Wednesday, December 15, 2010
(Trent and Joey leave the diner and are walking down the street)
Joey: So why are you here?
Trent: Because you wanted breakfast?
Joey: (rolls eyes) No, life in general. What's your purpose? Why do you get up in the morning? Who or what are you living for? Why are you here?
Trent: Honestly....I don't know. (under breath) lecture starts in 3..2..1..
Joey: Nah, no lecture. I think that that's how most people are.
Joey: Yeah, really. Did Past do the graveyard thing with you?
Trent: Sure did.
Joey: A purpose in life is crucial. Most people get by when the expectations are clear. When they're in school or right out of it. As they get older, they get married, buy a house, they have children.....their book kind of writes itself.
Trent: Yeah, I've seen that in my friends.
Joey: Who knows, maybe that will be you.
Trent: Yeah, maybe
Joey: But what if it's not?
Trent: (No response)
Joey: When they get derailed in their life (flunk out of school, lose their job, get divorced, fail at a business, kid rebels, etc.), they sometimes metaphorically die. They fall down. They're scared to get up. They don't know how to. They don't even know where to begin. They wonder if it's even worth getting up if they might just fall again.
What do you need to do to get up?
Trent: Good question. No idea.
Joey: Think about it. (pats Trent on back) Hang in there.
Joey: You're religious, right?
Trent: Depends on your definition of religious.
Joey: Look, I'm not one to give much advice on this kind of stuff......but you might want to start talking to God again. This time a little more honestly. And listen to him.
Joey: Think about it.
Trent: Will do.
(they come back to the Camaro)
(To be continued)
Monday, December 13, 2010
Joey: Let's go.
(They start walking toward the Camaro)
Trent: Where are we going? Someplace in my present where I can be happy until you point out why I'm a miserable failure in life?
Joey: Nah, we're going to Jersey. I'm hungry. There's an all night diner that serves Breakfast 24/7.
(They get in)
Trent: Jersey!? We can't do Jersey in a night or even a day. Heck if tolls are involved, we probably can't do it in a week.
Joey: Relax! I got a turbo charger in this baby.
(Car shoots flames out the exhaust and then takes off into the air and starts flying (speedometer is maxed). five minutes they land at the diner and grab a table. The waitress brings them menu's)
Joey: So....What's the big deal about 195?
Trent: I told you, it's my goal
Joey: (Rubbing his temples with his fingers to relieve stress) Yeah, I got that. If my goal was to eat 1000 marshmallows in an hour, what would you think about it.
(waitress put rolls on table)
Trent: That it was important to you?
Joey: OK, yeah good. So, why is 195 important to you? Do you have a bet going with someone that you can get there? Is your doctor or nutritionist telling you that you need to be there? Help me out here.
(takes bite of roll)
Trent: OK, when I first graduated from college I was at my healthiest. I weighed 195 and was 15% body fat. I was member of the month at my gym. I worked out 8 hours a week. I was in great....
Joey: (roll in mouth) So what?
Trent: (pauses) come again?
Joey: So what? That was years ago. What about now?
(swallows. Takes another bite of the roll)
Trent: (mouth open in complete disbelief) ...
Joey: That's it!? You've wasted a year and a half to recapture a number on the scale from a few years ago? I mean, hey, whatever works for ya. But, don't you have better things to spend your time an effort on? I'm just saying.
Trent: It's not just a number, though.
Joey: Then what is it?
(swallows, takes last bite of roll)
Trent: Well it's.....it's........(pauses)
Joey: It's a vain attempt to "restore" yourself to some time in the past that you believe was better than now. You blame your weight gain as if it has been the problem. In fact, it's probably been the most glaring symptom of a problem. But the number itself is neither her nor there.
Joey: You think that 195 is going to make you happy? When you were less than a pound away, were you happy? If you had made 195 how long would you have enjoyed it.
Trent: Probably about a week
Joey: When you were 195 last time, were you actually happy.
(Trent looks down at table pondering)
Joey: Yeah (swallows). You need to make your health a priority. I get that. We all kind of need to (pats his own stomach). SparkPeople is a "HealthyLifestyle" site. Not a diet site.
"Healthy Lifestyle" is usually diet industry speak for something that involves maybe losing weight, but addressing all areas of life pertaining to health. Weight is often the most glaring issue at first, but after that's gone, you can address other areas of your life pertaining to physical, mental and spiritual health.
You seem to be at the point now where you need to start doing that.
Trent: So what are you saying or suggesting?
Joey: Stop focusing on the number. If you actually are overweight, then start focusing on determining which things that will help you get there and focus on doing them.
Understand that you may be technically overweight, but that it's "something to address" not "something that will kill you in six months". Focus on the road, not the destination. This isn't a game and the number on the scale is not your "score".
Trent: Makes sense.
Joey: Oh, and come up with a motivation that will work for you in 2011. It's a new decade. Stop living in the past. Move forward.
Trent: Thanks. I appreciate it.
Joey: Hey! No Problem
(waitress comes over to take their order)
(To be continued)
Saturday, December 11, 2010
(Trent wakes up to a loud roaring noise. He stumbles out of bed to the window and peaks through the blinds. A black 1988 Chevrolet Camaro IROC Z screeches and turns perfectly into a spot right in front of Trent's apartment)
Trent: Oh boy.
(A man in jeans, A Dark Grey T-Shirt and leather bomber jacket (with at least a few gold chains around his neck) jumps out of the car through the window, Dukes of Hazard style).
Trent: This oughta be interesting.
Man: (in a really thick North Atlantic accent) Hey!!! is Trent here!!??
(Trent knocks on the window and waves at the man, who sees him)
Man: There you are!! Buzz me in already!
(Trent lets the man in. The man looks at Trent funny, the perplexed look matched only by Trent's look at him)
Trent: So.....You're the Ghost of Dreamer's Present.
Man: Nah. He's runnin' way behind schedule. He asked me to fill in for him. He does that from time to time. We've been friends for awhile. Name's Joey! How ya doin' !?
Trent: You're from Jersey, no?
Joey: Yeah! How'd ya guess!!??
(they both laugh)
Trent: So if you don't mind me using/stealing your language, Whadda you starin' at?
Joey: Well, it's just that I don't got much info on ya and ....
Joey: Well it's just that Present said that you was on SparkPeople so I read your profile and some of your blogs and...
Joey: Well, it's just that....OK, I'm just going to say it....
You're not fat!!
Trent: Not everyone on SparkPeople is fat.
Joey: Yeah, but you talk like your life is at a stand still because of your weight. It's like this weight loss is the only thing you got goin' on. When I saw your weight. I assumed you was like 5' 5'' the way you was talkin' about it.
Trent: (Firmly) I set a goal to be 195. I was 195.8. I set a goal and I want to achieve it and I will stop at nothing until I do. And THAT'S the bottom line!
Joey: (sighs) This is going to be a long night, I can tell.
(To be continued)
Monday, December 06, 2010
(Ghost of Dreamers Past and Trent are in a graveyard)
Trent: Ummmmmmmmm. What are we doing here? Isn't this something for future trent ghost person...........maybe?
GODP: No. Go over to that grave over there.
(Hands Trent a magic marker)
Trent goes over to it.
Trent: It has my name and my birth date but no death date. (jokingly) That must mean I'm still alive!
GODP: (under his breath) You might be surprised
Trent: So do I get to write my date of death?
GODP: Sure, go crazy.
(Trent writes a date and it vanishes. Writes another and then it too vanishes)
Trent: Um...Mr. Ghost, the marker appears to be not working. I put a date on it and it disappears
GODP: (grins) That's because you're putting FUTURE dates on it.
GODP: Again, you heard me.
Trent: And again, I don't follow.
GODP: What's not to follow?
(Blank stare from Trent)
GODP: (sighs) OK, I'll be clearer. When did you die?
Trent: Ummmm...I didn't? I mean I'm still breathing.
GODP: Yeah, but that's about it. You are physically alive but that's about it. When did you die?
Trent: I didn't! I haven't! I'm still alive. I have great friends. I have a great job. I'm living on my own......
GODP: How is that different from when you were in Seattle!? When you first graduated!?
Trent: (Pauses, thinks for a second. It hits him) Oh, I get it.
GODP: Since you graduated from college you've had one very short time of growth and then you stopped. You hit a setback and you've spent the rest of you're life since:
* floundering aimlessly
* not taking any major risks
* Not committing to a d**n thing!!!
Your friends are dating and getting married. They're moving up the ladder in life. They are addressing issues and problems in their lives and overcoming.
(Pauses and looks Trent square in the eyes)
The rest of the planet is moving on! Read my lips.....YOU'RE NOT!!!!!
(Trent nods, acknowledging the point)
GODP: (exasperatedly points openhanded at the grave) So, when was it!?
Trent thinks for a minute, walks over to the grave resigned, and scribbles a date on the grave. The date stays
Trent: (Walks back over to GODP. Half-smiles) Happy?
GODP: (half smiles back) No, but if you take this wake up call to heart, then YOU will be.
Trent: Thanks ghostey (puts fist up for pound)
GODP: No problem (pounds back)
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