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What the Dreamer Dreams (part 11)

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

(Trent and GIT of Dreamer's Future sit on the curb outside of the Steak and Shake)

GIT: I tell you future.

If you continue to try to control every situation and circumstance, you will always feel as though you don't have enough control while others will feel like you are too controlling.

If you never let friends and family know your pain and struggles, they will never be able to be there for you.

If you don't let people be there for you, you will never have strength to be there for people.

If you continue being angry about situations and conflicts that you can't resolve, you will always be angry.

If you continue to see relationships as possible threats and heartaches, you will never enjoy blessings of them.

If you are always scared to make mistake you will always avoid opportunity to truly succeed.

If you don't overcome fear of groups, you will always have limited social life.

If you continue to compare yourself to what you were in past, you will never be what you should be in future.

If you continue to hide behind words and jokes, that is all you will ever be to people both Sparkfriends and RLFs.

If you continue to let numbers run your life, then you never will.

If you continue to view God as callous judge and untrustworthy authority, you will never truly see Him as Lord and Savior.

If you keep looking at 8-10 pounds you have to lose, you will never remember 40-45 you lost.

If you continue to let potential setbacks, mistakes and failure keep you from trying new things, you will never enjoy adventure of new things.

If you continue not addressing issues in your life, they will not get addressed.

If you continue to use food as comfort, you will never be comforted.

(pauses. looks Trent right in the eyes)

You want to see future based on your life now? I show you.

(projects an image of Trent sitting at his computer on SparkPeople as he ages twenty years in a matter of seconds. Never moves from the computer)

That will be you. Never going anywhere.

(Trent is absolutely speechless)

It's a lot to process I know.

Trent (completely drained): Can I go home now?

GIT: Sure

(To be continued)

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CALLIKIA 12/23/2010 2:15PM

    *nods* Yep!

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TANNERS 12/23/2010 9:07AM

    Good job TD.. these are all important things to realize... and hard lessons to learn. Sometimes when we have been hurt very badly in the past, we work so hard to prevent from being hurt again that we miss the life that is going on around us.


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MEADSBAY 12/22/2010 9:51PM

    She is wickit smaaaaaaart!

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What the Dreamer Dreams (part 10)

Monday, December 20, 2010

(Trent walks into the Steak n' Shake. It's empty. A waitress walks out from the kitchen. She appears to be in her late teens/early twenties. She speaks with a Russian accent)

Waitress: Hello.

Trent: Hi! So......You're the ghost of Dreamer's future, eh.

Waitress: Not ghost, GIT

Trent: Huh?

Waitress: GIT, not ghost.

Trent: What's a GIT?

Waitress: It's Ghost in Training. Haven't finished training program yet.

Trent: I see.'re the GIT of Dreamer's future.

git: (smiles) Da!

Trent: And you work at a Steak and Shake

GIT: Da. GIT is internship. Being waitress is job. But I'm done for night.

Trent: So, you're probably going to drag me to some future time where I can see how I'm going to regret what I'm doing today, no?

git: nyet. is not necessary.

Trent: How do you mean?

git: What do you think is future for you? You keep doing same thing. Nothing change. What do you think future will be?

Trent: (sigh) This is going to be a really long night.

GIT: Perhaps. Would you like something to eat?

Trent: Sure.

(To be continued)

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MEADSBAY 12/22/2010 9:51PM

    What do you think is future for you? You keep doing same thing. Nothing change. What do you think future will be?

(big sigh)

whyohwhyohwhyohwhy do we do it???


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What the Dreamer Dreams (part 9)

Saturday, December 18, 2010

(Trent and Joey are flying in the Camaro )

Trent: So, emphasize general health

Joey: Yup

Trent: Come up with a motivation that's relevant to my life today and make the scale a partial measure of my health, but not the main litmus test.

Joey: Check.

Trent: And figure out what my purpose is on this planet.

Joey: Yeah, You're probably not going to get all that done this weekend.

Trent: Probably not, no.......Are we flying home at this point?

Joey: Nah, I'm dropping you off at a Steak n' Shake. That's where you will meet the ghost of Dreamer's future.

Trent: It's like 4:00 am. Are you sure that the place will be open?

Joey: With all due respect, this is a dream.

Trent: Right right.

Joey: Besides do you want to be talking to a ghost in the middle of a crowded restaurant? People will think you're crazy.

Trent: Meh, most people already think I am. Besides, I still have the bluetooth headseat that Past gave me for such a predicament.

(Camaro lands outside of a Steak n' Shake that appears to be open but completely empty)

Joey: Alright we're here

Trent: Thanks man, for everything
(gets out of car)

Joey: No problem. Remember make a goal for the today and future, not the past!

Trent: Gotcha

(Trent closes door walks toward the S&S. Car takes off into the air, turns Northeastward and flies off)

(To be continued)


What the Dreamer Dreams (part 8)

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

(Trent and Joey leave the diner and are walking down the street)

Joey: So why are you here?

Trent: Because you wanted breakfast?

Joey: (rolls eyes) No, life in general. What's your purpose? Why do you get up in the morning? Who or what are you living for? Why are you here?

Trent: Honestly....I don't know. (under breath) lecture starts in 3..2..1..

Joey: Nah, no lecture. I think that that's how most people are.

Trent: Really?

Joey: Yeah, really. Did Past do the graveyard thing with you?

Trent: Sure did.

Joey: A purpose in life is crucial. Most people get by when the expectations are clear. When they're in school or right out of it. As they get older, they get married, buy a house, they have children.....their book kind of writes itself.

Trent: Yeah, I've seen that in my friends.

Joey: Who knows, maybe that will be you.

Trent: Yeah, maybe

Joey: But what if it's not?

Trent: (No response)

Joey: When they get derailed in their life (flunk out of school, lose their job, get divorced, fail at a business, kid rebels, etc.), they sometimes metaphorically die. They fall down. They're scared to get up. They don't know how to. They don't even know where to begin. They wonder if it's even worth getting up if they might just fall again.

What do you need to do to get up?

Trent: Good question. No idea.

Joey: Think about it. (pats Trent on back) Hang in there.

Trent: Thanks.

Joey: You're religious, right?

Trent: Depends on your definition of religious.

Joey: Look, I'm not one to give much advice on this kind of stuff......but you might want to start talking to God again. This time a little more honestly. And listen to him.

Trent: Perhaps

Joey: Think about it.

Trent: Will do.

(they come back to the Camaro)

(To be continued)

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DREAMFREQUENCY 12/17/2010 2:01PM

    Wow Trent, I've just read all your entries since I was last on here, and it seems like I missed a lot. But it seems like you've made a lot of progress with heading in the direction that you want to be. I am proud of you for writing all this down, and grateful that you chose to share it with your friends.

I can't wait to read some more!

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ANEPANALIPTI 12/16/2010 3:01PM


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What the Dreamer Dreams (part 7)

Monday, December 13, 2010

Joey: Let's go.

(They start walking toward the Camaro)

Trent: Where are we going? Someplace in my present where I can be happy until you point out why I'm a miserable failure in life?

Joey: Nah, we're going to Jersey. I'm hungry. There's an all night diner that serves Breakfast 24/7.

(They get in)

Trent: Jersey!? We can't do Jersey in a night or even a day. Heck if tolls are involved, we probably can't do it in a week.

Joey: Relax! I got a turbo charger in this baby.

(Car shoots flames out the exhaust and then takes off into the air and starts flying (speedometer is maxed). five minutes they land at the diner and grab a table. The waitress brings them menu's)

Joey: So....What's the big deal about 195?

Trent: I told you, it's my goal

Joey: (Rubbing his temples with his fingers to relieve stress) Yeah, I got that. If my goal was to eat 1000 marshmallows in an hour, what would you think about it.

(waitress put rolls on table)

Trent: That it was important to you?

Joey: OK, yeah good. So, why is 195 important to you? Do you have a bet going with someone that you can get there? Is your doctor or nutritionist telling you that you need to be there? Help me out here.

(takes bite of roll)

Trent: OK, when I first graduated from college I was at my healthiest. I weighed 195 and was 15% body fat. I was member of the month at my gym. I worked out 8 hours a week. I was in great....

Joey: (roll in mouth) So what?

Trent: (pauses) come again?

Joey: So what? That was years ago. What about now?
(swallows. Takes another bite of the roll)

Trent: (mouth open in complete disbelief) ...

Joey: That's it!? You've wasted a year and a half to recapture a number on the scale from a few years ago? I mean, hey, whatever works for ya. But, don't you have better things to spend your time an effort on? I'm just saying.

Trent: It's not just a number, though.

Joey: Then what is it?
(swallows, takes last bite of roll)

Trent: Well it''s........(pauses)

Joey: It's a vain attempt to "restore" yourself to some time in the past that you believe was better than now. You blame your weight gain as if it has been the problem. In fact, it's probably been the most glaring symptom of a problem. But the number itself is neither her nor there.

Trent: Hmmmm.......

Joey: You think that 195 is going to make you happy? When you were less than a pound away, were you happy? If you had made 195 how long would you have enjoyed it.

Trent: Probably about a week

Joey: When you were 195 last time, were you actually happy.

(Trent looks down at table pondering)

Joey: Yeah (swallows). You need to make your health a priority. I get that. We all kind of need to (pats his own stomach). SparkPeople is a "HealthyLifestyle" site. Not a diet site.

"Healthy Lifestyle" is usually diet industry speak for something that involves maybe losing weight, but addressing all areas of life pertaining to health. Weight is often the most glaring issue at first, but after that's gone, you can address other areas of your life pertaining to physical, mental and spiritual health.

You seem to be at the point now where you need to start doing that.

Trent: So what are you saying or suggesting?

Joey: Stop focusing on the number. If you actually are overweight, then start focusing on determining which things that will help you get there and focus on doing them.

Understand that you may be technically overweight, but that it's "something to address" not "something that will kill you in six months". Focus on the road, not the destination. This isn't a game and the number on the scale is not your "score".

Trent: Makes sense.

Joey: Oh, and come up with a motivation that will work for you in 2011. It's a new decade. Stop living in the past. Move forward.

Trent: Thanks. I appreciate it.

Joey: Hey! No Problem

(waitress comes over to take their order)

(To be continued)

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TEENY_BIKINI 1/5/2011 7:09PM

    "Focus on the road, not the destination."

Deftly stated. For sure. 2011 is yours! It is.

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AKELAZ 12/14/2010 8:47AM

    We all need a Joey in our lives - but, thank goodness, what we have is YOU. You remind us all, via your alter ego, that the number on the scales is ONLY a number and other things are important too. Reaching that number is not actually going to make us as happy as we think (in most cases) and you have plainly 'got' that. Good luck with the 195/01.01.2011 but neither you - nor any of us - need to obsess. More likely to get there if we de-stress and appreciate the journey. As you say - look forward not back.

You are very reflective and it's great that you share the results of these reflections - you are such an inspiration.

AND - thanks for your comment on my status - it is indeed a difficult time of year. Don't feel at the moment that I will pass the test but I am certainly going to try - with the help of your thin grey line theory that was so useful before - thanks again for that.

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ANEPANALIPTI 12/13/2010 10:20PM

    Yup, the number thing. SPOT ON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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MEADSBAY 12/13/2010 10:09PM

    Joey is definitely a wise guy.

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 12/13/2010 8:25PM

    I think your friend Joey needs to talk to me too.

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