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Tending two shops

Tuesday, February 07, 2012

People can be hard to deal with. Are your co-workers constantly annoying you? Does your neighbor rake his leaves into your yard every fall? Is your child high-maintenance and needy? Often we let our frustrations and anger towards people and situations prevent us from seeing the larger picture. Try looking at the circumstance from the other person's point of view. Your overbearing co-worker might just be trying to emulate you by asking a million questions. Perhaps your neighbor doesn't really know where his property line ends and where yours begins. Your child may need more individual time with you, instead of competing with siblings. No person's personality can be summed up entirely by one negative trait or action. So next time someone cuts you off in traffic or swipes the idyllic apple you were eyeing at the store, remember that everyone is less-than-perfect sometimes. Know your role in people's lives and continue to be positive and mature. After all, we all do things that are worthy of a good tongue lashing sometimes!
I try to remember no one is perfect when I get upset w/someone b/c next time I could be the one upsetting someone else w/ or w/out my knowing it & would hope that they would forgive me as well ie... tonight I was really mad that I lost the key to our safe & think my son may have lost it b/c I've caught him palying w/them several times. B/c of my anger I was very short w/him & then stopped myself b/c maybe I just misplaced it & I wouldn't want my ds to be upset w/me for being upset w/him.

  
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MARYMO22 2/8/2012 2:27PM

    so true - thanks for sharing

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APIRLRAIN888 2/8/2012 11:58AM

    Thx

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JUDYAMK 2/8/2012 8:28AM

    I work in a pharmacy, I have had people come in being rude or snappy. I have later learned that in the 22 years of being there some of these folks had a loved one dying at home or in the hospital. I have had some of them actually come back in the pharmacy to apologize to me. You are so right we do not now the circumstances of one's action at times. If I would have acted rude right back how awful that would be to someone that did not mean it in the first place & was hurting inside . Then when I know the person is just being normally rude every time they come in,because of knowing them all these years, I make sure I say I hope you have a good day today. That person also may have anger issues due to childhood damage which I have seen also,some one that always growls may have been abused as a child & have trust issues.You are so right we must look at the other person's circumstances before we judge, I will remember you in work today if someone growls at me, we all need to be reminded like you said ,take a step back & reexamine the situation. & thanks so much for the spark goodie.
Judy

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The positive cycle of forgiveness-daily healthy reflection

Monday, February 06, 2012

Without forgiveness life is governed by...an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.
- Roberto Assagioli
OK, be honest. Do you hold grudges? Do you allow old drama to determine your behavior? Is there someone you just can't seem to forgive? Grudges and a non-forgiving attitude do nothing but harm both parties. You might feel like you're "winning" by not letting someone off the hook, but you're only increasing your own worry and stress. Bitterness can lead to hate, which can sour a life. Today, write a letter explaining your point of view to the person you feel resentful towards. Clear the air; forgiving him. Even if you don't send it, it is an excellent way to relieve tension. Forgiving someone does not absolve them of the wrong that you experienced. It can simply free you to live a life that isn't anchored to the hurt and resentment of past events.

  
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APIRLRAIN888 2/7/2012 11:11AM

    No no grudges here ;) I might be mad but I quick forget

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REDSHOES2011 2/6/2012 10:31PM

    If this helps you super.. emoticon

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Reinforcing Healthy Competition-SP Healthy reflection for today

Sunday, February 05, 2012



Once the game is over, the king and the pawn go back in the same box.

- Italian proverb
Competition is a natural part of life. We are faced with competition for jobs, a mate, and even the best parking spot at the store. Approaching these situations with grace is an important way to model good relationship skills--especially to our children. Often people get angry during competition, but try to be mindful of how this frustration is unleashed. No one wants to be on the receiving end of either a sore loser's lack of composure or a boastful winner's lack of grace. Don't gloat to your friend that your daughter can run faster or read at a higher level than her child. Remember, after the basketball game concludes she is still your friend and you don't want a moment of hot-headedness to interfere with what really matters--your relationship. Modesty can go a long way!

  
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APIRLRAIN888 2/6/2012 3:51PM

    Nice

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Do you succumb to laziness?=SP Healthy Reflection

Friday, February 03, 2012

If it is to be, it is up to me.

- Author Unknown
We commonly procrastinate or put off an activity altogether by saying "It will get done eventually" or "Someone else will do it." Wrong! Being lazy and not taking responsibility are wastes of time. Often the power for change is within us, but without our efforts things would fail or go awry. You cannot rely on help from others, only what your own two hands accomplish on their own. Hard work is a habit that needs constant attention. But be mindful that you are giving your full effort to a project. Apply yourself, value your time, and don't squander it hoping for help.
So my goals for today are to pay my bills, input receipts, clean/organize my home, eat/plan nutritous meals, get some exercise, play w/the kids& reward myself for getting it done!

  
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APIRLRAIN888 2/3/2012 7:48AM

    You can do it

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What wealth do you possess?

Thursday, February 02, 2012


They who give have all things; they who withhold have nothing.

- Hindu Proverb
There is a long-standing tradition for Buddhist monks to rise each morning very early and set out to collect alms bowls, and go out into their community to collect donations of food, usually merely rice or a simple curry. Surprisingly though, none of this food is eaten, as the monks are typically well-stocked at their monastery. Why? This age-old tradition is still in existence simply to allow the nearby townspeople to experience the joy of giving. Do you have resources or talent that you can use to help others? Hoarding what you have wastes opportunities and fails to leave a positive mark on the world. Whether you have money, talent, time, knowledge, or energy, each should be shared. No one is better off by keeping wealth--tangible or intangible--to himself or herself.
I believe we call it taxes here emoticonbut seriously though I do enjoy giving at the holidays, at least once a month I'm donating to BBBS or some other charity which helps us both ie... my latest example is donating pillow cases, skirts and material to make new clothes for children and helps me clean out my closets of some unused stuff and this website is another one where we freely offer advice & support to one another emoticon

  
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APIRLRAIN888 2/2/2012 3:55PM

    Awesome!!! U are so good ;)

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LAURIED1176 2/2/2012 10:33AM

    You have the best blogs on SP ! Love them!!!!
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