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I do not stand for ANY discrimination!

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

If you are judgmental, I have a problem with you. I do not stand for any type of discrimination.

Tonight a guy, N, friend of mine tried giving plasma. Another friend, H, which was there asked to talk to a staff member privately. After H talked to them, N could not donate because was bisexual.

I have a major issue with for many reasons.

He has never had sex with any other guy. Even if he did, it wouldn't matter. Did you know that more heterosexual individuals contract AIDS than homosexual? It's a statistic, making it a fact.

Besides I feel she think any orientation besides heterosexual is wrong. She is strong believer in God and Jesus. That is great. But, also, I feel she thinks she can judge people. No, you cannot. That is God's job.

If I was to put all that aside, she broke MY confidence and trust. I told her that my friend was bisexual months ago in confidence.

When N texted me about this tonight, my stomach sank. Sometimes you don't need to be there to know. You just know. I am sick to my stomach. I feel so bad for N. He doesn't deserve this treatment when all he has been nice to her.

So, let's repeat it. I do NOT stand for any kind of discrimination and nor should YOU. People that are open about their orientation deal with this crap everyday. It's crap! It's crap that right now many loving couples have to fight to get married.

Some debate that it says in the Bible it's wrong. Where? I'd love someone to show where it says in the Bible that we are to judge others. No, God will come one day and judge the heavens and hells. I, honestly, believe that God wants us to be decent and good people. Isn't that is what it is about?

Some of my good friends have a different orientation than me. I cannot imagine not having them in my life just because I was so ignorant and could not accept other people's difference.

Thank God I am not like that. Thank God my parents taught me better. Tonight I talked to my mom about it and I like how she put it best. It is like someone saying they can't be friends with me because I have blue eyes. How would YOU feel?

And, if you are still reading this and disagree with me. Fine. Do ME a favor. Unfriend me. Because I don't want to be YOUR friend. And, hit that red X in the upper corner.

  
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SUECHRIS50 3/2/2012 9:53PM

    I also have gay,trans or bi friends and family...I love them for who they are!Not for what they do,or who they choose to love..I also stand up for them..I had a friend that said if I didnt give up my "different" friends,she would denounce me as a friend!!!!GOOD for you for staying real,you are a true friend!!

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RUNNER12COM 3/2/2012 9:41PM

    You're a stand-up friend, and I think that is every kind of awesome.

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SCHOOLNURSE86 2/26/2012 10:24AM

    I so admire your support of your friend! The one thing I would very respectfully suggest is that you reconsider unfriending people who don't agree with you on this topic, but that really is up to you.

Tolerance has to come from both sides, or we end up divided, no middle. I pray your friend finds peace :).

I'm a devout Catholic, and practice my faith. If I unfriended everyone who opposes (and in many cases despises) my faith...I'd be a lonely girl. I choose to focus on what unites us, not what divides us.

My hot topic is abortion (don't worry, I won't go there!!!)...but I have many pro-choice friends. There are so many other things we can focus on and talk about.

"Preach the Gospel daily, use words when needed." St. Francis of Assisi


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OPTIMIST1948 2/22/2012 8:39AM

    Judgemental is fine (ChrissyCurry is right. YOU are being judgmental with this post). However, what you DO with that judgement is where right and wrong come in. The fact that a friend betrayed a trust, that is WRONG.

A very good friend of mine is very religious. I am not gay, but I have friends and family members who are. I avoid discussing their lives so as not to make my friend uncomfortable, because of how I ASSUME she feels. Imagine my surprise when she rejoices to me that she has been invited to play piano at another gay friend's marriage. I tell her I'm so surprised she feels that way because of her religion, she says "There's too much love in the world. If its wrong, then its up to God to sort it out in the hereafter."

Amen.

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JTAYLOR2011 2/22/2012 8:25AM

    Way to support your friend! It's all about the love...

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EJOY-EVELYN 2/22/2012 1:12AM

    Through Christianity, all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God (Rom 3:23). When Moses and the Israelites left Egypt, they became disobedient to God (with Godís conditional covenant) -- the people continually murmured, grumbled, and complained . . . this too, is sinful behavior. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone (John 8:7). There are many passages like Isaiah 59 that teach that sin -- any sin -- separates us from God.

The biggest command Christians should live for is to love our Lord God with all our heart, soul, and mind, and love our neighbor as ourselves. (Matt 22:37-39) God doesnít make mistakes and I believe there is a place for all of us to work together to share in the good news and salvation he offers.

I would feel I failed my friend terribly if something I said in error or confidence were to cause damage to their quality of life. I hope the day will come when we can live without hate for any of Godís children, whether we be straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgendered. Ė A Catalyst for Inclusive Community.

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KKINNEA 2/21/2012 11:52PM

    Agree

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1CRAZYDOG 2/21/2012 10:45PM

    Well I am glad at least that H didn't break your confidence. But blatant discrimination of any kind doesn't set well at all with me either. I'm with you on that one. It really is totally sad that there are those out there who feel superior (at least that how I see being judgmental ... you feel superior) to others.

Hope the rest of your day was better. If it's any consolation today was definitely not a good one for me either. But this isn't about me.

HUGS and hope tomorrow is a brighter day.

Barb

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THECRAZYMANGO 2/21/2012 10:24PM

    I just wanted to let everyone know that I talked to H. She did not break my confidence nor talked to the staff member which is good. With that said, I still stand by what I said about orientation equality.

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CRISSYCURRY 2/21/2012 9:41PM

    John 7:24 - these are Jesus's words: "Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment."
Also read 1 Corinthians 5 & 6, the entire chapters.

Yes, the Bible does say that we aren't to judge others but it also makes exceptions. We are to judge based on righteous judgment. Matter of fact, the Bible tells us not to associate with a "so-called brother" in Christ if he is living an immoral life, even to go so far as to kick him out of the church. See 1 Corinthians 5, the whole chapter

We all make judgments every day, about who we associate with, what to wear, what to eat, who we date, the list goes on and on.
Not to be rude or anything, but don't you think you are doing the same thing with this girl, H, that she is doing with your friend N? Can you see that?? You are saying that she's judgmental but YOU are judging HER as well. I'm not saying what she did was right. If you told her something in confidence, then she has no business repeating it. But it's HER RIGHT to feel how she feels, just like it's YOUR RIGHT to feel how you feel. Why judge her for HER feelings??

I am a believer in Jesus, a Christian. I do not "discriminate" against other people. However, the Bible does teach that certain things are wrong. And yes I know Jesus Himself hung out with immoral people but it was to CHANGE them, SAVE them, to bring them from darkness to the light. He didn't become one of them, He didn't excuse their behavior. He even told the woman who was accused of adultery to go and sin no more!!

There's so much more than what I can post here. I'm definitely not going to get into a debate of homosexuality versus heterosexuality and all that. I just wanted to say that each person is entitled to his/her opinion, just like you are. Not every person is going to agree with your viewpoints 100% of the time, and if you don't want to be "friends" with someone just because they don't share your point of view, that is your right and I won't judge you for it. So I did what you asked by "unfriending" you but felt like I needed to respond. You are free to unfriend me as well.

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PURPLESPEDCOW 2/21/2012 9:25PM

    Have you seen the commercial with people wearing t-shirts that say "I will not stand for ______________" and fill in the blank with words like discrimination, bigotry, insensitivity, you get the idea and at the end of the commercial they all sit down.
I totally agree with you the H had no reason to say anything about N because all blood donations are routinely screened now for all sorts of things. I can't donate because I lived in Europe in the 80's and there might be a chance that I came in contact with mad cow disease. I am sorry you were hurt by a friend betraying your confidence.

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NATPLUMMER 2/21/2012 9:20PM

    Wow! That sucks!! I'm with you. That is totally not right.

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SHERYLDS 2/21/2012 8:58PM

    it is sad that discrimination runs rampant ...
even with all the progress we've made in that area.

But ALL medical donations of ANY kind from ANYONE
should be screened. First because not everyone even knows if they have a disease, because they don't get tested ...because they are afraid to find out. And second, because people lie.

Hope you are still enjoying your training.

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TLRANEL 2/21/2012 8:58PM

    emoticon I agree with you 100%. I abhor discrimination and judgment. Unless you are a judge in a court of law, you are not to judge. I was also raised to believe this is God's job, and I think he can do a much better job of it than any human. Besides that, I was also taught to follow Jesus' example and love others. There are no disclaimers on that in the Bible. Love others, treat them the way you want to be treated. It's simple, really. Not sure why it's so difficult for some to grasp.

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WOLFSPIRITMOM 2/21/2012 8:46PM

    I agree, I don't judge, let people be who they are.

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New Trainer, Day 1

Monday, February 20, 2012

In case you were wondering...

My new trainer is pretty awesome! She gave me lots of praise and no insults. In fact, there was a part that I could tell I wasn't doing it quite right. When she gave me feedback and I was able to do it better, she smiled. Which, in turn, made me feel good about me. emoticon

My last trainer was in favor of 20 reps. When I lift, I tend to stick to 3 set of 12. My new trainer had me do sets of 12.

I even have achievable homework assignment.

I really like the feedback she gave me about my posture. My back has been hurting lastly and not sure why. Kinda suspected posture issues but it's not like I can walk next to a mirror and figure it out myself.

I have a good feeling about this.. sometimes you just know that this is just way better.

..so now you know about my new trainer.

  
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GODDESSOFHOME 2/24/2012 8:53PM

    Sounds good!

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LISAINMS 2/21/2012 5:29PM

    Yesss! So glad the new trainer is a better fit for you. He had you doing 20 reps? 8-12 is standard training. If you are doing 20 you are not lifting enough.
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FIREFLUTTERFLY 2/21/2012 12:50PM

    I am so glad you have found a trainer that is good! I hope she continues to rock!!!

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ERIKA05 2/21/2012 10:34AM

    I'm so glad that it's working out better with the new trainer. This is exactly the feedback you *should* be getting - isn't it SO rewarding when you feel like your form, posture, etc. are getting better?
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Yay!

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LEAHOBI 2/21/2012 3:08AM

    Woohoo- glad you found someone you like :)

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PAWSINAZ 2/20/2012 10:44PM

    Good trainers are hard too find!!! emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 2/20/2012 9:50PM

  Hi Savannah.........
emoticon!!! Switching trainers was the right decision. She sounds much more compatible. You should be able to learn from her in a way that is NOT stressful and you can pick up tips to use with your own students. A WIN-WIN!!!

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JUSTBIRDY 2/20/2012 8:52PM

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MYLADY4 2/20/2012 8:50PM

    That's so AWESOME. Hope she kicks your butt though (haha).

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GETSTRONGRRR 2/20/2012 8:38PM

    Great news....trainers are supposed to make sure you do things right, to push you beyond what you could do on your own, and offer infinite encouragement....sounds like you found the right one!

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JENNYDJENNY 2/20/2012 8:23PM

    Sounds AMAZING !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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1CRAZYDOG 2/20/2012 8:10PM

    Wow! Sounds like you clicked with her. WONDERFUL! So happy for you. You deserve that.

Here's to success!

HUGS!

Barb

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LUCYLU221 2/20/2012 7:41PM

    I am very happy to hear that you enjoy your new trainer. I hope things continue in the right direction for you.



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XRSIZE18 2/20/2012 7:20PM

    Oh, I'm so happy for you! You're on the road to maintenance and positive reinforcement! Out with the negative and in with the positive!

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NATPLUMMER 2/20/2012 6:44PM

    YAY!!

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SHERYLDS 2/20/2012 6:29PM

    sounds like you got yourself a good trainer and a great role model....2 birds with one stone. great

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PINKBEANBOO 2/20/2012 5:59PM

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Sounds like you guys are on the same page!

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Defining Motivation

Saturday, February 18, 2012

Motivation is key. Without it our workouts don't get done. With it, we reach our goals with grace. So how do we get motivated and stay motivated. Everyone is a little different.

Take me for example. In the beginning, my motivation to work is see that number on the scale go down. Now, I don't care so much about that but rather how I feel after I consistently work out. I feel less stressed and have less depression episodes.

Putting that aside, the gym motivates me which is crazy because I need motivation to get to the gym. Right?

Well, I work at a local Y. Members really motivate and inspire me. They come in everyday after work before going home to their families. They give it their all after a hard day of work. Sometimes it is close to 2 hours.

Wait, did I say inspire? What exactly does inspire mean anyhow? People constantly tell me this. Or people say, "If you can do it, maybe I can, too."

But, what does the word inspire actually mean?

According to dictionary.com:

in∑spire   [in-spahyuhr]
1. to fill with an animating, quickening, or exalting influence: His courage inspired his followers.
2. to produce or arouse (a feeling, thought, etc.): to inspire confidence in others.
3. to fill or affect with a specified feeling, thought, etc.: to inspire a person with distrust.
4. to influence or impel: Competition inspired her to greater efforts.
5. to animate, as an influence, feeling, thought, or the like, does: They were inspired by a belief in a better future.

So, basically I motivate others to work out and change their healthy lifestyle? Awesome!

Even friends that do not need to change their lifestyle, apparently I inspire them as well. I wonder to do what... to reach for the stars?

What does inspire or motivate mean to you?

  
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XRSIZE18 2/20/2012 1:03AM

    This is great. I think my biggest motivation right now is to inspire people to change their lives, too! You've already been voted a SP motivator, so it just goes to show you how much you DO inspire people. Thanks for spreading your spark!

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PATRICIAANN46 2/19/2012 2:02PM

  Hi Savannah........
Great Blog!!! Very well said.......
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"What does inspire or motivate mean to me?" When I hear stories like yours, I cannot help but feel inspired and motivated. You are a real person with a real story of how you overcame so much to get to where you are today. YOU inspire and motivate me.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/19/2012 9:07AM

    You said it all beautifully!!!!!! I'm glad to see that you DO motivate and inspire, because, my dear, YOU DO!!! And good for you.

Proud of you and all you've accomplished.

I have to agree with you for sure. Initially the motivation was to see that # on the scale move ever downward. NOW being in maintenance, it is exactly what you say . . . that feeling after putting effort into a workout . . . proud, exhilerated, POOPED, happy and just plain good!

HUGS!
Barb

Keep that spark lit.

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EJOY-EVELYN 2/19/2012 12:25AM

    What a great read!

I find inspirational through individuals who show a true and sincere care to influence my thoughts, words and deeds for the better. Even when the blunt truth hurts, it can be a major motivator when presented with kindness. This may be done through a powerful writing or by simply being a great role model.

My greatest inspiration and motivation come from the inspired word of God and how God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit (with a host of angels and saints), has an active role in my life.

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Bring on the Marathon.. in say 5 months!

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

I know some people do not believe in God. But, I believe in God. Sometimes He helps us in life but we don't give thanks to him. But, why not?

Anyhow, onto my simple story.

In the last week, I have been struggling with overtraining symptoms. I really want to train for my first full marathon but I was running into obstacles. Literally. When I finally had it all figured out, it gets changed.

That happened today.

I am supposed to co-lead step aerobics. Today, I got pulled out of my step aerobics lab to help assess the freshmen's fitness levels. Granted, not my passion.

But, it solves the issue of training. I can do take some time to rest and than train hard core for my half and full marathons.

In addition to this, I want to say: Happy Valentine's Day.

Before you groan, yes, YOU! I want you to take this special day and do something nice for YOU. How often do you do that? This may mean taking 10 minutes. Or getting a massage. Or getting yourself your flowers.

In fact, that is what I did. I don't need a guy to buy ME flowers. I am special and know it. I will celebrate it with myself. A guy does not deem my value. I do.

Because V-day sometimes brings us down, I decided to buy roses for a couple friends. If no other Valentine's Day tomorrow they will know they ARE special! Today I gave them the flowers and were able to make their day happy. It was a gift for me in itself.

So, in summary, I am back to training and do something nice for YOU! You are special!

  
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MYLADY4 2/14/2012 10:27PM

    Good for you on realizing that no man can determine your happiness. That was also really nice of you to give friends flowers. I am sure they appreciated it.

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KKINNEA 2/14/2012 11:58AM

    Nice!! Love it.

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NATPLUMMER 2/14/2012 11:42AM

    Glad it's working out for your marathon training.
You are very special!!
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1CRAZYDOG 2/14/2012 9:44AM

    He does open windows when it seems the doors have been shut!!

HUGS!

Barb

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EJOY-EVELYN 2/14/2012 1:18AM

    So glad to hear things are coming together and that your faith and joy for your active role in life can truly make a difference. While we can appreciate others in our lives, I agree that being dependent on them for our joy is not a requirement, but a bonus and blessing when an element of joy is enjoyed. Happy Valentine's Day, dear! I already strive to take at least 15 minutes out of my day to do something uplifting just for me. WooHoo!

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TYKXBOY 2/14/2012 12:58AM

    Things happens for a reason. Good luck with your training. You'll do great.
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GETFIT2LIVE 2/14/2012 12:38AM

    Hurray for the solution to the overtraining, even if it's not doing something that is your favorite! Happy Valentine's Day to you, too; I'm glad you are doing something that brings joy to you. You deserve joy, because you bring it to others.

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Get Lucky HM Training Bump

Sunday, February 12, 2012

I really do have some of the best Y members at my work. Let me tell you about one of them.

He is mid-50s and has a girl friend in Ohio. In fact, he is all sad that they haven't been able to Skype. Honestly, it's kinda cute. Especially since he's like 'I don't care.' Yeah, right. That is why you are grumpy about it, lol. Anyhow, nearly every time he comes in we talk about his girlfriend, and running. In fact, last spring when I was training for my first half marathon he gave me advice nearly every week. It was nice to talk out my anxieties.

Well, I have a half marathon coming up. It is on March 17th, St. Patrick's Day. That is about a month. I am nervous. Last week, my longest run was 6 miles. And, than I had to take a week due to overtraining. So, I have enough time to train for it.

Anyhow, I didn't notice I was nervous and anxious about it until this member asked about it. He calmed me with reminding me that I could always walk. Yes, yes, I could.

I am trying to remember my last half marathon. I walked more than I wanted to and my time was 3:05. I can do this. Also, during my training last time, I had to have a break about this time so maybe my body needs a mid-point break.

Also, I am back up to 161.8 from 160.4 yesterday. This morning I told my scale "You lie." I literally said it out loud and put away. Considering about putting it away for my training. That means no scale until June 16th. Not sure if I can do that!

  
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KKINNEA 2/14/2012 12:14PM

    I think it's smart to ditch the scale in this case.

What pace are you looking to hold for Get Lucky? My marathon LSD training pace (until I go to training class this week and get told differently :]) is 11:45 mins/mile. If you want to hold around that, let's definitely plan to get together and run together - I'll be happy to pace you!

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PATRICIAANN46 2/13/2012 6:03PM

  Hi Savannah........
You are at a stage in your fitness and training now, that you know how to listen to your body. You will know what to do to make sure it is working in a healthy way.
You are also building muscle which weighs more.......I would hide the scale until you are finished with the marathon.
Take care.
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EJOY-EVELYN 2/12/2012 10:01PM

    I have great confidence that it will all come together because you'll adjust accordingly for just where you need to be. Hope you can find some joy along the way to that "eye on the prize."

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SEAJESS 2/12/2012 5:31PM

    Hey, girlfriend, I KNOW you can do it if you keep your eyes on the prize ~ finishing with enjoyment ~ and don't let desire cause you to push yourself beyond sensible limits.

And I would totally support you in putting the scale away. An experienced Spark runner told me it was not realistic to expect to lose weight while training for a (half or) marathon. I have actually gained a few pounds. Other reading I've done on the subject encourages runners to lose weight BEFORE beginning training (just because it's more efficient to be moving a lighter body) but says forget about trying to do that when you're training. You need the nutrition (as well as the sleep) components as much as the miles.

So as long as you are getting the balance and level of nutrients you need, the scale is irrelevant. Why should we look at it if it makes us feel rotten?

For someone on her first go round I sure do have alot of opinions!

Including that you will ROCK your half! (Oh yes you will!)


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NATPLUMMER 2/12/2012 4:24PM

    You'll do great on the half...and yes, you can walk.
I'd banish that scale for a while if I were you.

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MYLADY4 2/12/2012 2:11PM

    Yep, my thought exactly about the 1/2. I can always walk but you can do it.


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LOOOKINGOOD 2/12/2012 2:05PM

    You can do it! Remember how AWESOME that finish line looks, remember that last push of energy to run it in!!! You can do this!!!!!

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1CRAZYDOG 2/12/2012 1:01PM

    Awwww . . . reminds me of when Jason lived in NY and I in IL. There was no skype back then! Telephone calls at least once/day!

As SHERYL says, nothing is written in stone! Go with the flow. If you need to walk, walk!

As for the scale, well . . . you know the drill!

HUGS!
Barb

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SHERYLDS 2/12/2012 11:57AM

    Nothing is written in stone.... do what you need to do.
SO PROUD OF YOU MY FRIEND.


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