Monday, March 11, 2013
Today I have to think about self talk. That's that little voice that is a constant in our heads. My lovely daughter-in-law has a note on her fridge,"How you talk to your child becomes the voice in their head." It took me many years to understand that I had a tape recorder going on in my head every day and it was a very negative voice.
Fortunately, I met my wonderful husband who would only talk to me with positivity and had complete faith in me and my abilities. Still that little voice would re-emerge every now and again. Eventually while listening to Doctor Phil it dawned on me that I would never talk to a friend in that way, why then was I talking to myself like that. Why, indeed!
It all comes back to history, a thoughtless word from an adult, sibling intolerance, bullying peers, and even friends' thoughtless words. It is well to remember that as adults our words have enormous impact on children. An impact that can live with them for their lives.
For every negative thought I have about myself, I tell myself seven positives. How do you deal with your inner voice?