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Friday, March 26, 2010

When I was freshman in high school there was a really gifted student named Lisa. Kind hearted girl. Really intelligent. She graduated as I finished 9th grade. My dad and her dad, Frank, were both active in our town.

Years later when I was midway through college, my dad told me a story that I will never forget about what Frank did for his daughter.

Apparently as Lisa was graduating from high school, she got accepted into an absolute top of the line school. I'm pretty sure that it was Ivy League, I want to say it was either Cornell or Notre Dame. Definitely not a "Drive through and get your degree with fries" school. Nor was it a school that tossed out full scholarships to seal the deal. You want it? You pay for it. Not cheap.

Frank took a job which my dad referred to as a "pressure-cooker" situation. The money was extremely high, but Frank really hated every minute of working there. He did it to make sure that Lisa got through school. That was the only ONLY thing that kept him there.

As my dad put it, "he resigned the day he mailed out the last tuition payment". Later when I recounted the story and said, "he resigned when she finished college", my dad corrected me. "No, not when she finished. When he sent out the last tuition check." (The implication being that he stayed not a minute later than he had to.)

While, I get the "You gotta do it for you!" attitude of motivation, I really believe that Frank actually had the right idea. His motivation came out of love for someone close to him. He was willing to sacrifice three and a half years of his life and deal with the misery to give his daughter a better education and future life. He wouldn't chase the money with that job just for his own gain (His timely resignation proved that).

So how does this all apply to weight loss?

If you are struggling with staying motivated, think like Frank. Start with the question "why?" Do you really need to lose the weight and how quickly? Who are you doing it for?

If you are really overweight, your health is at risk, you have someone who you love deeply or have committed your life to and it could (or has) affected your relationship, wight loss probably needs to be a top priority. This can be tough if the consequences aren't staring you right in the face (It was easier for Frank to see the need for sacrifice because it was right there).

If you are going to have kids someday, think of how your example and life can lead to them living healthfully. If your spouse/friends/kids are worried about your health, then make it a priority and let the relationship be your motivation. Not that all of the benefits and perks of weight loss shouldn't be enjoyed. It's just that they can be fleeting from a motivation perspective when the times get tough.

On the flip side, if you are a few pounds overweight and your weight loss effort is negatively affecting your most important relationship(s), maybe try making it a slightly lower priority. I have a female rlf who obsesses about her weight (weighs herself twice a day and restricts herself a lot). Her husband has expressed a strong desire to throw the scale out the window. She holds herself to the absolute bottom pound of her healthy weight range (she lives in fear of getting fat someday). Said obsession is putting a strain on her marriage.

It's not that you shouldn't lose weight if you need to. Just maybe make smaller changes and don't sacrifice a fun night out with a loved one by being a slave to tomorrow's weigh in.

Really, in the end it's about love. Who you love and who loves you. Who is most important to you and who are you most important to.

Frank got it right. I really believe that he got it right.

- TD Out

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AZCUPCAKE 3/28/2010 7:36AM

    I truly believe that you are an old soul in a young person's body - YOU GET "IT!" Every success you achieve is YOURS through and through because not only have you earned it, you understand WHY you earned it. Thanks for a great insight and window into what SHOULD make the world go around! I see you as this amazing flower blooming right before our eyes! emoticon

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1DEBIE1 3/27/2010 8:03PM

    Great story with a wonderful connecting meaning....thank you.

Ultimately, we need to love ourselves FIRST and ALWAYS, otherwise, how do we expect or allow others to love us, or have the concept of giving them our love?

Nice reading Trent, I do enjoy your blogs and sense the inner strength that is building inside of you and the changes that are happening!

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ROXIEGIRL59 3/27/2010 3:14PM

    Loved your blog---every thing you said struck a chord with me and inspired me to do better. I- WILL- do better--- Roxie emoticon

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CMADSTYLE 3/27/2010 1:18PM

    First of all I LOVE YOUR BLOGS they are sooo "REAL" I love the way you write them and your attitude. Thank you for all your comments they help me in so many ways. T

Second this BLOG is amazing and thank you so much for sharing it with us! You are absolutely right!

Thank you very much Trent!


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SROBBINS02 3/27/2010 12:57PM

    That's food for thought... thank you :)

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CWOMACK138 3/27/2010 9:45AM

    Very insightful Trent, than you for sharing. I do believe we do not need to sacrifice our lives for a "weight-loss" venture. I think to a degree we have to learn to live in the moment & enjoy the journey.....

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TSEWARD 3/27/2010 8:48AM

    Dr. Dreamer, thank you. Very nice thoughts on motivation. Also your comment on my blog....thank you. Your encouragement is the perfect combination of commendation and honest, constructive help to progress. Such a cliche, but you rock. Ever thought about being a leader of a spark team? You would be very good at it.

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    Thanks for sharing your story. Good insight. Good advice. I think I need to start following it.

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FITGRL124 3/26/2010 10:57PM

    Your blog is AMAZING!!!!!!! You really hit the nail on the head with this one! Thank you!!! emoticon

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The Countdown Continues: 13 Pounds to go

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Last Weeks Weight: 208.6
This Weeks Weight: 207.6
Goal Weight 195
Down 1 pound!!!!!

I've been floundering between 208 and 211 pounds now for the past 3 months. This week, I held to a goal of eating an average of 1-3 fruits and vegetables per day (final average 2.6). Yesterday the range was upped to 2-4. So far so good.

I have 10 weeks until memorial day weekend and 12.6 pounds to go. If I can lose an average of 1-1.5 pounds a week. I will actually reach my goal weight of 195 by then. The key is my body getting used to eating the fruits and vegetables on a regular basis.

I can totally do this. I really believe if I can balance my morning eating, moderate my eating out and up my cardio (and of course continue with the FVs), I can post my "The Countdown Ends: 0 pounds to go" post on May 15 or 22.

To every one who comments on my blogs: Thank you so much for your encouragement. It means so much to me.

195 by 5.29!!!

- TD out

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AZCUPCAKE 3/28/2010 7:31AM

    You are TOTALLY on the PLAN, Trentdreamer! I am so thrilled for you, and can't wait til 5/29/10 when you are writing your 'I Made It!' blog! It is just around the corner, and you are right on track! Way to go -- ! I am saying Woot! Woot! to you today! emoticon

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TOOTERFISH 3/23/2010 10:24AM

    You're rockin' your next Party!

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GINGERLY4 3/23/2010 8:37AM

    Go get 'em!

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1DEBIE1 3/22/2010 4:54PM

    You are doing a GREAT job!! You'll be hitting your goal in time and be ready for the holdiay!
Congrats on the loss!

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CWOMACK138 3/22/2010 2:46PM

    GO Trent GO......!!! YOU CAN DO THIS......!!!

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SROBBINS02 3/21/2010 4:10PM

    You can totally do it :)

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    Congrats on the 1lb weight loss!
You know exactly what to do and I know you are going to do great!
Keep us posted and we are here for you always! Have a great (vegetable, fruit, cardio packed) day! emoticon

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HICALGAL 3/21/2010 7:07AM

    Congrats! darn right you can totally do this!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Wednesday, March 17, 2010

OK, so my most recent challenge to myself is to eat more Fruits and Vegetables. Here is how I'm going to do it.

* I'm starting with a target average of 1-3 per day (how this is computed below).
* If I make that goal I will up the range to 2-4 next week and add 1 to each end of the range every week that I make that range (up to 7-9).
* If I miss my range one week I will keep that range and try again the next week
* If I miss two weeks in a row, I will lower my range by 1

The computation:
* I will take the seven days' totals, eliminate the highest and lowest days, sum up the remaining 5, and divide by 5. So if my totals are 3,0,3,2,3,1 and 2, I will get rid of one of the 3's and the 0. The remaining 5 will be divided by 5.

House rules:
* Dried fruits and juices don't count. I want fresh fruits.
* If I eat above my range, I will count it as the top of the range. For me it's about the daily total, not the weekly average. I want to ramp up slowly.
* Fruits can only count up to 4 and vegetables only count up to 5 (range permitting).

Daily Status:
* I will post 3 numbers/sets of numbers.
1)The first will be my target range for the week
2) The second will be the totals for all of the days of the week so far (Saturday-Friday).
3) The third will be my average for the week (befor eliminating the highest and the lowest.)

Feel free to join me if you'd like. I believe that not eating fruits and vegetables has contributed to my weight problems throughout my life so far. Going forward, I believe that they will help bring me to my goal weight.

195 by 5.29!!!

- TD Out.

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AZCUPCAKE 3/18/2010 8:12PM

    There you go again, making all kinds of sense AND making it fun, too. This sounds like a totally "do-able" plan that you have committed to, and I have NO DOUBT you are going to reach your goal: 195 x 5.29 ~ !! Woot! Woot! emoticon

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ROXIEGIRL59 3/18/2010 4:07PM

    Hey Trent~~~fabulous plan you have started. I always add extra veggies to side dishes like brown rice or pasta or quinoa (my new favorite), like zucchini, mushrooms, cauliflower or broccoli etc. You get more on your plate plus the extra vegs. Keep up the good work--- emoticon

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SYN-CA 3/18/2010 2:30AM

    Hey, Trent! What a great plan you have. One of the ways that I get plenty of F & V in my daily diet is to group them together--like when I make a salad, I put nectarines or blueberries in it. Sometimes I'll add multiple types of veggies in with romaine (my fav) like broccoli, and/or cabbage, besides regular veg. I'll post my favorite roasted veggie recipe in our recipe thread. Keep up the great job! V emoticon

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CWOMACK138 3/18/2010 2:29AM

    I think this is an excellent plan Trent. I too think not eating enough fruits & vegetables has most certainly contributed to my weight issues over the years. Stick with it my friend & you'll own those cargos come May!!!!


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HICALGAL 3/18/2010 1:23AM

    looked over your status....195 x 5.29 emoticon

happy st. Pat's day! emoticon

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The Dreamer Rides Again!!

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Last Week: 208.4
This Week: 208.6

Here's the deal. I've been slacking. Last year, I struggled every day, every week and every hour to lose each pound. Weigh-in days were a big deal (good or bad). Read through some of my blogs from September-December, you'll see what I'm talking about. Weight loss wasn't everything. It was the only thing.

I've let that slide and now I am falling behind on my goal. Really, here's what I'm striving for:
* Memorial Day weekend: going to the beach at 195 lbs wearing a pair of cargoes that have never fit me.
* Labor day: Returning to the beach at 188 lbs wearing........wait for it.... swimming trunks (in public for the first time in almost a decade).

Losing 4 pounds in two months by eating poorly and slacking on the exercise (As I have these past 2 1/2 months) is simply not going to cut it any more.

I've joined a SparkTeam that is focused on getting below the 200 pound mark. This is it. I am reignited!

So how am I going to do it? Am I going to.....
* Starve myself? No!
* Exercise 3 hours a day until I get sick or ruin my knees/ankles? Again, "No"
* Take cheap weight loss pills? Parlez vous..."No"?
* Exercise with This fine woman and her Poodles( )? No......wellllllllll......OK, maybe.

But that WON'T (See? all caps. I'm serious) be all I do. Nah, here it is:

I'm going to actually (hold your hats) eat fruits and vegetables. I'm going public on it. This weeks goal is to average 1-3 fruits and vegetables per day. Next week, I will increase that by 1. I will increase it by 1 each week until I'm at 7-9.

My daily status will start with three numbers in parentheses
* Goal Range for week
* fruits and vegetables consumed the previous day
* average for week so far).

I have some additional rules that I will post on my main page, but the bottom line is this (cue bottom line)

Bottom Line: The Dreamer rides again and fruits and vegetables will get me to my destination!!!

Captain Vegetable would approve.

- TD Out!

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FITGRL124 3/16/2010 11:34AM


You can do this!!!!!

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KRISINE 3/16/2010 1:05AM

    I know you can do it...I've found it easier than I thought It would be to consume more F&G than I had before.
Have you tried a few of the many different banana varieties?
Baby, Red, and Colombian are my favorite. The "Apple Banana" when ripe has a great hint of apple and strawberry.

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AZCUPCAKE 3/15/2010 3:51PM

    Wow, everything in your blog was FULL of common sense, logic, and good old-fashioned "I CAN DO THIS!" And ya know what??? With this great attitude you have and this terrific PLAN you have, you WILL DO IT! I love your commitment to eating more fruits and veggies, and I love your realistic goals that DO NOT INCLUDE beating yourself up for past slip-ups! You are really getting somewhere important in your head, my friend, and I am cheering for you more than ever. I can hear the excitement in your blog about all of the improvements and goals you have for yourself! You are the BOSS, TrentDreamer! Go, Go, GO!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CWOMACK138 3/15/2010 9:23AM

    Trent - GREAT goals & very obtainable. I loved the lady with the poodles, what a hoot.

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TSEWARD 3/14/2010 6:21PM

    Loved captain vegetable, although I relate more to Andy that eats candy and Eddie that eats spaghetti.

Here's to You, and Captain Vegetable! Your gradual workup to your goal is a great plan. Keep us all posted.

That poodle lady, wow.


I had to watch it. I was spell bound trying to figure out how they did it. must have digitally altered the heads later...
Can't help analyzing, it's what I do!

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1DEBIE1 3/14/2010 5:15PM

    You've got yourself some great goals there Trent. May the Force Be With You, and you keep your determination and persistance at a high level!

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TOOTERFISH 3/14/2010 3:54AM

    You bet He Would!!

Make him your Newest Super Hero!
Three Cheers Captain Vegetable
Crunch, crunch,


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HICALGAL 3/14/2010 1:39AM

    you can totally do this!! cargoes and trunks at the beach...icing on the cake! i'll be checkin' in regularly. don't let me have to fly across the ocean cause you won't like me after a long ride. back on the road again..woot!! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    1. don't beat yourself up about the past. Look at it this way. You lost 4 lbs in 2 months. What you wanted? Maybe not! But WAY better than gaining 4 lbs in 2 months right? Right. So what's done is done. Look forward!

2. You've got this in the bag! Take it one fruit and veggie at a time. :) Do you like asparagus? If so .. try this. It's nommy . . . (as in OMNOMNOMNOMMY) :D

Snap the bottoms off a bunch of asparagus and line them up on a foil lined baking sheet (so they lie next to each other, don't have any overlapping). Spray with olive oil. (if you don't have a Misto . . GET ONE! Until you get one, you can drizzle . . but drizzle GENTLY.) Sprinkle a light squeeze of lemon juice, a bit of sea salt, pepper and 2 TBS grated parmesan cheese over the top.

Roast in yer oven @ about 350 for 8 to 10 minutes, being careful not to over do them. Once they get nice and bright green . . they are done. :) They should be slightly crispy-crunchy and delightful. :)


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STLRZGRRL 3/13/2010 12:55PM

    The Vegetarian gives THIS plan:

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Wait... that's more thumbs than I have... I'll have to borrow one of yours...


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SROBBINS02 3/13/2010 12:38PM

    I'mma let you finish, but first I'm going to jump on your bandwagon... here's to a fruity week emoticon (can't think of a veggie pun. Give a girl a hand?)

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Bunny Food!!!!!

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

I think we all ask ourselves some very deep questions. I know I certainly do:
* Who am I?
* What is my purpose and destiny in this life?
* How did Snooki find the strength and wherewithal to stay on the Shore in episode 2?
* Could this fine young lady be the future Mrs. TRENTDREAMER?

Hmmmm. I feel like the answer to the 3rd rhymes with "Tammi"

Today, though, I'm going to address an even deeper one:

Why is it so hard to stand up to friends when it comes to eating? Yup, I went there.

I mean seriously. If I sat down with your friends individually and asked if they wanted you to lose weight and live a long healthy life, they would probably say "Of course". Yet, when you're out with your friend or group of friends and you ordered something that would lead to that, you are usually duly informed that you are ordering (wait for it....) "Bunny Food!!!" Why is this?

There are several dynamics that come into play on both sides:

The Sparker:
#1 Frankly, the bad stuff feels good when eating. Why spoil a "good" thing?

#2 Nights out eating bad food is a bonding experience. Heck, I cried when the all you can eat Chinese food buffet place near my old University closed a few years ago. Eight years of fun times with my various guy friends, dates, etc.. Enjoying myself and not worrying about exams , finals, and later on work. We didn't care what we ate. We enjoyed it. It really was part of the friendship.

#3 If you tell your friend(s) that you're trying to lose weight, you at least feel like you're going to be looked at differently. Even if they don't verbalize it, you will see the look on their face when you slip up and are eating "non-diet" foods. Not addressing avoids judgment and scrutiny.

#4 It's possibly setting up a conflict. While not always as blatant as the three guys in the first minute of this video(
), everyone eating the same bad food is how it's done. You know that you're "breaking the norm" by choosing the healthy option(s).

The Friend(s):
#1 They know you and like/love you for who you are, as you are, and as they know you. Change is rarely, if ever, comfortable.

#2 Diets are viewed as restrictive. No one likes to see a friend not enjoying themselves. Nights out are about being care free and "enjoying" life. They feel like you're "missing out."

#3 Sometimes good habits can feel like a bad light cast on the one who hasn't adopted the good habits. Change is uncomfortable enough when it doesn't make one look bad by comparison.

#4 Again, it's a bonding experience. Out with friends, not worrying about work, stress, health. The gym and good eating is for Saturday morning, not Friday/Saturday night.

A few suggestions on how to handle this:
* Let your friend(s) know what you're doing before hand (give them a few days to process). Ideally if you're close to the leader of the pack, talk with them one on one (They may tell the others to sthu when the "bunny food" comments start coming). If not, talk to the person(s) who you do know. The key is that your friends will not be surprised when you order the side salad with fat free dressing rather than the "heart-attack sampler" you've been ordering since all y'all started going out. If some are, you'll at least have allies

* If that doesn't work and the "bunny food" comments come in. Approach the commenter(s) the next day, again alone. Calmly let them know how frustrating/hurtful the comments are. Give them a chance to express their frustration as well. Change is tough especially when it comes to food or friends. Evermore so when it's both.

* If that doesn't work, give them a few weeks. They will probably get used to it. Sure, there may be one who keeps up the comments. If the spirit leads, confront them a little more forcefully. Ask them why they keep making the comments (it may just be the way they joke). They probably haven't thought it through. If that doesn't work....

* Wait it out and lose weight. Ten pounds later, even if they're still making the comments, they will have figured out why you order a side of vegetables rather than fries. Heck the loud obnoxious one(s) may still make the comments in public but ask you the "how did you do it..." question when you're alone with them. Basically, Spark them by example.

Just know that even if your rlfs don't approve of your choices and make the comments, your SparkFriends do approve. Blog or post messages about your frustrations. Let us be here for you. I've been on both sides of this. SparkPeople has been a real safe haven for me regarding many of the struggles of weight loss.

As Walter the barking cat would say "

Amen, Walter!! Amen!

- TD Out

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KRISINE 3/17/2010 12:25PM

    I love the video featuring the possible, maybe, could be, hopeful Mrs. TRENTDREAMER and I have to say...she's cute! My question is do you have that free spirited Chutzpa needed to ride the wild and crazy escalator thrill of a lifetime?

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AZCUPCAKE 3/15/2010 3:54PM

    You make so much sense, and you throw in the BONUS of making me laugh my rear end off, too!! Thanks for that!

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FITGRL124 3/12/2010 7:55PM

    emoticon and how true is this blog!!!! I loved it!! You're right - spark friends are the best because they DO understand. We've all been there at some point or another and it's a great experience to be able to share ups and downs with fellow friends who really know what its like. I'm so happy for you! You're doing a great job! Keep it up!! emoticon

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TEENY_BIKINI 3/12/2010 11:02AM

    In love with Sammi - are ya? So is Ronnie ;)

"How did Snooki find the strength and wherewithal to stay on the Shore in episode 2?" I can't believe I have found another person who will admit to watching this show. LOL.

I did. I managed to make it through most of the eps. I thought they were mostly charming. God - I sound old....

I like your theories on handling food pushers. They are sound. Unfortunately, I do not have the tact to implement them ... I am more apt to say something inappropriate - makes for an interesting evening though. Cheers.

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TSEWARD 3/11/2010 6:21PM

    Awesome Bunny Food Blog. I think she would be the perfect Mrs. Trent Dreamer...good sense of humor, positive attitude, ready to try new things. A real gem!

Your ideas are very helpful. Your reminder that my spark friends approve of my decisions is HUGE this will be such a big help. And I like the wait it out and lose weight idea. (deep breath) I can do this!!! And so can we all. We have eachother, and that 's not all....okay I am rhyming, weird.

Enjoyed the You Tube digressions! I had to watch the whole Weird Al video. It was a treat. I had forgotten how it started.

Here's to Bunny Food aka flavorful, nutritious food that makes you feel good after you eat it!

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SROBBINS02 3/11/2010 6:00PM

    Wise words, oh guru TD ;-)

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1DEBIE1 3/11/2010 1:35PM

    Eat before
Tell your friends that you ate a late; breakfast, lunch, or dinner, and just want to eat something light
I prefer not to mention I'm watching my calories, otherwise, others want to get into the discussion, and they always talk about how you don't need to lose weight, or tell you what's a splurge

Drink a full glass of water during/after your meal

REMEMBER-if you don't get enough to eat at that gathering, you will NOT starve, and can ALWAYS eat more at home

Good luck on the future Mrs. TrentDreamer

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