Tuesday, August 18, 2009
“I’ve learned in climbing that you don’t ‘conquer’ anything. Mountains are not conquered and should be treated with respect and humility. If we take what the mountains give, have patience and desire, and are prepared, then the mountains will permit us to reach their highest peaks. I believe a lot of things are like that in life.”
~Ed Viesturs~ First American to climb all fourteen 8,000 meter peaks and author of No Shortcuts to the Top.
There seems to be an innate drive toward perfection and anything short can quickly throw us in a spiral. The example that really “stuck a chord with me” yesterday was a gal who was moving a bit slower through the health challenge than some of the others in the program. Her post expressed frustration, anger with herself, the feeling that she wasn’t doing “well enough” or “doing it right,” and a general sense of sadness.
We so often miss what we do accomplish and instead focus on what we think we should have accomplished. However, who is to say what we should do or shouldn’t do? Where does this “should-meter” exist? More importantly, why do we let it exist and have influence over our day to day emotions? Why don’t we celebrate today, and today’s accomplishments, no matter how large or small and quit being pressured by some external clock or system that exists only in our imagination?
Let’s look at some practical ways you can GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK!
Quiet your critic: When you hear negative messages and reprimands in your mind, take a deep breath. Stretch. Go outside. Break the moment. Ask yourself: What do I gain by talking to myself like this or treating myself like this? How will this possibly help me move forward toward my goal? All we gain from living beneath a “should-meter” is feeling lousy and pushing ourselves further from our goals.
Talk it through: If you can’t quiet the critic on your own, then talk it through with others. Involve yourself in support groups where you can discuss these issues with. Work together and brainstorm on how to treat yourself better… then IMPLEMENT the ideas! Talking about it alone won’t fix it, you have to brainstorm an action plan and then DO IT("BRING IT")! Don’t become engaged in hours of endless and negative conversation. Share where you are stumped or stuck, then brainstorm solutions. Ask: What is it I am trying to accomplish? State your problem and also what you want to accomplish. Brainstorm together on how to move from point A to point B.
Focus on what you did do, instead of what you didn’t do: Drop the “shoulds and coulds” from your vocabulary. Instead focus on what you DID accomplish. Remember many small steps will get you to the same place. What is important is to keep moving, it is hard to keep moving if we undermine our accomplishments.
Expect life to interrupt: No sooner than we have a goal and a path in mind life will undoubtedly interrupt. Life has a way of doing that and we have to work with it instead of against it. Expect life to interrupt and try not to become frustrated when it does. Instead of abandoning your plan, sit down and brainstorm on what you CAN still accomplish. You might have to slow down for a week, a month or a year, or brainstorm a new way to work with your plan. What is important is to modify your plan, never abandon it. We never need to “start over” although we often need to change direction.
Re-read this week’s quote once again… “I’ve learned in climbing that you don’t ‘conquer’ anything. Mountains are not conquered and should be treated with respect and humility. If we take what the mountains give, have patience and desire, and are prepared, then the mountains will permit us to reach their highest peaks. I believe a lot of things are like that in life.” I think we could actually substitute many words for “mountain” in this sentence. We could use goals, dreams, life–all require patience and desire and preparation. When we forget to cut ourselves some slack and are hard on ourselves, we lose momentum and go down the mountain.
Your Challenge: What “shoulds” have been causing you to feel lousy? How do you push your self with unrealistic expectations or negative self-talk? What can you implement from this Week’s Challenge to begin getting rid of the “should-meter” in your life?
Monday, August 17, 2009
“Life is a competition not with others, but with ourselves. We should seek each day to live stronger, better, truer lives; each day to master some weakness of yesterday; each day to repair a mistake; each day to surpass ourselves.” —David B. Haight
During the last Olympics, my daughter and I talked a lot about what “being a Champion” means. When I read this quote, I felt it truly embraced what it means to be Champion in life. If each of us were to embrace this quote, how could we not feel good come nightfall?Few of us will ever compete in an arena such as the Olympics. However, each day we compete in the arena of life and self-improvement. If we embrace the teachings of today’s quote, a personal gold medal is within our reach.Your Turn: Do one of the following today:
* live a stronger, better, truer life
* master some weakness of yesterday
* repair a mistake
* surpass yesterday
Your Affirmation: I become stronger everyday.
Saturday, August 08, 2009
"Find what makes your heart sing and create your own music."
It is not always easy to find your true calling. Sometimes we find it
through trial and error. But always remember, it's NEVER too late.
Ray Kroc, for example, founded McDonalds at age 52. Many people have
decided to go back to school in their 60s and 70s. It's never too late
to find your purpose and your passion in life. We are all unique
beings, with different interests and different talents. Discover your
gifts, discover what moves you. Find what makes your heart sing!
Friday, August 07, 2009
"Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.
How is your attitude this morning? Are you ready to have a great day?
As we work to make our days consistently brighter, we learn the "tools" it takes for us to have a great day. Each of us has triggers that help us to make the most of our day. Our triggers might include getting up on time, having a healthy breakfast, having time to write an affirmation or read a positive book. Think through the tasks you normally do that help get your day off to a good start.
Think about your "good days," "medium days," and "average days." Which days are most enjoyable and productive for you? Odds are it is the "good days" that help you make progress toward creating the life you desire. The first key ingredient to a "good day" is the right mental attitude. Likewise, the major component in reaching a goal (as today's quote states) is the right mental attitude. Realize that taking the time to "program yourself" for a great day with a great attitude is important. It is never something to be neglected.
While reading this, thoughts that come to my mind. This also affects how our daily workout is going to be. On your good days when you wake up in the morning, everything is going great, and you are full of energy; you will have the perfect workout. Don't you think to yourself why can't I feel this way everyday. All you can think about is working out. You are not focusing on the rest of your day.
Think about what makes those days for you. We all know it is difficult to feel this way every day. But we can try too. If you don't clear your mind and focus on task at hand, you will not give it everything you have. Which in turn will show in results down the road. Pause a second before starting your workout. Focus & tell yourself your going to "BRING IT".
Have a workout!
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