THECRAZYMANGO   31,834
SparkPoints
30,000-39,999 SparkPoints
 
 
THECRAZYMANGO's Recent Blog Entries

KUDOS.. from the wrong person. *sigh*

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

This is really bothering me and I feel I need to get out so I can concentrate on my homework for tonight (I am taking summer classes).

So here's the deal..

Long time ago I dated my supervisor, twice, and it did not end well. We tried being friends than HE decided that he didn't want to be friends anymore. Which was fine by me. Good riddance. I still had to deal with him as a supervisor and I was.. until he tried to use his power and was harassing me. Because we dated it was termed sexual harassment.

Anyhow, a couple weeks ago (finals week to be exact) he started texting me out of the blue.. all friendly and stuff. I wanted to be his friend. It would be nice. Right? Than I talked it out with my counselor and she set me right.. nothing would change.. he would still try to do his power plays. If I let it continue and go back to the harasser, I would be in an abusive relationship. Abuse runs in families.. do I want this for my children? NO!

So, we decided to meet even though I already made up my mind. We could not be friends. When we met, he was trying to do the power stuff again. Anyhow, I made it clear that I do not think we should be friends.. I thought it was clear.. how much clearer do you want me to get? I do not think we should be friends.. *sigh* He even made the comment about how there are more fish in the sea.. Well, there are but none as awesome as I am.. haha!

I thought it was all cleared up and BAM! today he started texting me saying, "Looks like you are changing your life. :)" Okay, yes, this is not offensive at all. He is basically saying kudos to me for all the changes I have made. This is an acceptable text from someone that is a friend.. we agreed that we'd be just another person to another.. not even acquaintance.

So.. this just frustrates me. Leave me alone! Seriously.. how mean do I have to be? I. do. not. want. to. your. friend. It sounds so mean and that is just not me. But, the thing is, he put me through a lot grief with the sexual harassment case. It went all the way to the Dean of Students! That is serious stuff.. I just want him to leave me alone.. *sigh* My mom says just ignore his texts and he will get the hint.. first, I feel like I am being rude and second, will he? Ever? Will it get to the point that I need to be mean? Than eventually get a restraining order?

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

NEWYORKORCHIDS 5/26/2010 3:30PM

  Text him back this:

"I have informed you that I don't want to be friends. I have asked you not to contact me. I feel threatened by your actions and will consult with the police should they continue."

Then, block his number.

Boys are stupid.

Report Inappropriate Comment
BAILEYS7OF9 5/26/2010 3:21PM

    Oh wow. I had this happen too sorta. I wasn't ready to date and neither was he. Then he really ticked me off over a holiday weekend. I asked him in advance if he wanted to do anything and he said he couldn't. Fine. I made other plans and then the holiday weekend.. he gets all bent out of shape when I couldn't do something last minute.

I lit into him. Stopped replying to his emails, flagged them as spam and the guy just would not give up! I told him I was too busy to have friends and that so un nerved him. He eventually stopped, then started again. I told him I was dating someone and he would have a hard time if I started hanging out w/ a guy friend.

augh.

hang in there.. hopefully he'll really go away!


Report Inappropriate Comment
HEIDISO 5/26/2010 10:54AM

    Ignore his texts.

Report Inappropriate Comment
SHERYLDS 5/26/2010 9:22AM

    your Mom is right. Ignore the text messages and if he approaches you just be casually polite & go on your merry way. There is always going to be someone trying to push the envelope, one way or the other. Don't let it get to you. Use the experience to learn a cool diplomatic 'nice' way to brush it off and move on. but do not renew an acquaintance it would be seen to validate his side of the 'story'.

Comment edited on: 5/26/2010 9:23:57 AM

Report Inappropriate Comment
JBINAUSTIN 5/26/2010 1:54AM

    You might ask your cell phone company to block texts from his number. You shouldn't have to see them at all.

Report Inappropriate Comment
MYSHARONA6 5/25/2010 8:01PM

    I would not have any contact with him at all. Ignore everything. If he continues or he increases his contact efforts, I would then have to do something. Do not meet him...nor text him..or talk to him. You are not being mean. You are being in control of your life. There is a difference.

Report Inappropriate Comment
HONEYBEAR06 5/25/2010 7:33PM

    Hope things go better for you.

Report Inappropriate Comment


A Good Weekend.. finally!

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Every weekend I go home part of me dreads it. Now, don't get me wrong I love seeing my family. The part I dread is eating because I love food just way too much. Anyhow, I felt last weekend did not go so hot by trying to limit myself. So.. I had a new plan today. I would write down what I eat and manually keep in track. It kept me focused and accountable. Just because I do not have access to internet should not give me an excuse to eat crazy. As my mom tells us girls, she doesn't force us to eat it. (She just makes it so darn tasty.. haha.)

For this weekend, I feel I did pretty good. I went for four days from Thursday to today, Sunday. I stayed within my calorie range and walked every day except Friday. On Friday, we went garage saleing and well.. I brought an amazing Rhubarb-Strawberry Pie that was sold by the church.. A-MA-ZING! emoticonI ate the majorly of the pie by myself. I told myself on Saturday that I was not going to have the last two pieces of pie and told my parents that they need to eat it.. well, so I don't. My mom ate the yummy pie.. Than, I felt lazy on Friday and did not go for a walk.. BUT I was walking a few feet away from the sales so we had to walk a few feet extra each time so that had to add up.

Now putting my calorie range and walking aside.. I guess my mom was impressed that I was eating more vegetables. I have never been too keen on them. emoticon I am hoping one day that I can spark my whole family. Than, one of the neighbors who I babysit on a regular basis inquired about my weight loss.. and told me that she was proud of me. It felt really good to hear that.. like basking in sun! emoticon

My next weigh in is on Sunday which is after a weekend at home. Even through I did pretty good this past weekend, I know it is a learning curve.. so I am weighing in two days early on Friday! I am hoping I can start June off right! emoticon

I hope everyone had a nice weekend.. and is ready for the week. Now I am off to walk 5 miles.. must get to 30 miles this week or my sister will win. I must win, hehe! emoticon

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

BAILEYS7OF9 5/24/2010 10:28AM

    You did not do that bad! good for you for really trying, you will only get stronger each time back!

Report Inappropriate Comment
SNOWFILLY 5/24/2010 8:12AM

    You are doing great!! Love your new picture!! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
CALCOUNTER4LIFE 5/23/2010 11:05PM

    You are doing Great Savannah! Put the extra eating aside and get right back to your plan. You can do it! You look like you are doing great.



emoticon

-VG

Report Inappropriate Comment
SHERYLDS 5/23/2010 6:06PM

    Excellent news my friend. Maybe you can convince you Mom that if she really loves all of you (and I'm sure she does) she'll join forces with you and your sister and try some of the recipes on Spark when you all come visiting. Then making them and trying them will be that much more fun. Have a great evening

Report Inappropriate Comment


I may have lost this battle but I must win the war.

Thursday, May 20, 2010

The last few days I have been feeling fat. I haven't felt this way for a very long time.. usually I feel smaller and strong. I know I tend to feel healthier when I exercise enough, eat correctly, and strength train. Last week I was at my parents from Thursday to Monday and sometimes it just isn't possible to do even when I try my hardest.

Anyhow, today was my weigh in and it was time to see if what I was feeling and what I actually weighed measured up.. it turns out I gained a pound so I guess it does measure up. I don't know if I can really be that upset that I gained a pound when all my other weigh ins since I started the 100 day challenge is I have lost 2-4# - how can I be upset about that?

The good news? I think by not weighing in all the time, I am learning to feel when I gained weight. Maybe eventually when I reach my goal weight I can wean myself off the scale.. how great would that be?

Goals for the next weigh in (in 10 days):
-Write down what I eat when I am at my parents even if I don't put it in
-Strength train 3x
-Elliptical 3x
-Stairs one day

I can do it.. I have to.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MELLIEK2010 5/20/2010 5:37PM

    It's always great to have a plan like someone just told me today "we don't plan to fail but we may fail to plan!" Great job on your losses so far and I know a pound can be discouraging but over the long run it's really not so much. I was very discouraged because last week I gained a pound but now I weighed myself this morning and was down that pound plus an additional 1.5 so now I feel back in the game :0) So often I think it may be just any change from our routine can throw in that plus one and a couple days of working out and drinking a lot of water and it's gone again! You are doing so great girl and you got this!!
PS I always weigh in on Fri morning that way if I eat a little too much over the weekend or slack in exercise I have all week to make up for it emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
HEIDISO 5/20/2010 4:16PM

    emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
THECRAZYMANGO 5/20/2010 4:04PM

    Thanks girls.. I think I am going to have the rule to not weigh in right after a weekend but rather right before! Haha.

Report Inappropriate Comment
MYSHARONA6 5/20/2010 2:44PM

    Sometimes I go up a pound, too. It just might have been the weekend. But stay the course...you can do it....the scale is not our master but our aid. Journal and exercise...and think good thoughts...positive thoughts! Remember, everyone is cheering you on! emoticon Sharon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SHERYLDS 5/20/2010 2:30PM

    journal journal journal....
it's the best strategy.

Report Inappropriate Comment
HEIDIHYATT 5/20/2010 12:00PM

    you can & will do it!!

Report Inappropriate Comment


Summer Game Plan

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

emoticon emoticon emoticonGood morning everyone. emoticon emoticon emoticon

Last night I came back from my parents after being gone from Friday afternoon. It was really nice to get back into routine.. to eat the same foods, and be able to do the same activities. This got me thinking.

There is comfort to routine..even in our weight loss. I walk every day. Last week, when I couldn't due to stress and weather, I worked out on the elliptical. I feel like I lost weight.. but since I only weigh in every 10 days I really don't know!

So, I decided to try to mix things up this summer while keeping to my routine.

Here is my plan.

Walk every day between 4-8 miles at least.
Work the...stairs, elliptical, legs (Run)...2x a week
Learn 3 new activitie: Zumba, Line dancing and how to ride a bike!

Weight loss goal: 30# by August 31st

I loss this amount last summer but it might be a bit high. I figure I will reach for the moon and land in the stars!

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

TURTLELOT2 5/18/2010 6:35PM

    emoticonI too got a great walk in today. This all made up for not doing it yesterday. Thanks for the support.

Report Inappropriate Comment
GIG2828 5/18/2010 1:48PM

    emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
MYSHARONA6 5/18/2010 10:05AM

    Sounds like a great plan!!! I agree with you about the comfort of a routine. I am in a routine with my food and walking and I love it. But I like your plan of shaking it up and adding new activities. That is such a great idea!!! I like it. I like lofty goals, too!!! Reach up there .. you can do it! emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment


Where are you?

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

I realized I am not sure where you all are from... so where are you from?

If you are not comfortable in posting, send me an email..
If you are not comfortable telling me in general, that's a-okay. I understand.

To answer my own question..
My hometown is Ellsworth, Wisconsin but now I live in Northern Wisconsin!

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

HEIDISO 5/17/2010 4:35PM

    Hayward, WI

Report Inappropriate Comment
IRISHMOM171 5/13/2010 2:24PM

    ontario Canada, north of Toronto (not saying what city)

Report Inappropriate Comment
PATRICIAANN46 5/13/2010 1:04PM

  Just North of Madison, Wisconsin......

Report Inappropriate Comment
IFDEEVARUNS2 5/13/2010 11:26AM

    Houston, TX

Report Inappropriate Comment
BAILEYS7OF9 5/13/2010 11:23AM

    Burlington

Report Inappropriate Comment
THECRAZYMANGO 5/13/2010 10:43AM

    Thanks guys! It is awesome to have friends all across the USA..

Next year, I am studying through the National Student Exchange where I can study at another college while paying mine.. it is awesome. I have it narrowed down to three campuses in Chico, California, Baltimore, Maryland and Massachussetts (30 minutes from Boston). Now if I could figure out which one I really want as my first choice, haha.

Report Inappropriate Comment
MYSHARONA6 5/12/2010 5:13PM

    Hi there,
I live in Geneva, Ohio. It is the Northeastern corner of the state in Ashtabula County. I live in a small town about 50 minutes east of Cleveland. There....that says it all!!!! emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
SNOWFILLY 5/12/2010 7:51AM

    I live in the state of Confusion. LOL Sorry, I couldn't help myself. emoticon emoticon emoticon

Report Inappropriate Comment
LYNNDAK 5/12/2010 1:48AM

    Eau Claire!

Report Inappropriate Comment
HAPPY0408 5/11/2010 9:33PM

    I live in Menomonie, WI. Looking at moving to La Crosse, WI once my lease is up which is September.

Report Inappropriate Comment
BECKA525 5/11/2010 7:53PM

    I'm in Jackson, Michigan

Report Inappropriate Comment
SHERYLDS 5/11/2010 6:42PM

    Formerly the Bronx, Now in Northern New Jersey.
But I still don't consider myself a Jersey Girl.

Report Inappropriate Comment
CREATINGAMANDA 5/11/2010 4:51PM

    Toronto, Ontario - in case you couldn't tell from my screen name :)

Report Inappropriate Comment
DARCEYOH 5/11/2010 4:43PM

    I'm way over here in Port Angeles, WA

Report Inappropriate Comment


First Page  1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 Last Page