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Body Language/Non-Verbal Communication Speaker

Friday, April 22, 2011

One of the topics at the Women's Conference I attended was Body Language - by Jan Hargrave. She has several books out - the one I want is called "Let Me See Your Body Talk"....looking for it on eBay or used somewhere.

Anyway - she said - communication is: 55% non-verbal
38% voice inflection
7% the actual words spoken

Interesting, huh? Only SEVEN percent is what we say!

She gave this quiz: True or False

1. If a man rubs his chin when you are speaking, he is listening to you.
2. If he jingles change in his pocket - he is concerned about finances.
3. If he gestures with his left hand he tends to lie.
4. If he pulls up his socks he wants to ask you out.
5. If he closes his eyes he is blocking information.

All true.

Hand shakes:

If they hurt - the person doing the hurting is insecure.
If a finger is pointed during the shake, that person wants control.
Firm, hands touching completely - good!

Jan does consultation for jury selection. She gave us this little exercise to do and pointed our some of the things she looks for in a potential juror:

Raise your right hand and take an oath. Pay attention to the position of the hand.

If your hand is open - fingers spread apart - you are probably terrified, therefore will tell the truth.
If your hand is bent forward indicates you will try to lie.
If your hand has 2 fingers touching and 2 apart - you are honest.
If you hand is bent backward you will bend over backward to tell a lie.

Her web page is: if you would like to read more about her. I also found her here: - this is a video of her giving part of the speech she gave to us. Would suggest to NOT read the comments on youtube - there is some filthy language in them.

Hope you enjoyed the sharing of this particular topic......and one more thing - she said when you are talking with someone you should have eye contact 80% of the time.

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MISSPEACHES3 4/27/2011 4:30PM

    Good information.

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ZEEDRA 4/24/2011 1:52PM

    I knew it would be interesting. Just getting around to reading your blogs, Vista.
I think there's some conflict of opinion on eye contact while speaking to a person. Some say that a dishonest person will be very good at keeping his/her eyes on you. Did she say anything about that?
I do have the habit of looking away and one friend goes into an exaggerated way of catching my eyes, i.e., leaning waaaay over in the direction of where I'm looking. I think that's rude, especially since she's known me for years (concentrating on a friend's failings?) Personally, I think it might be a semi- introvert's way of dealing with intimate, close dialogue.
That's it. I have to get out and walk!
Hugs, Sandra

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JUSTJO66 4/24/2011 2:47AM

    Sounds like fun and very interesting conference.

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FISHINGLADY66 4/22/2011 12:16PM

    Sounds very interesting. Thanks for sharing this with us.

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CATTIANN 4/22/2011 7:10AM

    Isn't it amazing that people study and become expert at such things, like reading faces and body language. There was/is? a TV show called "Lie To Me." and they read the involuntary muscles in a person's face as well as their body language. No lying around those folks.

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Another Maxine

Thursday, April 21, 2011

I don't know how to put a "clip art" pic in another area besides here. Any suggestions and or advice?

Hope you enjoyed made me laugh! vista

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CATTIANN 4/22/2011 6:48AM

    Very funny... emoticon

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ALEXSGIRL1 4/21/2011 8:00PM

    I love maxine she is the best thanks for the smiles. emoticon emoticon

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Conference for Women Yesterday

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Had such a good day at the Conference for Women. 8:30 - 4:30.....lots of good speakers and food. Managed to stay on program - fruit for breakfast, a small croissant with chicken salad and spnach salad for lunch. Even passed on the desserts. Treated myself to a new pair of earrings. Will make several blogs on the various subjects in days to come - but for now just the titles of the seminars: stress, time management, body language, what makes women awesome.

A friend of mine gave me the ticket ($60).......and yes, she is AWESOME! This is the 2nd year she has given me a ticket and both years were fantastic.

Hugs to emoticon emoticon

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PATTY267 4/21/2011 2:53PM

    Looking forward to your blogs ... glad you were encouraged by what you heard and are willing to share that with us.

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SUSANSERENE 4/21/2011 2:09PM

    Wow, good for you! I've only attended a few women's seminars but they're so empowering and soul-strengthening, aren't they? Yay!! Can't wait to hear more about it!

((hugs)) and blessings, Vista!

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ZEEDRA 4/21/2011 1:45PM

    Sounds great, Vista. I recently did some stress management classes at the heart clinic. Body language is intrigueing (where's spellcheck?)so would love to hear what you learned about that.
Hugs, Sandra

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Email, Today, Tomorrow

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

I have not received one single email from SP today. Anyone else having a problem?

Water aerobics this a.m. - laundry and house cleaning to get ready for Sunday School party here on Thurs.

Tomorrow a friend of mine bought me a ticket to an all day Women's Conference. I went last year and it was a wonderful day - so looking forward to it again this year.

Hugs to

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VINGRAM 4/21/2011 4:27PM

    I did reset.....somehow the block marked "do not email me again" got checked. The SP ghost, maybe?

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FISHINGLADY66 4/20/2011 9:33PM

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ZEEDRA 4/20/2011 7:28PM

    Hi Vista,
I can't believe a year has gone by. When I first met you it was around the time you went to a women's conference. I remembering asking you about it. And I haven't lost a pound since the first few I lost (and regained).
Happy Easter and enjoy your conference. Say one for me.
Hugs, Sandra

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KAYYVAUGHN 4/20/2011 5:13PM

    Vista, not receiving Spark emails has happened to me many times. I have to go to Start and reset everything. Then I have to read the emails from the email page under Start.

Enjoy your conference.

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17 Apr - 5 days since I did a blog - and an experiment

Sunday, April 17, 2011

WOW........seems like I have been super busy for the last few days. Have barely had time to do just a little SP stuff.

I'm trying an experiment this week - not logging nutrition info. I think, and I stress THINK, I know just about how much of what I can have since I have logged in EVERYTHING for almost a year. We'll see.....if I gain more than a pound, I'll go back to tracking!

Did not exercise at all last week - but am feeling much better and plan to go back to water aerobics in the a.m.

Update on twins: they are almost 4 lbs each and DIL is 33 weeks PG. I'm on standby to go as soon as she calls for help.

Ya'll have a good week and I'll try to do better this week on SP. Hugs! vista

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FISHINGLADY66 4/18/2011 9:24PM

    Going track is not a bad idea. It helps you realize if you need to keep it up or if you have mastered your Portion Control. Good for you for giving it a try. Best wishes to your DIL. She's hanging in there. I've been gone 3 days and tomorrow I hope to go back to water aerobics too.

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ZEEDRA 4/18/2011 10:39AM

    Hi Vists,
Your decision to go trackfree seems sound, especially since you will go back to tracking if you gain one pound. Can't get much more careful than that! A whole year's work have instilled lots of healthy habits.
I had one good day yesterday and I plan to have a good day today. That's how I decided to do it--concentrate on today except for grocery planning.
Good luck at the pool! Also, hope DIL and babies remain safe.
Hugs, Sandra

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