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If you are out there reading this buckle your seat belts because this is going to be a long ride. It is a soul searching odyssey that I have been on for the past 3 hours since I have been back from the gym. (Sorry Sandra I did not call you as I promised I would from the gym. Sandra, my good friend knows how much I have been stressing because I fell like everyone was watching me. Yes I know I put myself out there and caused this. I was very vocal in my frustration this month in various posts and blogs about this STUPID goal I set up for myself not to weigh myself for 1 month. I know everyone was there rooting for me.) I feel as though besides letting me down I let them all down. I had to think this whole thing through and have my own pity party before I could talk to Sandra. Sandra always knows how to make eveyone feel better. 
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DUMBSKITTY
8/4/2009 11:24AM
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NIGHTHWAK's post is so right on. This is something I have to keep in mind too. I didn't see the scale budge this week...I had a pretty big loss at the beginning of last week right off the bat, so today when I weighed in, it was the same. It's so easy to get totally wrapped up in that number. I constantly have to remind myself that I'm not doing this for the number on the scale. I'm doing this for the way my body feels, for the way it works, and for the way it looks. This journey is about ME and MY BODY, not the number on the scale. I'm very VERY proud of you for not only losing 8 lbs in July, but for sticking to your goal of not peeking at that scale. THAT in itself is a MAJOR achievement. I don't know if I could have done that at this point. And I'm even MORE proud of you to read the blogs following this one. You had your little pity party--and we all need to have those occasionally--but you moved on. You decided how you were going to respond to this "crisis"...and I have to tell you that I'm impressed with your attitude. I really am. It's very inspiring to me. Each day that you don't throw in the towel and give up is one day closer to your goal weight. And each day that you don't throw in the towel and give up is ALREADY a day that you're meeting your goals. You're ALREADY successful just by plugging away at it. So keep that persepective! Keep that wonderful chin up! You're doing just SO great, and this time next year we're ALL going to be a LOT smaller!! Comment edited on: 8/4/2009 11:24:30 AM Report Inappropriate Comment |
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.DUSTY.
8/2/2009 10:48AM
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Hey there big time drama girl, lol! I know how disappointed you must be feeling. Weighing what we do we always hope that it will come off faster especially at first. (I don't know why you made a goal of weighing only once a month? Maybe weekly would work out better.) NIGHTHAWK's advice is so right on! Stay focused on your long term goals. You ARE doing this! You ARE losing weight and you ARE making progress! And you ARE making a positive difference in our SparkPeople community! Be Strong. Stay Strong.   Personally I prefer Jalapeño Jack with my Whine! LOL!
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NIGHTHWAK
8/1/2009 7:53PM
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Gee. let's see. At the current rate you are going, next year at this time you will: Have lost almost 100 lbs. ONE HUNDRED POUNDS. If you continue as you have so successfully last month, next year at this time you will also be in a completely new wardrobe. Head to toe, shoes included, I am sure. Next year at this time, if you continue on your trek, your blood sugar will regulate and be normal. (You cannot expect it to stabilize in just one month, can you? This is a body we are dealing with. A body that has been abused and in ill health. It takes time to find the "normal" so be patient.) Next year at this time you will have increased cardiovascular endurance and muscle tone because of your regular gym workouts. Next year at this time, you will have 12 months of excellent eating habits under your belt, reducing your risk of cancer and heart disease. Next year at this time, you will have developed a routine of doing something active EVERY DAY. Next year at this time, you will have answered the question, "What are you doing to have lost so much weight?" so many times you can't possibly count them. Next year at this time, you will have inspired countless people to do what you are doing: losing weight, getting healthy and refusing to go back to the past. Next year at this time, you will look in the mirror and not recognize yourself. But, you will KNOW it's you. The woman who worked so hard to get where she is. The woman who almost gave up the month she "only" lost 8 pounds. Why not rejoice and say, "I was SO successful this month! I tracked all my food, really pushed myself at the gym, and lost EIGHT POUNDS! I ROCK! I am really doing it this time. Look at the GREAT month I had! I did it and I will CONTINUE to do it because I am tired of being fat and tired and unhealthy." Whatever it takes, ~nh Comment edited on: 8/1/2009 7:54:59 PM Report Inappropriate Comment |
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DYNAMICDEB53
8/1/2009 5:42PM
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Ok so how was the brie with your whine??????? Now you listen girlfriend, 8 lbs is like Susan said 5lb sack of potaotes and 3 lbs of butter!!!!! ( I do like that thought and will keep it), and you lost it and better yet you didnt go out a eat those potatoes and butter, you know that not what you want to do. You looked for a reason and found nothing negative. So stop wallowing in the brie and pick yourself up and stop the whining and be PROUD of what you have accomplished since June 16th!! I love ya though, you do challenge and test each of us to think and really dig deep to find ourself and grown............JUSY like you are doing. So here are your Hugs for feeling down and a big congrats   for doing well. Accept them and smile gosh darn ya!!!! Keep up the good work and more of those pesky pound will drop away 
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LEARNINGTOLUVME
8/1/2009 5:33PM
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8 pounds per week is exactly what we should all be striving to loose. I think because you waited so long to weigh you were expecting a major shocker. The amount you lost is perfect range to keep off those pounds. You did a great job dont be negative on yourself your body is letting go little by little and learning a new way of life. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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YATMAMA
8/1/2009 4:31PM
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Only? Girl, eight pounds is GREAT!!! My doctor insists that one pound week is cause to be delighted. He's a smart fella! I'm very proud of you!!!
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TORNADO40
8/1/2009 1:55PM
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Gosh I wish I could lose 8 pounds in a month. I can only take off 3-4 pounds each month and that is with eating 1300 cal and exercising 50 minutes each day. 
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ANNIEJAYE10
8/1/2009 12:37PM
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TRAVELNISTA Congratulations on meeting your goal. You made a commitment to not weigh yourself for the month of July and you followed through with it, that is extremely inspiring! Not only did you not weight yourself, but you watched what you ate and worked your Spark Program (dang, girl.. you were sparklin' up EVERYONE'S lives!). Eight Pounds..... you have removed eight pounds from your body... eight pounds gone... vanished. You have allowed your organs to function better and taken 8 pounds off of your joints to allow you to have more mobility and less pain. Eight Pounds is an extremely healthy loss.... these eight pounds show you that you are not controlled by the scale... you can live your new healthy life-style without checking to make sure the weight is dropping. You did EXACTLY what Spark is teaching us to do... you basically lived an entire month as someone who is not trying to lose weight would and YOU LOST WEIGHT! Congratulations, hon... you are mastering this new life style and taking the control back over your life. I am extremely proud of you... and you should be too! -AJ Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SUSAN134
8/1/2009 11:51AM
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(((((((Travelnista))))))) I KNOW how unhappy you are with the 8 lb loss. After not weighing yourself for a whole month, of course you were expecting more. I would be too, and I would have initially felt crushed at seeing only 8 lbs down. I say "only 8 lbs" because that is how you are looking at it. A month is a long time to not weigh yourself and of course the anticipation builds up. For me personally, I have set a goal to only weigh myself once a week - and that feels long. For 6 days I am anticipating that magic number on the scale, and in my head I am waiting to see a ten lb loss - totally unrealistic, and I KNOW this......but still...... In my third week here, after losing 10 lbs in two weeks, I only lost 1.5 lbs....I was SO disappointed. Heck, I had worked hard, and only 1.5 lbs? I realized later it was such an emotional expectation I had put on myself. I know I had done well that week with my tracking, however for whatever reason, my body only showed 1.5 lbs loss. By the end of the day I had accepted it, and the next week I was down 2.5 lbs. When I have gone on diets before, I have lost quickly......but I have gained every lb and more back. This time, I'm concentrating on losing slower, steadily and letting my body adjust to the smaller weight loss. I want these lbs to stay off - for good. On that note, your 8 lb loss is perfect!!! You have done amazingly well. Hold on to that and enjoy it. Rejoice that you are now 8 lbs lighter. You have just lost a 5 lb bag of potatoes and 3 lbs of butter. They can get pretty heavy to carry around! I'm very proud of you!!!   Comment edited on: 8/1/2009 11:53:12 AM Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SUNNYH99
8/1/2009 11:13AM
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I know you wanted more, but congrats on your 8 pounds! That's 2 pounds a week, and we are told not to lose more than that if we want to keep it off. The only people who lose 27 pounds in a month are eating in an unhealthy, or medically supervised or surgically enhanced way. You did beautifully. Don't let that ODAP ("old devilish addictive personality"- a 12-step term) bugaboo tell you you failed. You won! Love, Sunny
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FORMENOONEELSE
8/1/2009 11:11AM
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TRAVELNISTA, I NOTICED U DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT MEASUREMENTS.......DID U MEASURE A MONTH AGO AND THEN NOW???? U COULD OF LOST INCHES WITH THE WEIGHT......THERE IS MANY MANY WAYS OF MEASURING HOW FAR U HAVE COME IN THIS WEIGHT LOSS BATTLE.......LIFT UP EIGHT POUNDS AND TELL ME IT'S INSIGNIFICANT!!!!! NOT ONLY THAT BUT IT'S BETTER TO LOSE IT SLOW AND HEALTHY THAN TOO RAPID!!!! UR DOING GREAT!!!!! DON'T BE DOWN ON URSELF SO MUCH!!!! JODI
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-TAMI-
8/1/2009 10:53AM
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Congrats on losing 8 pounds. Isn't 2 pounds a week the goal in your new group? Honey, losing 27 pounds in one month is an unrealistic number. If you aren't going to go raw 100% then you have to accept that you will lose weight more slowly. Which is how the so called experts say to lose it. I think you can look at your tracking for the last month and you wont find anything to tweak. I think you did great and the fact that you didn't lose more could be because your body is losing it slowly and healthily AND/OR because of the stress you felt by not weighing. We all know stress makes us hold on to our weight. Come on, pat yourself on the back. We're all proud of you and you should be proud of yourself too. I would have been stuffing my face for the whole month if I couldn't step on my scale!!! I wouldn't have lost 8 pounds, I would have gained 12.  You deserve hugs and pampering for what you've accomplished. I wish I were there to take you out shopping for something nice. You deserve it.
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BAMATEACHER
8/1/2009 10:35AM
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Oh, Travelnista!!!! First, I want to give you a great big hug! I am SO sorry you are so disappointed. I wish you felt better about what you saw. I think you are being waaaaaay too hard on yourself. You did nothing "wrong." Look what your body did for you. You stayed on your plan, ate how you liked to eat, moved, and it removed 8 pounds of unwanted/unneeded fat from your thighs, butt, stomach, and (most importantly) organs. Your rate is sustainable over a long period of time AND maintainable. A pound a day - over the long haul - is unrealistic. What happened when you went off raw? That pound a day came back. You don't want to be 100% raw? Don't be 100% raw. Are you happy with the level you're at? Stay that way. Eat in a way that works for YOUR body, and your body will work for you. There's nothing wrong with enjoying quinoa (I love quinoa) or steamed veggies. Look at how much has changed. You're happy with the way you're eating, you're moving, you're inspiring others, you're growing, your first thought after the disappointment wasn't to go binge. Those are all signs that your new lifestyle is SUSTAINABLE. I think that's way more important than the rate of loss. I'm not telling you how you should or shouldn't feel. You're disappointed, and that's OK. You're not wrong to feel that way; it's just a feeling. Feel your feelings. Take the time, though, to REALLY look over the whole month. I was going to suggest you go back and re-read your blogs, but you already had that idea. I think you'll find - maybe not today, maybe not this weekend - that the month was a success in SO many ways. I, myself, was super excited to see the "8." When I read the title of your blog, I was scared. Again, I'm so sorry you feel so badly. I really wish I could be there with you. Remember, this is a time for growth. The times when we feel like crap and want to throw it all away are the times when - if we dig deep and keep on keepin' on anyway - we grow the most.
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MAMASHAWN
8/1/2009 10:34AM
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Eight pounds is nothing to sneeze at! You can't go back, other than to see how to tweak things for the next goal. I know about the whining. I spent yesterday there, myself. But please take a small bit of today to realize that eight pounds gone is eight pounds gone! Do a little happy dance! Isn't this the first official day of the new year's challenge thing? Picture us, 5-6 months from now, minus 50 (or more) pounds! I don't want to sound bossy, I just know that beating myself up always sets me back . Have a great day! You'll hit it next time!  
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NICA_LOSN_IT
8/1/2009 10:29AM
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Well first of all, congrats on losing 8 lbs. I know how it feel when you want to lose a certain amount by a certain date, but most of the time the amount is unrealistic. I always get through these trying times by saying that there is someone out there that is going through something worst off than me. Maybe there is someone out there that is doing every thing right and they haven't lost a single pound in a month. Or maybe there is someone out there that has gained 13.2 lbs in a little over a month and and a half (me). So honey take those 8 lbs and be joyful cause there is someone out here that is doing a whole lot worst than you. This was an encouraging post. I hope that you continue to pass on the encouragement. People like me need it. I am your biggest fan.    Comment edited on: 8/1/2009 10:31:21 AM Report Inappropriate Comment |
A Team Member from Done With Being the Fat Girl shared this quote she came across on someone's Facebook. She thought the Team would enjoy it because it can be applied to our weight loss journey. I think we can all benefit from this quote and reflect on how it applies to our journey so I am putting it here for even more people to see.
“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” - Bob Moawad
I agree with her. I think that this is the theme that Spark is teaching each and everyone of us to do. It may take some of us a little longer journey but I pray we all get there.
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AHEALTHIERJAN
7/31/2009 11:38PM
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This is a wonderful quote, and it does some Spark up. At the same time, this greater sense of responsibility for yourself comes at the same time as an incredible social network that supports that responsibility. It's not either/or, it's both/and, and I think that's what makes this work. Thanks so much.
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YATMAMA
7/31/2009 11:03PM
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Excellent quote!
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SWITTWER
7/31/2009 4:19PM
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So true! Thanks for sharing!
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FORMENOONEELSE
7/31/2009 2:54PM
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WOW THIS REALLY DOES MAKE U THINK!!!!! JODI Report Inappropriate Comment |
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GLORYLIGHT57
7/31/2009 1:55PM
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This quote holds a lot of weight...Owning our own destiny is vital for health and happiness. Thanks for sharing.
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LADYSUNBEAM
7/31/2009 1:53PM
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I'm going to put that on my SparkPage, it truly reflects what I have experience this year. Thank you for posting it!! Sandra Report Inappropriate Comment |
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-TAMI-
7/31/2009 1:27PM
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Wonderful Quote!
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LINDYPOWER
7/31/2009 12:55PM
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The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins. WOW that is so profound - what a challenge this is to all the married people/committed relationships out there - people who are co-existing with another person and sometimes assimilating their partner's idiosyncrasies, traits, and behavior to co-exist together. This is another reason why I am so grateful to be alone with my SELF living my own life, which can get lonely at times. Yet, I don't have anyone to lean on, to blame or to rely on. All my little messes I created all on my own. I am the captain of my own ship and the person in charge of my own destiny. Nobody is going to tell me what direction I should trim the sails to head for..........and if there comes a day I am no longer able to have good judgment to know the best choices, I don't want that to be another darn "lesson" that someone tells me I needed to learn. I am getting too old for that rationale. I am done with seeing the traumas, disasters, and heartbreak as "the lessons I have had to learn." In the future, if my judgment is off and I am heading for dangerous waters, I would hope that I have enough support from friends to sit with me and discuss what the most safe and sure way it is that I must take for myself. We were not meant to be without a significant relationship in our lives - we all need that human connection, but it doesn't have to be a co-dependent, unhealthy, clingy one. Two whole people walking side by side each strong enough to be able to live quite well, alone, and sharing some time as ONE, and parting with good feelings, until the next time is what I pray I can find in one loving kind man before I die. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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BAMATEACHER
7/31/2009 12:46PM
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Oh, wow....I love it. I'm going to print it off and keep it somewhere.
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SUSAN134
7/31/2009 12:19PM
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Perfect quote for us! Thank you so much for sharing!
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SPARKGINA
7/31/2009 12:12PM
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Thank you for the quote.
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PINK_NEVAEH22
7/31/2009 12:06PM
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Thats a wonderful quote and very true!
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