Saturday, March 01, 2014
Started working out with Kyle yesterday. Kyle is going to be a good trainer, I can tell. He asked me my "weight loss goal." I could give him a number of pounds to lose to put me back into a "healthy" range and that good health is important to me. However, I could not tie this number to a "why." I had no reason to lose weight that resonated within me.
As for why I don't exercise or eat right...I told Kyle it wasn't a problem of "lack of knowledge" or "lack of resources" or even "lack of confidence." It was purely a lack of motivation. This only became clear to me when I was unable to give a reason to want to lose weight.
There are many "good reasons" to lose weight, so there is not even a "lack of reasons." There was no one reason that evoked a passionate or emotional response which could really motivate me. In the end, I picked a reason of the many available, the blase' "I want to wear a swimsuit nicely, by June or July." I don't care about wearing a swimsuit nicely. But it seems like I should care, so that was the reason I gave to Kyle.
After he left, I gave that a great deal more thought. One of my driving passions in life is helping young people succeed. My son and his friends that he grew up with who became part of my extended family, to be specific. I really love helping them accomplish their goals and reach higher in life. This passion is one of a few that drive me.
Kyle is starting his education and career as a personal trainer. For me to best help Kyle accomplish his goals, he needs a rocking good testimonial to attach to his resume's and/or marketing.
My "why" is because I want to help Kyle accomplish his goals. I have all the equipment so he, as he rightly pointed out, he can come over and train me even before he has invested money in his own portable equipment. I have all the knowledge on nutrition and fitness, so there's no great education curve for him to help me overcome. Plus I've been through this before. 10 years ago, I was 80 lbs overweight and I lost 80+ lbs in less than a year. So I know that I'm capable and worthy of the weight loss. With these three keys in place, I am capable of giving Kyle an amazing testimonial to launch his career as a personal trainer. THAT is a reason I can get passionate about.
It may not be the best "why" for everyone. I can hear the critics suggesting an interesting egg to crack might be why "being the best me" isn't a good enough reason. All I can say to that is mind your business. I have my why and it will work for me. The rest will follow.