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Don't Turn Away....Dry You Eyes. Dry Your Eyes.

Monday, June 14, 2010

** Listening to "Belle of the Boulevard" by Dashboard Confessional as I write this.**

Deep down, I think we all want to believe that we are above certain thoughts, feelings and silly mind games when it comes to unfortunate chance reunions with exes. If we're realistic though, we're really kind of not. At least I'm not. I'm totally not.

BACKGROUND:

To this day she is the only girl I can honestly say that I've ever truly loved.

We met on a cold Saturday night in January. When I say that I loved her, I don't just mean that I had strong feelings for her emotionally (though there certainly was that). She is the only girl that I would have given my life and hand in marriage to. My love was anything but unrequited by her. Tears of joy form in the corner of my eyes at just the thought of her.

When she was facing the possibility of surgery that would have rendered her immobile for at least a year and a half, I made a vow to myself that I would stick it out with her. She was adamant that we would split up (She didn't want to burden me). While I would have ultimately let her break up with me, I wouldn't let it happen without a major fight (and many tears). It would have had to have been her call.

Unfortunately, I did not meet her parents' expectation. They were polite to my face, but they were overtly trying to find a husband for her even when we were dating. My family situation was not good then. In order to cope, I kept her out of my family's Christmas situation. She blew up at me a few days after for that. She wanted to spend Christmas with me and my family.

It was at that point, I had to face the harshest and saddest reality that I ever had to and probably ever will have to.

I couldn't stop her mom and dad's pecking at her. I couldn't make her happy. She needed something that I couldn't give her. I couldn't and wouldn't be the perennially inferior-good son in law.

I broke up with her on a sunny Saturday March morning barely a year after we first met. Tears of sorrow well up in my eyes as I remember that morning. It was the most painful day of my entire life, but I wouldn't give it up for all the money in the world if by doing so I would have to give up the previous year. The pain was more than worth it. It took me a few years to truly get over her, but it was more than worth it. SHE was more than worth it.

To this day she is the only girl I can honestly say that I've ever truly loved.

PRESENT:

My fear has always been that I would run into her and I would be the fat, single loser ex-boyfriend and that I would be introduced to her dashing lean successful boyfriend/husband. She would be in great shape and all of her efforts to spare my feelings wouldn't hide her countenance, a mixture of pity and of thankfulness that she didn't settle for me.

Irrational fear? Perhaps. But no less real.

So, I was at the museum with a female friend of mine (just a friend) a few days ago. Out of nowhere I hear a totally unfamiliar voice say "Trent?". I turn around and see a face that I totally don't recognize at first. Then it hit me.....

It was her. Ring on left hand!

I now weigh 25 pounds less than when we met and 35 less than when we broke up. She had the classic, "I let myself go post honeymoon" look. While I have to tip my hat to the fact that she's married, my friend made it very clear to me later that I was definitely more handsome than him. While I introduced my friend (who is extremely attractive, I might add) to her, I never introduced her as just a friend. I let my ex's imagination run wild on that one.

Please understand, it was not about 1-upping her. It was more about not getting totally 1-upped. I sincerely hope that she's well. For her, I hope that their marriage is going well and that they live happily ever after.

I hope that if she is unhappy with her health or how she looks that she joins SparkPeople tomorrow and enjoys twice the success as I have. I hope that she lives a very long healthy, happy and whole life.

Heck, if could die tomorrow to buy her but one more day on Earth, this would be my last blog post with no regrets.

BOTTOM LINE:

My fear never came true. I wasn't the fat, single loser ex-boyfriend. I was the lean handsome ex-boyfriend with an attractive girl by my side. Thank you SparkPeople!!!

I was the one that got away, the one that she let slip away.......

much like she is to me. *disappointed sigh*

(long somber pause)

Did I mention that to this day she is the only.....

  
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RUNJEWELRUN 6/17/2010 1:30PM

    Daaaammmmmnnnn Trent! That was real deep right there. I am so sorry that you had that happen to you. Please keep looking forward. Maybe one day, you will be able to open your heart to another(one who is just right for you).
I feel you on the letting people know about sparkpeople(at this point, I wonder what it being transmitted into a person's brain when I casually mention it to them).
I always wondered why people gained weight after they got married, maybe its because they have the attitude "Oh, well I got you now, you aren't going anywhere" thing. I am not sure.
Just keep doing you, and pushing towards your dreams! There are a ton of hot girls here on Sparkpeople who would be happy to have you :)

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TSEWARD 6/15/2010 11:38PM

    As usual I am full of emotions after reading one of your blogs. I can relate to the intense feelings...I had strong feelings for a guy when I was in high school and we were very good friends. Then his family moved to the opposite side of the U.S. For at least 2 years afterward I saw him everywhere, in a crowd, driving by in his car (this is all in my imagination, mind you...) I missed him so much that my chest was squeezed tight all of the time. It was like half of me was gone. Fast forward to today....about 6 years ago, I started dating Norris. I was SERIOUSLY influenced by my parents opinions, and my dad was dead set against me getting married at all. Yet (I don't remember this) my dad says I told him that" I'm marrying him and I don't care what you think". Ha! Anyway, long story short, as awesome as your first love was (is), she really doesn't deserve you. Or at least she didn't at the time. You are remarkably awesome and your awesomeness will attract the love of your life. Phooey on exes. And by the way, Congrats for being lean hot guy with attractive chick! I carry your old fear as well....

And thank you for your beautiful comment...I am going to review the fast break and I will get back to you.

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AZCUPCAKE 6/15/2010 12:33PM

    Trent, you went through the virtual MILL for her, and it was just NOT MEANT TO BE! You are so much more than what you think you are. You will find the woman of your dreams -- and your happiness will exceed your wildest dreams --when it is MEANT TO BE!! (No, I am NOT trying to sound like some whiny country tune!) You had an idealized vision of that girl who seemed to be the girl of your dreams....but you have seen her now as she is going to be for the rest of her life, either in great shape or NOT so great shape! She was the past, and you have a LIFETIME of "future!" Don't think you aren't going to be rewarded for sticking to your guns and holding out for "the one!" She is looking for you, too, as I write this. And she is just as intelligent and articulate and HOT as you are!! Thanks for sharing this life-changing slice of life with us -- it really shows us who you really are. A genuine, sensitive, FIVE-dimensional awesome dude with a CLUE!! emoticon

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USHA85 6/15/2010 10:06AM

    Hi dear..What is amazing is not the events that happen but how you totally carried yourself. You totally showed your confidence out there..You did not fluster or blabber upon seeing her. You were calm and handled it nicely. Eventually my dear you did not win the battle for anyone but yourself.Amazing'') emoticon

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LYNNDE 6/15/2010 7:50AM

    You put into words, exactly how I feel. They say it's better to have loved and lost, but I don't agree with that statement, especially when so much hurt is involved with unfinished business.....why did you even let her go? And then, if you love something let it go....if it comes back it's yours and if it doesn't....then it was never meant to be. I think she may have come back more than once. emoticon Is it to late? Does she really wear a ring on her left hand, or is it just for "show?" Find out.

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REENIT 6/14/2010 9:32PM

    Wow,
What an amazing story. I agree with the others. The one that got away... invariably wasnt ours in the first place. The one that is meant to be is around the corner. For now, do as you are. Work on you, get healthy and greatness will find you. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story.

Laureen

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WATCH_IT_BREAK 6/14/2010 9:26PM

    the "one that got away" is exactly that for a reason... and if that reason is meddling family, it's still a valid reason and nothing to beat yourself up over.

that being said, i know it still sucks to feel that way. so many hugs to you, and kudos on NOT being the fatty ex-boyfriend. keep respecting yourself, and treating yourself right (as well as others) and you'll find someone who will be totally deserving of you, who will fight for you and not let others determine or invalidate your worth.

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FITGRL124 6/14/2010 9:00PM

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I know that you'll find love again someday and it will be like no other you've ever known (including this one).

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1DEBIE1 6/14/2010 8:30PM

    Oh baby, my heart is a mixture of happiness, sadness, and oozing HELL YEA-TAKE THAT....but it ultimately is caring, supportive and right here for you.

That first real love is the hardest to deal with, and you may never lose the feeling. when we love someone they will always have a special place in our heart for them...not that they may never be back in our lives, but the memories live on forever and when you are a little old grandpa, you will tell your own babies all about the One Who could of Been, and how fabulously hot and sexy you looked on that fated day.

Trent, you are sooo AWESOME. I'm so happy for your success, your strong mental stability and the hard work and effort you have put forth to come so very far.

When a door closes, please keep an eye out for the next one that is opening, be brave and walk through it....there are so many more adventures out there waiting for you!

Thank you for sharing your success story!

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_COSMOPAULATAN_ 6/14/2010 8:16PM

    I feel like I experienced your heartbreak with you. You write beautifully, thank you for sharing such an important part of yourself with us. We will love again someday... although I am all but convinced our first loves will haunt us. Mine does as well.

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TEENY_BIKINI 6/14/2010 8:07PM

    Wow. Dude. To me, that was sweet victory and you looked hot - even better.

Personally, I think the ones that get away weren't meant to be - the next time, she [the one meant for you] will fight for you.

You deserve that.

XO

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written story, my friend. Cheers.

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STLRZGRRL 6/14/2010 6:38PM

    Ya.

The one true great love of your life is a tough one.

I am quite lucky that I got mine out of the way early on and was able to go on with my life...

The fact is that you win, TD... FIRST you were NOT one-upped and you take THAT to the bank...

Second... if she was so swayed by her parents' opinion THEN, think how freakin' good and MISERABLE they would have made you by now!

It's good to know you are able to feel as deeply as this. It's also good to know there is life afterwards...

YAY YOU!



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AKELAZ 6/14/2010 3:39PM

    Sad - sad - sad and unnecessary. Parents huh? Hope I'm NEVER that sort of mother.

Glad you came out of the encounter feeling OK but a pity that none of us EVER count that our personalities and good hearts (definitely your case!) are more important than our shapes and sizes. Don't get me wrong I totally know what you mean - even at my great age these things still matter when it comes to exes - however ancient we have all become.

Came to your page initially (but diverted by this really great and touching blog) to thank you for your encouragement re my status. Yes - I feel this will be a good week - but of course it remains to be seen - slippage is constantly on the cards. Just hope that it is true what other Sparkers seem to find - all becomes easier as these good habits establish themselves - I do hope so!! Anyway my point is - a big
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LYNNDE 6/14/2010 1:39PM

    wow! emoticon

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SROBBINS02 6/14/2010 1:27PM

    I don't think anyone's up themself (UK expression? Do you have it over there?) to not feel entirely happy and yes, a teensy bit smug if they look great and run into an ex. Any ex, not a potential-love-of-my-life ex. My old boyfriend Alex works in the same building I do (although thankfully not in the same team any more!) and that is one hell of a motivation, although not one I'd normally admit to emoticon

By the way, the chick's parents are/were totally wrong. You're great emoticon

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LESSOFJEN 6/14/2010 1:13PM

    aww lost love is a tough one emoticon

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TANNERS 6/14/2010 1:13PM

    Trent.. wow.. her parents were so wrong. I'm so glad your fear didn't come true. And I can completely understand where you were coming from. Btw, you are an amazing writer!

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MPALMER15 6/14/2010 12:27PM

    Wow, what a sweet and sad story. I hope you find love again some day. You sound like a guy who has much to give.

Take care,
Melissa

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HICALGAL 6/14/2010 7:23AM

    awww...now you got me tearing up. love can be so bittersweet... emoticon

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Weekly weigh-in Fun-ness!!

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Goal: 191 by 9.11.2010
Last Week: 201.2
This Week: 201.6
(+0.4) meh.

I ate really horribly Saturday though Tuesday. When I weighed myself Wednesday morning, the scale said 205 (to quote the average 13 year old highschool kid, "I was like, 'WHOA!!'"). So I threw a full force effort in Wednesday-Friday and it paid off. Only a slight gain

I really want to get out of this "bad first half/good second half catch up" cycle. I'm less than 2 pounds from being below 200. This week, I'm going to do what it takes to get as close to (if not below) 2C.

110c:
Got in my 66 minutes. Mostly eliptical. Movin on up to 73 minutes for next week. I may try a class. iZumba! or Kickboxing perhaps.

se7en:
Ate at least 2 fruits a day. 3 later in the week. In July the goal will be to eat at least 2 a day. For now though, sticking to 1

FCDA:
Got back on track later in the week. I had this huge raspberry square think with the richest buttery crumbs on top from the local bakery. I was stuffed after eating it. FCDA POWER!!!

191 by 9.11!!

- TD Out

  
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AZCUPCAKE 6/13/2010 8:08PM

    You caught yourself before you got out of control, and you are not freaking out about it! I give you an A+ in rerouting yourself and getting back on track! GREAT JOB! emoticon emoticon

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HICALGAL 6/12/2010 10:49PM

    i wonder what would happen if you threw in a full force effort, sat-fri? get your Trent on...woot! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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THOMASINA100 6/12/2010 7:19AM

    I have faith in you!! You have the right stuff!! You can do it!!

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Gittin' Mah "D" On!!!

Tuesday, June 08, 2010

A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog about successful self motivation using the formula Motivation=DVF
D: Dissatisfaction with current state
V: Vision of future
F: First Step(s) success

This past weekend I decided to reward myself by going to the beach with my "new" cargoes and t-shirt to enjoy my success of losing weight. No longer did I have to be ashamed of my appearance at the beach. Yeah, that WAS the theory.

OK, didn't go so well. Apparently as I got out of my car I gained about 170 pounds or so, because I was still the fattest guy on the beach. Really frustrating. Man, the other dudes on the beach were buff. On the plus side, I didn't have to worry about that whole annoying "girls noticing me" thing. This Ken and Barbie couple walked by me and I swear that between them they didn't have half the fat on their bodies as I do. Ugh.

No harpoon, no problem I guess.

So, fortunately now the "D" in my motivation equation is back up. After my current September goal ("191 by 9.11!!"), I am going to focus on toning up and getting my body beach ready for Summer 2011. Don't worry, I won't do another "1XX by M.DD!!" cry. Yes, even I'm getting tired of them.

On the plus side, I was able to leverage FCDA. I had a double cheesburger, fries and a "Kiddie sized" ice cream cone (it was still a lot of ice-cream. In the 1990's it would have been called "Pro LineBacker sized"). I wasn't hungry for the rest of the day. I had a small dinner and the next day's weigh-in had me down 2 pounds for the week. w00t!!!1

I hope to be below 200 this Saturday.

191 by 9.11!!

-TD Out

  
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AZCUPCAKE 6/11/2010 1:44PM

    Here's the thing, Trentdreamer - between the two of them (the Barbie and Ken duo on the beach), their collective brain sizes would probably fill a small thimble! I know that sounds mean and a little extreme, but as you already know, a person's size and shape are not the only defining factors of what makes a person HOT & ZESTY! We are always more critical of ourselves than we are of others....I'll bet you look fantastic, too! Unless you plan on spending, like, NINE HOURS A DAY in the gym, forget about it! Shout it loud, shout it proud -- I AM THE ONE AND ONLY TRENTDREAMER!!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SROBBINS02 6/11/2010 9:10AM

    Dude, you rock. Plus, I bet you were actually the hottest person at that beach emoticon

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CLEVAGAL 6/9/2010 1:14AM

    I used to be totally self concious about wearing bathers on the beach. I would wear a shorts and t shirt even into the water. Then one day I thought F it! I dont care anymore, this is who I am and I have every write to ba in bathers if I want. So I put on some bathers and went in the water and I loved every minute of it. Since then I havent cared about what ppl think and I have stopped comparing myself to the others on the beach. If only I could apply that to my everyday situations.....Cleva xxx emoticon

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191 by 9.11: 14 W33k5 2 g0!!

Saturday, June 05, 2010

Goal: 191 by 9.11.2010
Last Week: 203.2
This Week: 201.2
2 pound loss. Yay!

110c:
Did 60 minutes total of cardio for the week (12 minutes 5 days). I did 5 days consecutively which was not good. I was really tired Friday morning. This week I'm going up 10% to 66 minutes. I am going to do a double session on Tuesday and take Saturday and either Wednesday or Friday as a second rest day. It will probably be Wednesday.

se7en:
I ate 1 serving of fruit a day (except for Tuesday and Wednesday on which I ate 2). Mission accomplished for the week. Next week.....one serving of fruits or vegetables a day. Taking this one slowly. Next month, I'll go up to 2 per day.

FCDA:
Didn't really focus this as much as on weeks past. Did not have access to the usual cafe that I eat at. The guy there preps several different foods and spices them just differently enough to make it work.

My appetite has been off the charts this week. I'll eat an 800 calorie meal and be hungry an hour later (not "feel" hungry, mind you. We're talking stomach growling). This is nothing new. I've been through this 3 times before when starting new exercise regimens. I'm totally not worried

My body is building muscle. I can feel it. At midweek, my scale clocked me at 19% body fat. I am not worried about eating, maintaining or even slightly gaining. This is an initial gamble that I feel will lead to some big payoffs number wise in 5-10 weeks.

191 by 9.11!!

- TD Out

  
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TSEWARD 6/7/2010 6:16PM

    Hey! Sounds like you are doing Tony the Tiger GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRrrrreat!
I have been ridiculously busy. I mentally visit my spark page every day. I have been putting sleep as top priority. It has helped. I may not get to SP, but I am getting top bed at a decent time and I have been actually doing a decent job at work and I haven't been overwhelmed. Now I need to figure out what else can go so I can spark....

The "choose your own rewards" info talked about encouraging yourself for all of your little accomplishments. It gave the example, if your boss followed you around and criticized everything you did every minute of the day, how motivated would you be to keep working for him? I couldn't take it man! My boss is pretty encouraging.

So if I am beating myself up all the time, why would I want to continue? I thought it was a great illustration. kind of got me outside of my head for a minute.

Thanks for never forgetting about me, even when I am not around much! It means alot to me!

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GINGERLY4 6/6/2010 11:39PM

    Wow, you are doing awesome!

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CLEVAGAL 6/5/2010 10:50PM

    go darlin go...im barracking for you!

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AZCUPCAKE 6/5/2010 9:12PM

    Wow, you are on a roll! Way to go with your food and recognizing what your body is needing with the shake-ups you have been putting it through! All good -- awesome results!! Very proud of you for figuring out the way to eat, exercise, and THINK about getting to your goal! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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STEELERCRAZY 6/5/2010 6:52PM

    OMG, I bet you already look outstanding. 19% body fat??? YOU GO, DUDE!!!!

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LESSOFJEN 6/5/2010 3:20PM

    awesome job!

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HICALGAL 6/5/2010 8:51AM

   

"I'll eat an 800 calorie meal and be hungry an hour later (not "feel" hungry, mind you. We're talking stomach growling). This is nothing new. I've been through this 3 times before when starting new exercise regimens. I'm totally not worried"

*and neither am i. have to say though that your honesty with your stomach growling an hr after an 800 cal meal had me LMAO. what did you have? emoticon

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"My body is building muscle. I can feel it. At midweek, my scale clocked me at 19% body fat."

* 19% body fat??? i believe the ideal fat range for men is 15%?? so why the ugh at the beach status? oh wait! that punch on the shoulder after i said lookin' good Dreamer! sorry sometimes i forget my own strength...;P

great week...WOOT!!!

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This Blog Might Make Your Head Explode

Tuesday, June 01, 2010

OK, those of you who have been reading my blogs regularly know that I have said some very strong and daring things. Things that make one think really hard and wrestle with some of the deepest and most existential concepts. Things such as:
* "If you wouldn't beat a friend up for a bad day then don't beat yourself up for one."
* "If you vary your foods a lot you won't be as hungry."
* "Forget Ginger. Baby was by far the best looking Spice Girl."
* "My gosh, this kid is TOTALLY adorable!"
www.youtube.com/watch?v=YVgVbBb9MYw

Ahhhhhhh, if God ever has enough of a sense of humor to give me children, SHE will definitely flunk at least one of them in Biology class. She'll get the whole cat/cow thing by then, I'm sure. That WAS a really good horsey, imho.

But here's something even more controversial than all four statements above(*).

Go to the FastBreak portion of the Spark Diet and look at what it tells you.

No, seriously.....do it.

Notice that it tells you to pick one thing from each of 3 sections. One thing. One small thing. Let's say hypothetically you picked the 4 whole grains option. You can meet your fb goal without infinitesimally upping your Fruits and vegetables, giving up all sweets for the rest of your life and eating nothing but lean proteins and skim milk.

Here's the rub.........

The Spark Jedi Council not only understands this. They designed the program that way. It's as if they want us little SparkBunnies to take small steps get some initial victories and make gradual changes to our lifestyle rather than give up every "evil" food in the world and subsist only on celery/carrot sticks (while doing the perfunctory 3 hours a day at the gym, of course).

Tito: So why are you telling us this?

Trent: Ah! I'm glad that you asked, Tito.

I've been reading random blogs from people who are coming back from having "fallen off the wagon" and now they're going to really kick it up a notch to get back on track. Gym 6 days a week and stick right to the calorie range. I never hear anything about a ramp up period.

It saddens me. I did that for almost 10 years. 10 years! Every single time, I failed. It was actually the SP articles and staff published blogs that drove home the "Rome wasn't built in a day" concept.

So it breaks my heart to see people who are given the opportunity to break free of the aforementioned cycle of self imprisonment just keep on doing the same thing which almost invariably doesn't work. More restrictive diet! More intense cardio! The cycle continues....

I hate overused expressions as much as the next martian....but less really is more.

If you've fallen off the wagon. Analyze why. Did you try to do too much too fast. Did you try something too new. Did you give one habit change enough time to sink in. Were you so set on two pounds a week that that 0.5 pound loss psychologically knocked you to the mat?

Figure out how to start again. What was working? What came easily. If you stopped doing cardio, shoot for 10-15 minutes and add a minute or two each week. If your body craves a little more, give it a little more.... a LITTLE more.

To me, trying to instantly go from "off the wagon" for any period of time to the whole kit and caboodle (nutrition/exercise-wise) is like surviving a 100 mph car crash and then getting right into another car and driving 100 mph again. What's going to be different this time?

I love you and I want you to succeed. Pick an option from the 3 areas of the fast break stage and do them and only them for a couple of weeks (unless of course your doctor/nutritionist is telling you otherwise). Take it slowly.

As the funny meowing cat who wants turkey would say....
www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1EuLONfcN0

That's right, funny meowing cat who wants turkey! You said it!!!

191 by 9.11!!

- TD Out.

(*) Except for the Spice Girl choice. I know that I'm going to get cr4p from the Scary Spice fans. 4ll y'4ll r H-8-R's!!!

  
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AKELAZ 6/4/2010 3:00PM

    Aha!! Just caught this and see where your constructive and TRULY motivating comment on my page came from. Big gratitude coming your way.
You have truly 'got it' - and I am happy that you were therefore in a position to confirm my new thinking. The 'other' thinking has done me no good at all for more years than I care to acknowledge and I am now devoted to trying to change that.
Bad day today for reasons I wouldn't dream of boring you with - 'binged' on Ryvita emoticon. Thrilling huh? OK if it hadn't been for the butter - oodles of it! Thanks to you I am not jumping on the scales to see what damage I did and definitely not doing hours of cardio and self-flagellation. Just limiting my butter intake till that's a new habit.
Thank you Trent - you just never fail to inspire.
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WILDVIOLETS 6/4/2010 10:45AM

    Whoa! I have seen the same thing, and didn't get it. I'm still in early stages, but needed to hear that, since I do want to push to hard, then give up (typically). Thank you!

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OPERATIONMILF 6/4/2010 8:38AM

    I liked baby spice too! I have to say your blog is food for thought!

I had to join the gym. I do get discouraged when I don't see a loss after feeling like I am doing really well with the food. I seem to have a difficult time losing the smallest amount of weight, even if I add in some walking on the treadmill.

I need to work on building lean muscle mass, increasing my metabolism, and excercising my heart muscle as well. I remember when a Dr. on the Biggest Loser show said that when we have a lot of fat on our bodies, it also collects around our organs.

That is just plain scary to me.

I wonder if you think going to the gym and eating really well ... from eating.. sorta good... half of the time... and being sedentary..most of the time.. is too much of a change?

I believe doing this differently *this time* for me is doing more of an extreme change from sedentary to a low rep workout with cardio.

I don't think I could do it any other way and see myself commited long term. Feeling my body burning the calories works for me. I know I may not always lose, but if I am in that gym putting the time in, I can physically feel like I am doing this. Does this make sense?

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J_MARAMA_T 6/4/2010 6:35AM

    Great blog post, Trent! I'm trying really hard to avoid that whole all-or-nothing mentality and take baby steps. One of the things about Weight Watchers that I'm trying to take on board is the statement 'you didn't gain the weight all at once so don't expect to lose it all at once' - so I'm trying really hard to think of this as an ongoing process, rather than a quick fix.

I guess that most important thing is just to keep on keeping on, continuing even when all you want to do is give up...

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PUCCIOLA08 6/3/2010 10:07PM

    Im more of a Sporty Spice kinda girl. She needs to put out more solo albums :)



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GINGERLY4 6/3/2010 12:57AM

    Great Blog! Kind along the lines of don't do something to lose weight now that you won't be able to do for the rest of your life...I'm one of those people who have fallen off the wagon for various reasons. I'm back now, but with the focus of keeping it simple. Staying within my calorie range, which is generous enough, and getting my exercise in. Those are my two primary focuses for the month of June, I'll evaluate what to do for July when that month comes along...

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DAISYBELL6 6/2/2010 1:01PM

    Good, sane advice!

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MARJIJANE 6/2/2010 12:41PM

    It is so nice when our brains finally understand that our very own "Rome" (our temple, our fat body) was not built in a day... and we will not lose the excess overnight! Losing the weight is a bi-product of doing the "right thing" when we choose to eat. Everything that passes our teeth is a choice... once I accepted that as a fact, the rest of the logic easily followed... even the part that wanted to deny that getting fat was my fault.."somebody made me do it!"

Reality is what it is...and once we truly understand that WE have the control of our body reality...the choices seem to be easier. Log the food going in... do it truthfully for at least 7 days... THAT is harsh reality...then make your changes accordingly...

WE HAVE CONTROL... we blame no one else for our lack of "won't" power" (I have plenty of "willpower"...I WILL eat most everything) I can have (eat) whatever I wish to have (eat) and the benefit or ramification is mine and mine alone to bear... and sometimes it means losing the weight, sometimes gaining... or sometimes plateauing... the cycle is never completely gone, sometimes it just takes a detour!

Glad to see you are hanging on to the wagon with the rest of us! Reality is that WE CAN DO THIS! ...er or should we say...
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VMCSHANNON 6/1/2010 7:21PM

    Why did I fall off the wagon? Cause after ten years and yet another failure at losing weight... After seeing other people pass me up ( I know, I'm not supposed to compare!) who started the same time I did ....
I give up.

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LESSOFJEN 6/1/2010 1:59PM

    you are sooooo right and I see this all the time too and have to bite my tongue and leave the blog because until it "clicks" for them anything we say won't completely matter.
So here's to us who finally GOT it after all those years of NOT getting it and reaching our goals FINALLY!

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AZCUPCAKE 6/1/2010 1:55PM

    I always thought SCARY Spice was the cutest Spice Girl....hmmm. Now I need to re-evaluate! emoticonI can definitely say that Posh Spice is too skinny to even be considered HUMAN. So, at least that eliminates ONE of them from my personal fav list!

You are quite the sense-maker (see: Mentos, the FreshMaker!) !! Just ONE of the many qualities I love about you, Trent!! Okay, so I need to refocus and NOT go to the gym for three hours for a week and eat nothing but Boston Creme Pie yogurt with carrot sticks for that same week and then just - GIVE UP. What a concept! I will definitely give your ideas some thought -- !

Thanks for not giving up on all of us SparkBunnies! You are the real deal walking the walk, and what is better than THAT?! Zip, Zilch, Zero, NADA!

Hang true, TRENT! I am taking notes from you every day in every way! emoticon

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KT-NICHOLS-13 6/1/2010 12:42PM

    Love the blog today. I don't fall onto or off of a wagon - LOL, but I am one of those who moves through life wondering why I make the choices I make in the moment I make them. Self reflection is tough and can often be brutal and today I reflect on why I ate so much Chinese food on Saturday and Sunday. All I know is this, it goes deeper than Chinese food or a silly urge of self indulgence.

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PICKIE98 6/1/2010 7:22AM

    Farm out man, farm out!! Gravy!! Don't really give a rip about the Spice girls thingie, I am sure you are right, but sure do agree about the I-500 diet people. I think they don't get the whole concept, they just want to rush in and fix it, which is a Catch-22.
I did lose a lot at first, But diabetes was my new middle name, so I upped the ante, only because there never WAS a game to begin with,, I am a ramper, fer sure! the ramp is always there, we just need to grab the rail and hang on!! DUH!!! Thanks for the great post... Linda

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