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Quitting smoking is NOT like healthy living...

Sunday, March 27, 2011

Since this week is the two year anniversary of my quitting smoking, it has been on my mind a little bit. A former co-worker of mine (we loved to swap stories of our woes with weight) used to tell me "but you quit smoking, that is the hardest thing in the world - this should be easy!" I never felt that was true, but couldn't quite put a finger on it as to why.

I woke up this morning with the answer (for myself, anyway). Quitting smoking is like leaving a bad relationship. It may take a couple of tries, and it can be scary and painful and you may have longings for some time after you leave, but time heals all wounds and the former lover becomes more and more like a dream you once had. Now it is hard to imagine that I ever even smoked, and wow, were cigarettes a passionate love affair for 20+ years!

Healthy living, on the other hand is much more complex - like a marriage. It starts off with passion and zeal and excitement. Eating healthfully and working out make you feel alive and joyful, the world is bright and wonderful - love is in the air! Over time, the bloom of that new love fades and the relationship moves into a new place. I remember my first year of marriage and living together in a small apartment well (for one, it was only 3 years ago!). We learned all kinds of interesting things about each other and ourselves and at times it was frustrating. It also deepened our relationship in ways that when we were in the pre-wedding phase we could never have imagined.

When it comes to healthy living, I am at the beginning of a relationship with myself. I am in love with and passionate about doing things that are good for me. This time around, I am also committed to not breaking up and running away when things have lost a little of their magic. I know that means I have some learning and sharing to do, and that will probably - no, definitely - make me uncomfortable at times. I am committing myself to this relationship, to writing these blogs and getting back up when I fall down. If I can't commit to taking care of myself, who CAN I commit to in life? (More on this topic in the future!)

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CALLIKIA 3/30/2011 4:40PM

    Awesome analogy!

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ANEPANALIPTI 3/30/2011 2:54PM

    so well written what great insights loved it

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LASARRE 3/27/2011 3:58PM

    You are so right. I quit smoking Jan 1, 2010 and it was not nearly as hard as this lifestyle change as we call it. You hit the nail on the head!

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 3/27/2011 10:16AM

    Awesome! I never could express myself on this subject before. Congratulations on being a non-smoker, I smoked for 30 years and quit in 2009.


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SOULOFADANCER 3/27/2011 9:48AM

    O GOD nothing like these coomtments are easy!
Congrats on your healthy 2 yr no smoking anniversary!
Congrats on your weight loss!
Congrats on a commitment to living longer and stronger!
Think of it this way.
Your story helps support all the SP buddies.
It's a "pay it forward" sort of thing.
Thanks for being a SP buddy

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YELLOWDAHLIA 3/27/2011 9:34AM

    I guess it's different for everyone..for me I was able to "go healthy and lose weight" but seem to fail at giving up the cigarettes. I will keep trying though. Probably will go another round with the Chantix in the near future- it has worked better than all else for quitting smoking.

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DONNALIZ67 3/27/2011 9:02AM

    This is a really good analogy. Thanks for posting it - defnitely a good way of looking at things.

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And so it begins...

Sunday, January 03, 2010

I have lost weight several times in the last 15 years, and it has always been a private affair for me. Lots of charts tracking measurements and weight loss, lots of walking and sadly, a few missed meals in the meantime.

This year, I want to focus on changing my lifestyle (the old cliche!) - doing things that I can live with all the time, not just fast changes that go out the door once the weight is lost. I am already faced with a dilemma... Tuesday is my 2nd anniversary with my husband, and he would really like to go out to a nice dinner. I would love to go as well, but, I am worried that after only 3 days of changing eating habits I will get myself off track. Yep, I know, that sounds like a dieter talking...

I don't even know if anyone else can see this blog, or if it is more like a journal entry - anyway, if anyone has any insights on this, please share!

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TEMPEST272002 3/20/2011 5:26PM

    Happy Anniversary. My advice on making the healthy choice for dinner: order exactly what you want, but in a half order. Also, unless the potato is the best part of the meal for you - substitute it for salad or fruit. If you love dessert, share 1 piece with hubby. Have a glass of wine and enjoy every sip! See - a lovely, yummy dinner & you don't have to feel guilty at all.

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TINKSMOM1 1/3/2010 8:44AM

    happy anniversary! Nothing wrong with getting back on track for the new year! I have the same problem with eating out- I am so easily swayed by yummy food and salad bars with tempting but hard to track types of food..and lets not mention dessert at all! What I try to do, is pick a place in advance (not sure if you have reservations, or just planning to go to a favorite)-but most resturaunts have at least a menu on line now, some with nutritional values. I try to pick out at least 3 good choices, so I can find something I will feel like eating. We went to Ruby Tuesday new years eve (romantic huh?) and I knew I could have either a small steak, a chicken dish, or a specific salad. I picked side items that would work too. I did splurge on the salad bar (lots of hidden woopsies there), but only went once and settled for small amount of low fat ranch...Even if your going to a place not online, you can find a comparable resturant or look at the food search here to determine something close...It works for me. If its not possible, maybe being careful during the day and not worrying to much at dinner is your answer, opting for non fried, steamed, or grilled choices...What ever you do, Its your anniversary, so dont worry too much and enjoy your night! emoticon emoticon

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RAYLYONADIET 1/3/2010 8:34AM

    Best of luck with your Sparks journey. emoticon

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SAMMYLYNNE 1/3/2010 8:33AM

    Remeber you are not dieting. You are making healthy choices to lose weight and put you on a path you maintaing your weight loss. Go and have fun. Choose wisely from the menu. No alcohol, maybe a glass of wine. You can do it. emoticon

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BLUE97HARBOR 1/3/2010 8:33AM

    Sending warm thoughts your way today....

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NUTRON3 1/3/2010 8:27AM

    Consistency is the key.

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BOWLERGAL 1/3/2010 8:24AM

  I totally understand where you are coming from. I can't stick to anything, lol. But, I think the way that the Spark program works will really help. I like the idea of really concentrating on 3 things to get started instead of jumping in with both feet. Good luck!

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