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So What Does It Look Like?

Monday, November 01, 2010

Let's face it we've all asked questions, hoping to get answers only to be greeted by a return question that basically says, "You know the answer to that question" or better "ONLY you know the answer to that question" or worse "Only you can figure out the answer to that question."

You know return questions like:
* Why ARE you doing that to yourself?
* What CAN or SHOULD you do about the situation?
* I KNOW you are, but WHAT am I?
* Is the garment in question even MADE of WOOL!!!??
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q1zhLWr4i1I

I'd answer the 3rd, but I think I know what question would follow.

Recently, a dear spark friend of mine who I love very much has been struggling with motivation. How she's having a hard time getting back on track. She wrote a blog basically asking....

Question: "Has anyone seen my motivation?"

I know the frustration. Honestly, I've kind of stagnated and felt like I've gone nowhere in the past three months health-wise. I absolutely know that it starts with motivation.

While I know that the question wasn't really meant to be answered (or greeted with another return question), here it is. I'll respond as anyone asked if they've seen someone or something that has been lost (cat, child, etc.) would....

Response: "What does it look like?"

What does it look like?

Going below 200 was a big deal for me. I did it. I went below 200! I lost for three more weeks. I ate out only twice a week and was loving it. I felt the healthiest I ever had.

Now I'm back over 200, not eating healthy and barely treading water exercise-wise. What happened?

I didn't have a vision that went beyond a number. Once I broke through the dissatisfaction of being over 200, I didn't have any reason to keep going but to hit another number.

In a leadership class that I took a couple of years ago, the teacher taught us that there are three factors that affect motivation to change
* Dissatisfaction with current situation
* Vision of the outcome of the change
* First step and success there of.

Formula: M=DVF

While he taught that if any of the three factors were missing, motivation was kaput, I would argue that any of the three can be strong enough. The first two are crucial. The third to me is the litmus test of the the other(s) (vision or dissatisfaction.)

I personally am not as dissatisfied with my situation as I was 23 pounds ago. For now I think I can psyche myself up over the next 7 weeks to hit 195 to say that I've met my goal. It will be freedom. A great accomplishment. I will write a blog. All of my friends will be happy for me!!!! Fireworks!!!!

Then what?

yeah. Then what?

So let me ask you some questions, if I may. These are questions that I will need to answer over the next few weeks myself:

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*D*
- What about your life makes you miserable enough to make the decision to bump a healthy lifestyle to the top of your list (even if it's tied with something else)?
- What are you missing out on doing in life?
- What did you have when you were healthier that you don't now?
- How tired are you really of looking in the mirror? Wearing the same limited number of unattractive clothes? Feeling sluggish? etc.?

*V*
- When you hit your goal, how will your life be better?
- What will you be able to do?
- Who will you inspire (yes, SparkFriends count also)?
- Bottom Line: What is going to make it worth it for you to make the decision to make the change and live differently even when old bad unhealthy habits call you. What will make you stand strong. This gives you something that *D* can't give you after initial victory.

*F*
- If there are 100 things you can/have to do to reach your goal what are 1 or 2 really easy things you can do to get some quick victories?
- If those don't work what are 1 or 2 other things?

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Again, I'm asking these of myself as much as I'm asking you. I'm psyched about hitting my goal of 195, but I realize that that will last about two weeks once I hit it unless I develop a real vision of what a 188, 179 and ultimately 165 pound Trentdreamer (or his life) will look like.

So, in conclusion, . . . . . . . . . . . . What does it look like?

- TD Out!

  
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KRAFTIJAN 11/6/2010 3:16AM

    Once again great blog. You can really get deep and meaningful when you want.. emoticon

My answer is whatever you want it to look like. What it is for Trent may not be for Jan but whatever it is it will give us the same satisfaction.

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.(Eleanor Roosevelt)

You can do it, I can do it, We can do it..Not so hard when someone is there to walk the walk with you..

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Aty Jan

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STEELKICKIN 11/3/2010 11:32PM

    I so loved this blog. I love blogs that make me think long and hard...and this one did. Absolutely brilliant.
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MEADSBAY 11/3/2010 11:57AM

    No, really, TD- this is a great blog (I 'liked' it) and got me thinking.

I think you are right about many of us feeling good after some initial success and losing that sense of dis-satisfaction that helped us along at first.
I look and feel so much better than I did before but, honestly- I avoid looking at myself nekked in the mirror because I have quite a ways to go.
I liked your idea of picking 1-2 ways to improve my program that will offer some immediate gratification and will come up with a few.
58 days left until 2011- which means 70 days until my SECOND sparkaversary- that haunts me!
Loved the LACounty Fair clip, btw.
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MEADSBAY 11/2/2010 9:59PM

    I'm sorry- I'm having a hard time understanding your blog written in standard English. Could you translate this for me?
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TANNERS 11/2/2010 8:43PM

    AAwwwhh TD.. thank you. You're blog made me feel so special, which I really needed right now. You have given me a lot to think about, which I swear is half of this battle. Some soul searching is in order and then you and I are going to do this!!!!!

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l4st bl0g in martian!!!!111. . . . w00t!

Sunday, October 31, 2010

ok s0 from the beginning of september until h4lloween, my goals have been the following:
* make page all dark +dreary
* delta my profile pic @least 1ce a week
* make my profile pix scary/halloweeni5h
* write everything in some weird internet/im/martian language
* maybe do this...
video.yahoo.com/watch/3338356/936806
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but only if necessary

Starting w8: 199
g0al weight: 195
last week 200.4
this week.........

202.2

ok, so i didnt lose the w8.

@ th3 same time:
* i wuz active on spark
* stupid as all 4 of my main goals were, i did maintain all 4 of them, even when i wuz tired of them (trust me, my page background is not going to bl4ck again anytime s00n)

I now have a fire in my belly to hit 195 by the end of the year (and no itz not from the burrito w h0t sauce i ate yesterday)

s0 starting tomorrow, my spark page will be colorful again, my prof pic will ch4nge roughly every 2 weeks, the pictures will be funny but not scary (at least not intentionally so) and i will 6o back 2 speaking normally (with some exceptions uv cours3. never th1s b4d tho).

im going 2 try to g0 back 2 the superfood diet i wuz trying back when i went b3low 200 back in july (wow that wuz a while a6o).

thanx 2 all of my friendz who have stuck it out with me thru this.

u all r0ck!

az this pooch, whoze having a 600d time on a trampoline wuld s4y...
www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/9670
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thats right pooch having a 6ood time on a trampoline, preach it!!!111

w00t!

td out.

ps when i joined sp, i actually thought that thi5 wuz how everyone on social networking sites talked. i have a friend who iz into anime, s0 i wuz thinking based on that.

  
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TANNERS 10/31/2010 8:37AM

    Happy Halloween TD! I have to be honest, I'm glad you are going back to the normal you. I have to concentrate to hard to read your blogs...lol. Props to you for sticking it out. I completely fell off of the wagon!!

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MEADSBAY 10/31/2010 8:34AM

    oj, they would have to drag me around by my leash to listen to that music for an hour, as well!
My weight is up 2 as well- sucks!
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itz 10 to 11

Saturday, October 23, 2010

goal 195
last w33k-200.6
th1s week-200.4
(-0.2) m3h...

i get asked a lot of ?s by beautiful women (*1). oh sure, u never actually "ask" the qs, but ur thinking them. (im a guy, i can re4d womenz' minds). u ask the tough 1s. ?s like....

* "why dont u post pix of urself"
* "where did u g3t the idea 4 ur username?"
* why ru writing like ur a 15 yr old?
* "when r u going to settle down + find a nice 6rl so i can have grandchildr3n!?/" (*2)
* "h4ve u tapped in2.....the P0W3R!!!???//
www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7Ka5HUb7qg

theyr g00d ?s. i would even argu gr8 ?s (*3). but they miss the point.

the real ? is.....
q: how many weeks until 2011.
a:10

ye5, ten.

i want 2 make this real simple. no gimmickz, nothing fancy. oh sure i have 1 more week of this annoying writing and stupid profile pix, but even so...

its time 4 me to refocus. i want 2 hit my goal w8 by new years day.

That's 5.5 pounds in 10 weeks.

im up to 9 minutes of cardi0 a day (*4) and 6 days of strength and conditioning.

its now about the eating and sl33p. So i will think about how to handle both this week. any insights would be appreciated.
* how do u control hunger when strength training.
* how do i decrease chocolate and sugar intake (sl0wly or cold turkey?)
* what has worked 4 u when stagnating?
* am i asking the right ?s

h3y, i answered ur tough ?s earlier in the blog lol (*5)

az this 14 year old chihuahua would s4y:
www.youtube.com/watch?v=ohDSTMguO5A&
feature=related


td 0ut!!!11

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editor'z notez:
(*1) hez talking about u, si11y
(*2) ok maybe he gets that 1 from hiz mom more th4n u
(*3) he actually wrote "questions", erased it and replaced it with "?s". w3ird. sad and w3ird.
(*4) adding 1 minute each day
(*5) no he didnt
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KRAFTIJAN 10/28/2010 4:31AM

    How lovely a gift for aunty. You're going to reach your goal weight as a birthday present to me. Couldn't ask for anything nicer...What's that I hear you say.. Aunties birthday on the first day of year.. Would I lie to you ..NO NO.. So it must be true... emoticon
So how lucky am I... emoticon get to celebrate a new year, another birthday and to celebrate that one of my special spark friends is going to reach his goal weight.. emoticon

So now you just got a do it....
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Aty Jan xxx

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STEELKICKIN 10/25/2010 9:31PM

    LOL! I just adore how your mind works!! If you take in enough protein, that should help the raging appetite when you work with weights, Trent. I went cold turkey with the sugar but if you decide to do that, prepare yourself for jittery nerves, headaches and mood swings. Perhaps a slow tapering off would work, but it depends on how much sugar you are taking in in a day's time. Stagnation is a definite problem if you don't change up your routine every so often, too.

Good luck on the 5.5. We all know you can do it! How?? Well, look at all you have accomplished so far! YOU'RE THE MAN!

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KAITHOFFMAN 10/23/2010 10:54AM

    you can do it !

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MEADSBAY 10/23/2010 9:38AM

    ten weeks?
Let's moveitmoveitmoveit!

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 10/23/2010 8:18AM

    Ha... I've thought some of those very questions. 10 weeks huh? Ok... I have 10 weeks to lose 10 pounds. If I don't, we are going to have a problem! Thanks for the reminder and best of luck with your 5.5# I know you can do it!

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ackjargian offshoot!!!1

Saturday, October 16, 2010

goal 195
last w33k-200.4
th1s week-200.6
(+0.2)dude...

i guess i should b happy given how much i ate. ive been working out so my appetite is out of control

my plan for the next two weeks is simple (n0thing n3w)
- keep page dark/dreary/halloweeney

- change my profile pic once every week or so

- make the pics really scary

- type in a fusion of tm, im and l33t speak, comprehensible mostly only 2 aliens from the planet Ackjarg (go Ackjarg Tigerz!!!11. woot!!!) and my sparkfriends (who i luv very much)

- mayb3 do this!
www.youtube.com/watch?v=g76APhHgIWs
but only if necessary

**funny enough, none of the above wuz listed as legitimate streaks in SparkPeople. I know. send ur emails to Chris-D.**

So anyways, I know that i am about 6 pounds away fr0m my goal and have 2 weeks left, but thats ok. this is a fail pr00f plan that ive got going at this point. i will write my victory blog on 10.31...

in Ackjargian...

aint no stopin me n0w.

h8rs + doubters b-ware. td is "bringin 1t!!!!111"

just r3member, in the end itz all about the P, the C and the T
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dc3gdrcbFAo

dud3

td out

  
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CALLIKIA 10/21/2010 5:48PM

    Dang! I thought it was still all about the Benjamins....guess I've fallen out of the loop. Keep on truckin'!

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AZCUPCAKE 10/18/2010 12:00PM

    Trent, you are TOTALLY WINNING this game! And reading your blogs is so much fun....you are a total package of GREATNESS - don't you forget it!!!! Happy Monday, you giant Halloweenie!

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KRAFTIJAN 10/17/2010 4:54AM

    You are one interesting young man. Your weight loss will happen. How do I know this cause I just do..Its an Aunty Thing..
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STEELKICKIN 10/16/2010 4:12PM

    LOL, AWWWWESOME!!! You really shouldn't make me laugh like that, though. Seriously, I could, like, bust a gut or a rib or something!! LOL!! Naaaaa, TD is....

"bringin 1t!!!!111"

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TANNERS 10/16/2010 8:48AM

    Woot woot!!

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MEADSBAY 10/16/2010 8:25AM

    hoe leeeee krap!
gud luk widat.
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f3ar TH1S!!!!!!11

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

I think that there r things that w3 all fear above anything el5e:
* being alone/abandoned
* losing some1 or something that is dear 2 us
* Stacey and Clinton show up at an office function (cameras in tow) and w4lk toward us
* we find out that BRITNEY sang the telephone song, NOT lady g4g4
www.youtube.com/watch?v=jeFBDHhDkCg

i have 2 fears:

1) i will never hit 195
itz irrational. i just need 2 get my act 2gether

2) i hit 165-169 and still dont like what i see
this ones serious. its not the #s.

this has been how it has been 4 the last year or s0.
1. I lose 5-8 pounds
2. I like what i see
3. i stagnate
4. i start to become disatisfied with what i saw in step 2
5. r3peat steps 1-4

when i wuz in hi skool, i wuz even @ 160 and still really didn't like how i looked.

seriously. i remember being s0 happy when i wuz 203. i now weigh 200 and dont like the way i look.

i dont have the rlf support i once had. At 240, 'im going t lose 20 pounds' was met with 'g00d luck' and 'u can do it'.

now im getting asked if thats even possible (let alone reasonable).

i felt fat last time i wuz 195 (15% bf).

i dont know what else 2 say.

have u dealt with this or know some1 who has? how did u or they get past that?

i dunno

d00d

td out

  
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CALLIKIA 10/21/2010 5:46PM

    All I have to say is that you never know. I do know that this weight on me now looks totally different than it did coming on! So maybe you'll get to 195 and realize that you're looking better than the old you at 195. But, then again...never know till you try! ;)

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TANNERS 10/16/2010 8:46AM

    TD... the unknown is always scary. It is so much harder to have faith in ourselves compared to someone else. This journey is as much about learning to love ourselvse as it is to get healthier. Just know that I think you're awesome, and I want you to as well!!

P.S. yes, I have always feared Stacey and Clinton showing up at my office too

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KRAFTIJAN 10/14/2010 5:19AM

    I have yo yo-ed most of my life but just recently learnt that I 'm not very good with yo yos. emoticon
First step is to look at what you have achieved. And that's a hell of alot.( give yourself pat on back).Be happy with who you are not what you look like Or what others think you should look like. Make your goals smaller. and achieve more of them over time.. Slow and steady. We seem to forget that in most cases weight was gained slowly but we always want to lose it quickly. emoticon
Your doing ok so stand up tall;

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and take pride in who you are. There are many people out there that like what they see and many call themselves your friend. So what about you be a friend to yourself as well.
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A Jan

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MEADSBAY 10/13/2010 9:39PM

    SOSOSO much of this journey is in our heads.
On my sparkpage I posted a pic of when I was a 16 yr old new mother and weighed about 125 lbs and felt like a big fat cow. Then, for at least 10 years, from age 25 to about 35, I weighed 130- again- mooooooooooooooo!
Then for the next 20 years,
I dieted and yo-yo-ed my way up to 190! emoticon
Now- I would kill to get back down to 140-150. emoticon
We need to learn to love our bodies no matter what size we are!
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