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A Decision Long in Coming

Sunday, June 24, 2012

I have been torturing myself trying to reach a conclusion as to how to handle things. I have not been MIA on Spark People but then again I have. I rarely have time to blog anymore. I do log on every day and try to get the basic Sparking in like my Nutrition Tracker, Fitness Tracker, Daily Huddle with my teams. This past week was really bad as I only just got caught up with my Friend Feed yesterday and I discovered that the last time I addressed anything on my Friend Feed was over 5 days ago.

I am putting in over 60 hours a week at work. I am in the Mortgage Industry and the rates are ridiculously low so I am super busy. Not complaining though as I had been laid off for almost a year and a half. I still get up at 5 AM so I can workout, 2 hours daily before work and on the weekend at my leisure. By the end of the day I am usually stressed out and therefore exhausted. Itís mental exhaustion but it usually leaves me with little desire to Spark. I just want to chill out and decompress.

The answer is not to take a Spark Break as others have done. I know deep in my heart my success on my weight loss journey is because of Spark People. It is the motivation that I get from my Spark Buddies that has helped me stay on track. It is one reason I take my Friend Feed seriously. Your Friend Feed is one way that you can offer support and motivation. Your Friend Feed tells you your Spark Buddies accomplishments and their blogs tell you how they are doing. I have not had enough time to read many of those blogs. Sorry!

Taking a Spark Break would probably see me spiral backwards. I know I am a Foodaholic and I know that no Sparking would send me spiralizing backwards.
I cannot leave Spark People but I must cut back dramatically. I have left some teams and I will be leaving another at the beginning of July. It is one that started but it is a now almost a defunct team. We were so active for the 1st year and the weight loss we achieved as a team was incredible. Sad to say this teamís Weight Loss Challenge showed a Team Weight Loss of 18 pounds for the month of May. That is pathetic! There is not that much participation anymore, the Chat Room being semi-active.

Iíve tried breathing life back into the team. The Team definitely needs a reboot and refocus but I have failed in motivating them to do so. It is time to step down as Leader. Maybe someone else taking the reins will lead them forward.
Diets do not work but lifestyle changes do. I know I am on the right path for me on my journey to a healthier me with following a Raw Food Lifestyle. My Green Smoothie Team, Organic Gardening Team, and Vegetarian Team all support the direction I am going so I will be keeping those teams and my Raw Foodies Team is a no brainer; that is my lifeline!

Spark People is my lifeline as well. Yup, trimming the fat (pun intended) so to speak is the right decision.

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MEOWMAMA3 7/8/2012 2:17PM

    Yvonne, I totally get where you are coming from. Don't blame yourself for the team failures. You worked like mad and kept up with a dizzying amount of online attention being a team leader requires. There are lots of factors contributing to the success or failure of a team, just like with the failure or success of a teacher.

I'm so happy to see you succeeding with your weight loss and happy with your raw lifestyle....and working again! Spark people is a wonderful website and the community is priceless, but it has to fit into the rest of our lives, times and priorities and sometimes it's a tight fit. Keep on pushing sister and don't look back, unless you're doing it with pride and a smile! I thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your hard work and devotion to the team! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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QTEALADY20031 7/1/2012 6:03PM

    The first is to take care of yourself and your health! You obviously realize that. I am glad that you are staying with Spark People. The best to you. emoticonJune

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JERSEYGIRL24 6/29/2012 10:08PM

    A wise decision. Having had my employment struggles, I know that you have to strike when the iron is hot and not complain about long hours or jeopardize the job. On the other hand, it seems like taking a Spark break usually doesn't work. I had a few teams in my early spark days that were awesome and then just went very inactive in spite of the best efforts to keep them going. You have to to what is best for you. I think that keeping a presence on spark but cutting back on time and obligations is a great option.

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NESARIAN 6/28/2012 6:14PM

    This Too Shall Pass... work will slow down and you will one day have more free time again. Maybe then you can do more than the basic sparking. I say CONGRATS to you for making this decision! Do what you need to do for you now. :-)

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DS9KIE 6/27/2012 10:52PM

    I know how you feel being soo busy and then overwhelmed with spark.

I had over 500 emails and it was all spark emails and i have fallen asleep with one hand on my mouse and one hand on the keyboard typing (one time i was in the middle of a

You don't have to leave spark, you just have to spark when you can and when you can't you know we will understand that your busy.

And hey that is smart to drop some teams.

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DYNAMICDEB53 6/25/2012 2:48PM

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I know you have agonized over this decision and sorry you have. You must do what is best for you and your continued journey to being healthy. You are a wonderful person and motivator, that team has been so special and helped me to get to where I am today but it was not the team but the people I have met there and shared with and who are walking the journey with me that really matter.
Be happy and move forward and I know I will still you around and that bring a smile.
Hugs and love

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DARA52 6/25/2012 2:00PM

    I am not working 60 hrs a week but summer is so busy and with the baby coming... I am focusing on Friend Feed and logging my food. I can't stop that. Hang in there. Love you. Dara

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MYGOLDENBOYS3 6/25/2012 8:49AM

    The most important person in the world is YOU! Take care of yourself and do what is best for you. Sometimes that decision makes us feel guilty but if you don't take care of yourself, who will?

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IMEMINE1 6/25/2012 6:34AM

    It is very hard sometimes. My workplace always stresses me out.
I don't know what i am going to do yet about it.
Good luck and keep smiling.

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DEFIANTVEGAN 6/25/2012 2:12AM

    Glad to hear you are not leaving Raw Foodies yet alone Sparks. Definitely we all need some time to adjust with the curve balls of life.

I'm glad you are just cutting back and you are still on the same path and direction that is best for your health. I haven't blogged about my food intake but I am still doing a 75-95 Raw. Yet I am not consistent and that's where I need to stick to it unfortunately Money is the issue.

Definitely being on Sparks keeps me accountable or I would just give up. I just need to find the most affordable recipes that will help me maintain considering lack of funds and a salary cut that will take place at the end of next month..

I'm glad my spark buddies are here as well to help me adjust and keep me motivated as this can put me spiraling downhill. Thanks for sharing your whereabouts.

No worries your teams will be fine, to much worrying and stressing can cause you to get your shingles back and we certainly don't want that.



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DEBBIEANNE1124 6/24/2012 11:10PM

    Do what you ahve to to be healthy and ahppy.

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BE-THE-CHANGE 6/24/2012 9:19PM

    I definitely understand where you are. I am ashamed to admit that my friend feed is probably the first thing to go when I am pressed for time.

I am glad you are staying with SparkPeople. Make the cuts you need to to keep your sanity. Your friends will always be here for you.

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SEASONS__CHANGE 6/24/2012 7:13PM

    Glad to see that you're reorganizing your efforts to get in more of some "me" time and sticking with Spark. You would be missed if you left. Glad to see you make some positive changes.

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    I understand completely. I tried to call you but got no answer. I was at the pool earlier. I hope that all is well. Stand up for YOU and feel good about your decision. I agree that it's the right thing to do. I'm in the same boat. Love you... Dawn

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LOOZINITNOW 6/24/2012 5:41PM

    We love you and are here for you no matter what. emoticon

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WILLOW49 6/24/2012 5:27PM

    No doubt about it, you have to do what's best for you!

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L*I*T*A* 6/24/2012 4:28PM

take care of you first....
all the best with your decisions...
blessings and hugs..........lita

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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 6/24/2012 3:23PM

    Yvonne, thanks for being so honest about everything. I'm with the other people in saying that you need to take care of you first. You already inspire many of us and when life gets in the way, that's okay too.

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WILDLOTUS16 6/24/2012 3:19PM

    I agree with the rest of the comments here. You need to do what's best for yourself. ((hugss))

Love Kathy

I am going to message you.

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TEDYBEAR2838 6/24/2012 3:02PM

    Definitely do what you need to do. Just don't go away totally.

We Need You! But you need YOU more!

Life is full of changes, some hard ones. You'll do what is right
for you.

See you later this summer.

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LINDAKAY228 6/24/2012 3:01PM

    Sometime we have to make tough decisions in order to take care of ourselves. I know that it's not easy but do what you have to do. Even when times are tough, I also stay connected to SP and know it is my lifeline. But I've left leadership positions, or refused to take ones on much as I would like to, because I know that if I don't take care of myself I can't really help others like I want to.

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NEW-CAZ 6/24/2012 2:43PM

    You do what you need to Yvonne, your health and happiness must come first. emoticon

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    Those are tough decisions but you need to do what is best for you.

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LGAR519 6/24/2012 2:32PM

    Life happens. We have to prioritize. It just can't be helped. I do what I can comfortably live with. There is no other option.

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BEGONIAC 6/24/2012 2:27PM

    Things change....that's the one constant thing in life! But you're a wise woman to realize you need to just shift gears and make the adjustments to keep SP a part of your life. I logged on today thinking I would write my first blog in months and months. Definitely cathartic!i'm struggling to make things fit my crazy life right now. I need SP too! So hang in there dear one and do whacha gotta do! Hugs! emoticon

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TRACYZABELLE 6/24/2012 2:23PM

    You need to do what is healthy for you and your success! You are such a great supporter!! emoticon

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Now why didn't I think of that?

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Raw frozen desserts or snacks is the perfect treat for a hot summer day. I have made my Raw Ice Creams and Raw Sorbets into popsicles but it never dawned on me to use my Raw Chocolate Mouse. OMG! Delish!

Received this in my daily email from Mike Adams and

Of course I will be making mine totally Raw. I will be using the actual vanilla bean and Raw Cacao Powder I usually order from Live Superfoods so that I know it is truly 100% Raw.

Can't wait for them to freeze! emoticon

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TBOGENER 6/24/2012 2:57PM

    I signed into your blogs after I read the swim suit one. It was so true and so funny. You must take care of Number 1. My dad was always telling me this, I would say who is #1 U. I didn't get thru childhood, teen years or young adult hood. When I hit my late 30's walked out on my husband I did indeed start taking care of #1. It doesn't mean your life will be roses, but it gives you alot more time to chill without guilt. That guilt that I should be doing this or that was a killer. Good Luck, I know when something happens and it's to funny not to share you wil be here. You are to good of a storyteller not too.

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TEDYBEAR2838 6/23/2012 8:47AM

    Thanks Yvonne, I'm gonna check that out. Sounds Delicious!
Let me know how yours turned out?

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KIMPY225 6/18/2012 4:53PM

    Wow that is an interesting recipe!

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1EMMA2011 6/17/2012 5:55PM

    Sounds very yum!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DYNAMICDEB53 6/17/2012 3:16PM

    Sounds cool and refreshing for the hot summer nights! :D

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DEBBIEANNE1124 6/17/2012 3:01PM

    MMmmMMMM sounds terrific

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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 6/17/2012 2:14PM

    That sounds so yummy!

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L*I*T*A* 6/17/2012 2:03PM

    great thanks for sharing....
blessings and hugs.lita

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    sounds yummy

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HELEN_BRU 6/17/2012 9:05AM

    Sounds delicious. I should do something like that!

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KKKAREN 6/17/2012 8:46AM

    sounds good!

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Buying a Bathing Suit!

Friday, June 15, 2012

Hope you enjoy this email I received and smile. OR maybe it sounds a little like what you have gone through. To say the very least, trying on bathing suits can be very stressful.

When I was a child in the 1950's, the bathing suit for the mature figure was-boned, trussed and reinforced, not so much sewn as engineered. They were built to hold back and uplift, and they did a good job.

Today's stretch fabrics are designed for the prepubescent girl with a figure carved from a potato chip.

The mature woman has a choice, she can either go up front to the maternity department and try on a floral suit with a skirt, coming away looking like a hippopotamus that escaped from Disney's Fantasia, or she can wander around every run-of-the-mill department store trying to make a sensible choice from what amounts to a designer range of fluorescent rubber bands.

What choice did I have? I wandered around, made my sensible choice and entered the chamber of horrors known as the fitting room. The first thing I noticed was the extraordinary tensile strength of the stretch material. The Lycra used in bathing costumes was developed, I believe, by NASA to launch small rockets from a slingshot, which gives the added bonus that if you manage to actually lever yourself into one, you would be protected from shark attacks. Any shark taking a swipe at your passing midriff would immediately suffer whiplash.

I fought my way into the bathing suit, but as I twanged the shoulder strap in place I gasped in horror, my boobs had disappeared!

Eventually, I found one boob cowering under my left armpit. It took a while to find the other. At last I located it flattened beside my seventh rib.

The problem is that modern bathing suits have no bra cups.

The mature woman is now meant to wear her boobs spread across her chest like a speed bump. I realigned my speed bump and lurched toward the mirror to take a full view assessment.

The bathing suit fit all right, but unfortunately it only fitted those bits of me willing to stay inside it. The rest of me oozed out rebelliously from top, bottom and sides. I looked like a lump of Playdoh wearing undersized cling wrap.

As I tried to work out where all those extra bits had come from, the prepubescent sales girl popped her head through the curtain, "Oh, there you are," she said, admiring the bathing suit.

I replied that I wasn't so sure and asked what else she had to show me. I tried on a cream crinkled one that made me look like a lump of masking tape, and a floral two-piece that gave the appearance of an oversized napkin in a serving ring.

I struggled into a pair of leopard-skin bathers with ragged frills and came out looking like Tarzan's Jane, pregnant with triplets and having a rough day.

I tried on a black number with a midriff fringe and looked like a jellyfish in mourning.

I tried on a bright pink pair with such a high cut leg I thought I would have to wax my eyebrows to wear them.

Finally, I found a suit that fit, it was a two-piece affair with a shorts-style bottom and a loose blouse-type top. It was cheap, comfortable, and bulge-friendly, so I bought it. My ridiculous search had a successful outcome, I figured.

When I got it home, I found a label that read, "Material might become tansparent in water."

So, if you happen to be on the beach or near any other body of water this year and I'm there too, I'll be the one in cut-off jeans and a T-shirt!

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DS9KIE 6/19/2012 12:28AM


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OLDERDANDRT 6/18/2012 12:46PM

    Cute! I feel her!! Been there and won't do that for another 50 pounds at least!! emoticon emoticon

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DARA52 6/17/2012 4:48PM

    That was hysterical. I am still giggling.

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MKPRINCESS007 6/17/2012 4:33PM

    You were there when I tried on that suit, right??
dly too true, but we have to laugh!


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DYNAMICDEB53 6/17/2012 3:20PM

    LOL but sounds so right too, LOL

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IAMFRANSGIRL 6/17/2012 9:14AM

    Hilarious!! emoticon

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MYGOLDENBOYS3 6/17/2012 7:29AM

    emoticon Nightmare shopping for me. This is hysterical!

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DEBBIEANNE1124 6/16/2012 1:44PM

    LOL. Loved this. && it's so me.
I might be borrowing it if you do't mind.

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LGAR519 6/16/2012 10:31AM

    This made my morning. I laughed out loud. Been there and done that!

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WILLOW49 6/16/2012 9:53AM

    hehe, thanks for sharing!

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SECRETMUSIC 6/16/2012 7:14AM

    What a great way to start my day, Yvonne! Thanks for posting!

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YIWEN39 6/16/2012 5:13AM

    Thanks for a good laugh ;-) emoticon

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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 6/16/2012 2:23AM

    Oh no, LOL!

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BLUE_KARMA 6/15/2012 10:57PM

Oh, so true, so true! That was great!

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BRENDABUNNY 6/15/2012 10:08PM

    Omg Yvonne that was flipping hilarious I laughed so hard I was crying..Thnak you for another great blog as always! emoticon

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    Very funny!!!! emoticon

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DEFIANTVEGAN 6/15/2012 9:40PM

    emoticon you crack me up, I needed that.

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HEALTHY4ME 6/15/2012 9:01PM

    LOL can you imagine if you hadn't found the label.... good story. And hey have a great summer, beach and all! LOL

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Awwwwwwwwwww come on!

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Burger King Bacon Sundae Hits Summer Menu

Really????????????and there will be nut cases that will buy this too!
Are we ever going to learn? Has anyone looked in the mirror lately. We are getting fatter and fatter as a society. Look at the menu choices. emoticon

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MKPRINCESS007 6/17/2012 4:35PM

    Oh my gosh! I seriously thought this was joke at first. Just the thought makes me want to gag! Ugh!


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MYGOLDENBOYS3 6/14/2012 6:36AM

    Saw this on TV yesterday...hard to believe that folks are getting that desperate.

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ERIN1957 6/14/2012 4:48AM

    I laughed when I saw this, and remembered once in a gift shop saw chocolate covered bacon. This is not a new thing. Some might remember the malt shops and dipping salty french fries in the sweet malt/shake...a 1950's treat. My mother taught us kids this trick and treat. It will be tried and I am sure a passing novelty, got people's attention and boosted sales...all about the money.
Any fast food choice is the wrong choice.

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DEFIANTVEGAN 6/13/2012 6:41PM

    I know I saw that I was like what?! emoticon

Well I have to say that The Food Networks " Chopped " when the chefs are either doing dessert or not they seem to add bacon.

One Dessert battle had bacon so they coated it with chocolate and added it to the dessert seems that fast foods are following suit.

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DARA52 6/13/2012 5:24PM

    I love bacon and this sounds horrible at best!

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OLDERDANDRT 6/13/2012 4:52PM

    My thoughts exactly!!! Would love to get a look at the guy who came up with the idea and the guy who ok'd it for their menu!!!!! emoticon

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DYNAMICDEB53 6/13/2012 3:52PM

    OK its all wrong and yes so many will and then sue since they got overweight and blame the vendor and not themselves. Arent we glad we are smarter than that. I know I wont be buying.

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KNH771 6/13/2012 1:41PM

    People really do love their bacon! I can't believe the ways people are using it now.

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SEASONS__CHANGE 6/13/2012 11:07AM

    All I can say is


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MARYHOLMAN 6/13/2012 11:01AM

    Are they Kiddin'--how gross!


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THE70SNUT 6/13/2012 9:14AM

    Ok I LOVE bacon (which I no longer eat) but that doesn't even look good to me! Couple weeks ago someone brought donuts into our dispatch center to say thanks and it was from this new gormet place. There was a donut with maple icing and bacon bits on it. euwwwwwwwwwww it kinda freaked me out! I keep my dessert and food, food separate! ugggggg


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JENNIFERLYNN76 6/13/2012 8:33AM

    I am so disgusted by this...ewwww!!!

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 6/13/2012 8:20AM


You know what's sad?

That thing is probably one of the healthier choices on the menu, at 510 calories, with only 18g of fat and 60g of sugar... (no information on the protein)

Compare with the "Chicken, Apple & Cranberry Garden Fresh Salad" with grilled chicken which has 520 calories, 26g of fat, and 35g of carbs (all sugar), and 35g protein.


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IMEMINE1 6/13/2012 7:27AM

    That's so sad. Instead of making something healthy they keep luring everyone in.

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JUST_ALICIA 6/13/2012 6:46AM

  You have got to be kidding and sadly yes, it will be ordered and eaten.

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NEW-CAZ 6/13/2012 2:48AM

    I depair emoticon emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 6/13/2012 2:47AM

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NUOVAELLE 6/13/2012 2:07AM

    Is this really ice cream with a bacon topping????
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I'd be really curious to see how many people would actually try it! And I really can't understand why they have put something so disgusting in their menu!

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TRACYZABELLE 6/13/2012 2:01AM

    Gee willikers!

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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 6/13/2012 12:53AM

    This is insane! YUCK!

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LJCANNON 6/12/2012 10:58PM

    emoticonIt really doesn't even shock me anymore.

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L*I*T*A* 6/12/2012 10:52PM

    wow so hard to believe???!!!!

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CBRINKLEY401 6/12/2012 10:48PM

    Looks like ice cream, chocolate syrup, caramel syrup, and bacon. Without the bacon, it would be tempting to me, but with bacon???? YUCK! sounds disgusting

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 6/12/2012 10:42PM

    I didn't follow the link but the whole idea is disgusting to me.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 6/12/2012 10:42PM

    I didn't follow the link but the whole idea is disgusting to me.

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HELEN_BRU 6/12/2012 10:24PM

    They must be kidding????

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GARDENSTAR 6/12/2012 8:44PM

    Regardless of whether or not you care about calories, that sounds really disgusting. yikes

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LGAR519 6/12/2012 7:00PM

    Who would eat something like that. Ack!

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When it rains it pours...

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Unfortunately when it does I am in trouble. We have been having some pretty torrential rain storms with heavy winds. I walked into my home office last week to start my day and I looked up at the ceiling and saw 3 huge water stains. I 'm like what the heck?

When you are a single women getting estimates is a scary thing. There are so many contractors out there that are unscrupulous and scams abound. Being a woman you are more than likely to get taken advantage of.

I have been in the mortgage industry for over 30 years and I have learned a thing or two but I still need to be aware.

You have to be informed and you have to do your homework.

1. Don't take the 1st estimate quote. Interview at least 3 contractors and get your estimates in writing. A proper estimate should include a list of the materials needed, how many hours the job will take and what the contractor charges per hour, and how long the estimate is good for. Do not be pressured into making a decision on the spot.

2. Find out if the contractor has any complaints against them. Contact your States Consumer Affairs Division and your local Better Business Bureau.

3. Ask for references and then follow through and call them.

4. Ask to for a copy of his Contractor's license.

5. Ask for a copy of his insurance. It's important that a contractor has adequate liability, disability, and Worker's Compensation insurance

6. Make sure your Contractor obtains a building permit. Do not have the permit in your name. The contractor should get the permit and have it in the contractor's name. This lets the codes enforcement office help you make sure the contractor is licensed, insured or bonded, AND that the contractor is following the building code.

7. Be aware of things that could possibly mean you are dealing with a scam artist:

The contractor has an out-of-state license plate, only a toll-free phone number,
or only a post office box for an address. You should only do business with a
local company that will be around to fix anything that goes wrong.

The contractorís truck does not have a company name on it.

The contractor can give you a good deal because he or she has materials left
over from another job. A good contractor knows how much material to buy and
will not have enough left over to do a job for someone else.

The contractor does not want to give you a written estimate or contract.

The contractor demands payment in cash.

The contractor wants you to pay for the entire job before work is finished.

8. Never pay more than 1/3 upfront to insure the work gets done and gets done properly.

9. Make sure you discuss "ground rules" with the contractor. "Ground rules" include preparatory work, when the work will begin and is expected to end, and how the work site will be maintained (how clean it will be left, removal of rubbish).

10. Job supervision. Determine who will supervise the job in order to ensure that the project is being done properly. Even if a foreman or the contractor is designated to supervise, you should keep a watchful eye on the contractor.

Find out if the person giving you the estimates does the work himself or contracts it out. You really want a company that uses his own crew. If he subs out then know that all subcontractors must maintain their own home improvement licenses. Electrical and plumbing work must be completed by licensed plumbers and electricians (check with the Department of Consumer Protection for information about plumbers and electricians).

Do your homework because this may be one of the most important things you will have to research!

Wish me luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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TRACYZABELLE 6/12/2012 5:45AM

    I replaced my roof by a friends brother a few years ago-- he did an awesome Job!! He is out of Toms River

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SEASONS__CHANGE 6/12/2012 12:09AM

    Sending good luck vibes your way, but from the looks of it, you're not going to need it. You know what you're doing and thanks for sharing the helpful tips for us to be aware of.

Keep us posted on how it goes.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 6/11/2012 11:36PM

    I hope that you were able to get a good contractor & things are fixed by now. Love ya

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YIWEN39 6/11/2012 10:55PM

    Good luck :-) Seems to me you're pretty well informed, so it should all go smoothly! Have a good day!

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MARYHOLMAN 6/11/2012 12:44PM

    I usually rely on a recommendation from a friend who has used the person before...


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LGAR519 6/11/2012 12:04PM

    Very good to know. Thanks.

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OLDERDANDRT 6/11/2012 11:41AM

    emoticon luck, my friend! I have tons of work needed done at my home and if the $ ever appears (haha) zi will have to be doing all that research, too! It's such a shame that such unscrupulous, nasty people take advantage anyway!! But they do and we must be wary!! So, best of luck that you find an honest guy who will give you an honest day's work for an honest day's pay!

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L*I*T*A* 6/11/2012 10:41AM

    great tips..........
have a great day...
blessings and hugs.........lita

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SECRETMUSIC 6/11/2012 8:07AM


And thanks for the clear list!

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CBRINKLEY401 6/11/2012 7:53AM

    If the contractor subcontracts any of this job out, make sure you get a release form (not sure what the legal term is) which states that it is the contractor's responsibility to pay the subcontractors. Otherwise, if the contractor takes your money and skips out on paying the subcontractors, they can sue you for the amount they are owed as well, making you in effect pay double for the job (or they can legally attach a lien to your property). Also good to demand to see proof that they have been paying the subcontractors before you give them another installment payment for the job.

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NEW-CAZ 6/11/2012 2:54AM

    wonnderful advice Yvonne, there are some nasty cowboy builder out there only too willing to take advantage and ruin not only your home but your life.
Thank you for posting!

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GLAMNGLOWDIVA 6/11/2012 1:03AM

    These are all great things to keep in mind, thanks for that. I know what you mean about being a single woman and having work done on your place. Good luck!

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1COUNTRY_GAL 6/10/2012 9:27PM

    Thank you so much for this useful sound sensible safe advice tips,if this ever happens or you need to hire a contractor for work or repairs.I wish you luck and this repair is easy on your pocket book.The price of a new roof is frightening,though we are going to need one soon. emoticonDiana emoticon

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HELEN_BRU 6/10/2012 9:24PM

    Good advice! Thanks.

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WILLOW49 6/10/2012 9:21PM

    Very good tips! Sure hope your work isn't too costly and you can get it done in a timely manner. We're so fortunate that our next door neighbor did so much work for us. He passed away 2 years ago; sure miss him.

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