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Sparkpeople Poll Reflection

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Recently Sparkpeople had a poll asking if you current or have worked out with a buddy in the past. I took the poll and answered that I have buddy. Over the next day or so, I gave this some thought.

In the beginning, I worked out with my friend, Will. Over time, he started to say he couldn't go with me. I continued on without him. Since than, a two year span, I have worked out with basically myself. This was my me time to work out my frustrations, to think, or even read my smut, ah, romance books. Once and a great while a friend would want to work out with me. It'd work for a couple times but eventually, they didn't want to. Again, I would continue on without them.

Well, this week I have been more annoyed with people more than usual. I couldn't quite put my finger on it. Last night, I just wanted to be away from like most everyone.. and today, I won't be hanging out with anyone until like 5ish when I go to Cultural Night. It wasn't until after my workout that I figured it out.

My workouts this week have been with people or rushed. This means NO me time for.. well.. ME. In the last couple weeks, I have been running with my friend which is great fun. This is where we catch up. On the other hand, the time where I clear my head is gone.

Anyhow, I found it ironic that in the beginning I needed someone to work out with and now I'd just prefer to work out with ME. It gives me time to think and straighten things out.

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PATRICIAANN46 11/17/2010 4:44PM

  When I don't get my ME time, I get dangerous. I think it is VERY IMPORTANT!!! emoticon

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LOSETHEWTIN08 11/16/2010 11:34AM

    Isn't it amazing how much we are learning about ourselves while on this journey! I workout alone also I love "me time".

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MEL_UNRAU 11/15/2010 8:09AM

    I wouldn't know what to do with a buddy! I could do it occasionally, but I find that sometimes even doing a workout with my son in tow is too much interaction. I prefer the time to be still in my own head while my body is working hard. It's an ideal combination for me!

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ANEPANALIPTI 11/15/2010 4:17AM

    Yup, when I first started out, I did c25k with a friend!!! I get ya. :-)

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SHERYLDS 11/14/2010 8:02PM

    be like GUMBY. sometimes it good to have a buddy, sometimes it's good to focus on your thoughts.

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STITCHINGNAN 11/14/2010 5:29AM

    Me too I like my own time and space to dance around to music or what ever I feel I can do that day.
We are only responible for ourselves then Good luck. Ree emoticon

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SPIFFYCAT 11/14/2010 5:15AM

    I totally understand this one, I usually do my exercising on my own I prefer it, I can go faster or slower as my body dictates, my thoughts can roam free go where they want depending on my mood.

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VICIOUS421 11/14/2010 3:00AM

    I prefer to work out alone too!!!!

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MEADSBAY 11/13/2010 5:01PM

    You know what- I am right there wittcha on this one.
I treasure my workout times- it's what I do for me, myself and I -where I want -when I want -how I want.
I enjoy a walk with a friend or DH on occasion but that cannot be my main form of exercise.

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LIQUEURLADY 11/13/2010 4:34PM

    umm, funny how that works out -- pun almost intended. On one hand, if I exercise with my friend, we get to catch up -- but I miss my more stenuous workout. So I try for some of both -- but I so hear you about missing the ME time! emoticon

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Um.. thanks for the insult?

Tuesday, November 09, 2010

Today, I was chatting with an old friend, the same one that helped me start my weight loss, and he said this: "I heard u lost more weight and are looking better." I am trying to not let it bother me... but... it does. The part that really bothers me is.. looking better. Better than what? I'm sorry but I didn't have to lose weight to be an amazing person. I felt like it was an insulting compliment. Deep breath in, deep breath out.

Let's say some nice compliments to myself.

You are amazing... inside and out... always have been!
You have a bright future to hang onto old friends that do not embrace that!
You are excited to learn new things... like kettle bells!

Okay... I am done with all that jazz. Now, off to learn kettle bells and self defense.

Whoa.. I am SO tired from my 4 mile morning run. I am going to be SO tired tonight. Oh, by the way, guys, I got a B on my A & P test on muscles. That means I understand and know 80% of how muscles work!

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FOURTHWALL2000 11/21/2010 6:34PM

    I started respondng to this and my response turned into a more personal blog entry. Thanks for sharing and for inspiring me to share.

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PATRICIAANN46 11/10/2010 1:03PM

This is a friend who "helped you start your weight loss" so he obviously has your best interest at heart. He also wanted to complement you, but just said the right thing in the wrong way. I would give him the benefit of the doubt. I think he really likes you and is proud of your accomplishment and just wanted you to know this.
What is most important though is that YOU know how amazing you are inside and out. When you really absorb this.........things people may say in the wrong way, won't matter nearly as much. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 11/10/2010 12:57PM

    You are an amazing, smart, beautiful person -- inside and out! So many people just don't have the verbal skills to offer a compliment the right way (and on the other hand, many people don't know how to take a compliment either).

I would just take it as a compliment, offered in a clumsy way and move on. YOU know you're amazing inside and out, so that's the most important point. emoticon

Oh, congratulations on your A&P success!!! That's fantastic. Way to go.

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FITTERLIFE4ME 11/10/2010 1:36AM

    You are beautiful and probably glow now with all the exercise you're doing- great job!!!

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MEADSBAY 11/9/2010 8:43PM

    I know, I know, I know what you mean- but I,too, assume everyone means well but didn't choose the right words.
I have learned to just smile and say 'thnx- I FEEL great' hoping this de-emphasizes the looks or the weight part of it.


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LAFFLOTS57 11/9/2010 8:36PM

    I like the self compliments! Nice to read & feel the positive in your words emoticon

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REVJVH 11/9/2010 8:24PM

    Here's the deal. I choose to think most people mean well. I think they mean to be supportive and encouraging. I think sometimes they don't express themselves very well.

We can't choose other people's words for them. But we can choose how we will hear them.

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XINIXINIX 11/9/2010 5:55PM

    ....and all that jazz hands. lol

Yes, amazing inside and out - no doubt. 4 mile run?



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JILLINWONDER 11/9/2010 4:47PM

    How 'bout this: He was just too shy to say he's heard you look hot? Enjoy it, totally!

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SHERYLDS 11/9/2010 4:35PM

    YOU ARE AMAZING...inside and out. that's a given.

One of the things I've learned in my lifetime is that we are very very sensitive to weight comments...both good and bad.
Couple that with the fact that a lot of people just don't know how to compliment a person, and you have a touchy situations.
If you choose to take it the wrong way, you cheat yourself of feeling good. So I ask know this you honestly think he was trying to insult you...or do you think he was trying to compliment you...and it came out wrong.
When I read this, it sounds to me as if he was trying to tell you that he heard people talking about how great you look and he wanted you to know they all see the change. this is a good thing. I'll take it any day.

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XMITTR 11/9/2010 4:22PM

  LOL, I apologize for the implication-laden comment made by my fellow male. He may have meant to say that others are talking about how you're losing weight and they like it, implying others have been complimenting you in your absence.

But I may be too optimistic. Anyway, if someone gives you a gift and you don't accept it, it is still theirs. It is the same with insults that you refuse to accept. Leave the gift peacefully in the giver's hands if you don't like it.

Keep on running! emoticon

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SMERRELL7 11/9/2010 4:19PM

    I feel your pain! There are a lot of weight loss comments that hurt my feelings sometimes too. I wonder the same thing when people say "you're looking so good," so does that mean I looked bad before? But I try to look on the bright side and think the good news is I look good NOW regardless of how I looked before.

I think the comment that has been getting under my skin lately is "you're looking so skinny" and other comments using the word "skinny." Honestly, I sit there debating whether that's a positive comment or negative. I have this feeling that the word skinny has a negative connotation to it, it makes me think of starving children in Africa or a boney elderly woman. I'm never sure whether to say thank you or whether they mean I look "bad" skinny. I would much rather be referred to as thin or hot.

Oh well, I guess at the end of the day so long as YOU like how YOU look, that's all that matters.

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ANEPANALIPTI 11/9/2010 4:11PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon


You ARE amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Gosh, what society has done, and made certain amount of skin amount to our worth. It is a LIE! So ridiculous. Our worth does NOT come from it.



Comment edited on: 11/9/2010 4:12:19 PM

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Me? An expert?

Saturday, November 06, 2010

A few weeks ago, I worked out with my friend and she basically had me be a personal trainer for her. I loved it. I loved knowing what to do and being the person that she trusted. It was great but I didn't think much of it.

Than, last night a different friend asked if I wanted to work out with her. She called me an expert. emoticon Me? An expert? Really? I don't feel like an expert. Yeah, I have lost a chunk of weight. Yeah, I have learned alot of "tricks" on the way. But, I still struggle with motivation. I still have trouble with eating right. We went today and I got to be all personal trainer with her. I LOVED it! It was alot of fun to teach her how to work out effectively and to know she WILL get results with my help. I do wish I had more knowledge but that is easy enough to fix considering I am an Exercise Science major! emoticon

These experience got me thinking. I really do want to be "The Expert". Once I graduate, I think I could be a successful personal trainer... for many reasons. I have been there. I know how it is to be awkward and unsure of what you are doing. I get it. It's unbelievable. I have had SO many people be like you can practice on me. I might have to start taking them up on their offers. They could give me feedback and I could be one rockin' personal trainer!

In addition to that, a friend is going to teach me how to use kettle bells which I have wanted to learn for a few months now! emoticon In addition to that, I still want to be a Zumba instructor after thinking about it after the conference excitement settled. I know both of these jobs would be great part-time side jobs to get me where I want to go. Let's be honest.. they probably never will be secure, full-time positions but I think I'd love them nonetheless. If I decide to go to graduate school and become a Physical Therapist, they could help me pay the way! Win-win!!!

Update on No-weigh November:
I weighed in today. I maintained (with sodium retention going on). I think it is a emoticon in itself that I didn't weigh in all week. If nothing else, I wouldn't mind getting in the habit of weighing in on Sunday. For now, I am trying to not weigh in all November with a "possible" peek on Sundays. emoticon

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REVJVH 11/9/2010 12:51AM

    Kettlebells? Dawn the Tormentor makes me use them from time to time. They are totally evil, dude. Totally.

Best thing about the pinched nerve in my neck? No kettlebells!!

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SHERYLDS 11/8/2010 2:35PM

    sounds great

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PATRICIAANN46 11/7/2010 4:05PM

  Perfect!!!!!!!! You can do what you love and stay fit in the process......a win-win situation. emoticon

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ANEPANALIPTI 11/7/2010 6:41AM

    Girl, you are AMAZING!! Way to go on training your friends, and I love your ideas!

I've had the same problem of weighing in too often and now only weigh in once a week and it feels so much better ... Good for you :D :D


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JENDOOD 11/7/2010 4:08AM

    That would be awesome!!! I should have you show me a few of the ropes too! I just hate not really knowing what all I can do with free weights...

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SLIMMERME82 11/7/2010 2:18AM

    How fun! emoticon I'm dying to share my knowledge and tips with others as well.
I notice it coming out at conversation when someone say such as I should start exercising or I should loose weight. Those are "should"s so I can't be too strong with my comments, but I hope that with my progress I'll be an isnpiration for my friends and family if they choose or want to get healthy.

I think your plan sounds good! And you already got couples of clients. emoticon

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CEESERENITY 11/7/2010 12:31AM

    Congratulations on the successful maintenance! I hear it can be even harder than losing the weight in the first place so it sounds like you're doing a great job! emoticon emoticon
And I fully support your idea about working as a Zumba instructor or personal trainer! That sounds like a great way to earn some extra money while doing something you love AND that keeps you in shape! How many people can say that about their job haha

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MEADSBAY 11/6/2010 9:32PM

    aauuuwww.. that's nice- being considered an expert by your friends!
I bet it was fun showing them what to do, too. emoticon
Have a grrrrreat Sunday!

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HEROS3 11/6/2010 8:50PM

    Isn't it fun when you do something and it just clicks? emoticon I love it when that happens. You will be great at being a personal trainer. But the physical therapy would be very rewarding also. (it is something I had wanted to do when I was in college)

Now I don't know how you can do the no weigh in thing.... that scale emoticon calls my name every morning and I have been able to avoid it for a few days but boy is that hard! emoticon Good luck with you no weigh this month .....You Can Do It!!!!!!! emoticon

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No-weigh November?

Thursday, November 04, 2010

In northern Wisconsin, sometimes the hunters do something called no-shave November. As you can guess, it is when they don't shave all month. I think they do this to stay warm when they are out hunting.. because it can get pretty cold out in Wisconsin and Minnesota while hunting. emoticon

In the last couple days, I was thinking.. what if I applied this to my weight loss? What if I didn't weigh in all month? emoticon This is a really scary concept for me as I am a scale-olic. I weigh in nearly everyday or at least every other day. Just more and more, I worry about the number. Yes, I want to lose weight but I think I need a break from all the worry.

For example, last night, I went out for Chinese and I was really NOT looking forward to weighing in this morning. So, I didn't. I don't want to know. Shouldn't I be working toward feeling strong, energized and, overall, happy?

Also, sometimes it feels like I am working to burn the calories, not because I enjoy working out. And, I do enjoy working out.. now. I know I have been getting bored with my workouts.. or rather the elliptical. emoticon I love to run. I like to swim. I am enjoying my self defense class. I think I am going to try to take a break from the elliptical. Lately, I have heard alot about spinning and how it improves your running. I might give that a whirl.

Anyhow, here are my November goals.

-To not weigh in
-To measure weekly (every Monday) - Thanks KATE453
-To strength train regularly
-To exercise for the love of it
-To keep my depression in check
-To stay in my range on most days

Maybe I am ready for the maintenance stage mentally.. just not at it physically.

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1CRAZYDOG 11/6/2010 12:01PM

    You're a smart cookie to do what works for YOU! Measuring is great . . . the scale as you know doesn't tell the whole tale!

Hope you're feeling better.

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STACI_HEREFORME 11/5/2010 8:08AM

    I took a long hiatus from the healthier living/weight loss thing and have gotten back on track as of 6 weeks ago. This time around - I am focusing on the activity, learning to run, and not so much on the weight loss. I figure that will be more of a side effect than a main goal. It is less stressful, and I am enjoying the workouts more than I ever thought possible. Working out so that I can work on ME and have some time to myself, instead of working out to burn calories.

I still weigh myself, but I don't stress over it. And I'm not 'officially' weighing in again til 12-1. That way I'll see the beginning/end of month #s and not really worry about the day to day fluctuations.

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PARKIE 11/4/2010 5:30PM

    I did the no weigh in thing for a few weeks. If it is really stressing you out then don't do it. measure. feel good. feel healthy. get back to working out because you enjoy the feeling. don't let that scale control your mood!

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MEADSBAY 11/4/2010 5:15PM

    I pushed my scale WAY under the bed for the whole month of October to stop obsessing with that darn number. I only did one sneak peek.

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SHERYLDS 11/4/2010 3:50PM

    uh uh....that would not work for me...especially around this time of year when the holiday knoshing starts kicking in. You don't need to panic every time the number moves a pound or two, but IT IS a indicator of what you're doing and when you need to watch out.

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LEIGHWOMAN 11/4/2010 2:47PM

    I'm doing the same thing. I started at the beginning of October and I'm going until November 17th. It was a total of 6 weeks. At first it really stressed me out, but I'm enjoying focusing more on my measurements and overall demeanor instead of worrying about the scale. I'm considering continuing it, because I get way too stressed about that number on the scale when, in reality, it means nothing.

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JOANOFSPARK 11/4/2010 2:17PM

    good for you... sounds like a great plan to me.....I like the idea of going all month and not weighing, though not sure if I could actually do it. I'd probably be sneaking in there to weigh anyway .....then freaking out because it didn't show a loss.....but I know that a lot of people swear by not getting on the scales either daily or weekly but measureing yourself instead..... emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PATRICIAANN46 11/4/2010 2:11PM

  Sounds like a great plan........ emoticon

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Rambling about judging people and group interactions.

Tuesday, November 02, 2010

I judge people. Basically, I judge people that used to judge me in High School. Is it right? No. Not at all. But, after years of teasing, I have found that I judge them. Who are they? They are the atheletes and jocks. Isn't that ironic? I am kinda one of them. They part of my major. I see them everyday in my classes. Honestly, I am not sure if I want anything to do with them. emoticon Basically, I am not giving them a chance because my experiences in High School. That is not right. But, on the other hand, I am not sure how to give them a chance. I have scars that jocks have left. Mind you, I know they are most likely VERY nice people. In fact, I learned this past weekend, two hockey players were quite nice.

In addition to this, I realized this week I somehow cannot act myself in groups of people. But, if I get one on one with people, I am fine.. but in a group? Uh-uh.. no way, jose! I've tried to act like ME in a group but I just cannot. I just seem to not relax and get it together enough.

By the way, I emailed my counselor today. Yup, that is right. I think I gotta go back. emoticon It is just not going away and I think I need help. I dunno. I think this is what I want to work on. How to be more accepting of them and be able to ask as ME in a group.

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STITCHINGNAN 11/3/2010 3:49AM

    I am not a groupie either but isn't it better to be there for friends on a one to one? Accepting ourselves as we are is the first step to finding contentment. You sound balanced to me! Ree emoticon

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FITTERLIFE4ME 11/2/2010 8:48PM

    Not all of us are joyful and jolly when stood in a room filled with people but wouldn't it be dull if everyone was the same?

You sound pretty sorted to me and counselling? It brings out thoughts and feelings so that you can question them and maybe change them.
If you think about high school for many of us it was an emotional and hormonal time where we did things we regret and would be embarrassed to think about.
I doubt anyone would remember individuals experiences in high school, I just get embarrassed thinking about my own,lol

Its right that you shouldn't forgive people if they behaved badly and we're unfriendly but now we are adults we can pick and choose our friends and aquaintences better!
If you went around forgiving everyone that would make you a bit of a mush, its much better if you just forget about them and if they make an effort to come and talk to you then you can take them at face value after all we're all very different than we we're at 12-16?

Thanks for this, it gave me something to think about, if ever you want to talk, I'm here!

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ELFITZPA 11/2/2010 6:57PM

    I've had similar experiences where I am okay with almost everyone in a group if we're one-on-one but when you put everyone together, I'm SUPER uncomfortable. I think group dynamics tend to highlight certain aspects of our personalities and in certain combinations, perfectly normal GOOD people can be kind of crappy. And in those same combinations, we ourselves may be quieter or awkward or who knows what. Groups are funny that way.

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ANEPANALIPTI 11/2/2010 6:25PM

    I know exactly what you're talking about... I've felt the same in a group!!!!

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SHERYLDS 11/2/2010 5:56PM

    Start by not trying to fit in and just being yourself.
You are wonderful just as you are.
If they are worth knowing as 'friends', then they will warm up to you. Otherwise, just look for win/win scenarios where both of you get something out of working together. Be positive, friendly, and encouraging.

I would assume PE is a field that attracts Jock Types.

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JUSTBIRDY 11/2/2010 4:47PM

    Oh, don't get us started about high school! Glad that is over, and sounds like you are over it, too! emoticon

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