Tuesday, May 25, 2010
This is really bothering me and I feel I need to get out so I can concentrate on my homework for tonight (I am taking summer classes).
So here's the deal..
Long time ago I dated my supervisor, twice, and it did not end well. We tried being friends than HE decided that he didn't want to be friends anymore. Which was fine by me. Good riddance. I still had to deal with him as a supervisor and I was.. until he tried to use his power and was harassing me. Because we dated it was termed sexual harassment.
Anyhow, a couple weeks ago (finals week to be exact) he started texting me out of the blue.. all friendly and stuff. I wanted to be his friend. It would be nice. Right? Than I talked it out with my counselor and she set me right.. nothing would change.. he would still try to do his power plays. If I let it continue and go back to the harasser, I would be in an abusive relationship. Abuse runs in families.. do I want this for my children? NO!
So, we decided to meet even though I already made up my mind. We could not be friends. When we met, he was trying to do the power stuff again. Anyhow, I made it clear that I do not think we should be friends.. I thought it was clear.. how much clearer do you want me to get? I do not think we should be friends.. *sigh* He even made the comment about how there are more fish in the sea.. Well, there are but none as awesome as I am.. haha!
I thought it was all cleared up and BAM! today he started texting me saying, "Looks like you are changing your life. :)" Okay, yes, this is not offensive at all. He is basically saying kudos to me for all the changes I have made. This is an acceptable text from someone that is a friend.. we agreed that we'd be just another person to another.. not even acquaintance.
So.. this just frustrates me. Leave me alone! Seriously.. how mean do I have to be? I. do. not. want. to. your. friend. It sounds so mean and that is just not me. But, the thing is, he put me through a lot grief with the sexual harassment case. It went all the way to the Dean of Students! That is serious stuff.. I just want him to leave me alone.. *sigh* My mom says just ignore his texts and he will get the hint.. first, I feel like I am being rude and second, will he? Ever? Will it get to the point that I need to be mean? Than eventually get a restraining order?