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Women's Self Worth

Tuesday, February 07, 2012

In recent months, I have encountered a handful of women, some my friends, that seem to put high value on what guys think about them.

More specifically, I have had a conversation with a friend. She made a comment that as long as my boyfriend is happy with me. I asked her, "What about you? Are you happy with yourself?" She avoided the answer.

This is not just one girl either. I have heard it over and over. Why can't us women like us because we are awesome? Why do we need a man to build ourselves up? Isn't that setting ourselves up for failure?

After that conversation with my friend, I walked away appreciating that I don't need a guy to make me happy with me. It helped me realize I am happy with me. I may not be perfect but for the most part I am pretty darn happy with me.

It also helped me appreciate the guy in my life. He isn't my boyfriend but he's more of than just a friend. That is a long story for another time. Anyhow, I appreciate how much he likes me no matter what size I am. He just wants me to be happy with me. As he explains it, when I am proud of me and feeling good about me, I have a twinkle in my eye. It is when I gain weight is when I lose the twinkle. He doesn't care if I gain weight but does care about my happiness. In fact, the other night we hung out and I mentioned maybe I shouldn't care about gaining weight back and that is when we had this conversation.

Anyhow, my point is, women, be happy with yourself! You are amazing. Now, repeat those words.

You.
Are.
Amazing.
Sexy.
Beautiful.
Smart.
Strong.

Now believe it. Because you are!

Now, do something today that makes you feel like a rock star. For me, it's running. For others, it's lifting a new weight in the weight room. Or maybe it is trying something new.

Whatever makes YOU feel like a rockstar, do it!

  
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CH0718 2/8/2012 3:05PM

    LOVE this! You nailed it. You have amazing perspective.

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LISAINMS 2/8/2012 1:32PM

    How did you become so wise at such a young age? You picked up a healthy self-esteem somewhere along your journey! You are amazing, sexy, beautiful, smart, strong AND a total rock star!
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PATRICIAANN46 2/7/2012 8:54PM

  Hi Savannah........

You are SO WISE FOR SOMEONE SO YOUNG!!!!! With what you have learned over the past year, you can train both physically and mentally. What a plus!!! emoticon

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GETFIT2LIVE 2/7/2012 6:16PM

    So very true--we need to find our worth and value in who we are, not in what others think of us, the number on the scale, or the size of our clothes.

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MYLADY4 2/7/2012 2:50PM

    That's what I try to tell my daughter all the time. Don't ever let a man determine your happiness or rely on them to make you happy. Guess what, it's working.

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BSTAKINGACTION 2/7/2012 1:22PM

    You're so sweet! emoticon

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KKINNEA 2/7/2012 11:46AM

    Agree!!!

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BAILEYS7OF9 2/7/2012 11:36AM

    right on!!! Those women need confidence builders and they are looking in the wrong place!

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NATPLUMMER 2/7/2012 10:39AM

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You are so right!!

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TAGSUIT2 2/7/2012 10:32AM

    We are some beautiful people, everything that God create he said was good.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/7/2012 10:20AM

    YES YES YES! Proud of this blog. It is soooooo true. You can't begin to love someone else anyway if you don't love yourself!

HUGS and love,
Barb

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Better now...

Monday, February 06, 2012

Besides having a headache and feeling emotional drained, I am actually doing much better.

Today I saw my counselor and she helped me make the final decision. I gotta fire my trainer and friend. Too bad it's easier to fire him as a trainer than my friend. I am talking to my boss on Wednesday about it. Hopefully, I can get a different trainer. Otherwise, I will request the rest of my money back for the unused sessions. The professional boundaries are just not there like they should be.

Besides making that decision, I talked to someone on campus today and asked if they are looking for a personal trainer. My timing was perfect! They are! I am to think about it for a day or so, but really I have already made up my mind. Also, a few campus friends have asked me to train them. So, I will set that up with the school and train away. Also, she said I could teach Group X classes so that could be fun!

Things are really coming together! Tomorrow I have someone look over my internship statement and help me with my internship applications.

Thanks everyone for your support! I have read them all. When I feel better, hopefully tomorrow, I will be replying individually.

  
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PATRICIAANN46 2/7/2012 8:49PM

  Hi Savannah........
Think of this Friend/Trainer problem as a learning situation. He has taught you what NOT to do as a trainer. Now you can move on to be even better than you were before. emoticon

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ERIKA05 2/7/2012 11:56AM

    I know that you really struggled with the decision about your friend/trainer, but I think you're making the right one. The silver lining is that this experience will probably make you an even better trainer, and help you to pick up on and respond to your own clients cues!




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BAILEYS7OF9 2/7/2012 11:41AM

    Hope it goes well!

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NATPLUMMER 2/7/2012 10:11AM

    Yay...things really are coming together.
Hope the headache goes away soon.

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XRSIZE18 2/7/2012 3:26AM

    Congratulations! It sounds like everythings falling into place, just as it needs to be.

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MYLADY4 2/6/2012 9:20PM

    So glad you are feeling better. You'll do great.

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HDHAWK 2/6/2012 8:12PM

    Good for you for doing what's right for you. I'm such a wimp I'd probably dream up some excuse to end the sessions or suffer through them. Training clients too! emoticon

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Out of Control Eating Issues

Sunday, February 05, 2012

I sit hugging a BIG bag of pretzels, eating them one by one. I have a problem. In the last few weeks, I seem to have no self control. Nothing seems to help either. I just don't have the motivation anymore. In the last month, I went from 155 to 161, slowly creeping up. This is how it starts. I hired a personal trainer in attempt to help me. But, he's my friend and I feel he doesn't treat me like a real client. Honestly, I've tried tracking again but I just don't have the determination nor the commitment for that. I have noticed it is when I am CRAZY hungry. I just eat and eat and eat. If it's not that, I tell myself, it's stress. Than, I say, it's for training. This overeating business NEEDS to stop NOW!

  
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CASSCAMP 2/7/2012 6:08AM

    I had one of these days yesterday! But it is a new day! And I am ready to get back on track! You can do it! We all have these days and these phases just don't let it beat you! You can do it!

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BSTAKINGACTION 2/6/2012 7:05AM

    At least you recognize it! Awareness is the first step. I'm dealing with the same issue....so know that you are not alone. You'll find what works for you! Just don't quit trying!

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EMFRAPPIER 2/6/2012 6:10AM

    I can definitely relate. I've noticed the same feeling/actions for the last few days. When I get out of control, I give myself a day of eating almost nothing but fruits and veggies. They satisfy the crunchy craving, the sweet craving, and I can eat a ton without overdoing the calories. Usually after that I feel better and have more control. I'm doing this today, actually. Hope this helps!

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CRISSYCURRY 2/5/2012 11:12PM

    Unfortunately I can relate. I've been in that mode the past 3 days and the scales are showing it. Tomorrow is a new day and I've GOT to get back on track!! So let's hang in there together!! Good luck!!

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EJOY-EVELYN 2/5/2012 9:25PM

    Do your best to snap out of it! It's times like this -- when you're in the desert -- when you need to have some healthy fall-back foods on hand to rely on. Some like to make sure they have a glass of water or cup of broth-based soup to help tide them over to when they can try to eat more filling power foods (freggies, lean proteins, whole grains). While pretzels can be fine . . . they can be a trigger food that we don't stop at well. My fall-back snack is a filling whole grain: hot-air popcorn (it's amazing how one pat of butter can suffice) while getting a salty fix.

Dr Oz was telling us last week to incorporate a cheaterday (aka Saturday) in our diets where we cheat, but in not too outrageous fashion. This actually can benefit your metabolism by the changes you introduce.

Sure hope you find what works best for you before too long. You've come too far along to ever want the health problems and difficult moving of your past. Begin remembering fresh all those wonderful non-scale victories you've overcome. Do do not want to return to your past bad habits.



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PATRICIAANN46 2/5/2012 9:19PM

  Hi Savannah.........
When that happens to me, I switch back to eating 6 smaller meals/day. I still stay within my calorie level, but spread it out so that I am NOT SUPER HUNGRY for 3 meals. I also eat high-satiety foods like lean meats, oatmeal, beans, etc..

Good Luck.

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HDHAWK 2/5/2012 8:48PM

    Been there, done that, to the tune of 40 lbs. Get a plan before you end up like me! Tell your trainer friend to treat you like he would anyone else. If you're hungry, up your protein. Could you make a list of other things to do besides eat when you feel the cravings coming on?

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NATPLUMMER 2/5/2012 8:41PM

    I go through phases of it, too. Didn't do so great myself today.
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SHERYLDS 2/5/2012 7:52PM

    try to stay away from processed carbs....
they addictive to the brain.
try roasted chickpeas with a drizzle of olive oil and salt ...
see youtube.com for a recipe
beans raise the serotonin level and kill cravings.
check TEMPTATIONS BUSTERS TEAM (TIPS DIRECTORY QUICK FINDER)
and check out MAGIC POTION TO WARD OFF CRAVINGS....
and TIPS ON SUGAR CRAVINGS.

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GODDESSOFHOME 2/5/2012 7:44PM

    Omigosh, that is what is going on with me right now too! So, I have taken a step back from worrying about my eating, and focusing on my exercise instead. Try thinking about something else, like how much water you drink each day, or getting back to basics with your exercise plan. Or, try doing a food journal if you feel like you want to focus on it. Don't bother tracking calories, just write down what you eat, when, and how you feel when you are eating. HTH!

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Dare to Dream

Saturday, February 04, 2012

Long time ago, I dared to dream. I started to believe in me and thought, "Maybe.. I could lose weight" which later turned into "Maybe.. I could run a 5K" and now it's "Maybe I could run a marathon."

My most recent accomplishment is becoming a certified ACE personal trainer. Yup, that happened today. I took the test today and passed! emoticon

Before I took the test, I wasn't sure if I was more afraid to fail the test or to pass it. Now that I have passed it, I need to figure out if I want to train people. Everyone is like, 'You'd be such a great trainer.' Just because I can motivate myself does NOT mean I can do it for others. Also, if they are paying $40 for me to train them, I better be worth it. This means getting results!

Why did I take it than? I needed to take it to finish up one of Fall semester courses. I needed to take it in order to be able to take a different certification. Also, other positions I am interested in require it even through you don't use it.

So, if you have that dream that you wonder if it could it be possible... answer... YES!!! You CAN make it happen with some hard work and determination! emoticon

  
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PATRICIAANN46 2/5/2012 9:14PM

  Hi Savannah........
You have dared to dream in so many areas and accomplished so much that just sharing your experiences with the people you train could be a major motivator. I would guess that the more you actually experience the training, the more you will enjoy it. Seeing the accomplishments of the people you are helping will be so rewarding and this will add to your self-confidence as a trainer.
I am very proud of YOU!!! emoticon

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EMFRAPPIER 2/5/2012 7:45AM

    emoticon Love this blog!! My goals are pretty similar. Just starting to study for the ACE personal trainer cert. and starting to train for a marathon. Good luck in all of your dreams!!

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XRSIZE18 2/5/2012 4:10AM

    Congratulations! You have such a sunny disposition and you're already motivating people here on Spark, so why on earth wouldn't you be able to do it in the real world?


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ABSOLUTZER0 2/5/2012 1:13AM

    Woohoo! Congratulations on this great accomplishment! I'm proud of you! You are doing great things! Continue to inspire the world!

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FIREFLUTTERFLY 2/5/2012 1:05AM

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Good for you! Even if you don't use it to train people you have conquered that course for yourself!
WOOT!

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NATPLUMMER 2/4/2012 11:25PM

    emoticon I am so happy for you!!! I bet people will be happy to have you train them. You can sympathize with them and I think that helps a lot.

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1CRAZYDOG 2/4/2012 11:07PM

    My dear . . . you passed the test. That means you are equipped to train! You would be worth every cent of $40 as a trainer! Look @ what you've accomplished.

Like with anything, you can lead the horse to water, but it's up to them to drink. In other words, you can provide them the information that they need to get healthy and it's up to THEM to follow it . . . or not. That's not a reflection on you personally is what I am getting at I guess. You ARE worth a LOT as a trainer!!!!!!!

Kudos and well . . . you know I'm popping my buttons I'm so proud of you and for you.

HUGS!
Barb

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HDHAWK 2/4/2012 10:54PM

    Way to go after your dreams and reach them! emoticon

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BAILEYS7OF9 2/4/2012 10:43PM

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So happy for you! You have come SUCH a long way and have learned so much!

Did you ever listen to that song Maybe by the Sick Puppies? It so fits your journey!

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Insulting Friend/Trainer

Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Sometimes my runs are hard because of something is weighing on my mind. Today during my 2 mile run, I thought about a conversation I may have to initiate if things continue as they are. Let me explain.

Right now, I am training with a friend. During our first session, I made the comment about how I have swimmer's shoulders. Okay, maybe they aren't perfectly sculpted like a swimmer but I am very proud of them. Immediately, my 'friend' said you don't have swimmer shoulders. And, continued with, 'I would like your shoulders be like this.' This really hurt.

Yes, I want to improve my body but this does NOT give him permission to pick apart my body. Today is our second session. Honestly, I am not looking forward to it. If he starts to insult me, I may have to tell him that is not allowed. If he feels it is part of training, maybe I should find a new trainer (and friend).

Those were two of the hardest miles I have done. Hoping to leave that stress behind very soon!

  
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GODDESSOFHOME 2/2/2012 12:50PM

    Good job using your run to work through this. Sounds like you know what to do!

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ERIKA05 2/1/2012 4:28PM

    What an a$$hole!
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I'm starting to wonder if your boss assigned you this guy because no one else would take him. If I can run the risk of being a bit of an a-hole myself, and give you some advice from an "older and (theoretically) wiser" perspective - Don't be afraid to say very clearly that this isn't working for you, and outline what you will and won't accept. Be firm. It might just be a case of his training style not meshing with your learning style - some clients respond to very negative feedback as a "challenge" so that may be what he's going for - he can't improve if he doesn't know it bothers you, afterall. BUT... if you lay your cards on the table and there isn't an immediate improvement? Drop him like bad date and ask to be assigned someone else. You're the client, and you deserve to have your expectations met. I'm sure you're not looking for someone to blow sunshine up your butt, but respect and courtesy aren't too much to ask. In fact, they should be minimum requirements.

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JANEMAR2 2/1/2012 1:03PM

    Absolutely speak up. You have come so far and achieved so much and you deserve to be respected. Talk to him and give him another chance. Maybe you'll find you can really work well with him and achieve your goals.

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WADINGMOOSE 2/1/2012 12:23PM

    Wow. That was so not supportive. Feel good about your shoulders. Sometimes it's so hard to find something about ourselves to be proud of, it sucks that someone would try to take that away from you!

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XRSIZE18 2/1/2012 9:48AM

    Yikes. That would be rough. You've worked really hard to be where you are today and comments like that can definitely derail one's self-confidence (I know it would mine). I hope that he gets the fact that he can't say things like that without you having to confront him. But I'm glad you've already decided you will if it continues.

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HANNAHV 2/1/2012 3:26AM

    emoticon emoticonYou know you are emoticon so why even let it get to you

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1CRAZYDOG 1/31/2012 8:44PM

    Good heavens! Under NO circumstances should he be insulting. That's totally unprofessional and hurtful and I'd tell him that upfront. IF that continues I'd be heading to find a new trainer. Just not a good situation for YOU.

HUGS!
Barb

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MYLADY4 1/31/2012 8:40PM

    Set boundries NOW. He may not realize that he is hurting your feeling and if he does realize it, bad on him.

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SCOOTER4263 1/31/2012 7:32PM

    What the heck - tell him how you felt when he said that. Maybe he was having a weird day or something. You don't want to lose a friend over a misunderstanding - give him a chance to explain and maybe apologize. If he really meant it, kick him to the curb. Just don't brood about it and let it get under your skin. We give away our power too readily.

And if you're paying for this clown and he meant what he said, then you fire his a$$ and hire a new trainer.

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ICANDOTHIS1968 1/31/2012 5:10PM

  He should find ways to encourage, not discourage you. Letting him know will free you from the stress by confronting something that hurt you and will help him become a better trainer. How he received it would dictate whether I'd continue using him as a trainer or not. emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 1/31/2012 4:01PM

  Hi Savannah.........
If you are under this much stress with this trainer, then you need to either clear the air and let him know that insults are NOT allowed, or move on to a different trainer. The tension is definitely NOT worth it.
Good Luck.

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LUCYLU221 1/31/2012 3:20PM

    A true trainer and a true friend are supportive. They dont find ways or say things to hurt or insulte.

I hope you get it worked out. But if not then you need to let that one go and find and true trainer/friend.

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GETFIT2LIVE 1/31/2012 2:21PM

    Insults are neither appropriate nor helpful coming from a trainer; that just does not motivate. It sounds like the wrong match, really. If he continues in that vein, I'd definitely ask to be matched with a different trainer.

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FIREFLUTTERFLY 1/31/2012 1:47PM

    I think it may be time to talk to the organizer and get a different trainer. You two obviously don't mesh and your workouts should not be causing you more stress than they are relieving (kind of counterproductive, ya know) You are paying for this, yes? If so you have every right to tell them "I'd like to have a new trainer assigned to me, this guy is not working"

This is one of those things that should be completely about your needs. It's your body, it's your money, it's your sanity!

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BSTAKINGACTION 1/31/2012 1:37PM

    Uh. Yeah. Totally unprofessional and WRONG. You are so right to stick up for yourself here. Remember, your sparkfriends will behind you if you need to confront!

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NATPLUMMER 1/31/2012 1:34PM

    I agree. Insults are definitely not welcome!! emoticon

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