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Just Do It Still Works

Sunday, March 20, 2011

I've been in a deep, dark place. I really thought that I would handle a job loss better than I have been, I've found myself not as strong as I hoped I would be. But, on the other hand, to be kind to myself, I've had a lot else going on, as all of us do.

Dick Bolles said it well in "What Color is Your Parachute?" when he said to the effect that when you lose your job, you want nothing more than to crawl under the covers and turn the electric blanket up to 9. Ah, I couldn't have said it better myself. I borrowed this book from the library and found it so helpful, and with a lot of "homework" to do that I knew I couldn't get full benefit of it just from a three week loan from the library. So I went to Ebay and purchased a used one for a very reasonable price. It hasn't come yet, so I am currently "bookless."

Having said all that, I can't go to the book for reference, but I have two takeaways that smacked me in the face. 1) When you lose your job, get plenty of sleep. I've been working on that and doing better, feeling more rested. Message heard. 2) Don't crawl under that blanket. Walk! No this isn't a healthy living book, but could sound like one, huh? Sleep and walk.

Now I know that exercise is important to handling stress; you know I know this, I've told you myself! But, know it as I might, I've been mentally and emotionally crawling under that blanket. It's time to throw the covers back, turn the electric blanket off and get back to what will truly make me feel better.

Walk! Just do it!

Today, I did it. Only asked 1 mile of myself, but I did it - 1.5 miles. Baby steps! Just do it still works!

And today I hit 250 miles on my virtual walk across America.

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ELAOPET 3/31/2011 6:51AM

    I have a real strong issues with work. I'm so scared of it you wouldn't believe it! Scared because I have zero confidance. Just now I got a call from my future boss who moved my first day for two days earlier. I am so freaking out!
And can't even go for a run, not even a long walk...feeling pretty stressed out!
I am going to wait till monday when I see my dr and after that deceide what to do about this job.
I do my best, keeping that blanket away as best as I can...
So, I get it, I so do!

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LESLIES537 3/22/2011 7:35PM

    Sounds like a great book. I'm glad that it's helping you. It's all about the baby steps. Sometimes you'll even take 2 steps forward and one step back...but THAT is OK! Just do it! emoticon emoticon

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    Oh boy could I ever have written that . . . It's been a long hard road for me; I hope your new job comes speedily . . .

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SMILINDI 3/21/2011 12:58AM

    emoticon emoticonMy complete empathy is with you, where "without work," is concerned. How blessed you are that throwing back the covers~getting out and walking is an option. Maybe that extra half mile was done so in "spirit," for me. emoticon emoticon

You Are Wonderful, and God Bless you for getting out from under those covers!

Angel Blessings Always,
~Diane~ emoticon

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MOV4WARD 3/20/2011 8:51PM

    emoticonWow, you are walking in dappled sunlight, beautiful!

So good 2 c u walking my friend :)

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MTULLY 3/20/2011 5:35PM

    You continue to put one step in front of the other - both literally and figuratively! I think you are being amazingly proactive in the things you are doing - identifying resources such as the book you have been reading and throwing off those covers and going out walking. You are truly an inspiration! I am hoping and praying that everything falls into place for you soon.

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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 3/20/2011 3:30PM

    I personally think losing our job is a super-super-super MAJOR event, in part because we tend to think of ourselves in terms of 'what we do' - our conversations are peppered with comments like his son is a doctor, my friend is an accountant, I met a nice teacher the other day....when we introduce ourselves to people in person, we often include our occupation.....so it's a really bit part of how we think about ourselves!! To suddenly have 'unemployed' as our occupation can be very depressing!

The economic times have been so tough lately, there are a lot of people in this same predicament - I'm so glad you are staying active on SparkPeople and doing positive things for yourself because you are a fabulous role model, whether you think that's true or not. Yes, you've been knocked for a loop - yes, you've gotten somewhat depressed - yes, you feel disappointed and think you're not doing too well but I think you are doing extremely well, esp considering everything else you've been thru lately!!

I really wish I could 'do something' to help you and all the others I know who don't have jobs right now [that 'club' also includes my son, by the way, who has been very depressed and struggling over his lack of job progress, so I see it 'close up' as well as identify from my own personal past unemployment stretches]

Keep being as positive as you can, keep doing healthy things to the extent you are able and know that today is Mother Nature's "New Year's Day," the time of new beginnings and new growth - I wish you the best results during this season of starting over!!


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KIWI202 3/20/2011 2:16PM

    I feel the same way. I'm glad our mantra is still working. I find I feel much better on the days I go to the gym than the days I stay under the covers and let life pass by.

Just do it. Walk and take those baby steps. I'll be rooting for you!

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CYCLINGSANDY 3/20/2011 2:15PM

    I am praying for your jobless state. I have not been a good SP friend on keeping up with your happenings.
Sleep and a walk sounds like just the thing to do your body good. May God give you His calm and peace right now.


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-POOKIE- 3/20/2011 1:15PM

    *hugs* you are right, I went out and walked despite the miserable weather and felt better for it as well.

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STRONGIAM 3/20/2011 12:45PM

    emoticon So sorry you are going through such a stressful period in your life. I have not read that book, but I have seen it many times at the library and have considered checking it out. Contratulations on your decision to throw the covers back and walk. Will be praying for that window to open! emoticon

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This Mentality Has Got to Go

Friday, March 18, 2011


I've unconsciously let myself slip into this mentality that "hey, you've been going through some tough times and it's okay to treat yourself."


Every day? to candy? an Arby's turnover? pie at the restaurant? potato chips for an afternoon snack? then an apple on top of it because I feel guilty about the junk food? cookies (notice I said plural)? McDonald's french fries?


Okay, girl - little talk to self here. It's not all about you! Everybody has tough times in life! You don't have to drown yourself in old habits and food to get through this. Other people make it through without the crutch of food. You'll be better equipped to face life if you take care of yourself and eat healthy. And speaking of taking care of yourself - when did you last take a walk? Come on, now, be honest! It's been 2 1/2 weeks, hasn't it? And 1 or 2 weeks before that? Girl! You said a few weeks ago that you were going to be gentle with yourself, but you've been gentle too long. This is only going to take you down! It's not taking you anywhere good, that's for sure! You have come a long way on this journey! But you have a long way to go, and this is not the time for slacking, this is the time for persevering, when the going is tough! And you can do it. You've had some bumps in the road, but don't let them bring you down.

Message heard!

Today, I started with a baby step and I counted my cups of water. Seven down and one to go. I will not wallow in self-pity that ends up resulting in self-loathing. I will face my life like an adult and I will make healthy choices. I can do this! I will!

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    Loving myself is something I've been working on.

A cookie or ice cream or little treat is NOT loving.

I still have to wrap my mind around that.

Time for paradigm change.

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RAINBOWFALLS 3/19/2011 9:21PM

    Small steps are the best way to get back on the right track! emoticon

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GRAMMACATHY 3/19/2011 9:06PM

    Hey! I dare you to go three days without refined sugar. It is only three days????

Are you game?????? It will help with the cravings and depression too.

emoticon You can have fruit and honey.

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MOV4WARD 3/19/2011 8:36PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticonWell said. Here's to getting up & taking baby steps!

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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 3/19/2011 11:05AM

    I have let myself slip into similar mentality more than once, including very recently - yikes!! It's not that I "don't know any better" but the stinkin' thinkin' just seems to take advantage of any opportunity to take over.

So - thanks for posting this - I will join you in the changed mentality and give myself another 'new start' as well. Together, we can do this!!


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MTULLY 3/19/2011 1:22AM

    Your last paragraph says it all - You CAN do this and you ARE! Things may have gotten you for a bit, but you are obviously back in control now. That takes a lot of inner strength, but I knew you had it in you. Keep this streak going!

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FILLANGES 3/18/2011 8:06PM

    Good pep talk! I love that you're taking baby steps. I've always said"make small, "easy to do" changes." And little by little, you'll have a whole bunch of new healthy habits to rely on. My continued prayers for you and I know God is pleased with who you are!Take care and God Bless.
In His service, Rick emoticon

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ELAOPET 3/18/2011 6:35PM

    The worst thing of all is - it doesn't even help :(
Be brave, deep breath and hang in there. (I'm so bad I got into an argument with dad this morning and actually forgot to weigh myself! first time in 11 months!)

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-POOKIE- 3/18/2011 6:33PM


You have to be wise enough to know by now that the fleeting pleasure of food is NOTHING compared to the guilt and remorse from eating it afterwards.

I know it (but still do it!).

I hope the tough talking helps *hugs*

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What Color is Your Parachute?

Saturday, March 12, 2011

That's the name of the book I'm reading right now to brush up my all important job searching skills. Great book.



Working on the job search, but no nibbles yet. Hard work! Wish it were magic!

I feel like I'm getting sick - how wonderful is that!

Don't forget to spring forward.

And pray for Japan.

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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 3/17/2011 10:01AM

    Great book - it's been around a long time but updated frequently and always fabulous! Good luck with the job hunt!!

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MOV4WARD 3/13/2011 5:08PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon(sighs) i also wish there were a magic wand! but the truth is that we do the reading/prep work so we will be available & able & ready when opportunity does knock on our door. Keep the faith (hugs :)

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    Dave Ramsey recommends that book, I have read it.

I will post a thread, "Natural Help for the Flu", on the Christian Women's team. It has lots of clickable links, which I can't do here. Take extra Vit D3, and eat some kale or collards.

Stress impairs your immune system; remember to deep breathe, drink water.


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NELLIEC 3/12/2011 8:12PM

    I have been praying for your job situation.

Yep, that time change is upon us!

I am also praying for Japan!

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ELAOPET 3/12/2011 7:16PM

    Oh, we're changing time again? I forgot! Maybe US is switching before us?
Horror in Japan, OMG!
Honey, deep breaths! The job will come, it will!!!
ps- I sure my parachute is green, it would be tragic if it weren't my fav color! ;)

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Just When I've Been Missing My Mother's Prayers

Wednesday, March 09, 2011

I have been so missing and longing for my mother's prayers with everything going on in my life right now. And guess what my sister found in my mother's Bible today. And look what she underlined. The markings are all hers.

Wow! Did I say WOW?

I hope you can read it. It was the best I could do with the scanned image my sister sent me.

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FILLANGES 3/12/2011 10:27PM

    Thank you for sharing this. i was filled with a beautiful, loving peace and actually got "goose bumps" as I read this. Thank you! Your mother will ALWAYS be with you! God Bless you.
In His service, Rick emoticon

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ELAOPET 3/12/2011 7:44AM

    Told you! She keeps looking after you always!!!!!!!! emoticon

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LYNDALOVES2HIKE 3/10/2011 11:57PM

    How precious!!


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MOV4WARD 3/10/2011 8:50PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonAmen.

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KAT7457 3/10/2011 1:11PM

    nice to find thing of your mom's this is very nice. thanks for sharing. emoticon

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LESLIES537 3/10/2011 12:20PM

    WOW!!!! I've got chills up and down my spine! What an awesome find! I bet that made your day! (or perhaps your whole year!!) There is no doubt in my mind that your mother helped your sister to find that prayer! NO DOUBT! I'm so happy for you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RAINBOWFALLS 3/10/2011 8:48AM

    Wow - that is a fantastic find! I'm sure you will cherish it.

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-POOKIE- 3/10/2011 6:22AM

    *tight hugs* What a beautiful thing to find x

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    What a precious, precious blessing from the Lord to you, at just the perfect time! Oh how He loves us!

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GRAMMACATHY 3/10/2011 1:00AM

    Beautiful gift from your mother. I too felt my mother's prayers and presence this month more than all the years before. We were blessed to have such wonderful Mother's with strong faith.

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OUTDOORGIRL69 3/9/2011 8:43PM

    Thank you for sharing this with us.

God Bless

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WINFIELD28 3/9/2011 8:18PM

    This is so beautiful and must be so comforting for you.
Your mother IS praying for you! How wonderful. God Bless You!

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NELLIEC 3/9/2011 8:14PM

    Praise the Lord! What a beautiful find!

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SUNSET09 3/9/2011 8:13PM

  I lost my Mom the day before Valentine's Day, which is my Dad's birthday as he's gone on before her more than 30 years ago! Thank you for this as we want to keep her memory alive as well! emoticon

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Wrung Out, Washed Up and Empty

Friday, March 04, 2011

That would describe how I feel today. I've had a very busy and emotional week. I've been taking the work of three and funneling it down to two at work as my right hand assistant's last day was Thursday a week ago, and none of our accounts in my department have yet transitioned to the new teams. I spent one afternoon with job services and work force exchange brushing up my job searching skills, my resume, cover letters, etc. I had one day out of town training. I learned today that one of my other team member's last day would be Tuesday. Knowing this, we did some major scrambling to expedite transition of some of the work quickly to the new teams relieve my work load, which will by Tuesday suddenly increase exponentially with two team members gone. I've spent every spare minute working on resumes, job hunting, etc. Through it all, it's just felt like my mind is in a whirl and I can't focus or concentrate.

And last but not least, I lost a dear friend and co-worker to cancer this week. It has hit me very hard, probably with the grief from my mother's death still fresh in my heart. Joyce was about my age, has a young daughter who just got married. The son-in-law is also a good friend of mine. The funeral was today. We basically closed shop at work for the funeral.

Emotionally, today was a disaster. My emotions were out of control. It is unusual for me to lose control at work, but today I cried more than I got anything else done. I chalk it up to stress over my current work load + concern over losing my job + every spare minute focusing on job search with no time for renewal + renewed grief over my mom + grief over the loss of a friend - my emotions just went into overload. Now I simply feel like the title of my blog says, wrung out, washed up and empty.

I love all of you dearly but right now, I just can't take the time to get around to each of you individually. Like I said in my last blog, I'm going to need to cut back on my sparking for at least several weeks. But my heart is with you.

Just to keep myself accountable, I care about my health, but I'm not making very healthy choices right now. I am in stress overload and to be honest, I don't feel that I'm coping very well. I only got one walk in this week and I haven't tracked my food at all. I've eaten too much junk and not enough wholesome food; also not getting enough water.

Well, on a good note, I am getting or have gotten letters of recommendation from two, possibly three of my directors at work that I can use in my job search, each highlighting my expertise in a different area. Something interesting happened yesterday when I was at our other facility for training, the VP of Operations stopped me in the hall and said "Your name came up today." An interesting discussion followed. I am not currently at liberty to discuss the contents of that. I don't know where it will lead, if anywhere, but time will tell.

I'm trying to remain positive, and sorry to just write such negative blogs recently. Not much progress to show in the way of weight loss, or even healthy living. Please don't give up on me. And I want to get around to all of you sometime soon. Just need some time to get on my feet and re-focus here - and job hunt!

Be blessed with a great weekend. I plan to defrost a refrigerator, finish a job application, resume and cover letter to submit Monday with a company where I'd really, really, really like to work. And I think I really need a bit of extra sleep time, and a few hours of down time just reading, or journaling, or meditating, or watching a movie.

Keep sparking, my friends!

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CYCLINGSANDY 3/20/2011 2:18PM

    A song we did it services today relates to this blog. It is called, The Potter's Hand. I like the way Chondra Pierce does it best. You might like her comedy DVS's and her testimony impacted me too.
I am sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. God know this is your lean on Him time.


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KAT7457 3/10/2011 1:14PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticonfor the loss of your friend.

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    You are doing a fabulous job with so much going on - so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend, especially with everything else you're going thru - I have a feeling something REALLY good is going to come out of this in the long run, though, so don't give up, don't worry about us, keep writing when you get a chance and know that there are a LOT of us who think about you and wish you the best!


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JKN049 3/6/2011 12:27PM

    You have so much on your plate right now. Just continue with doing the best you can in whatever situation is thrown at you. Give yourself permission to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself permission to have some down time. It's ok to take care of yourself. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers.


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RAINBOWFALLS 3/6/2011 9:30AM

    I think you are right about needing some down time - ot time to just be good to yourself. Take care and know that we are right here waiting for you and more than willing to listen to anything you want to blog about. emoticon emoticon

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    Feeling the feelings that your feeling is a neon flashing light on the dashboard. Translated it means: PULL OVER RIGHT NOW!

So glad you are on SparkBreak. I hope you turned off your SparkMail, too.

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ELAOPET 3/5/2011 1:29PM

    I will just say - breathe! This too, shall pass! emoticon

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BEETH52 3/5/2011 10:49AM

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I am here for you!!


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LESLIES537 3/5/2011 9:43AM

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Please know I'll be lifting you in prayer and here for you if you need anything. Don't worry about us, take the time you need and take care of yourself...first and foremost! Big hugs and love being sent your way! emoticon emoticon

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FREELADY 3/4/2011 11:26PM

    We will never, ever give up on you.

I am proud of you for making a plan, even when things feel so awful. These are genuine strains, griefs, losses. Please be kind to yourself.

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GRAMMACATHY 3/4/2011 10:58PM

    You are in my prayers. If you don't want to crash and burn like I did, please drink your water, eliminate the refined sugars and do wiggles or stretches every 15 minutes to keep your blood circulating while you are coping with all your losses and stress.

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MOV4WARD 3/4/2011 10:24PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticonNo apologies, take care of yourself & spark when you can :)

(i was just reading about stress & how it impacts our bodies including the need to sleep to restore ourselves, so no guilt if you just veg a bit, k? hugs :)

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WINFIELD28 3/4/2011 9:50PM

    I have been thinking of you.
You are in my prayers also!
I won't give up on you! Don't give up on yourself, either. Be gentle with yourself right now and for as long as it takes for you to feel good, again.
Blessings and Friendship!

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NELLIEC 3/4/2011 9:49PM

    You are on my prayer list and I am praying for you!

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