprate doors that mounts to a wall easily. It happened. He did it for me, and oh my goodness what a relief!!!! I'm still fat & sassy again....in due time with enough prayers this too might be able to be turned around. One day at a time.....right????

Thinking Of You, And Sooooo Understanding!!!!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo.......
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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 5/29/2011 12:53PM

    My DH loves candy, etc, too but the 'rule' is that he has to keep it in his office 'out of my daily sight' - if it's put away somewhere, I'm not going to go hunting for it and therefore won't be tempted to eat it!

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LIFEWALK 5/28/2011 11:42AM

    loved it too!

:::nods::: speaking of... us here too... dh has helped after some honest conversations about this... he now keeps his goodies out of my sight, and when i find them, he moves them... it has helped... i also tell myself that not my food, not ok to eat it unless invited just as if I were in the home of an acquaintance... i would never raid their food unless they offered... i have most trouble when he still wants and brings home something that requires the stove and smells yummy when hot or requires the freezer/fridge.... we have talked about getting him his own!!! (for similar reasons ;)



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Wild Ride & Car Damage Results in Stress Binge

Friday, May 27, 2011

So . . . last night on my way home from work - that lovely 90 mile commute, I hit a hail storm; or rather, I should say, it hit me - my car to be exact! Wow! Where is an underpass when you need it?

Driving along, keep hearing the tornado warning alert for the counties that I am driving through, see the dark, dark clouds ahead, see that I am driving straight into the heart of one hellacious thunderstorm. In hindsight, should have gotten off the interstate, found someplace to park my car under a roof (Pilot, Sheetz, etc.) and stayed put until it passed. But stubborn me thinks I'm not a wimpy driver and I can do this. By now it is raining torrents and extremely gusty winds. I see an underpass, see a vehicle stopped under it and think once again, I am not a wimpy driver I can do this, and keep going, not thinking about the consequences of hail. About now the hail starts, small at first, now larger. Now I am earnestly wishing for that underpass I just turned down. Now it is pelting down. I think I'll keep driving until I find an underpass to pull under. By now, it is raining so hard, and my car is being pelted by quarter to golf ball size hailstones and I absolutely cannot see to drive. I pull off the side of the road and put my 4-way flashers on. Every car has pulled off the road - not a one is attempting to make it through this storm. As I sit in the storm, hail hits my car so hard the car literally rocks when it hits. I entertain the thought that it might break a window. Water gushes down the interstate like a river with a stream of hailstones floating atop it. I have my radio blasting and can hardly even hear it. I turn the radio off and sit in my own little world surrounded by the fiercest rain/hail storm I have ever been in. I call my husband on my cell phone and can hardly hear him above the noise of the storm. Later, my husband said I was shouting, he thought I was scared. Well, I don't know that I was really scared, although it was not the most comforting situation I have ever been in; I was more sick over what I knew was happening to my car that I've only had for 7 weeks. I was shouting because I couldn't hear him; consequently, it stands to reason I must shout so he can hear me, right? emoticon

I don't know how long I sit there, maybe five minutes, the storm abates a bit, enough that I think I will attempt to drive to find an underpass. About a mile down the road, I find one, but guess what - no vacancy. It is just full up, strung straight across the road, road blocked tight. Every vehicle crammed in there that could possibly fit. I squirm in and get the nose of my car under it, for whatever good it might do. When the hail stops, the rest of the cars pull out and I pull in, stop and get out to look at the damage - wow! Sickening!

I head down the road again, hail gone, but torrential downpour of rain. Leaves, tree branches, debris littering the road like a carpet. Uh, oh, hail again, smaller, marble size, but this time, when I hit the underpass, I stop under it and wait for the hail to subside. The remainder of my ride home is through some heavy rain for a time, but uneventful.

I've looked at the car this morning, it is even worse than I thought. Dimpled on every surface, much like a golf ball. So one more layer of stress has been added to my plate and I haven't handled it well this morning. I've eaten horribly - after these weeks of doing so good and thinking I'm getting back on track, how can one stressful situation so quickly make me forget all I've learned and all I've struggled for?

I feel like this is going to be the struggle of a lifetime. Will I ever get to the place that I don't react to stress by reaching for food? It's like a nasty little gremlin inside of me reaches out for the junk food when the stress level rises without asking me, without my permission, without even alerting me. I know - don't tell me it doesn't help - I know that! It only makes me feel guilty, which adds more stress, which makes me want to indulge more, which adds more guilt, which adds more stress which . . .

Thankfully, I am safe and unhurt. I think of the people in Joplin MO, Japan and other places who have suffered monstrous losses and realize I have much to be grateful for. I've called the insurance company, thankfully, we're covered! I've called the auto body shop, thankfully, they are in today. Interestingly enough, when I called the body shop and said what I needed, her comment was, "Oh, yeah!" I said, "I bet you are getting a lot of calls." Her reply, "Oh, yeah! Including two of my bosses." My comment, "It was bad!" "Oh, yeah!" This seemed to be her phrase of the morning, "Oh, yeah!" Thankfully, I'm off work today and can take the car in to get an estimate on repair.

Thankfully, just because I've started my day off wrong, doesn't mean that I need to finish it wrong. I can change this now; I don't need to wait until tomorrow. And thankfully, I have SP. If it weren't for you dear friends, I would have already gone off the deep end on a binge big time. This is my anchor and I am truly thankful for SP and for YOU.

Do you struggle with stress eating? How do you overcome it? Tell me your secrets? I really want to know how to end this never ending struggle?

  
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GRAMMACATHY 6/8/2011 6:19PM

    Wow! I am going to have to subscribe to your blogs. What an amazing adventure. I am sorry about your car, but the storm must have been adrenaline charging.
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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 5/27/2011 4:15PM

    How scary!! Wow! I guess I am a 'wimpy driver' because that sort of thing would have had me huddled somewhere for sure - esp the tornado warnings! It's funny - I live in California and when I visited Texas, where they have tornado warnings all the time, people would say 'oh, I'd be so afraid of earthquakes' - well, news flash - a big earthquake is every decade or so, a really big one is very rare, but some of these places in the midwest seem to get clobbered by tornado damage every year! Well, maybe it's just perspective - the devil you know and all that stuff!!

I am SOOO sorry about your car but gosh, REALLY GLAD you are OK! It could have been worse, as you say - and I am glad you 'only' had body damage to the car!

As for the binge, I think it's pretty normal for us to react that way - yes, it's better to learn a healthier way to react but let's just say I wish I had a dime for every time someone binged after a stressful event - you'll do better for the rest of the day and hope you have a wonderful Memorial day weekend!!


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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 5/27/2011 4:12PM

    How scary!! Wow! I guess I am a 'wimpy driver' because that sort of thing would have had me huddled somewhere for sure - esp the tornado warnings! It's funny - I live in California and when I visited Texas, where they have tornado warnings all the time, people would say 'oh, I'd be so afraid of earthquakes' - well, news flash - a big earthquake is every decade or so, a really big one is very rare, but some of these places in the midwest seem to get clobbered by tornado damage every year! Well, maybe it's just perspective - the devil you know and all that stuff!!

I am SOOO sorry about your car but gosh, REALLY GLAD you are OK! It could have been worse, as you say - and I am glad you 'only' had body damage to the car!

As for the binge, I think it's pretty normal for us to react that way - yes, it's better to learn a healthier way to react but let's just say I wish I had a dime for every time someone binged after a stressful event - you'll do better for the rest of the day and hope you have a wonderful Memorial day weekend!!


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STRONGIAM 5/27/2011 2:39PM

    Came back to share a post by Indygirl that was featured today and it was about binge eating. Maybe something she wrote will help:
http://www.dailyspark.com/
blog.asp?post=tips_how_to_stop_
a_binge

(you may have to copy and paste the link)

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 5/27/2011 2:04PM

  I don't know how I got unsubscribed, but I re-subscribed. Wow what a harrowing ride. Yes you should have pulled in but don't beat yourself up, that is in the past now.

Stress eating: this was a pop quiz. You failed this one but don't worry, you'll have another opportunity at the next pop quiz. Life will keep you supplied with new opportunities for new pop quizzes.

Base your strategy on Seven Words.

SEVEN WORDS:
Advanced Decision Making
Daily Integrity

1. Advanced Decision Making - since you know it's a pop quiz and another one is coming up, you just don't know when, what can you do differently in the same circumstances next time? Make a list. What you are able to do next time, and also what you are willing to do next time. Also, next time is sure to be DIFFERENT circumstances just to mess you up. So ALSO brainstorm and make a list, what can you differently in a different scenario next time?

2. Daily Integrity - this is a muscle exercise. You just have to muscle through it each time, no shortcuts here. The muscle will get stronger over time as you strength train it. Except this muscle is mental. Stephen Covey, "7 Habits of Highly Effective People", describes this muscle as the Space between stimulus and response, this muscle is the freedom to choose. Between stimulus and response, there is a Space, and in that Space lies your choice. As you exercise this muscle, your personal freedom grows and expands. In the beginning there is NO space, what do you mean space!, it went by so fast I doubt there was one, and if there was one it was too small to see or act upon, I am a victim, I am powerless, I HAD NO CHOICE. That's how it FEELS, but, there IS a space between S&R, during the next pop quiz have one of your goals to look for it and find it and notice it. But it's there. And it can grow. So now the next pop quiz looks like a valuable opportunity, instead of something you dread and have homework preparation to do for; it's an opportunity to expand your space and your personal freedom.

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LIFEWALK 5/27/2011 12:31PM

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I did both, and with sickerettes, we walk away... with food, we change our eating patterns and that takes time, pondering & trying new strategies/patterns, practice, adjustments and more practice... and it is a spiral with the old patterns fading.

and the important thing here for me was to realize this cycle of relearning & practicing and easing off is a normal improvement process... nothing to be ashamed of.... and is the usual path to overcoming this struggle...

i find that acute stress triggers the old patterns, as does, to my surprise taking pain pills...

as you said, most importantly, you are here & safe.... sorry about your car... I know it was new, shiny & bright... :::pouts & sticks out lip::: it bumped into a freak accident...

so now you shouldn't be afraid to get a small nick, scrape, dent, bump or spot on it, huh?

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k, maybe too early for a joke!

after we got dh's brand spankin new work truck, a horse backed into it & used it to scratch its tukus... leaving a rump sized indent on the truck... that remains to this day... dh wanted to get it fixed but we decided such was the life of a work truck...

cars not so much, i hope they can fix it for you.... the damage sounds awful... let us know... :)

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WARMSPRINGDAY 5/27/2011 11:28AM

    Strongiam's comment about quitting smoking makes me think about the fact that probably most of us reach for something: food, a cigarette, a beer. Some of us have learned to reach for healthier things. Why can't I be motivated to reach for that bag of baby carrots or celery sticks?
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STRONGIAM 5/27/2011 11:09AM

    emoticon So glad you are OK. That is a very scary situation to be in! You have answered your on question by saying "Thankfully, just because I've started my day off wrong, doesn't mean that I need to finish it wrong." We are human. We have reactions to stress.

Think about how you may have reacted to such a stressful situation before. You probably would have stayed on a binge for a much longer period of time, maybe not even recognizing what was happening.

You are stopping that downward spiral. I struggle with stress eating also. I TRY to not have things in the house that would severly impact my eating (like Cheezit)so if I do start stress eating it won't be "junk food". But, I would like to find some other way to cope with stress that becomes automatic instead of food.

One thing I did learn from quitting smoking is to take deep breaths. Sometimes when I feel myself getting worked up over something and my mind is racing, I take several deep breaths and it seems to help bring things into better focus and has a calming effect.

Didn't mean for this to turn out so long. Again, very happy that YOU are ok! emoticon

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