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People derailing your Exercise plans!

Monday, August 06, 2012

Hi Everyone!

Hope Everyone had a great weekend! Well I am going to get on my rant and rave a little this am. Hope you guys don't mind. Here it goes. I work for a small family business. It is a husband & wife team. I have been here for almost 2 years. I mainly work in the office with the wife. The husband is usally out of the office tending to another business that they own.
Since I have been working out really hard completely change my way of eating, taking my vitamins everything in my power to stay on track she keeps wanting to derail my new way of being a healthier me! She has started bring in donuts, bagels, potatoe chips, cakes & cookies! Going out for lunch & bringing back pizza & wanting me to try EVERYTHING! I don't want these things! I plan out my meals a week in advance so I won't eat anything bad! She has a attitude if I don't want to eat her all of her fatting foods. A little bit about her. She is over weight & has been on all kinds of weight loss treatments. Shenhasa lost weight in the past only to regain everything back. She knows how important my workouts are to me. I bring in my gym bag everyday & change right before I get off work & head to the gym. She knows what time my group classes are at the gym & now she keeps asking me if I can work late over & over again! I have been very nice & keep telling her I will. But I do not have a happy look on my face! I really think she is trying to do this on purpose! She stays gone all day when I come in 9:00 & doesn't come back in the office till 3:00 I never go out for lunch I stay at work all day. By myself. She is very negative about everything which really brings me down & sometimes makes me nervous. She is really mean to customers & other employees. Like she is better than them. I feel really sorry for them. She tries to intimidate people which she does most of the time. I have been told by people that come in the office I am the only office girl that has been here this long. I guess she has run everybody else off. My husband really wants me to go part time or quit. He doesn't want to see me unhappy. I told her not long ago that my husband really wants me to go part time, she looks at me disappointed & said when I hired you it was Mon-Fri 9-3. I just don't know what to do anymore when she keeps asking me to work late when I dont want to! I also live about a hour away from work which puts me getting home a lot later after I go to the gym. I won't go into detail about other things I do for her that I don't get paid for that is not in my job description. I really think she is a very jealous person & not happy at all with her self so she makes other people feel bad. Any suggestions please?


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SWISSONE8 8/13/2012 3:11PM

  Probably all of the other comments are more in-line with what you should do. However, my (Pollyanna) reaction is to seek a happy solution. Instead of her trying to destroy your journey, could you possibly seek to take her with you. I would sit down and dialog about the current situation and get her to talk and see if there's an opportunity to have her become your health-wise pal. Offer to bring in healthy treats, go for a walk and share the "spark" that you have gotten. She is grouchy with customers and needs to feel superior...she is in an unhappy place that at least is partially due to the fuel she consumes and the current condition of her body ...she dominates others rather than herself. If you think the direct route won't work, just bring in those healthy treats and talk about how good swimming (or whatever) after work makes you feel

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GRANNYQUINN 8/7/2012 10:16AM

    She sounds toxic and controlling, if it were me , I would get my resume out there , she seems like a bully and perhaps a little jealous. It is a shame that you have to be a toxic environment everyday. From what I can see this position does match your happy disposition. Keep us posted. Hugs Karen

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LOLAINSC 8/7/2012 12:30AM

    I hate to give advice about situations that are very personal and where I am not the one who will pay the price or face the consequences. You are describing a rather toxic work environment, so the question is, are you getting paid enough or rewarded enough in other ways to compensate for swallowing this much daily poison? Only you can answer that question since you are the one with a horse in this race. If the answer is no, you have three options: (1) continue to smile and just gut it out because you can and you would rather not spend your time and effort job hunting and re-learning a different job, (2) look for a new job and make a conscious decision to embrace all the risks and hassles involved with that choice, or (3) stay put but take some assertive, well-planned steps to try to fix the problems, with the risk of possibly antagonizing her and eliciting more passive-aggressive retaliation--this choice will show whether she values you,or not.
However, I think it looks like your decision is already made and clearly stated between the lines of your Blog, just re-read what you have written.

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MELROSE13 8/6/2012 7:09PM

    I can't say much more than Amestardis and Pickie98 did..I agree with what both of them have said.
I for one quit a job that I started having too much stress at. It is not worth it. If your hubby is encouraging you to do so then maybe you should think about it. On other aspects of your work are you happy? The time that she is NOT there do you enjoy what you do? If so then I would definitely consider asking her for a sit down meeting and laying out your feelings. Be prepared that she may go off on you and fire you..that is always an outcome that could happen, and if you are willing to handle that chance then I surely would stand up to her in a very employee to boss manner.
Tell her that you were hired for 9-3 as she pointed out and at this time that is all the hours you can give, and point out again that your husband wants you to go part time but you committed to those hours, no less, no more!
And you can tell her that you have laid out an eating plan you are comfortable with and are doing it for your health that though you appreciate her generosity in bringing in the goodies that you are sorry you can not partake in them.
On any of the extra's...that is purely a choice you have to make..I have been in similar situations, working for a family business sometimes is very difficult, but remember you are a human being, a are not her servant you are an employee...don't ever let anyone treat you with less than the respect that you deserve!

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AMESTARDIS 8/6/2012 5:50PM

    I have A LOT to say in response to this.

1) You have been there almost 2 years and are left alone throughout the day- so you are clearly doing a great job : )

2) You have no reason to feel bad or guilty to say no to her. I might try something like- " Wow- the __________ looks so good. Your family is lucky to have you." When she pushes I would add something like "I appreciate it, but I have to stick to my ______." If this doesn't work- I would ask to speak with her and tell her that it makes you feel uncomfortable when she asks. Something like that.
3) Remind yourself that how she treats you and others- has nothing to do with you. How she treats others has nothing to do with your job performance. I know it is hard especially when she makes you nervous sometimes.
4) If you want to work part time- think it out and sit down with both of the bosses and talk to them. The hours for which you were hired do not matter if you need to change it. If you can stay full time- make it clear to BOTH of them that you are unable to stay late. Be firm.
5) She only has the power to frustrate or make you nervous- that you allow her to have over you.
6) ALL of this is easier said than done. LOL. BUT- these may be some things just to think about. It is hard to assert yourself, but you may have to.

Obviously, I do not have all of the details and you just may have wanted to vent and were not seeking advice- but I like to be helpful emoticon

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CANDOK1260 8/6/2012 5:24PM

    all i can do is offer a emoticon

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LDRICHEL 8/6/2012 2:00PM

    I have no idea what to do. On the one hand, you should be able to stand up for yourself. But it's so tricky with a job...

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I will definitely keep you in my prayers. You know, He's a lot wiser than I am with these sorts of things!

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PICKIE98 8/6/2012 1:14PM

    This is a very unhappy, extremely insecure woman.
She is ASKING you to stay late, not demanding;, she just said she expects you 9-3. She has answered your question for you. In a very polite way, I would just say, "I will not be able to stay longer than my scheduled shifts without a one week(Insert time frame here) notice.
"Family issues have come up and now I am not able to change my availability without being asked ahead of time. I really appreciate the extra hours, but now it is not possible."
If she gets angry, let her.. She wants a reaction so she has an excuse to yell and blame others for her anger, wherever it is actually coming from. In Sparks we learn to recognize emotional eaters,, she is a prime contender..
You are making her look and FEEL fat, lazy and useless. It is HER perception and yes, she is purposely attempting to sabotage your healthy ways.
If It was me, and I felt I needed to respond to her when she hauls the junk food in, I would just say I am no longer allowed to eat that stuff anymore,, it makes me sick. (I used to be able to eat that, but now I end up in the bathroom for hours if I even have one bite)I do not want to be sick and miss work.

Maybe you could make a special low fat, sugar or whatever, dessert and bring in a piece for her and ask her to taste test it for you to see if it is the right consistency or whatever.. maybe she will not feel like you are rejecting HER foods....

These are all suggestions, IMHO.

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Change your Exercise Routine

Wednesday, August 01, 2012

Hi Everyone!

Well I have done 2 swimming lessons. They have told me I would benefit more of having a private coach because all I need to work on is the techniques of swimming! I was so excited! I guess I put more pressure on myself. They told me my freestyle was perfect, just want me to work on speed. Swim as fast as I can for a lap with out stopping.(down one end & back) I didn't even know when I stared that was considered a lap. Ha ha I told you I was new to this swimming thing. I can not believe how much swimming has changed my body in such a short amount of time! I could only do 3 push ups at a time, now I can do up to 13 without stopping! I feel leaner than before. I am still doing other cardio as well though. My knee is feeling so much better. I just stayed off of it for 2 weeks. Slowly started back Monday, not pushing it. I am so thankful for this! Praise the Lord! Thank you for all the support & prayers as well. Lord I did need them! Get out if your comfort zone & try a exercise that you have never done before. I know it very scary to say the least. I only resorted to swimming to help heal my knee. But now my 2 days of swimming lessons & a day in the pool at home I really look forward to it! So give it a try! You might be surprised how your body will change & really find something you love to do other than your same workout. Have a great week! Happy Training! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MJ7DM33 8/1/2012 10:55PM

  I really needed to hear this !!! emoticon

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MELROSE13 8/1/2012 5:29PM

    This is great prep for your goal of a triathlon :) Way to go!!!!

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LDRICHEL 8/1/2012 4:42PM

    Seriously needed this right now. Thank you!

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LOLAINSC 8/1/2012 11:43AM

    Congratulations on your new adventure. I can't learn how to swim because I am so uncoordinated but my many attempts at trying and failing have shown me that swimming is a hard, total body workout--much more rigorous than the good swimmers make it look. But if it were easy, it probably wouldn't be included in Iron Man. When people say someone has a "swimmer's body" they mean darn great! Hope you are well-pleased with your "swimmer's body." May God bless your efforts with abundant success.

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Yea swimming!

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Well today was my 1st swimming lesson! It went actually very well. I was truely surprised when my coach said I was a good swimmer! I put a lot of pressure on myself when it comes to working out. I am very competitive & always want to be the best I can be. I am so glad I stepped out of my comfort zone. I was very apprehensive about today. But it was ok! I am healing a sore knee & getting a brand new workout to boot! I really want to do a Triathalon one of these days so that is another reason why I wanted to learn the proper form & breathing technique of swimming. My class is for 8 weeks & hopefully I will come out of it learning lots of new things & loving to swim as a regular part of my excercise routine! So if you are scared or out of your comfort zone it's ok! Try it you will be surprised there could be something out there that you truly love & didn't even know it! Everybody have a great weekend & good luck on your weigh in's on Saturday! Happy Training!
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CANDOK1260 8/1/2012 10:02AM

    that great swimming is a great workout

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LDRICHEL 7/28/2012 4:52PM

    Proud of you, babe! I start my water aerobics Monday!

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MENNOLY 7/27/2012 8:23AM

    emoticonGood luck on reaching your dreams

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AJB121299 7/26/2012 10:41PM

    good job

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Something New?

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Well I am going to try something new. Little nervous definetely out of my comfort zone. I signed up for swimming lessons. Those of you who have read my blogs before know about my knee problems. I know swimming is great excercise but I am scared. I think I could save myself if I really had to. I know my knees really need a break. I just hope I am getting a good enough workout compared to my running. I don't want to gain any of weight back that I have tried so hard to get off. My swimming lessons start next week. Sometimes I get so nervous in the pool trying to do laps that I freak out with my breathing. I just hope I don't embarrass myself in front of others in the pool. Ha ha I really want to know how to swimm the proper way. I would love to try a Triathalon & you definetely need to know how to swim for distance. This will also give me a break when I want to switch up my workout. That's what makes working-out more fun too! Stepping out of my comfort zone will hopefully give me the confidence to do other things. I hope everyone has a good rest of your week & good luck on your weigh in's on Saturday! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MENNOLY 7/20/2012 5:05PM

    emoticonGood Luck on getting to your goals. Another thing you can do for your knees is biking which you also need for your triathalon, emoticon

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LDRICHEL 7/19/2012 8:27PM

    Good for you for facing your fear! I know you will do well and love it!

I too fear swimming but have wondered if a triathlon is in my future. Can't wait to follow your journey with it. So inspiring!

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DANA564 7/19/2012 7:29PM

    Good for you! You'll do great and find swimming is great exercise! It works all the large muscles and burns many calories. I know how to swim but I don't like putting my face in the water. Maybe I'll venture back to the pool too...... emoticon

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BRENJET 7/19/2012 5:10PM

    You'll be great. Signing up was the first step...enjoy the water and know that you are on your way to conquering that triathlon! emoticon

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So frustrated right now!

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Ok here it is . I know I am going to rant and rave for a few minutes so bare with me. I am so frustrated! I have been putting everything into me losing weight. Working out really hard, taking my vitamins, totally changed my diet, trying to get more rest. My knees are starting to give me problems. They are very very sore. I have laid off running for about 3 days. That is my excercise of choice. Tried running yesterday on the treadmill & about 10 minutes into the run my left knee was killing me! I got off & went to the precor-stepper machine & finished out my workout. Not happy but did it. I didn't bother my knee. I know what some people say about runners. It's to hard on your body, knees ect. Someone that is not a runner and loves it as much as I do will never ever understand the love for running as I do. I think other runners feel the same way. I just don't feel like I get the same workout as I do as when I am running. I push myself just as hard with any other workout but just don't feel the same when I'm done. I have been running for almost 30 years. I just hope and pray my running is not over. I sit and cry about it. It is my everything! It gives me so much peace. It makes me a very happy person inside & out! Please keep me in your prayers that this will heal & running is not over for me.
I have so many things I want to do. I have just started swimming to practice for a triathalon.
I want to do some races that are coming up also. I know I have to give it a rest. I am so scared all the hard work I have put into loosing weight it is all going to creep back on! I thank everyone for their support & I love my Spark family! Have a good rest of your week! emoticon emoticon

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THISTIMEMYWAY 7/18/2012 12:27PM

    Hi! I am not sure how I got here. lol
I don't know what kind of injury you have. I've had knee injuries in the past that healed with the help of physiotherapists. It took time to heal. Now when I have a knee issue, I take omega 3's and try not to run or do high-impact aerobics every day...I take a day off in-between.
I hope your knees heal soon. I am loving running although I am slow and still running and walking.
Take care :)

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LDRICHEL 7/18/2012 10:00AM

    Oh honey!!! I want to cry thinking about never running again as well! You know, once I had a really fun time jumping on a trampoline and the next day, I literally could not walk because my knees were TORN up!

I actually went to an orthopedic doc and he took X-rays and, at that time, nothing was torn or wrong...he told me that this just happens to women as they get older...their cartilege gets softer in their knees. He prescribed ibuprofen every single day and said there was not much I could do about it.

Have you tried running with a knee brace (just a simple one you can pick up from a drugstore)? I run with a cheap little ankle brace and it seems to be helping a lot.

If it is bothering you, though...maybe you should go get some X-rays. What if it's a real injury that just needs some time to heal. It would suck to be sidelined but at least you'd know you could come back from it and run again.

The only thought that comforts me is that MOST running injuries are such that a person can recover from them and get back to running.

I'm so sorry for your pain. I know it's hard. Let me know how things turn out.

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DANA564 7/18/2012 9:50AM

    I'm so sorry you are having trouble with your knee. I know this has been going on for awhile. Injuries are a pain! I can identify with your comments on running. I do not feel I get the same workout on any other piece of equipment. I've been having problems with my hip flexor and I think at this point it is almost chronic. I want to run another half marathon but it is still bothering me. emoticonAlong with rest have you tried icing it and anti-inflammatories? Praying you heel quickly and are back to running and training very soon. emoticon

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