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Harvest 5K Run/Walk

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Today was pretty amazing!

This morning I did the Harvest 5K Run/Walk with my sister!



Even through the race was poorly organized and needed better communication, I had alot of fun.

Even through the race was chip timed, we do not know the official time. You see we did not walk across a mat at the beginning line for the chip to be activated with. In fact, we weren't even sure if the race started until it was confirmed at mile 1's marker. I stuck with her like glue during the race. It was fun coaching her in the last stretch as we crossed the finish line. Our time was 42:55.



[Does anyone notice that I have decent running form? I always thought I had bad form. Maybe it's not as bad as thought!]

After the race, a woman approached us and told my sister she did well and that I was a great coach! emoticon Apparently, the lady was trying to catch up to us but we consistently ran/walked through out the whole thing.

By the way, I might be going down in race shirts. I now have two long sleeve t-shirts that are mediums which are a bit big. I thought at first maybe it was a fluke. I will have to keep it in mind that I may need a SMALL in fall races! emoticon

They treated me to Old Country Buffet and I was able to get pancakes that I have been craving for the last couple days. emoticon I probably overate for me but I don't feel I went too crazy.

Than, I took them to Enger Tower to see a great view of the city.



To get the above photo we had to climb a tower. Nicole asked how far up it was. I dunno, 20 steps? I guess with being "fit", I don't worry about not being able to get somewhere, like the top of the tower. It was more like 60 steps. Oops!

They drove to my parents and I went to work.

At first, I was not happy at work! One of the personal trainers was a butthead to me. Basically, he is on a power trip and been trying to tell me how to do my job. He can try but I sure don't have to listen. He comes across righteous. Today he did it in front members. Not okay! I will probably should speak with my boss about it. I vented and trying to move on.

Than, at the end of the shift, I spoke with this guy that was overweight. We spoke about my weight loss, and the lifestyle change. I, of course, mentioned Sparkpeople. He repeated it. So, I hope he checks into it. But, he also told me how he didn't "connect" with said personal trainer that I have a current issue with. This makes me happy inside because I had the feeling he connected with me. But, hey, I understood and I feel not all personal trainers do as they were healthy all their life so they do not know how it feels to need to lose weight!

Tomorrow I hope to go hiking with a friend! emoticon

  
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1CRAZYDOG 10/16/2011 11:47AM

    Cool! Glad you had a good day and hope today is good. Talk later!

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STRIPEDTIGER 10/16/2011 10:18AM

    Great job!! On your race and connected with the Y member.

You should encourage him to talk to the boss about his trainer because if a person is connecting they need to know it - should be open to hearing it - so they can improve. But I think it should come directly from the member to the trainer or his boss. Most people don't have the confidence to help in such a way though.

I'm glad you went to your boss. Bosses need to know those types of things.

Have a great weekend!

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VISUALLYRICS 10/16/2011 9:44AM

    emoticon on your 5 K!!!

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EJOY-EVELYN 10/15/2011 10:55PM

    Glad to see you and your sister work a 5K together . . . glad you stayed with her. WooHoo! I, too, enjoy Enger Tower and the walk around the Peace Gardens and rocky path overlooking the Lake. We have such an awesome Lake to enjoy for all four seasons. I here there were twelve food waves along parts of the Lake recently. Yikes!

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ROOTIHAUSMAN 10/15/2011 10:21PM

    Good for you and your sister! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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A possible spark? Hope so!

Friday, October 14, 2011

In the past, I have tried to "spark" my family but I feel they are the hardest! But, recently I feel a "spark" might be starting! So exciting!

First, my sister made a goal to run her first 5K by her 30th birthday. Tomorrow was the day she was supposed to run, but she is switching to a walk. Still proud of her! I know for my first 5K, I had to walk half of it. Just doing a 5K is a great start. She did mention earlier this week that she could aim for her 31st birthday to run her first 5K. In the past, she mentioned she wants to prove that she CAN do it! I really hope she sticks with it!

Than, today I was talking to my parents and my mom went to the doctor. Apparently, as my dad was waiting for her in the waiting room, he read Runner's World! Yup, you read that right! When I asked him about it, he is like, "Well, I have to read something." Well, yes, I suppose but I never remember my dad reading anything about running or anything like that!

Apparently, once I got a passion everyone wants to join me, which is pretty awesome! These little "spark" moments are pretty cool for me, and I had to share!

Watch for a blog on tomorrow's 5K!

  
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LORILEEPAGE 10/19/2011 10:15AM

    Setting a good example, as you are, is the best Spark starter!

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PATRICIAANN46 10/16/2011 2:57PM

  Hi Savannah........
YOU motivate people just by being YOU!!! All they have to do is watch how your lifestyle has changed and view the results.
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EJOY-EVELYN 10/15/2011 1:31PM

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W8WHITTILER 10/15/2011 10:11AM

    As I said in the other blog, they will end up following you!
So don't ever pay attention to those negative people!
You are rocking it girl, and others want to follow!
That is so awesome!
Keep Sparking!
Patty

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HDHAWK 10/14/2011 7:54PM

    That's very cool! Good luck tomorrow!

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Scale's Indicator for the Day

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

In the last few months, I have been bouncing around the 160 number on the scale. It is like being on an emotional roller coaster constantly. Apparently, 158 is the indicator for a good day and 161 is the indicator for a bad day.

This morning I weighed in at 160.4, my 100# mark. As I started to feel anxious, I went all counselor on myself and asked myself, "What does it mean to you?" I was surprised by the answer.

Basically, this is what I came up with.
158 = continuing to be successful = not letting down my family
160 = on the verge of failing
161 = failing in being successful = letting down my family

It helps by saying it, pondering it.

By Christmas, I was hoping to be down to 150. But, again, "What does it mean to me?" It means I will be skinny with a flat tummy and I will have my family's praise, something I have never gotten before.

Again, it helps to say it, pondering it.

With that note, I am going to have lunch, work out, and study, study, STUDY!

  
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HEALTHYBARB1 10/15/2011 6:19PM

    So true when you state it out loud...we often attach meaning to the scale and value to it's number. Remember today to look at the beautiful you that you see in the mirror and the beautiful you that is deep inside and smile...great blog with great truth!!! Smiles Barb emoticon

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JENN03275 10/15/2011 3:59PM

    I hate the scale as well. It does gage how I feel that day. Even if I have been eating well and exercising. Base the weight on how you feel and how your clothes feel. I am quite a bit hypocritical in saying this but I trying to teach this to myself as well.

Hugs!

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EJOY-EVELYN 10/15/2011 1:46PM

    I tried writing you while on the road twice, only to have the completed message, while editing, disappear. I finally gave up for the moment and caught a few zzz's so I could drive again later. 8-))

I wanted to add that I can relate to your thinking. My 100-lb weight loss (at 161.2) is very close to yours. I, too, feel so much better (mentally) when I am under 160 lbs. Since being at 158 represents a 22.7 BMI, I have plenty of room to reduce a little further while remaining in a healthy mix. I'll be watching your responses in hopes that I, too, might find the right mix for a healthy attitude. It's been tough, and with fewer and fewer people noticing a healthier glow as this weight loss become "old hat" I find myself missing these little boosters in attitude. It's a good thing we learn about healthy living in the process . . . this is how doing what we do becomes part of our lifestyle (versus just another diet).

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DEESFIT4LIFE 10/12/2011 7:32PM

    I dislike the scale. emoticon I hate that it makes your day good or bad depending on the reading. I'm sorry emoticon I don't always agree that the scale is the best measure of success. Do your clothes fit better? Maybe even having to go down a size? Are you receiving compliments from others around you (even if it isn't your family) and have you taken your measurements? Maybe you are losing inches! All of these answers I know you already know. Don't let it get you down girl, you deserve better then that! emoticon

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CIVIAV 10/12/2011 3:22PM

    Woman, you are becoming wise as well as strong!

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PATRICIAANN46 10/12/2011 1:41PM

  Hi Savannah........
I have to tell you that it bothers me when I read that you base whether or not you are letting down your family on your weight loss or gain. Do they really judge you by this or is this something that you believe? I guess that I always thought that your weight loss was something that you did for YOU.
YOU have so much to be proud of. You have turned your lifestyle completely around and I hope that you do feel pride in this.
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LOSE4LIFE47 10/12/2011 11:57AM

    Just think & saqy positive things!

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I miss the "old" Sparkpeople community!

Saturday, October 08, 2011

Recently, I wrote a blog. Big surprise, right? In the blog, I got a comment that accused me of being judgmental. IF it was by a friend that reads my blogs regularly, and actually knew ME and not assumed things about me, maybe I could have taken it more to heart. But, it wasn't.

This wasn't the only time this has happened with my blogs. I know I am not alone, either, unfortunately!

With these comments, I have considered each time making my page not public. Ironically, this most recent time a different member from the other one left me a comment about how I inspire them. If I privatized my page, how would I be able to inspire others? For me, I like that I can inspire others to succeed just because I was in their shoes once.

In addition to limiting my ability to inspire others, I have thought about not blogging anymore and/or leaving the site, honestly. emoticon But, than, I knew I would miss my friends too much.

There is no easy solution. I know this. I just miss the "old" Sparkpeople I met 3 years ago where every comment was supportive and I never worried about being judged here. I guess that is what I liked about Sparkpeople the most... no judgements, just acceptance!

Now years ago, it seems I am no longer accepted here just because I have succeeded and live a healthy lifestyle. In fact, I feel like just because I am fit and healthy now that I am more under a magnifying glass, instead of a spot light, like before. It is almost assumed that I could not understand how if feels to be judged on just my appearance.

Really, now?! Can't I?

  
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JENN03275 10/15/2011 4:06PM

    Ignore those who are judgemental or rude. It is their own insecurities that make them act this week. I am not a member who will be highlighted for making miraculous weight loss. I lost it before I got here. Also, me being thin doesn't mean I was healthy before either! We are all unique here and that what makes us all special. You support others on their journey everyday whether you know it or not!

Hugs!



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LILLI56 10/15/2011 2:47PM

    I am so sorry that someone would be negative to someone who has shared thoughts and feelings. SP is a great community, and it has inspired me greatly. I have only lost 30 lbs on my weight loss journey of 100 lbs it has taken over my facebook account almost totally. Facebook is my family and friends yet I find so much more acceptance and concern here on SP! I hope you will continue to inspire new beginners here. Thanks to all who still blog and inspire us. emoticon

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W8WHITTILER 10/15/2011 9:53AM

    Wow, I am sorry you had to experience this type of comment!
It is unbelievable that on a site you look to for support and a way to escape the everyday scrutinizing that you had to get it here.

I read that Blog, and you have no reason to feel guilty and the person that left the response needs to go back and reread the blog.
It sounds to me like you are still friends with these people..you said "you sometimes find yourself eating bad with them"
Don't let someone who misread your blog get you down..the read only what they wanted to read and misinterpeted it..and as for your ex, he had not right to try to make you feel guilty, you are not guilty, you are someone who wanted to get healthy so that you can live a longer life..be proud of that.
Your family and friends are simply jealous, and I pray you keep moving forward and don't let this cause a downward spiral, they will follow you in time..they are just hoping you come back to them first.
Stay strong!

But don't quit the site, you have done amazing and you do encourage others..it is members like you that reach that point of making your goal that keeps people like me moving forward.


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INGMARIE 10/11/2011 5:15PM

    FLAGRL1234 is right, keep going, forget the mean, nasty and unfriendly comments.
The ones that count are the other ones, it is great to se people who
has succeeded in their journey. emoticon

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FLGIRL1234 10/11/2011 4:43PM

    The people that have gotten to goal are my BIGGEST inspiration on here! It would be a real loss to lose you. Delete the one comment and then move on...after all.. we are fighters and survivors on SP!

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DEESFIT4LIFE 10/11/2011 4:38PM

    I'm not on your friends list but we have mutual friends. I myself have had the same problem you are talking about and I did leave spark for several months. I was once so verbally attacked on my page, blogs and pictures that I was very upset. Spark did nothing. They removed my blog and told me to be more positive. The offender leaving nasty remarks had nothing done to them. Fair? I think not. I have had to make my page private and am now very selective about who I accept as a friend. Terrible I know but I have to protect myself on my journey. I do not want any nay sayers on my blog putting me down for my own opinions. Most of us are adults and you would think we could behave but some of us have no self control. I am terribly sorry that happened to you and I hope you find the right solution for you. I agree though, the old community was so supportive. emoticon Keep doing what you need to for you, for all those negative people- there's a few positive ones! emoticon emoticon

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CREATINGAMANDA 10/11/2011 4:29PM

    I have recently made my page private, even though it pained me to do so. I'm sure there will come a time when I make it public again but for now, I need to be allowed a little privacy and a little pity party time. For me it wasn't the negative comments that got to me but the (well meaning) positive ones - after what I've been through I'm not just going to be able to flip a switch and get on with life, you know?

Anyway, I'm sorry you received a negative comment. I, too, miss the positive community vibes we used to have. Even if I very rarely get a negative comment (I'm sure plenty of people think them though!) I see them on my friends' pages and it still gets to me.

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SPARKCHANTAL 10/10/2011 5:56PM

    oh how often have i judged and mis-judged, only to realize it was all different anyway. now it's hard for me to take anything that seriously. and even THAT'S easy to say!
because if it's important, i do take it seriously, even if i don't want to!
(going around in circles, eh?)

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CHANCELUND 10/10/2011 4:14PM

    Please do not leave. What you write is just what I need to hear. I need to know that success is possible, not just to get weight off, but to keep it off and have a healthy lifestyle. I don't always comment, even when I read the blogs. I am sorry that a negative person felt the need to comment like that. Keep up the good work and keep on blogging! emoticon

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BAILEYS7OF9 10/10/2011 2:15PM

    ah, you can always delete nasty comments. And also reply back thanking them for their insightful comment and thanking them for finding the delete key!

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JOAN_HEO 10/10/2011 11:52AM

    Say what? You're thinking of leaving??? I think NOT!!! You are not allowed! You leave and I will hunt you down, text you in the middle of the night, in the wee small hours, during spin classes when you're running your next race, and when you're in the shower!!!

That "leaving" plan of yours is not acceptable. We all need you and your story here. *I* need you here to inspire and support me! You do that EVERY day!

Love you to bits!

xox

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SHARJOPAUL 10/10/2011 10:36AM

    As the Spark community grows, we are bound to get more people who do not understand the basis of this community. What you described is the results of that growth. Those of us who have been here a while (over 3 years for me), understand the need to be supportive and nonjudgemental and in part it is up to us to educate those who do NOT understand. I hope you continue with SP and help keep this the kind of community where we can help each other succeed.

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CIVIAV 10/10/2011 8:54AM

    Old AA expression - it works if you work it...
And you Savannah are working it. It makes a difference for all of us who are working it too!

Keep doing it woman!

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STITCHERFRIEND 10/9/2011 9:50PM

    Please don't go private. I'm one of those people that read but don't comment but need the inspiration. Keep blogging for the quiet ones out here.

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1CRAZYDOG 10/9/2011 9:46PM

    You know, most of the time these people who make nasty comments are not happy with themselves (low self esteem) and are clueless -- so they may not even be aware of how hurtful their comment could be. So, I guess I have really found in my own life that I have to really realize that **I** need to be most concerned with what **I** feel. And go on from there.

I for one would really miss you if you left! I would hope you don't do that.'

HUGS!
Barb

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PATRICIAANN46 10/9/2011 6:52PM

  Hi Savannah.......
Most people who feel that they have to make negative comments are people who can't look in the mirror because they don't even like themselves. Often they have very low self-esteem.
YOU know how much you have accomplished since beginning your journey. YOU are an inspiration to so many. YOU are REAL and SENSITIVE and CARING. YOU hang in there and ignore the people who are really their own worst enemies. They don't count!!!
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CALIFGOLFER 10/9/2011 1:52PM

    I think you're awesome! I always try to be supportive of everyone I encounter at SP -- God knows I struggle sometimes and need support......
It's unfortunate that your experience has been negative on occasion,

Just consider the source, and "hang out" with the people that support you.

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MYLADY4 10/9/2011 12:17PM

    I agree. There are some on this site that have no filter and think that their view is the only one that matters. I just ignore these "haters".

You ARE in inspiration. You can't please everyone just make sure that you keep yourself happy.

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MAESTRACH 10/9/2011 12:11PM

    Wow. I can't imagine someone saying such things. I'm sure those are the types of people who aren't going to be here very long. I'm so excited that you're one of our success stories! WAY TO GO! Keep up the great work. I'm sorry that someone missed the whole point of this being a positive supportive community.

Hope things get better for you. Keep up the great work. You are an inspiration. Once I reach my goals, I'll be back to ask lots of advice for maintenance.

Spark Blessings

R

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LISAINMS 10/9/2011 11:49AM

    I've had negative comments, stupid comments, WTF comments and a massive amount of supportive comments. Screw the haters, Savannah. There's one in every crowd. Don't let someone that doesn't know you make you re-think anything about yourself, your journey or SP for that matter. You're rockin' it. Carry on!

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BSTAKINGACTION 10/9/2011 8:33AM

    Put up your protective shield and be a warrior. Remember that some people are miserable (and envious most likely) and like to make others feel that way as well. I may not comment on your blogs, but I read them....and am often inspired. For every negative comment, I'm sure you have 50 more positive ones who aren't even posting!

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ELLEYKAT 10/9/2011 8:24AM

    Oh no! I'm sorry that's happening to you. I haven't yet gotten any nasty or negative comments on my page, but I know if I did I would feel just TERRIBLE (and ANGRY!) Their mommas need to teach them "If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say anything at all." Is there a way to block specific users? Let's find out and block these mean people!!

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BAM0827 10/9/2011 8:03AM

    You're allowing someone who is judging you by saying you're judgemental ruin things for you? Think about it!

Spark has changed somewhat but there's still more wonderful people than not on here. I bet for every one icky post you get 7-10 good ones! That's kind of like life. We take the good with the bad.

Don't let others have so much impact on your happiness - you control that - no one else does (especially a stanger on Spark)

Hope today is a better day for you!

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EJOY-EVELYN 10/9/2011 1:54AM

    I wonder if the offender even realizes how inconsiderate they have been. That's so unfortunate.

There will likely always be some form of discrimination just around the corner -- whether we are still overweight or obese or if we've reached our goal. It's unfortunate that someone felt they need to verbalize their thoughts without proper consideration to how they will be perceived. I know I've said my thoughts poorly, have regretted them, apologized, forgiven myself, and moved on. Unfortunately, it's impossible to take back our words (they remain in cyberspace and often remain in our hearts longer than they should). While it may hurt, I think it only hurts as long as we allow it to hurt us. (Easier said than done.) We have choices to make and I pray that we make the choice that matches our values with the way we want to live our lives.

I hope that all the good that results from healthy living is not negated by the affect only a few others may have influenced us to the contrary. Your journey has been both incredible and inspirational.

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VPOPPY01 10/9/2011 12:11AM

    Aw, I'm sorry! emoticon My take on it is that there's always going to be those people out there and sometimes I just have to take a deep breath and move on. Kermit the Frog put it best "Always be happy. When people are in a bad mood, the last thing they want to do is hang around with happy people"

Hang in there! It'll get better!

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HDHAWK 10/8/2011 11:33PM

    I'm sorry you got some unkind comments on your blog. There are a few people around here who get those. If people don't like something I don't see why they have to comment.

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ANDI_3K 10/8/2011 10:41PM

    I am sorry you feel you are not included or accepted here. That is definitely not the way it should be. you are most definitely welcome here. Hang in it will get better.

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Guilty?! Yep, that is how I feel!

Thursday, October 06, 2011

Last night, my ex helped me realize I feel guilty. I feel guilty about getting healthier, mentally and physically, because it means I left my friends and family behind.

But, did I? Not really. I made a choice to change, to better me. They could have made the same choice. Some members of my family are deciding to get healthy.. and I am very proud of them.

But, yet I feel guilty for the ones I left behind. I think this is why I sometimes let myself eat "bad" with them.

Anyone know how to get over this guilt?

Besides that, I found a new love! Spinning! Love it! It sure does make me sore. Yesterday, I was crabby and took it out on the spin bike. Boy, my legs are sore today! I might go for a swim later to give them a break. Lately, it seems like all I do is spin and run, lol. It has been just so nice out!

This, also, means I am slacking in my October goal of doing 60 miles on that pink emoticon. Do you know what this means? Time for me to readjust the goal. I am going to change it to using it at least once a week... to get me started.. readjust from there!

  
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1CRAZYDOG 10/7/2011 10:48PM

    You are a role model. Never, ever feel guilty about that! Sounds like you "spun" your little heart out yesterday. Good for you!



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EJOY-EVELYN 10/7/2011 5:26PM

    It's not just your family . . . this country we live in has a major obesity problem. So if we ever decide to "go with the flow" we are destined to fail. We have to remain strong to the healthy living we have come to believe is the example we have to share with the world. Let us not be an example of sloppy living! Pray that this leaves us even more charged to stay the course, having made the wonderful journey we've made with such great diligence to good and healthy principles. Continue to be that great role model you've begun . . . as your body will ultimately say "thank you" many time over. Smile, smile!

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CIVIAV 10/7/2011 2:07PM

    All the activity is mileage in a way and sounds so much more enjoyable...

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HDHAWK 10/6/2011 7:18PM

    You're doing this for better health. It's their choice to come along or not. If they don't, it doesn't mean you can't be friends with them if they want to.

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BNSUHAS 10/6/2011 5:47PM

    A healthier lifestyle does change the dynamic.. when our loved ones get used to us being a certain way and we change, there are growing pains to say the least. I think the guilt is normal. Just give it some time... these things have a way of stabilizing. The ones that matter will not make you feel guilty but will be supportive.

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VPOPPY01 10/6/2011 5:16PM

    Yay! I'm so glad you're getting into spinning! I am too! Next week I can't get to my afternoon classes so I'm just going to switch it up and go to some early morning spinning classes.

It's hard when it seems your changing and everyone else is staying the same. That's pretty much how my life is at home right now. But what I've found to be helpful is just gradually switch from eating not-so-healthy foods with them to eating more healthy foods when you're around them. Point and case. My fam loves grill outs, Brats Hamburgers, the works. Eventually what I did to not feel so left out was I just asked my dad to grill up some chicken that I had marinating and then when it was done I chopped it up and put it on a salad. I still ate with them, I still had something on the grill, but it wasn't packed with carbs and fat like a brat would. Hope that helps!

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JENN26POINT2 10/6/2011 3:33PM

    I feel that same exact way when I think about doing this and not having my husband on board. It's like I'm leaving him in "poor-health-ville" because he chose not to come with me to "health-ville". It's sad but I'm hoping that, like with your family, he'll start down the road behind me and try to catch up. :)

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ARCHIMEDESII 10/6/2011 3:15PM

    Why did you leave some of your friends and family behind ?

a friend is a friend through thick or thin. Pardon the pun. Just because you made a change does it mean you had to give up your friends who didn't make a change. Put yourself in their shoes. because quite honestly, you were in their shoes not that long ago. How many times were we told we needed to do something about our health before we decided it was time to change.

Just because they haven't made that leap of faith yet does it mean they are any less your friend. I appreciate that the "studies" say that our friends influence our choices, but think of what a good influence you'd be on them. They see you becoming healthier and they might not be so frightened about making the change too.

If you want to get over the guilt, go back and restart those friendships. You can socialize with friends and family without eating junk. And even if they want to eat the treats does it mean you have to eat them too. You could eat them in moderation or you could politely say,"no, thank you". No guilt necessary.

Good friends (and family) are precious.

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VISUALLYRICS 10/6/2011 3:07PM

    What a brilliant choice - to run to fitness and work out that stress....or crabby feeling! emoticon I learned to do that too - it Works! emoticon
I can relate to your relatives dilemma - there are still some who look for me to eat an entire piece of Everything they make!! I'd be sick if I did...esp around the holidays. Now I might enjoy a lick of something my mom is cooking - knowing a serving wouldn't be in my best interest. She has come to respect my lifestyle and she has gone so for as to ask for advice.... she LOVES sweets!

Keep being True to yourself - that is Peace ~ Laura

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GETFIT2LIVE 10/6/2011 3:02PM

    It's tough sometimes to ditch the guilt, but it's really a matter of choosing to love yourself enough to do what's good for you, whether any of the people in your life do or not. Hopefully they will all decide to do the same, but as long as you aren't judging them for their choices, there's no reason to feel guilty. Glad you found another love in spinning! I've yet to give it a real chance (I love running so much!), but I'm sure I'll do it eventually.

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RUNNER12COM 10/6/2011 2:36PM

    The only thing guilt does is bring you down. If there was something you had done wrong, you could apologize and make amends. But there isn't anything you did wrong. You are doing the right things.

Let the other people follow you to a better healthy journey of their own or not. It's their choice.

And you just keep right on doing your thing!

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MSJULES01 10/6/2011 2:32PM

    I think that the ones that should feel guilty are the ones that bring the bad foods to you.

The best thing that you can do is to be proud of how far that you have come. Before you know it the others will open up their eyes to the new and improved YOU.

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DEBJAE 10/6/2011 1:44PM

    Hi! I think you solved your own problem! They choose not to get healthy...and you choose to better your life. You cannot control anyone but yourself...only they can make the decision to change their lives for the better. Do they give you a hard time about doing so well? A good friend is supportive, not negative towards your accomplishments. Unfortunately, sometimes we have to cut loose those friends that are dead weight and that's never an easy decision to make.

Just stay focused on your goals!

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WADINGMOOSE 10/6/2011 1:37PM

    I don't know how to lose the guilt. But I do know that you have to make the best decisions for you - and that's living healthy. Sure, it doesn't hurt to treat yourself once in awhile, but it sucks that we feel guilty for doing good things for ourselves.

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