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Monday, February 22, 2010

The linguistics class is haunting me: I'm seemingly locked into this conceptual linguistics loop of before-before...or, in this case the night-before-my-birthday-eve --

It was such a beautiful gathering of Anam Cara, soul friends, that heart-to-heart connection. There was so much love spewed about during the evening that my heart continues to overflow from the fullness.

The food was abundant, whole and healthy! Oh...uh, and then there were the desserts!!!

CAMILLE, with me in this happy shot, owns (she would say "caretakes") the property where the Sisters of the New Moon meet. We're building a labyrinth in the woods and we celebrate life around a wonderful bonfire as a climax to each monthly coming-together.

Above, my friend ELS (left) -- we "accidentally" ran into each other last year on a backwoods country road in upcountry Maui as she was beginning a 6-month around-the-world trip/trek with Tom, her lovely spouse! (See P.S.)

MARILYN, seated beside Els, is a geologist and created and gifted me with a stunningly beautiful mobile/chimes, made with beaver wood, glass pieces, and crystals. I'm sorry I don't have a photo of her beautiful art to share.

NELDA, far right, and I have participated together in the study of the work of Connie Kaplan, The Invisible Garment, where we've gathered around a circle-of-love for over five years.

SparkPeople got lots of plugs from me and SANDRA. Here she's hanging out with vino-in-hand between Marilyn and Nelda, ready to share her SparkPeople blogs on "Space."


The sheet she gave to everyone also had GinaBug's original blog, which had caused Sandra's musings:

Above Sandra has the rapt attention of Gail, Jean, Pam, Siaw-Khian and all but Fritzie's nose!

Camille relaxed in the rocker chatting with ANNE, a gifted Iyengar Yoga teacher who I've been studying with off-and-on since 1997! Anne led us in some pranayama (breathing) techniques.

My dear friend FRITZIE, the hostess-with-the-mostest, is smiling at my antics and Siaw-Khian is talking to Pam, out-of-sight.

Ahhh...a partial group smile...from the left Ellen, Nelda, me, Camille, Siaw-Khian. Back row Els, Marilyn, and shortie Amy.

I study tai chi and qi gong with SIAW-KHIAN, a skilled teacher, and she graciously agreed to introduce us to some qi gong techniques. It was wonderful.

I wish I had a photo of the exquisite wrap that ELLEN gifted me (she has another one on, but you can't see the beautiful detail). She works in Nepal (she's leaving again for Nepal on March 10) with talented women who use a Nuno felting process with wool and colorful silk saris -- oh my!!! I don't know if you can access this if you're not on FaceBook, but here's the link:

Above is GAIL's lovely profile. She and I share a lot of quality sister time. We also do the prison gatherings together along with Camille, our fearless leader.

Then comes Janice-in-yellow, Amy, Ellen, and JOHNYE (Janice's mom) -- English Literature Professor Emerita and published haiku poet:


Above Fritzie, Siaw-Khian, silly Pam, and Jean.

I first met FRITZIE and SANDRA at a Buddhist retreat. Then I got invited to Sandra's birthday party at Fritzie's beautiful home, and the rest is history! Fritize is hard to catch up with, because she's a very busy barrister, but I vie for her attention, because I treasure time with her. We also share the "Spanish connection," and she has worked to assist Hispanics via immigrant law.

PAM, AMY and I have become friends as New Moon Sisters. Pam adds "intelligent levity" and Amy, an artist, brings us beauty in space and form.

JEAN is a new New Moon Sister. She is a warrior...a blind woman who has traveled internationally, holds a graduate degree and many amazing life half-empty cup for her!

A *mood effect* of JANICE playing and singing one of her compositions, dedicated to me, because it's my fav, about the preciousness of the present moment.

She also did a group Tarot reading of Past (at 79, Johnye is the oldest reveler, and she drew this card), Present (as the birthday girl I drew this card), Future (Siaw-Khian, as the youngest, drew this one) using a deck of her own fabulous design.

JANICE and I were housemates for around three years, firmly and exquisitely establishing our Sisterhood during that time.

The sisters went on...and on, enjoying the fullness of one another's blessings for almost FIVE hours!

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May you be blessed with good friends.
May you learn to be a good friend to yourself.

May you be able to journey to that place in your soul
where there is great love, warmth, feeling, and forgiveness.
May this change you.

May it transfigure that which is negative, distant, or cold in you.
May you be brought in to the real passion, kinship, and affinity of belonging.
May you treasure your friends.

May you be good to them and may you be there for them;
May they bring you all the blessings, challenges, truth, and light that you need for your journey.

May you never be isolated.
May you always be in the gentle nest of belonging with your anam cara.

-- John O'Donohue, from Anam Cara
(Anam cara is Gaelic for "soul friend")


A couple days before Els and Tom continued on from Maui to New Zealand.

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PEACEFULONE 2/26/2010 10:05AM

    Brings to mind the Beatles song "I'll get by with a little help from my friends". You are truly blessed!!! Thank you for sharing.
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PENNYAN45 2/23/2010 10:21PM

    Friends are everything! I just copied the Friendship Blessing - and plan to send it to a very dear friend of mine. Thanks for sharing that.
In the company of friends is the best way to celebrate a birthday. They are celebrating you and your existence in -- especially in their lives. We, your friends here on SP, are happy to have you in our lives too. Thanks for sharing your celebration, and thanks for always sharing so much of yourself.

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KALATHIA 2/23/2010 8:35AM

    What a wonderful group of sisters! A spectacular celebration! You are truly blessed!

I love the Friendship Blessing. I hope you don't mind if I share it with some of my friends.

Have a wonderful day!

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LYNNANN43 2/23/2010 1:04AM

    I feel like I was there! You have no idea how much I would love to meet those amazing people!

You are one of the most blessed individuals that I have ever had the honor to meet.

Thanks so much for sharing:D

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NORLANA 2/23/2010 12:19AM

    Oh Maha ... such beautiful friends and tributes. I am so happy you are surrounded by such lovelies! Enjoy!!

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GINABUG 2/22/2010 9:49PM

    Maha -- thanks so much for sharing the words, images and imaginings of this gathering. I almost feel as if I were there! What a blessed event for a blessed soul! Happy Birthday Eve, dear friend!

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WATERMELLEN 2/22/2010 9:24PM

    Friends: at the heart of what matters! And you have such interesting ones!!

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STLRZGRRL 2/22/2010 8:52PM

    How cool for us to be able to be with you... NOW!
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But, but... WHAT were the cards you each drew?

I. MUST. KNOW!!! (Iz not sek-rit, iz it?)

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SLASALLE 2/22/2010 2:31PM

    I am so happy to put so many faces with the names I hear you speak of often. What an amazing gathering of dear friends. I am SO DELIGHTED that you ALL enjoyed it so much. Now, I have also enjoyed much of it, albeit still at a distance!!!

Happy birthday eve, Maha!!!

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WALKINGANNIE 2/22/2010 1:05PM

    Your birthday celebration has given you - and us - some wonderful memories to share and a reminder of the joy that friendship brings. I hope that the happiness lingers to sustain you for a long time.

Thank you for sharing the beautiful poem too.


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LADYIRIS313 2/22/2010 12:56PM

    You are blessed with riches -- the kind that only good friends can offer. Happiest of birthdays to you Maha.

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SUCHAHOOT 2/22/2010 11:55AM

    My, what a wonderful gift. Such a treasure to be sure. Thank you so much for sharing your evening with us!

Edit: And thanks for taking the time to share the poem. What more could one ask for?

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BECOMINGONE 2/22/2010 11:41AM

    Having been there, I can attest it was one of those magical evenings -- when the life energy is flowing and all are connected in a web of friendship and love. Thanks to Maha for bringing us all together.


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YOOVIE 2/22/2010 10:36AM

    this is so wonderful and so full of love. thank you for taking pictures for us!

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KAT573 2/22/2010 10:18AM

    what an honor to have all your friends about you!
Happy Birthday, Maha.

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AZIMAT 2/22/2010 10:17AM

    How sweet. Happy birthday dear friend. I'm sending you a blast of high flying energy.

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MAZZYR 2/22/2010 10:15AM

    emoticonBig Happy Day hug, just for you, dear Maha!!

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LISANANCY 2/22/2010 10:09AM

    Wow, what a wonderful time emoticon

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MISS_VIV 2/22/2010 9:52AM

    What great fun, what a great group of women all together to celebrate the new beginning. Happy Birthday again Maha..Super pictures.

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The Gift...the Present!

Sunday, February 21, 2010

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, not to worry about the future, or not to anticipate troubles, but to live the present moment wisely and earnestly.
-- The Buddha

When the mind is at rest, we are lifted out of time into the eternal present. The body, of course, is still subject to the passage of time. But in a sense, the flickering of the mind is our internal clock. When the mind does not flicker, what is there to measure change? It's as if time simply comes to a stop for us, as we live completely in the present moment. Past and future, after all, exist only in the mind. When the mind is at rest, there is no past or future. We cannot be resentful, we cannot be guilt-ridden, we cannot build future hopes and desires; no energy flows to past or future at all.

Past and future are both contained in every present moment. Whatever we are today is the result of what we have thought, spoken, and done in all the present moments before now -- just as what we shall be tomorrow is the result of what we think, say, and do today. The responsibility for both present and future is in our own hands. If we live right today, then tomorrow has to be right.
-- Sri Eknath Easwaran

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LIVIN-N-LEARNIN 2/22/2010 9:27AM

    I so needed to read this...i was just telling a good friend of mine yesterday that sometimes I feel i missed out on things, this quote I know is going to help me live with no regrets!!

Thank you MAHA!!

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PUDLECRAZY 2/22/2010 5:35AM

    The reminder I need on a regular basis. Thank you for this post. I love the photos you included, as well.

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MEDDYPEDDY 2/22/2010 12:29AM

    Hmm - I get stuck with the depressive knowledge that today is the result of yesterday...

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STARRY-EYEDGIRL 2/21/2010 9:19PM

    I could meditate looking into the eyes of Sri Eknath Easwaran - so soft but strong, wise, beautiful and all knowing.

I am reading your Blog after yoga practice and meditation and am feeling pretty good in this moment, having already paved the way for the moments to come.

Also, I have subscribed to the inspirational quotes and commentary of Thought for the Day via email.

emoticonMahalakshmi, I appreciate this precious gift.

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WATERMELLEN 2/21/2010 6:34PM


I often re think this military injunction subversively as "embrace right now"!!!

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WALKINGANNIE 2/21/2010 5:48PM


Thank you.

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GEODAWG 2/21/2010 2:52PM

    How true! Thank you.

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SUCHAHOOT 2/21/2010 1:33PM

    So, you're saying I should stop being angry with my husband about yesterday? AND stop worrying about the future? AND be happy in the present moment? OK, for you...and for me I will give it my best.

Thank you for your beautiful reminder and your gentle nature.

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LYNNANN43 2/21/2010 1:22PM

    I am going to post this quote as my status update, send it to facebook and then copy it down to make a beautiful sign in "My" room with this quote:D


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SATYAGRAHA 2/21/2010 1:06PM

    I need constant reminders of this. THANK YOU!

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THE_SILVER_OWL 2/21/2010 12:55PM

    Maha, What lovely and wise quotes you have brought to us today. Thank you!

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LISANANCY 2/21/2010 12:21PM

    Today is tomorrow past. We can change our past by living today. We need to remember this, Good going my dear sparkfriend emoticon

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BECOMINGONE 2/21/2010 12:19PM

    See you this afternoon!!!

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PENNYAN45 2/21/2010 12:03PM

    The gift of the present! It is the everything and the only thing that we ever have, isn't it?

Thank you for focusing my mind on the present this beautiful Sunday morning.


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SLASALLE 2/21/2010 11:21AM

    Ahhhhhhh ... nice, long, slow deep breath as I read your words ... such a wise and warm welcome to my day. Enjoy your celebration, my dear friend. I am with you in spirit. AND I hope to be able to talk in real time on 2/23. xoxoxo

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WILDHONEYPIE1 2/21/2010 11:18AM

    I particularly enjoyed the line "If we live right today, then tomorrow has to be right." Maybe not the way we pictured it, maybe not how we want it, but right all the same.

I knew your birthday had to be coming up any minute (February Pisces) so thanks to MAZZYR for letting me know the exact day to be thankful for! emoticon

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MENT2BE 2/21/2010 11:13AM

    Divine Order!! Just what I needed to hear today! Bless you!!!!
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STLRZGRRL 2/21/2010 11:06AM

    I am so grateful to have you with me in this moment... now.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, MAHA... in every moment of every NOW.

Birthday kisses!!!

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MAZZYR 2/21/2010 10:34AM

    Ditto, I'm grateful for knowing you too, dear Maha.

Dear Maha, thank you for the GIFT of YOU and this blog. I really needed to read these words today.

BTW, I'm counting the days till your B-Day and would like to come to your virtual party. February 23rd... I can't wait.


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GINABUG 2/21/2010 8:58AM

    Maha! This present moment I am grateful for knowing you! Thank you for the gift of YOU and all the wise words and wisdom you share! Blessings and celebration to you, my dear friend!

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The Tao of the Trial -- for Black History Month

Friday, February 19, 2010

The photograph is of Rosa Parks riding that famous bus in Memphis.

From the trial transcript:
Miss Crandall's Boarding School for Young Ladies of Color
Canterbury, CT, 1833-34


Miss Crandall, you stand accused of knowingly
teaching colored persons not resident of the state,
without prior consent. What is your plea?

*The Teacher does not instruct. The Teacher waits.*

Girl, has anyone been teaching anything to you and your friends?

Who taught you how to plead the Fifth Amendment?

Your honor, I submit as evidence
of the alleged teachings of alleged students
this colored girl here, who openly reads books
and gazes skyward, who has been overheard
conversing animatedly in polysyllabic words
and referring off-handedly to the Ancient Greeks.

*The Teacher teaches, without words and without action,
simplicity, patience, and compassion.*

-- Marilyn Nelson
(Poetry, September 2005)

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JUSTDUCKY1405 2/21/2010 5:28PM

    Okay! I've got it!

I am the messenger, GOD is the teacher!

God or stillness or Budha, or anything that brings you outside of yourself and into the present still moment!

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THE_SILVER_OWL 2/21/2010 1:08PM

    "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear" - and are we not all teachers simply waiting for our students?

And are we not also all students in the presence of our teachers.


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JUSTDUCKY1405 2/20/2010 6:50PM

    I have to add... lol... like I haven't said enough already... that I don't 'always' intentionally set out to teach! And often find more often then not, that when I am out doing things for me... without trying, what I do naturally helps others!

But... that still takes action and words to convey my message, even if it's just for me!

Do do do... walking away... lol!

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JUSTDUCKY1405 2/20/2010 6:43PM

    Hmmm... I have been contemplating this since you originally posted it! I am having a hard time truly absorbing it's message! It almost seems contradictory to quite a few of my agreements... which makes me doubt myself and what I know! Which is okay... I am totally okay with being challenged, I just haven't been quite able to figure out why this challenges me. So, I have decided to come ramble in your comments section in response to your blog, in hopes to learn!

I get the racist aspect of this message, but know there is more! The more is where I seem to be having troubles with!

"The Teacher does not instruct. The Teacher waits."

This contradicts my agreements to encourage, share, and to help others. I know that we all learn our lessons in life in our own journey, connecting, bonding, and sharing is one way of becoming a more enlightened and better me!

So, the lesson to learn from this then is, I should just go about doing what I am doing, as long as I am doing it for me? If what I have to offer helps another, great! But it should not be my daily intentions to teach, but to do what I aspire and find passionate, I just simply be that aspiration and passion!

Okay... so perhaps that is the instruct part of the quotation, but what about the waiting!

Is the waiting representative of living life in the now, because if you wait... and aren't focused on what the future might bring, or what the past had brought, you are present, therefore. living life, and in return truly waiting for nothing!

I suppose, the student comes to you is representative of this!

And then, is the latter part of the second quote an answer to the unwritten question? Yes... yes it is! Aha! So silly... I couldn't see that until I truly took the time to question it and see it!

So... another words... "The Teacher teaches simplicity, patience, and compassion, and does this without words and without action!" A twist on words, and I am okay... or am I?

So then... how do you teach with out words or action, which ultimately is silence, but then, how do you spread the word, if not through your words and actions if you remain silent and don't share what you have learnt, witnessed, experienced and so on?

There... my clashing agreements on your blog!

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LV4TAY 2/20/2010 5:33PM

    Teaching (at least teaching well) is and has always been a subversive activity.

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SUCHAHOOT 2/19/2010 6:29PM

    Wow. Life/evolution of Spirit on this planet is simply amazing. Feels painfully slow sometimes though. Thanks for sharing.

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GEODAWG 2/19/2010 6:10PM

    Awesome. It is amazing that we human beings can be so blind and then it is amazing that we can also be so "seeing".

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WALKINGANNIE 2/19/2010 4:26PM

    A powerful reminder. Thank you.

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VALERIEMAHA 2/19/2010 2:19PM

    Yes, it is a sad commentary on the human condition that slavery still exists on the planet, Valerie. But on a happier note....

I went to see Soledad O'Brien last night. She was talking about "outside the box" thinking. She spoke of an African country where girls weren't allowed to go to school after age 9. Then a director of one of the world food programs had an idea -- not only was food provided IN the school for the students...they were also given food to take home for the family after school. Suddenly attendance of the girls in school began to be "valued." Many of them have now finished both grammar and high school and are trained community health educators in their villages.

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_VALEO_ 2/19/2010 12:29PM

    Unfortunately slavery still exists, even in our rich countries, even it is not named as it is... It's us who should need some teachings to open our eyes.

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WILDHONEYPIE1 2/19/2010 11:44AM

    A wonderful tribute to the history of us all. Thank you.

"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it."- George Santayana

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PENNYAN45 2/19/2010 10:54AM

    Difficult to think that teaching could be considered a crime.

But... once it was a crime to teach slaves how to read. (That would only empower them and make them more dangerous.)

I cannot help but make the connection with some countries today
where they don't want females to go to school and learn.

I love the poem's "simplicity, patience, and compassion."



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LISANANCY 2/19/2010 10:45AM

    Hard to believe that this was not that long ago emoticon

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WI11IAMSONA 2/19/2010 10:27AM

  I am so grateful and respect so much, those individuals that endeavored to make things easier and fairer for all of us.

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Friday, February 12, 2010

Life is nothing more, nothing less, so I'm trying to use 'em well, 'cause that's all I've got!

This film is poignant in places and shocking in others...just like life.
Check it out:

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STILLPOINT 2/15/2010 7:56PM

    Oh Maha! Awesome! Thank you. It leaves me with so many mixed emotions - incredible film.


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THE_SILVER_OWL 2/15/2010 1:57PM

    I was running out of my "Spark time" today and about to close down the computer to get on with my day so almost did not take the time to watch this. I am so very glad that I did. One of the more powerful messages I have received lately and such perfect timing.

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    I ended my evening with your blog. Fitting, relaxing, centering. That was lovely. Thank you.

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TKADEEPBREATH 2/14/2010 8:15PM

    That was beautifully done. Thanks for sharing. I'm a believer in enjoying the moments. Hope you had many of them this Valentines day . . .

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STARRY-EYEDGIRL 2/14/2010 7:36PM

    Further to my comment...."first impression was, that it made me appreciate that I was not epileptic". - The first 20 seconds or so of this wonderful William Hoffman video, immediately before the wise, beauteous eyes of the recently born baby opened and piercingly stared for a second, knowingly, sage like, in recognition of my soul. Well the first 20 seconds of quick-cut editing could be a provocative factor in triggering seizures in those with photosensitive epilepsy.

emoticonMarg xox

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_VALEO_ 2/14/2010 1:25AM

    As said in the video, "moments" are universal, and this film did bring back some memories to me.
Moments are like milestones in our life, little peddles marking our life, little gems to be remembered when we're having a bah day.
Seize the moments! Wish you many happy moments to light your life!

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PENNYAN45 2/13/2010 5:47PM

    Enjoyed the film! Thanks for sharing it.


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STARRY-EYEDGIRL 2/13/2010 5:21PM

    I wasn't sure whether I was ready to enter the karma tube, but what the heck! Well - first impression was, that it made me appreciate that I was not epileptic, but the overall result was I felt more joy - and that dear Maha has to be good. emoticon

It was also interesting that the sound track was 'Where were you?' because I was asking the same thing as I watched it in silence, which may have actually made the footage more poignant!
Life is magnificent isn't it?


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LISANANCY 2/13/2010 8:42AM

    I love your photo. I was hoping that this was a picture of you! Happy Valentine's Day my SparkFriend. Keep going, you are the greatest emoticon

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SLASALLE 2/12/2010 8:28PM

    You never cease to bring on something that is very thought-provoking, my friend. Thanks for sharing ... and yes, life is just like that!!!

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JUSTDUCKY1405 2/12/2010 3:53PM

    Thanks for sharing!

I passed it on to my friends and family!

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WILDHONEYPIE1 2/12/2010 1:55PM

    Loved it. emoticon May your moments of joy greatly outnumber those of your sorrow. emoticon

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LAPORTE2006 2/12/2010 1:40PM

    Love the picture but I don't watch videos on here because my sound is messed up. There is something in nature that touches your soul and makes it feel.

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Mistakes ARE worthy teachers!

Monday, February 08, 2010

This morning, as I move into this day, I'm right on the edge of being seriously discouraged by my recent lack of care of this body for which I'm the steward. It's so easy for me to just go into "I give up!" "I'm not worthy!" "I'm such a slug!" etc., etc., ad naseum. But that's SUCH an old tune...and so unworthy of me.

Then I opened today's "The Golden Present: Daily Readings by Sri Swami Satchidananda" and BAM! there it RIGHT. simple wisdom, nothing new, but obviously something I needed to hear YET AGAIN in this very moment...just get up, dust myself off, and trudge on ahead, doing my best today to make better choices.

I must admit I was a little ashamed as I read about not making the same mistake over-and-over...but ultimately encouraged that, yes, I can and will learn even from IT! The big lesson for me of loving self-care is that it is a life-time undertaking...I've come a long ways and, though I have a long ways to go, I'll continue the journey with you ALL, holding hands, baby-step by baby-step, since it's the journey we're on together, to optimal health and self-care!


If you make mistakes it doesn't matter. Make mistakes and learn. The best teachers are your own mistakes. You learn even faster by your mistakes. Once I was at a conference with the great modern scientist Buckminster Fuller. He stood up and said, "Friends, forget about all the `Do this. Don't do that' business. Commit as many mistakes as possible, as soon as possible. You'll become great!"

It's true. Every failure is a stepping stone. Remember, though, that you can't use the same stone for each step. Every step should be on a new stone. That means you shouldn't keep on making the same mistakes. Learn well from each one. The problem with many people is that they commit the same mistake over and over. Even so, they will eventually learn from that mistake and move on. Experience is the best teacher.

Om Shanthi, Shanthi, Shanthi
Sri Swami Satchidananda

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SUCHAHOOT 2/18/2010 10:44PM

    "Every step should be on a new stone." Love this! thanks for posting. YOu always leave me pondering!

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GEODAWG 2/13/2010 10:17PM

    Thank you! /great blog!

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AZIMAT 2/12/2010 9:49AM

    Hi Muchacha, thought I' d cruise over here and see what you're up to...linguistics, mistakes, stepping stones, OK! sounds like life is full. What more....

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FLOWINGWATER 2/12/2010 9:43AM

    Mistakes are indeed wonderful opportunities! Thanks for the reminder - a great way to start my day!

You are so right. Giving up and negative self talk IS so unworthy of you!! You deserve the same amount of loving kindness that you give to others! emoticon

Have a wonderful, blessed day!

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MEDDYPEDDY 2/12/2010 12:45AM

    "Experience is a good teacher, that sends horribly expensive bills..."

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SANTANDERE 2/10/2010 7:56PM

    It is such a simple theory, yet so profound... Indeed mistakes are our greatest and dearest teacher.


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MAZZYR 2/9/2010 11:18AM

    Oh Maha, the freedom to make mistakes... thank you.

Today my intention is to... "Get up, dust myself off, and truge ahead, doing my best to make better choices."

Thank you, dear Maha, I really needed to read and HEAR this.

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PUDLECRAZY 2/9/2010 1:16AM

    Indeed they are! There are cultures in which to make a perfect weaving, basket, piece of jewelry, etc. is considered to be an affront to God - human beings are not meant to be perfect.

My new students are always perplexed at first, when I tell them that not only am I not so concerned about mistakes, I actually want them to make mistakes. Learning is all about trying, thinking of many solutions to a problem, and looking at difficulties from many angels. The very act of thinking, even if the answer is wrong, stimulates brain synapses and opens our brains to new ideas. How easy it is to so get stuck in wanting to be 'right' that we stay in the rigid confines of 'safety'.

I love this post and it has given rise to my next blog.


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DOKEYOKEY 2/8/2010 10:28PM

    Maha, my dear -- I am, as always, inspired by your posts...and I send you lots of loving care that you can aim toward yourself!

And -- I want to tell you that in a funny synchronicity, one of my students tonight quoted the exact same line: "Make as many mistakes as soon as you can."

GBoomer, if you're reading, I like the scientific approach of calling it "data."

Clearly, that is a message from the universe for me today! Thanks for being part of it.

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GINABUG 2/8/2010 9:35PM

    Dearest Maha --

Two quote thoughts for you:

“What do you first do when you learn to swim? You make mistakes, do you not? And what happens? You make other mistakes, and when you have made all the mistakes you possibly can without drowning - and some of them many times over - what do you find? That you can swim! Well - life is just the same as learning to swim! Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!” ~ Alfred Adler

“I think we all wish we could erase some dark times in our lives. But all of life's experiences, bad and good, make you who you are. Erasing any of life's experiences would be a great mistake.” ~ Luis Miguel

Love and blessings to you!


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    Great points--and ones I need to be reminded of from time to time.

GBOOMER's comments on scientific experiments brought to mind a remark of Thomas Edison's--not particularly eloquent but spot on for me. I think it's the willingness to keep on keeping on that helps me make progress--the knowing that as I travel my path, I will learn new ways to serve me better and discard what is no longer useful. Nonetheless, if I'm lucky, I'll always be a work in progress until the day I die--after that who knows!

Happy Monday to all!

I have not failed 700 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those 700 ways will not work. When I have eliminated the ways that will not work, I will find the way that will work.

---Thomas Edison--

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JUSTDUCKY1405 2/8/2010 3:07PM

    Experience and awareness, and divine timing! Great blog! Great share, and great timing for me as well!

Hugz my dear friend!!!

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EOSTAR_45 2/8/2010 2:22PM

    Mistakes are great teachers indeed. The best. I am learning to stop beating up on myself when I keep making the same mistakes over and over and over :-) but to ask--what is I need to learn from this???

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FRANCESCANAZ 2/8/2010 1:22PM

    Gracias otra vez, amiga. I made a very costly mistake last December. I bought some Sugar Daddys on sale after Halloween to give to the students for Spanish Bingo games. Then I decided to try one since they were sooo tiny and sweet and I hadn't had one since I was a kid in the projects. emoticon something big and hard in my mouth...not the sugar tooth! Today it cost me over $2,000. to crown the molar and other top tooth I broke. No more Sugar Daddys for prizes DE VERDAD!

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LAPORTE2006 2/8/2010 10:56AM

    The soul would have no rainbow,had the eyes no tears- John Vance Cheney
We learn to recognise the good by going through the bad. We learn and move on , one step at a time. Even if we go back a step, we move forward again.
Have a great day Maha . Pam

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STLRZGRRL 2/8/2010 10:36AM

    Oh, I am a pro at inventing new and different ways to fail!

I am quite proud of my infinite creative ability to find new ways of falling off the path!


Fall down seven times, get up eight, right?

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KAT573 2/8/2010 9:08AM

    Two thoughts that struck me the most in here;
1. "The big lesson for me of loving self-care is that it is a life-time undertaking."

2. The importance of making mistakes.

The first one is true and trebly true if it was not part of our childhood lessons provided by those in power. So I daily must take this on every day of my adult life, and it is a most serious task.

On Making Mistakes:
I have to take exception to the logic that making mistakes is important and that we learn from our mistakes. I think there is another element in there which is needed in order to "explore and take action" in spite of fear of failure, and to "see" the possibilities after realizing the barrier of our expectations, and their nature, so we may move beyond our expectations that are the true barriers, to breaking through and learning from our actions and consequences.

Each of us must go that journey alone, and yet not. Knowing there is something far greater than we encourages us to shed the boundaries of memory, and to spread the wings of possibilities!
Keep on keeping ON!

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GBOOMER 2/8/2010 8:56AM

    Yes! So hard to not be hard on oneself. So hard not to just give up or veg out.

Reading your post, the thought came to me that in scientific experiments, they don't call them "mistakes", it is called "data".

I like your line, "I'll continue the journey with you ALL, holding hands, baby-step by baby-step, since it's the journey we're on together, to optimal health and self-care!"

I think that key to living better lives is creating with others such an atmosphere of love, support and growth.


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GENKI_WARRIOR 2/8/2010 8:39AM

    love the fails! ;P
seriously; it's how we've come this far--accepting ourlseves as is (not as was, nor as will be).
thanks for sharing : )

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BECOMINGONE 2/8/2010 8:37AM

    Dear one,

As Disneymom said this morning, they aren't mistakes -- they are opportunities to improve. There will always be opportunities to improve ... it's a process not a destination. Hang in there! Hope you had a productive and restful weekend!


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LISANANCY 2/8/2010 8:14AM

    If you stay very safe and never do anything, then you will not make any mistakes. If you out there, living life, trying, , then you will make mistakes. Now you are living. Leaning from the the mistakes is the big secret. Good for you to see this. Thank you for reminding us all. Keep going. Be blessed. emoticon

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