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How I'm using this extra hour

Sunday, November 06, 2011

GOOD MORNING!
I think this extra hour is a great gift! I'm using it to Revive, Regroup, Repair!! 2011 hasn't just been a bad year...it's probably 'the worst' 365 days I've ever had. But, I'm dealing with it and moving on!
This hour is for ME. ONLY ME. My darn dog, kids and husband (all sleeping except for the dog) are NOT my priority for ONE FULL HOUR! I put SP and my SP friends at the top with me.
I have gained more weight. 20lbs on top of the %$@@& lbs. i was trying to lose emoticon Lost confidence and also lost some interest in socializing (because I can't find ~fun~ clothing that fits! I like to stay current and look good. I'm too embarrassed to go out with my fit/healthy looking girls. They don't care-but I DO!) I'm trying to see this as a mild set-back & not something that will become the norm. I will overcome this...I am a VERY strong person and extremely resilient.
I worked alot and this past year- more than I wanted to. I had my rock, my source of strength (grandma) to take care of on top of work, running kids around and holding down the fort at home all alone (husband travels CONSTANTLY). It was a hospice situation and she passed in October -so very devastating. I really/truly did not have ANY time to step foot into a gym or even take a walk through the neighborhood (although I desperately wanted to and knew what would happen if I didn't). Just pathetic! But I know what I need to do now . It's that EXECUTION part that gets me every single time though! I just keep repeating my mantra: Revive, Regroup, Repair!
I am SOOOO excited to re-connect with my SP friends. I wasn't sure if they would still be here. But they are and they continue to inspire me and support me (just what i need!) emoticon THANK YOU - you know who you are!
I'm going to make myself another cup of coffee, a healthy breakfast and then throw my sneakers on and talk a walk. Baby steps....one step at a time...
I'M GOING TO DO THIS!!

  


Hugging my children a little tighter....

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

I'm shaken up and just needed to share this with you.
My 10 yr old son and his best friend/neighbor LOVE to take a bike ride after school each day. This past Monday, they did not get to meet up because we had alot going on. His friend still went riding (alone). We got home late and neighbors told us the police had been at our house. First thing Tuesday morning, I got a call from the friend's Mom. An abduction attempt was made on her son! Had we been home, my son would've been involved in this (or maybe it wouldn't have happened at all...power in #'s?) It was shocking, devastating, but fortunately, the boy escaped and is ok. This literally took place on my cul de sac. The poor boy tried coming to our house for safety but we weren't home (i still feel TERRIBLE about that) The police have pictures of the car AND the alleged abductor and they are coming today to see if my son recognizes either. The kid is a nervous wreck about this.
We live in an beautiful community. The homes are roughly 4,000sq ft and we all have 1-4 acres of land. It is spacious and lush. Low crime rate, excellent schools, ENORMOUS taxes :( Overall, this is a prime location to raise a family. Some creep also thought it was a prime location to stalk our children. He has NO IDEA how tight this community is....and what we are willing to do to keep our children safe. HOW DARE THIS MAN attempt something like this here!
This is a HUGE wake-up call to all that live in this "wally world" (as I call it). Good/Bad is EVERYWHERE! We are not exempt.
Thank the Lord that this wonderful little boy is alright. Thank God my child is safe and sound too. Unfortunately, we've changed the rules about bike riding. But there is plenty for the kids to do in our safe, enclosed backyards.
Hug your children a little longer and tighter....spend extra time with them.....make sure they know how special they are! I certainly am.

  
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KAYAKMOMSDA 5/18/2010 12:34PM

    Because of my childhood I raised my son to fear vans/strangers/people who approach him/people who make him feel weird/etc....do I feel bad about that, No!
We live in a wonderful area and I've let him walk, ride etc. We use walkie-talkies...
He was so proud one day when he saw a person/car that made his caution 'feeling' kick in. He came home saying 'Mom you'd be proud of me, I hid in the trees till this person left and then ran home as fast as I could".
Talking to your kids and even having a stranger 'test' them is always a must! We also have a code word in case someone tells him they are picking him up for me from sports after school.
I'm sorry it had to happen but a little fear keeps us alive! emoticon

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MELINA05 5/12/2010 9:43PM

    OMG Terry, I am speechless!!!! How terrifying! I am so glad the little boy is OK. Hope they catch him and throw him away for a very long time. Take care, HUGS, Melina

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TRACEYMOMOF3 5/12/2010 9:11AM

    Glad everything turned out alright! How scared his mom must be! and yes i"m hugging mine a little tighter today too. Thanks for the insight.

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MRE1956 5/12/2010 8:20AM

    O M G.....I feel so bad for what you've experienced (and given your ENORMOUS tax situation - yea, I'm from NJ, so I completely "get it" - one would think that you'd get what you pay for in terms of safety in your own neighborhood).....

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Here's hoping that human piece of garbage gets nabbed ASAP!

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KISSFAN1 5/12/2010 8:00AM

    Oh my gosh, that would give me nightmares for sure! I am so glad that your son's friend was able to get away, what a horrible experience he has been through. I doubt his parents will ever feel comfortable again with him out of their sight. I watch my kids closely, but it's scary how quickly things can happen like that in your OWN backyard.

I look periodically online to see if we have any sex offenders in our neighborhood or nearby streets and some people may call me over-protective, but I really don't care because I couldn't live with myself if something happened (which of course it still could no matter how careful you are).

I'm so glad your son didn't go and wasn't involved although it sounds like he is being affected by having to talk to the police and I'm sure that is scary for him. emoticon emoticon

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NEWNAC304 5/12/2010 7:55AM

    I am so glad that your son's friend was able to escape. That's just awful that something like that can happen in a nice neighborhood like yours. It's so scary having kids these days. Things like this never happened when we were younger. Here's a hug for you and your son. emoticon

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SRFRGRL7163 5/12/2010 7:53AM

    It doesn't matter where you live, it could be anybody, a neighbor, friend or family member. Belive me, I know. We always suspect strangers and our kids need to know it could be anybody. Thank God the boy escaped, and I pray this man is caught quickly. It's a shame that our children aren't safe to play outside. Good luck to all of you.

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My mantra: I will get thru this (& with a smile).

Thursday, April 29, 2010

This has more to do with my mental stability :) than it does with weightloss this week!
LOTS of family 'stuff' going on and it all comes to a head starting tomorrow! I don't think I'll have time to log-in and track until Monday. I've decided to start today with a SMILE. Believe me, when I looked into the mirror this morning, I saw an exhausted, anxious, worn out person - but smiled anyway...heard that helps ;) I guess it has. I made sure I ate breakfast and tracked it (1/3 of a sesame bagel toasted w/a laughing cow wedge and of course, coffee x2!) I have been SO careless with eating lately (skipping meals then snacking on the wrong stuff). Was extra pleasant getting the kids out the door and did not argue or yell at anyone. So far, so good. I am allowing myself a glass of red wine Fri/Sat night. I will work it into my calorie range. I'm calling it my reward for keeping a smile on my face during all of this family craziness.
Wish me luck! Be back on Monday!
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1TOOMANY 5/3/2010 8:33AM

    UGH! Families! They can be stressful, and a tremendous blessing all at the same time!! Just remember, if you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of them!! Good luck!! You can do it!!!

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NANC304 4/29/2010 10:18AM

    Good luck and keep being strong. Try to enjoy the weekend.

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KISSFAN1 4/29/2010 10:07AM

    Good luck, I hope you have a good weekend although it sounds stressful for you. We're all thinking of you!

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SANDRAFIVE 4/29/2010 9:30AM

    Smiling will help you get through a lot. emoticon

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WONDERJUL 4/29/2010 9:24AM

    Good luck with all the family "stuff". Keep smiling and don't let the stress derail you from your goals. See you Monday! emoticon

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FANAMAMA 4/29/2010 8:58AM

    Good luck! I hope it turns out to be a fabulous weekend!

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DOOBIE893 4/29/2010 8:58AM

    You will get thru this with a smile. emoticon

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OH NO! I need a new driver's license pic by end of month!

Saturday, April 17, 2010

This is a big deal! It makes me realize that I have YET AGAIN not achieved something that was/is SOOOO important to me. When I had my driver's license renewed four years ago, I was immediately disgusted w/my photo. WHO WAS THIS A PICTURE OF? THIS CAN'T BE WHAT I LOOK LIKE?! UGH..reality. I couldn't stand the way my eyes were becoming smaller due to my cheeks growing fuller. My chin(s) were horrible too. (my hair looked good though!) I promised myself that within four years (before the next renewal) I would get it together and make MY WELLNESS a priority. I would be proud of the 2010 pic! Well, here I am...absolutely dreading the DMV(div of motor vehicle) visit. This New Jersey facility is chock full of miserable and unpleasant employees :) I HIGHLY DOUBT they'll allow me to re-take pics until I approve of a good one! LOL I've had two surgeries and a major injury since my last license renewal that has changed my ability to exercise like I used to. But, I absolutely refuse to use those as excuses. I know what I've done wrong and what I need to do to fix it. My punishment is looking at this new license (hating it!) and anxiously waiting for 2014 so i can get a thinner, more accurate photo!
There is NO DARN WAY I'm going to let this happen ever again. I'm done w/the Chub Club!!
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KISSFAN1 4/29/2010 10:10AM

    I have to get my license renewed this year as well (in the fall) and I'm hoping that I look better by then and am near my goal weight. I guess we'll see when that time comes though. I hate going the DMV, it seems like the people for the most part (not all of course) are rude and loud.

Thank goodness it only has to be done every 4-5 years depending on your age here in NC.

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KAYAKMOMSDA 4/21/2010 11:23AM

    I want to take a picture with my son (and keep it)...I feel so angry and sad when I see my photo...that's not how I see myself!
We can do this!!!!
Have been skipping lunch at work. Made myself a small salad to take with fresh chicken and a few sunflower seeds. Promised myself I will make lunch every day instead of skipping and eating too much at night! emoticon

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TRACEYMOMOF3 4/17/2010 9:32PM

    I like your attitude, Girl! Yes, let's look at this as a before pic! And a motivation! You can do this! You'll look too hot for your next pic in 2014! lol emoticon emoticon

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Just gonna smile

Thursday, April 15, 2010

It is so easy to get caught up and lost in all the drama. I woke up today hoping that I would feel rested (tried to go to sleep early last night) and re-charged. Not really the case! But I'm going to do a 'mind over matter' thing! :) It 'rubs me the wrong way to be pessimistic and grumpy - yet I've had more moments like that lately than I care to admit. In fact..not moments but entire days where I've done nothing but stress out and complain! YUCK!
I am not working out. I miss my friends from the gym (my support system) terribly and realize now that exercising was definitely my way of blowing off steam...sweating is all out. Once I did that, I was able to live my day with a smile on my face (even if I wasn't smiling on the inside). I don't want to be portrayed as the girl "that always has a crisis going on" - even though lately that is the way its been.
Since I no longer have my gym classes and only see my friends occasionally, I have been finding daily support here on SP. I can honestly say that I love and appreciate the advice and 'cyber' hugs that I'm receiving! I'll get back to fitness because I really do love it and I know it is essential to my well being...inside and out.
I might not be losing weight like I want to, but I'm going to go easy on myself (wow..that's new for me!) My mini goals are to check-in w/SP daily and to remain mindful of my attitude and how that affects my eating.
Big cyber HUGS!
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RUSSIANMERMAID 4/15/2010 11:08AM

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NANC304 4/15/2010 10:54AM

    You have a great attitude. I hope you feel more rested soon.

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KISSFAN1 4/15/2010 9:00AM

    That's wonderful Terry. I know exercise will help with stress some, which it looks we both need (stress reduction that is). I hope you get some sleep, I know how it feels to not get enough and it's hard sometimes to be positive when you're exhausted.

It sounds like you're on the right track and focusing on small steps just like SP recommends.
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ALEXTHEHUNN 4/15/2010 7:33AM

    That's a good attitude. I bet it's going to carry you far. Check in here as often as you need.

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