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Today is my 26th Birthday!!! Woo Hoo!!!!!

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Okay, so today I was thinking maybe I should write a blog because it is my birthday and I want to reflect next year on my birthday and see the real progress. As of today I have lost about 22lbs and I have been doing really well with being mindful of what I eat. I just can't wait for all of this to become habit and second nature to me. But I know that in time anything is possible!!!!! I have dreaded this birthday almost as much as I dreaded turning 25. It's like getting older is a beautiful blessing and I am more than happy to still be here. I guess what I dreaded about getting here is the responsibilities that come with different ages. It's like society norms out rank individual choice. For instance, when two teenagers decided that they love each other, have been together for a couple of years and they decide they want a baby. The first thing the opposers say is that they are too young to make such a decision. Surely, I'm not promoting teen pregnancy. I am simply implying that who knows if the young couple will stay together until they are old and gray, and if they will make amazing parents. The only thing that society judges them on is their age. It goes both ways though. Like in the case of getting older. If a 40 year old mother of pre-teens go to the nightclub every weekend in lieu of spending time with her children, she is despised by society. The critics will say that she is a bad mother and that she is too old to party every weekend. Age is playing a major part because if she was a 20 yr old then it would not be judge as harshly because it is expected depending on your age. What people don't see about that 40 yr old mother is that she spends every week night with her children, helping them with their homework, doing family game night, reading to them before they sleep and just being there. But because society has an obsession with age and place responsiblities on individual because of it, people are judge merely on what other people view them as.

I just want to turn an age and not feel like I have to have certain things ( house, husband and kids) just because most people my age have that. I want people to stop pretending that just because they are getting older means that they know the secrets to life. Or that somehow they are wiser because they have years over me. I have met alot of amazing people in my life and it had nothing to do with their age the wisdom they carried with them. People learn and absorb at different speeds, that's what helps us all connect. I have one life and I just want to live it to my expectations and not anyone else!!!!!

"It is not about how long you have lived on earth that makes you wise, it's about the lessons learned, the inspiring people and the amazing blessings from God that gives a person wisdom."-----Me

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PARKIE 10/21/2010 7:29AM

    Happy Birthday!!

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NELLBELLA26 10/20/2010 11:04AM

    Love this blog. Couldn't have said it better myself. When I turned 25 this past year, I felt like I should be further along in my life with regards to a career, owning a home, etc. But each person has their own journey and just because you turn a certain age doesn't mean you have to go and get or do the things that are expected of you.
Each person has to live their own life and not use this yardstick of age to measure how far along they have come. Throw away others expectations of you and make your own. emoticon

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Feeling Motivated!!!!!

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

I have never really thought about trying to lose weight as something that could just jump start all aspects of my life. It's like since I have been working out I have been feeling amazing and like I can do anything!!!! Granted I haven't lost much weight at this point but I am feeling more motivated than ever. I like many other people have tried over and over to lose weight with the occasional few lbs coming off here and there. But this time I really can see it. Not in the visual manner of seeing it but in the since that this time just feels right.
When I am at that gym its like I have so much time to think about my life. I think about what I have to do in great detail and it all seems easier, somehow. It's like the gym is becoming a place of mediation for me. A place where I can put everything in order, a place that feels like disney world (where dreams come true). I feel as though nothing else matters but what I want for myself and what I need. It is just becoming a place that I really get to focus on me and only me wholly!!!!! I am just loving the self motivation and feeling so proud of myself!!!!!!!! I CAN DO ANYTHING I SET MY MIND TO!!!!!!!! I WILL CONQUER THIS JOURNEY!!!!

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VEGA13705 8/29/2010 7:51PM

    Thanks for your inspirational thoughts. The gym is where it's happening.Starting is beginning the transformation . Becoming more of you by losing more of you. Prayers for your continued self discovery and loss of excess weight which hides the whole you. emoticon

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IUHRYTR 8/26/2010 5:43PM

    Be strong and always believe in yourself. Love your positive attitude. -- Lou

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CBARRETT10 8/25/2010 5:21PM

  As Jayway stated there may be years apart in our ages but we are taking the same journey and that's to a healthier lifestyle!! Continue to focus on the goal and good luck!

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JAYWAY 8/25/2010 12:46PM



There are no failures when you take one day at a time. Make each new day an opportunity for a new beginning and move on.
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Just Blogging

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

I told myself that in order to stay focused on my goals at hand, I will right whenever I sign in to SP. I figure that just by logging in doesn't always have the affect that I need, but writing something could be the difference between success and failure for me. I have been doing good with my food choices as well as being cautious with my portion sizes. I am just so proud of myself. It's like I know now that I can do this with self control and a conscious mind about what my body needs and not wants. I am even proud that I am blogging now. I AM JUST VERY PROUD OF ME!!!!!! YAY FOR ME!!!!!!!! I DESERVE THIS AND I CAN DO THIS!!!!!


A Petty Lie Turned Bad

Monday, August 16, 2010

I know that SP is about weight but there are so many other life issues that affect our weight like RELATIONSHIPS!!!! I'm not just talking about relationships but also friendships. I have been recently seeing this guy that I met through a friend. What I mean by seeing is that we go out on dates, talk on the phone and have been seeing each other a lot lately. ( like 2-4 days out of the week). We have been only going out for a month but I really like him and he seems to like me a lot. So now for the LIE: I met his sister last week and we were talking and she told me that he was 23 or 24 years old, ( he told me when we first met that he was 25). So when his sister left I asked him how old he was and told him what his sister told me about his age. He told me that she was just lying and that he was in fact 25 and that there was no reason that he would lie about that and even asked if I wanted to talk to another member of his family to prove that he was telling the truth and not his sister. Of course, I said no because I believed him. Then yesterday we were on the phone when he was sleepy and he ended up talking about his birthday that is coming up next month and said that he was turning 25. I instantly got angry!!!! Let's be clear I did not get mad at the fact that he told such a petty lie in the beginning, I was angry because when his sister told me his real age and I confronted him about it HE LIED TO KEEP THE PETTY LIE GOING!!!!! WHAT IS A YEAR DIFFERENCE IN AGE? NOTHING!!!! The reason that I am upset is because when he was convincing me that his sister was lying and not him I really believed him. I feel if you could look someone in the face and telling them a PETTY LIE then what happens when the STAKES ARE HIGHER AND WE ARE TOGETHER, WOULD HE CHOOSE THE LATTER? I DON'T THINK THAT HE WOULD SO I HAVE TO MOVE ON. WHAT DO YOU THINK?

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JIPURVIANCE 9/24/2010 4:42PM

  i would move on... i have a no go policy for liars! JMO

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CHANDLER031 8/17/2010 1:02PM

  Hi My Sister, first , I would like to applaud your beautiful efforts as it pertains to your wellness journey, you are becoming the fit DIVA that you envisioned, God's speed to you on your journey. Now, I would like to give you a little male's perspective on your new beau. First, I would say that you two have been only ''DATING'' for a month, in my experience, it takes a little longer than a month to really know someone, there are so many varibles, as my mom always told me, ''Take your time to get to know someone'', and keep a lock on those fluttering emotions, I know that it seems sweet now, but lets see how things play out before we say that we are liking someone, and I know that he is feeling me, also...TAKE YOUR TIME!!!!!, and as for the age thingy, it could be an honest mistake, I mean it was only off by one year, I sometimes forget my age, but its always off by one year, if he was off by 5-10 years, then it would be cause for concern, and who amongst us have never told a petty lie, look, I am not telling you to completly disregard the situation, but if we all took each petty lie for what it is, then there would be no relationships, like when my woman askes me if she looks fat, hmmmmmm, I am sure that you get the message, or when I ask my woman, if my receding hairline looks ok, we all tend to fudge the truth just as bit, my point to you is that if you just take your time and keep a harness on those ''LIKE'' emotions, then you would not be so upset, because in such a short time, your heart has become involved, hey, I understand that we all want to be loved, lonliness is a terrible feeling, we all have been there, as a man, I cannot begin to tell you how a man sums up a woman's lonliness, so, he may see things completly opposite from you, my sister, I am not trying to tell you what to do, and PLEASE, PLEASE , PLEASE be wary of dating advice that you will receive on this site and from friends, for, we are not privy to all of the information, but , you being an adult, do whats best for you, whenever you seek advice from outside sources, you may be getting advice from others who have been scorned, hurt, thus the information may be tainted just a bit, we tend to give advice based upon what we have been through, and not cleary thinking it out, as I close, the hardest thing in the world to accomplish is finding someone that can deal with all of the stuff that ''WE'' bring to the table, we all bring baggage, if you truly can say that you have found the one that you can deal with day in day out, someone that can hang in there when you are tripping, someone that can add to your life, mentally, physically, emotionally, someone that is spiritually grounded, when you can truly say and mean those things, then you have found what you have been seeking, but that takes time and getting to know a person, I pray you peace and much love as you carry forward with or without him

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MINIDRIVER63 8/16/2010 1:27PM

    I don't know how old I am unless I do the math. I just don't think about it that much to say "I'm 46" without double-checking. And even when I do, I sometimes think, "2010-1963 = 47" and say "47" without remembering I won't be 47 until Thanksgiving. I certainly don't know my sister's age off the top of my head without doing the math and double-checking the month.

So perhaps it isn't a lie, just not something he thinks about constantly. Are you older than he is? Perhaps he thought he was being tactful "rounding up".

If he was off by 10 years, I'd be a lot more concerned. But off by a month? That doesn't sound like a lie to me, just rounding off.

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BEATRICEBUNNY 8/16/2010 11:24AM

    I agree with you. Little lie=big lie. He doesn't value honesty, and it doesn't sound like he values your trust. Move on before you're even more attached.

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TIKITAMI 8/16/2010 11:03AM

The day after my husband's birthdays he always says he's a year older. Drives me up the wall. He just laughs and says well I'll be that old on my next birthday so it's the same thing. Other than that he keeps trying to age us faster than I would like he's a pretty amazing guy.

Seeing his sister didn't know if he was 23 or 24 I wouldn't put much stalk in her comments and give the guy a break.

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The TRUTH Hide Behind LIES!!!!!

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

There is place inside of us all where secrets are kept. It is the place where we are our most vulnerable. This place is so hidden from others and some times ourselves because this is the place where the TRUTH Lives. The truth about who we really are, want we really want, why we haven't gotten what we want, what are fears are. So why is the truth so hidden? It hides because those who dare to acknowledge it within theirselves have to unmask it to the world. So instead of unmasking it and have the whole world judge you as you have already judged yourself, you hide it and tell yourself a LIE!! So why does a lie feel better than the truth? Oh, I get it! It feels better because the world dictates what is true about a person and what their truths should be. So people never get to express themselves outside of what is deem acceptable by others. Have we become so lost in what others expect for our lives that we no longer live our own lives but instead become a reflection of what the world wants to see. Celebrities do it all the time and when we find out about the true scandals of their lives we are outraged and shocked. Why? Because they are actually living behind the lights and camera. I am just so tired of living my life according to others standards!! It is like everything we do in life have rules that govern it. Even from the most personal things like who you are married to. (The rules of marriage: Get one partner, be with only them, buy a home, have children, etc.......) Then down the line when you and the person have changed and one person no longer wants to be with the other person because they no longer love them but you have kids, the majority of society tells that person to stick in there and for reasons like the children. The truth is that the person who decide to stay even though they didn't want to, have let the world tell him the "right" thing to do, even though it goes against their own truth. Now how does doing things that others think right for you be better than your own truth? Are we so afraid of what others think about us and our lives that we abandoned our own truths at the sight of being outcast? I JUST WANT TO BE FREE TO BE ME AND NOT WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT WHAT I SHOULD OR SHOULDN'T BE!!!!!!! I WANT US ALL TO LOOK AT THAT SECRET PLACE WHERE THE TRUTH LIVES AND NOT BE AFRAID TO STAND JUDGEMENT FOR WHAT YOUR TRUTHS ARE!!!!! EMBRACE, ACKNOWLEDGE AND FREE YOURSELF!!!!! BE WHO YOU ARE AND NOT A REFLECTION OF OTHERS!!!!!!

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