Monday, September 30, 2013
Our weak areas are not
All That Define Us.
False Sense of Self
Who We Really Are.
remind ourselves often that we
already know this to be true.
Break the Trance...
(and make the necessary repairs).
Heal the Whole.
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
Do you ever experience sadness? regret? envy? resentment? longing?
If you do, do you resist it, pushing it away and attempting to replace it with some other feeling?
Do you set it loose and allow it to wreak havoc upon your Life until it loses momentum?
Or do you embrace it, simply allowing it to Be, holding it close to one's heart as a dearly Beloved Friend, staying fully present with it until it's stopped its squalling and nestled back into your Essence as a welcomed part of your whole?
Which approach is more Self-Loving?
Which sets the better example for how we should treat one another?
Kindness to Self makes one a kinder person.
Kinder people contribute to a kinder Reality,
and create a more caring World.
Don't we therefore have a responsibility to the World to treat ourselves (including our emotions and perceptions) with Loving Kindness, first and foremost?
Sunday, July 28, 2013
My next door neighbors, whom I've known only by name (and that only recently), invited me last minute to a "musicians" theme party they were throwing for and with a friend for his 50th birthday last night.
I went because this is the second time they've invited me over and the first time I begged off.
Generally speaking, I am very uncomfortable at parties when there is a not a single person present whom I know well (and not a huge fan of parties in general).
That being the case, I planned to stay for only a half our or so then leave. Little did I know that this would end up being the BEST party I ever attended. The people were fascinating, and even more amazing, they seemed to likewise find me fascinating!
During the night, one of the men who lives there told me that he and his partner have been watching my weight loss transformation with fascination for the last few months, commenting that I do not even look like the same person from six months ago.
"But it's much more than just the weight loss," he said, "It's like you've developed this amazing sense of aliveness that just makes us want to know you better."
And I know what he's talking about! Because since I began following the nutrient-dense lifestyle outlined by Dr Joel Fuhrman (Eat to Live) it is like the falling away of weight and depression has been balanced by a growing sense of vitality and well-being within.
Better yet, when I mentioned my upcoming 48th birthday people reacted with shock, saying they thought I was in my early 30s!!!
People are responding to me so differently than in the recent past. At first I thought it was the weight loss itself. But I'm coming to realize that there has been a shift.
I don't just *look* like a different person: I have become a different person!
My spark is back.
My own perceptions are changing as a result, and the way others perceive and react to me has shifted as well. I've barely dipped below the 200 pound mark--in other words, still very overweight in most people's books--but this aliveness that is growing and shining through is blinding people to my physical "flaws" and has them seeing ME for the first time in a very, very long time.
All I can say is, it's good to be back (and better than ever)!
Thank you again, Dr Fuhrman, for developing this lifesaving and life-giving nutritional plan, and sharing it with the world for less than $10/copy.
Friday, July 26, 2013
I have a complicated belief system about random events. What it boils down to is that everything is connected, and therefore if you pick something that resonates with you and follow it for long enough, it will lead you where you need to go. Or take you off into another new and amazing direction you might never have known about otherwise. So I've developed a practice of doing random searches from time to time with phrases that "speak" to me.
Today that phrase was "sinking into your body" because it's an experience that I love myself, and figured that if I have the experience then others must too...
Anyhow, on that random note, my search led me to the Facebook page--and then the SoundCloud page--of a young songwriter who is VERY talented and deserves to be heard!
Monday, July 22, 2013
People ask me how I successfully stayed faithful to my program, Eat to Live, during these last five months--particularly during the transitioning from a SAD diet to a highly restrictive plant-based diet that so many struggle with.
The simple answer is: I made a commitment to myself: To my health. To my future. To ME.
Keep in mind that people are not TRULY committed to something until their actions and choices consistently back up their "intentions" (wishful thinking and impressive mission statements do not make anything happen).
So I had to envision what my commitment was going to look like in the form of my own actions and choices, and hold a picture in my head of The Map (where I am, where I want to go, and how to get there).
To that end, during the weeks I was transitioning--before I began my Eat to Live "Six Week Challenge"--I gathered information and ideas by reading blogs, watching videos, and interacting online with others who had already started doing E2L.
It did not take long for me to figure out that people eating even "just a little bit" of off-plan foods during their Six Week Challenge were unlikely to get the same amazing results as those who followed it "perfectly".
They also never truly detox, or win the battle over food addictions (giving in to them), so it is an ongoing struggle throughout their first six weeks and even after.
So I meditated upon the notion of committing for six weeks to “100% by the book,” and how that would look.
However, I still had "Cop Out Me" to contend with.
"Cop Out Me" is that part of me who wants things to be easy and effortless, with no real sacrifices. "It's all just too hard, too much, it will take too long." That part of me wants to eat off-plan foods because they smell and/or taste good (or--more often than not--satisfy some emotional need in a superficial, immediate-gratification sort of way).
That part of me wants to pretend the high calorie, low nutrient foods snuck in here and there don't really count, aren't really going to matter in the long run... or are just too difficult give up.
(This is why I track every EVERY single thing I put into my mouth, every single day, to keep myself honest and aware of the choices I'm making, good or bad... because I have a lifetime habit of kidding myself when it comes to food.)
Once I decided I could do this for six weeks, I did not allow that "Cop Out Me" to take over again even when she screamed and threw temper tantrums. Even when she grabbed a big handful of something and shoved it in my mouth when I wasn't paying attention. I just spit it back out, reminding myself that the Six Week Challenge was a short-term commitment to myself and my health, to SEE ... just to see... what amazing results might be in store for me, too, if only I remained true to myself. And to Dr Fuhrman's nutritional advice.
No one was forcing this upon me. It was a commitment to myself: The Real Me.
"Real Me" sees the long-term big picture of my Life, not just my immediate wants, needs, gains, and losses.
"Real Me" recognizes that the choices I make today are, in fact, SHAPING my future. In order to get the future I want, I need to make the appropriate choices to take me there, not the choices that left me dangling from a cliff for more than a decade!
"Real Me" puts my health and true happiness before everything else, including financial concerns and/or what smells so good and tempting at the moment. Or sad, bored, lonely, anxious, antsy I'm feeling (because feelings are fleeting things and not something to base life or health decisions upon).
"Real Me" recognizes that the key to happiness is radiant good health; because without one's health, nothing else in life is as enjoyable.
And the fact that I've been abusing my body for so long is the VERY reason it is SO important that I give it excellent nutrition and maintenance from here on out. Because if I do not....
"Cop Out Me" already robbed me of more than a fifteen years of my life, health, and sense of well-being. Doing things "Cop Out Me's" way nearly destroyed me.
So when, as I move through this new lifestyle that I began five months ago, I realize that "Cop Out Me" is fighting for control again, "Real Me" steps forward and cuts her off.
That’s the dance.
My commitment keeps me strong, until I have a period of temptation, or a bad day, or a series of poor choices that reawaken addiction behaviors... then Real Me needs to step in and contend with Cop Out Me.
Because my HEALTH and my FUTURE are far more important to me than whatever might stumble across my path and trigger an “I want” response!
Besides, I feel so wonderful when I’m eating 100% by the book... and drained when I eat things that are detrimental to my health. It is easy, in that sense, to revert to the healthier options.
And to make choices that shape the tomorrow I WANT to be living.
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