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On the behalf of all the daughters and sons...

Monday, December 26, 2011

On the behalf of all the daughters and sons out there, I want to tell parents that patience and understanding is sometimes all we want/need when we call home in a stressed situation, like locking our keys in our car after a long day at work. We don't necessary need you to be the hero of the day. Sometimes all we want is a hug and some reassurance as if we were 5 years old and skinned our knee.

When we bring up ways that it could be prevented, like ordering our AAA card like you said you would, we are not placing blame at your feet about the situation. No, we are simply saying, "Hey, could you call the company so the solution is resolved quicker next time?" And, most likely there will be a next time.

Accusing me of yelling and telling me not to treat you that way does not help either. It adds more stress and makes me feel even worse. Just accept we are stressed out. Maybe about more than just locking our keys in the car. Like, maybe we are stressed out that if campus safety opens our car, it is going to cost $20 and we only have a few dollars in our bank account. We are not trying to be hurtful. Stay calm and I will be able stay more under control.

Again, I am not placing blame at your feet. Sometimes these stressful situations cannot be prevented. In the future, you help by:

1. Staying calm.
2. Not accusing me of blaming anyone.
3. If you MUST help, give me a hug and reassure me that everything WILL be okay.

  
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SCOOTER4263 1/2/2012 9:08PM

    Honey, that street runs both ways. It's very difficult line to walk for a parent - you want to raise your child to be independent and strong, but at the same time, you want to jump in and fix everything and love and protect. If you're old enough to get your own AAA card, then take it off your mother's To-Do list - you'll both benefit. If you need money, instead of hinting around and being frustrated that your parent(s) don't realize you can't afford something, tell them you need money and how much. Depending upon their parenting style, they'll either fork it over or they wont, but either way, the suspense and frustration will be over.

Try to work from the place of "we love each other" rather than "wow, that person is messing me up." It's really difficult for both parties, I know. And I'm not trying to toss you under the parental bus. I'd just bet that, despite being people with flaws, they're doing the best they know how. Maybe if you can sit down calmly and talk to them, they might know better next time and do better. (Or maybe you might.) But people are always growing and changing, no matter their ages or relationships. The trick is letting them be who they are, and loving them anyway.



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1CRAZYDOG 12/28/2011 11:28AM

    Oh my . . . if I was there, I'd have given you a hug big time!!!

I rememberr clearly last year getting a panicked call from my DS. He was locked IN his car. The locks were frozen shut, so he couldn't get out. He is claustophobic. Oh boy, that was a very bad day for him. Of course, this was a situation that he couldn't help at all. We did go get him out of the car so he was "rescued" but he had plenty to vent when he was freed! I felt for him. Didn't say one one . . . not a syllable. Listened and hugged, hugged and listened . . . repeated for about an hour til he calmed down.

I surely hope this is a better day for you.

Cold here, but sunny, PHEW. Going for a walk, then the rest of the day is UNPLANNED. YIPPEE. We'll see where things go.

HUGS!
Barb

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MYLADY4 12/28/2011 9:54AM

    Being a mother of a college age daughter it is hard, I am sure that they don't mean to frustrate you. It is a fine line between trying to fix a problem and letting you solve it on your own. They want you to be happy and self sufficient but probably hate to see you struggle.

We try really hard NOT to any of her problems but give her an ear to spout to and some words of advise.

Hang in there, it will hopefully get better :)



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LISAINMS 12/27/2011 11:35PM

    Note taken. (Said the problem-solver parent)
Sorry you had parent stress on top of being locked out stress.

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PATRICIAANN46 12/27/2011 8:46PM

  Hi Savannah.......
I'm sorry that you had such a bad day. If I were there, I would give you a hug, but I'm not, so here is a virtual one emoticon.

What a great blog. As parents, we need to be reminded that when our kids have had a bad day, we are the logical ones that they should think of to turn to. If we aren't.............then we have done something wrong.
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Patti

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XRSIZE18 12/27/2011 11:28AM

    Yeesh... sounds like a terrible day. Hopefully it ended with a smile.

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FUNFROG79 12/27/2011 10:16AM

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RHONDALYN10 12/27/2011 8:20AM

    Great reminder - no matter what the age!


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NATPLUMMER 12/26/2011 8:05PM

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EJOY-EVELYN 12/26/2011 7:21PM

    Oh dear, I can remember a time when Campus Safety opened a car door for free (but they had to do it on their time, when they're available). Guess that's what happens when all the departments need money to run due to state budget shortfalls. What you ask for could also be said of wives to their husbands. It's amazing how the fella wants to just "fix" it when what we really need is a little listening with an emphathetic ear. You said this well!

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Day 7 of 7: I lifted!

Friday, December 23, 2011

Here we are. Day 7 of working out. emoticon I made it!

Today I was really bored with the cardio machines. In the last couple workouts, I have been looking at the free weight area longingly. Maybe it was because I knew I couldn't lift that day due to limited time. Today I lifted!!! emoticon

I even did it in 30 minutes. Here is what I did...
- Captain Chair (for abs)
- Lat pull down/Compound Row on the cable machine
- Squat Machine with no weights
- Leg Press with 22# - I want to try a bit heavier next time
- Tricep pressdown on the cable machine
- Shoulder Overhead Presses with 10# dumbbells - I think I am ready for 12#, 15# might be pushing it a bit!

I feel pretty good about it.. I covered my entire body!

Will it continue? Yes and no.

Of course, I won't get up working out.

In the next couple days, it's gonna be tough to work out. Seriously, not making excuses. I open and close the gym tomorrow. And, the campus gym will be closed tomorrow. With that in mind, I am going to try to spin for 20 minutes while on my break. As for Christmas Day, I am assuming no.

After that, I am working Monday-Thursday so it should be a bit easier since I am already at the gym! emoticon

In other news, I am officially done with classes until January 24th! emoticon It's ironic because it is my break but I have a to-do list, lol.

-Get top choices for internship applications completed and nearly ready to be sent off
-Talk to local hospitals about internship opportunities
-Study for the ACE Certification of Personal Training
-Take the ACE exam on January 21st or 28th
-Get re-certified in CPR/AED
-Watch a friend's house/dog

With all that going on I am going to practice my personal training skills on two friends. We are going from beginner to end. That is starting next week.

The following week, I am moving rooms within the same building! Also, during this particular week, my emoticon coach career starts while I work like 4 days that week!

In addition to that, I want to find time to read A novel. emoticon I used to be a huge reader but haven't had much time for it. Guess that is part of being a college senior!

Hope everyone has a wonderful Christmas! Drive safe, if you're traveling. And, please, remember what the season is about. Not giving or getting, but love, family, and Christ! emoticon

  
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FUNFROG79 12/27/2011 10:10AM

    Way to go and I hope you had a wonderful holiday!

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NATPLUMMER 12/24/2011 9:47PM

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Busy, busy, busy. I hope you find some time to read. I know how hard it can be.

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XRSIZE18 12/24/2011 1:11AM

    If you ever need anyone else to practice on, let me know! Ha!

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EJOY-EVELYN 12/23/2011 9:26PM

    Wow . . . your Christmas break just got very, very small. Not a whole lot of travel time to go very far if you have to be back on Monday. Hope your last final went well. Even though there was not that much snow, it made the walks dangerous enough to need added cleats to ones shoes (I found myself walking through the wooded area to get to the overlook so that I wouldn't bounce on my behind). Looks like I may have to depend on my dance moves to work in some quality fitness minutes. Merry Christmas, dear!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/23/2011 9:19PM

    You go, girl! You're going great and I'm sure everything is going to fall into place the way you want it to.



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MYLADY4 12/23/2011 7:52PM

    Way to go on the lifting.

Have a safe drive home and Merry Christmas.

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HDHAWK 12/23/2011 6:40PM

    Lifting weights is the best way to change your body. I miss getting to read (non school) stuff as much as I'd like to.

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Day 6 of 7: Did It Anyways

Thursday, December 22, 2011

I really just wanted to take a nap today.. but I came in a bit early to work out before punching in. So, in turn, I did 20 minutes on the elliptical and I think 10 minutes on the spin bike.

Tomorrow, I have a final at 3-5 and hanging out with a friend afterwards. So, I should be able to get a decent work out in. Maybe I will aim to lift.

Saturday and Sunday I won't be able to work out... with the holidays!

  
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NATPLUMMER 12/23/2011 9:42AM

    Yay!!!

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EJOY-EVELYN 12/23/2011 12:13AM

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Enjoy Christmas friends and loved ones along with the great eats!

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VICIOUS421 12/22/2011 11:34PM

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HDHAWK 12/22/2011 10:36PM

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MYLADY4 12/22/2011 8:49PM

    Good for you.

If you are going back home it is suppose to be nice on Sunday. Could go for a walk on the trail. An idea. I am planning on trying a short jog on Saturday before going back to inlaws.

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Day 5 of 7: Spin bike, 60 minutes

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

No, I have not forget about you guys! And, yes, I did work out! In fact, I did 60 minutes on the spin bike today at noon. It is like breathing again.

It's been a crazy day!

Things have been better at work tonight. Thank goodness. I don't think I could have handled another night like last night where it was one thing after another. Things are even better with the boss. In fact, I asked her to write me a letter of recommendation for internship applications. She typically is raving good things about me. I just need to bring in the information about the companies for her. Yay!

So, that's the quick update...

  
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SHERYLDS 12/22/2011 3:57PM

    60 minutes on spin....whoa
FANTASTIC

How's your tushy today.... emoticon

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MYLADY4 12/22/2011 9:27AM

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EJOY-EVELYN 12/22/2011 12:45AM

    Glad to hear of your activity and better day at work. Sounds like you're getting in more time than you normally are able to work in.

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NATPLUMMER 12/21/2011 8:47PM

    YAY!!!!

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Day 4 of 7: Flopped Run

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

This morning, the emoticon was out so I was hoping for a run outside. I got outside and changed my mind. I went to campus's inside track. Ran for 15 minutes but I think I might have been too tense. My traps and my shoulders started to hurt. I walked for 5 minutes than decided to go home.

Why was I tense? Or shall we say mad?

Right before I left to emoticon I got a voicemail from work. We give orientations for members using the Nautilus machines. Typically, we do not provide orientations for free weights. Isn't that what a personal trainer for? Apparently, I am wrong. It is part of my job and I didn't realize it. I guess we are going to "talk" about it when I get to work. It's great that when she wants to talk, she will be there but when *I* want to... she's no where to be found. In fact, she typically leaves early.

I will do the free weight orientations but I do not feel it should be part of my job. With free weights, one needs to be aware of form. Personal trainers should do this because of liability issues. *sigh* I am ready to do my internship. I am hoping to do it in a different area of the U.S.

Anyhow, I hope to walk to class soaking up sunshine. Than, I hope to get to work early and get a bit of a work out in.

Thanks to NATPLUMMER and PINKBEANBO for encouraging me to write this blog. It really made me accountable... knowing I had to answer to you gals!

  
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FUNFROG79 12/21/2011 9:38AM

    A run is great no matter how is goes! Great job! emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 12/20/2011 7:25PM

    It was a run even if it wasn't a great one. Too bad it didn't help shake off the tenseness/madness.
I agree, the personal trainers should do the free weights orientations.
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MYLADY4 12/20/2011 3:04PM

    Yeah, at least you got out there and agree, it was a bit chilly today.



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BAILEYS7OF9 12/20/2011 2:29PM

    Not everyone can afford to hire a PT, so I would think a brief orientation on the free weights would probably be a good idea. Like don't think you lift 100#'s right away!

Also.. remember what she does to irritate you, and make sure you never do that to someone else! You can be better!

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LISAINMS 12/20/2011 1:41PM

    Some runs just aren't meant to be. And some are just crappy. Then there are those that start out bad, smooth out then finish fine. Too bad they aren't all perfect and without sweat or chafing, LOL. Makes me really appreciate all of the great runs I do have when I have one that isn't stellar. Good luck with your internship search!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/20/2011 1:01PM

    **SIGH** sounds like the POWER bug bit your caller. Oh well, you know . . . listen to what she has to say, do your best. That's all that you can ask of yourself.

Wishing a peaceful day for you, my dear.

HUGS!

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