Tuesday, April 08, 2014
How come certain people expect other people to make them happy, when they can not even find happiness in themselves? It is unfair for anyone to expect another person to make them happy. Such behavior only leads to disappointment, and instead results in not just them being unhappy, but the other person being unhappy as well.
I have found that the key to happiness, is to allow yourself to be happy, no matter what your situation is. Single, or as a couple... Employed or retired... Surrounded by people, or alone... Your happiness can be found in either state... if you allow it.
I also found that you should not limit yourself to what can make you happy. Often we think that certain things, people, or occurrences are needed to make us happy. The problem with that way of thinking, is that it then limits our ability for happiness.
I have since found that the things, people, and occurrences that I thought I needed to have happen to be happy, did not give me true happiness. I also discovered happiness from many sources, that I never expected to find happiness from. The most shocking discovery of all?... It was the unexpected things and occurrences that made me the happiest.
So... the lesson in all this rambling... You yourself, are ultimately responsible for your own happiness.
If you place your happiness solely onto the shoulders of another person, then you limit your happiness to that persons ability to make you happy, and place a very heavy burden on that person, leaving them ultimately feeling unhappy as well. And If you limit what brings you happiness, your happiness will be limited as well.
So... look for happiness in all the situations and things and people that are around you, and you likely will be surprised in just how happy you can actually be.
Monday, September 09, 2013
So many of my friends say that it is too hard to lose weight, so they won't even try.
I guess it depends on what type of approach you take with weight loss. It is true... weight loss can be difficult, if you make it difficult. Over the years, I have found that it is your approach to weight loss, that makes it either easy or difficult.
If you will almost punish yourself, and severely cut calories, and exercise like mad... then yes... it will be difficult to maintain such a lifestyle, and lose the weight.
However... if you relax, and commit to a lifestyle change, which involves what is in fact a minor cut to what your caloric needs would be to maintain your weight... then you will find it is much easier. I myself have been doing this, and in 4 years, I have lost and kept off about 200 pounds.
All you need to cut, is about 300 calories a day from what you would need to maintain your weight, and do the equivalent of about 10 minutes of walking a day, and you will lose about 1 pound a week.
To put that into context... 1 pound a week will result in 56 pounds a year. The best thing about dieting this way, is that you do not even feel like you are dieting, yet you are losing weight steadily... and who would not be happy with that?
So... would you rather do it the hard way... or the easy way?
Think about it.
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